My Taurus BF is addicted to attention from his ex (Page 2)

Sorry, I'm done. I can't sleep. :/

Posted by rockyroadicecream

"Matured" guys that actively look for and date younger girls aren't mature. There's a reason why women their age won't date them, remember that.



I'm still amazed that this guy had the balls to tell the OP what he did, like it was no big deal. Unfreakingbelievable. :/ "You're not good enough to stroke my ego, so I'm having someone else do it for me. But it's okay, honey, I still love YOU best!"

Considering older/matured guys, won't put the blame on all, but in my experience, that was the case.


Considering OP, exactly!

Posted by rockyroadicecream

You know, something I've noticed with some people is that it seems if they spent their "growing up years" doing things a little more.. "advanced" than others their age would be doing- say, getting married or having kids (unplanned), that they continue to be quite the immature individuals

Well, my grandfather had a child in his age of 18 and he has wonderful familly now. He started providing for his familly (mother father) in an age of 12. Selling apples and studying to be a cook.

If I had a child with that age I would consider myself stupid to allow it cause I was obviously way to immature for it.

Doing "serious" stuff doesn't make a person immediately mature. Don't you think?

I am a Taurus and my first love (my first everything was a Taurus) we met in middle school and dated on and off for almost 6 years. Every girlfriend he had after that he cheated on with me, (bad I know) but I was that one girl that he could never stop talking to and same goes for me with him. For some reasons us Taurus' have a hard time letting go and we dwell in the past. I pissed off so many of his girlfriends because him and I would always text, send pictures, talk on social media... and I ruined a lot of his relationships. We met when we were 12 and I am now 22 and him and I still communicate I have a boyfriend he has a girlfriend and we talk as friends we finally grew up and stopped that immature crap. If I were you, I would tell him he needs to stop talking with her or you are going to leave. Which is more important you or this girl from his school day? This is so typical behavior for a Taurus and I am sorry you are going through this, I would try and sit him down and tell him how you feel and say if this does not change you might consider leaving him. He knows he has you and that he can talk to this girl all he wants without you doing anything, you need to show him that this is not acceptable. Good luck girl be strong!! xx

Posted by lucyL

Posted by rockyroadicecream

You know, something I've noticed with some people is that it seems if they spent their "growing up years" doing things a little more.. "advanced" than others their age would be doing- say, getting married or having kids (unplanned), that they continue to be quite the immature individuals

Well, my grandfather had a child in his age of 18 and he has wonderful familly now. He started providing for his familly (mother father) in an age of 12. Selling apples and studying to be a cook.

If I had a child with that age I would consider myself stupid to allow it cause I was obviously way to immature for it.

Doing "serious" stuff doesn't make a person immediately mature. Don't you think?

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Did you not see the use of "some people?"

I know it doesn't make them "immediately" mature. It always takes time, but in these individuals, it's almost as if it stunted them.

What's with these silly bitches encouraging bad behavior?

"Oh don't get mad at him. Just talk to him and wait it out."

Fuck off, you silly hoes.

Posted by Impulsv
Yes tauruses are attention sluts.

LMFAO!

Posted by Hotbeefy

Posted by rockyroadicecream
What's with these silly bitches encouraging bad behavior?

"Oh don't get mad at him. Just talk to him and wait it out."

Fuck off, you silly hoes.

If you let yourself be a jealous controlled bitch. They know your weak side and taken advantages of.

Yes it is a bad side of this ego attention as we all agree of, but controlling or saying to block of won't work. It'll shows your insecurity. The only way is to have a talk under 4 eyes and explain how you feel about this. Just exactly like Britt great explanation at the end!

And as he won't take that all (including the threat), just dump him already.

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This has nothing to do with her being a controlling bitch about any of this and more about him being emotionally selfish.

The OP has already stated that she talked to this guy about the situation. He PROCEEDS TO DISRESPECT HER AND PLAY AROUND WITH THIS SILLY TWAT. This has nothing to do with control, but all about his lack of respect toward her and her wishes. She has every right to deliver an ultimatum at this point because his behavior is not changing.

Posted by Impulsv
I agree it's not about showing insecurity it is about placing healthy boundaries. He's lucky he is being given an opportunity to correct himself most people bail without giving an explanation. Now the ball is in his court.

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This is troubling because he is a participant in this inappropriate contact with his ex. He even admitted to you that he likes the attention. Well if he does love you, he needs to tell the ex that he's with someone and not to contact him again. He can and needs to shoot this down. Otherwise I'm afraid it's more serious than an ego boost and a bigger threat to your relationship.

Here mercury in scorpio, I get to be the bad guy but a social role but it is mine, someone has to do.
You are repeating the same pattern as her mother with her ex and this Taurus and using her daughter, as his mother secure used you, as an excuse to be the victims, as presented here in the forum too.
Her boyfriend and his ex not have a problem the problem is your, take a solution, these emotional patterns passed as unclosed wounds from generation to generation. That is, women need men to support them but soon get bored and go looking for new thrills. The facts that matter, the words (not theirs of her boyfriend) meaningless.
You and your mother are addicted these men and these problems and no victim no hangman, in relations no guilty one, only are responsible, each feather flock together, you attract those men you have to fix it because it is YOUR life on the only thing you can have a certain power over the process, quality control, etc. And leave your daughter alone please do not use it more to justify it all.
And another thing, the words mean nothing, the facts is all that matters, (for you and and your BF).
And sorry if my answer is abrupt but honestly, are the only ones can give.

Love is not a contract like everything in this world waste of fools, I tell them to die because for sure, never fails, love can not be written, guaranteed and COD. If you love it ... if I were you do not ask for delete any phone, that's stoop very low for love, he's adult to know if delete or not delete, I would open the door and say "here nobody is forced, this is not a contract, when you want you goes" and if you are in love with this ex I'm happy for you, wish you happiness, if you are happy myself too.
This is the dear love crybaby, that will be such that a man respects you, for now and for the future not riding soaps. These men your mother and yours look it too ... but this is another issue that is beyond its control over quality. You are responsible for everything, focus.