my taurus man is ignoring me—

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mehak
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my boyfriend(taurean) has been ignoring me for total one month now, intialy i asked for a breakup beacause i was totally frustrated of him not giving me time at all . we have been in a relationship for almos an year now. the next day i called him to apologise but he was so furious that he dont want to be with me anymore. he is too stubborn to realise his mistakes rather than taunting me every now and then. though i managed to get him back into a relationship the same day only but from then he has switched off his phone, his id is deactivated. whenevr i get a chance to talk somehow ,he talks to me and always say that im not able to forget all that and it will take sometime. i even asked him that he may leave if anyhow im forcing him into this relationship now but then he said he is with me and will always be. but still he never calls, his phone is off. iam not getting what he is trying to do. he loves me or not—? when will it all be fine? it has come upto a month now but still he is the same...when will the things come to a better place...what should i do—
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> understand that Bulls hate liars as well as mind games. You left something out.
Posted by mehak
yup i broke up....instead i called the next day to apologise..



You posted this in a previous thread in the Astrology Forum. I bolded it for you.

Posted by mehak
hey guys. Iam in a relationship with my guyfriend for 10 months now and i've asked for breakup for 3 times, he has always forgived me and asked me not to leave him but this time when i gave him my decision he started crying and i hung up.
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You asked for a break-up 3 times, and when he respected the final break-up and fell completely back...now you're on here whining?

I can't give genuine advice to spoiled, 'pampered' individuals who subject themselves to mind games and emotional manipulation to get their way.

In order to have a successful, mature relationship, you will have to understand the personality type of the individual you're dealing with. Keeping communication lines open is also very important if you're feeling 'away' about a particular situation. We actually respect that!

Bulls want now and forever with a potential soul mate.

Not 'now and forever' with someone who has their head in the clouds (soap box).

The only advice I can give you....

Go find another Water Sign.
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fingirl31
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The reason he is furious is because this is the "straw". With a Taurus there is always a "straw" as in we have an enormous amount of patience but every mess up is cumulative. He just decided that you weren't worth the drama anymore. Deal with it and next time try not to be so dramatic and self serving. No one likes to be threatened or punished with a breakup which is designed to elicit a certain action. He called your bluff, finally. Good for him.
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The reason he is furious is because this is the "straw". With a Taurus there is always a "straw" as in we have an enormous amount of patience but every mess up is cumulative.

^^This is very true!!^^

Also we are not the type that make up and brake up multiple times. That would leave me feeling very topsy terby and unstable...we like stability. I can understand maybe one brake up or parting of ways and then you both realizing over the course of a few weeks that you miss each other and are drawn back together but anymore then that wouldn't be good...it would lead me to the straw (you know the one that broke the camel??s back) and eventually on one of these brake ups I would just walk away.

Not saying you can't get him back if he really does love you but it will take a lot of patience on your part because now he is watching your every move and seeing if you will stick around or just walk away again. You need to decide if you have that patience or not cause it might take a few more months.
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Also as said above we don't like games and any sort of passive aggressive manipulation??_we see it for what it is and when used on us more than a few times it makes us angry and we lower or heads and charge??_when we get anger we let you know and then back off and in a sense go silent/cold??_we walk away if we don't really care about you but if we do care the watching begins. From what I know of other water signs (Cancer and Scorpio??_don't have any Pisces in my inner circle) you do the passive aggressive thing because you want a reaction, you want to know the other person cares. But for us Taurus??s when someone does that to us we will never give the reaction you want??_we will either not give any reaction or once you have done it more than a few times we will snap and it's usually not pretty??_we are very straight forward and will just call you on that shit. Just something for you to keep in mind.
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Posted by sugerbear
But for us Taurus??s when someone does that to us we will never give the reaction you want??_we will either not give any reaction or once you have done it more than a few times we will snap and it's usually not pretty??_we are very straight forward and will just call you on that shit. Just something for you to keep in mind.



She wanted this reaction

The fantasy-land reaction.

T-Guy: "Baby please, Baby please. Take me back. I will call you four times a day. Tell you how much I love you every day. I'm crying my eyes out right now. Why didn't I give such a wonderful princess like you the attention you deserved."

OP: "Well, I hope now you have learned your lesson. Pay me no attention, and there will be consequences to pay. Now that we're back together, how about telling me how special I am to you and that you cannot live without me."

What she got?

A real reaction. The horns of the Bull....

OP: I'm sorry for breaking up with you for yet another lame reason.

T-Guy: *No response*

OP: Can't we work this out?

T-Guy: *No response*

OP: Why aren't you returning my phone calls?....*Sobbing*

T-Guy: *No response*
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Yup, you are all on point here. I once had a boyfriend who would do that. Get in a rage and call me all kinds of things and then say its over and then beg me to take him back when he realized he wasn't going to get the reaction he wanted. Well one day nothing in particular happened -- I was just fed up. I changed the locks and his stuff was out on the patio, then I called him to get them before the rain came. We are always gracious 🙂
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Oh and he would tell me how cold and mean I was, simply because I didn't rise to his level of drama and hysteria. And he would beg for me to spend time with him. You don't get to act like an idiot and then have someone fawning over you, wanting to enjoy the company of a drama queen. Be frank and straightforward if you're pissed about something, especially with a Taurus. Ultimatums do not work on us. If you're unhappy leave and be gone for good. The hard sell doesn't work on us - soft sell, patience, love and affection. If you can show a Taurus that they will be eating out of your hands.
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okay guys. well thnkyou for your comments. see i know what my fault is, im nt a DRAMA QUEEN . Moreover i wanted advice from you guys but please dont make fun. i serously understand i was at fault and i do love him. the reason i asked for it is i feel ignored many a times and whenever i feel that he doesnt care about me or love me, i ask for it..thinking that it wont matter to him...but then he comes up and cries and do all that stuff....i never do it deliberately to get the REACTION as u say...!!
also when he is ignoring me from past one month then why he just keeps on repeating "HE IS WITH ME AND WILL ALWAYS BE" i mean if he seriously wants to get away.....y is he saying so—?
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Posted by mehak
TAURUSBULL well u've been commenting quite a few times....yes i was at fault but for god sake im not a drama queen. kindly try to give serious advice or suggestions rather than making fun..!



Is that what you thought it was?
Making fun?
I was simply presenting you with a mirror.
Take a long look at yourself and re-evaluate how you're coming across.
You are a drama queen that requires a lot of attention.

You want advice?
Acknowledge who you are.
Therefore you can address it, and possibly have the potential to work on it.
The more you deny being a drama queen, you will NEVER fix this problem.
....And there will be a fourth break-up.

All you're seeking is some 'round-about-way' to get him back without having to accept FULL accountability.
Playing victim and pretending I'm bullying you will not work on this forum.
Clearly that form of manipulation didn't work on him.

Here is a solution.
Stop pretending.
Stop what you're doing.
It's not working!
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Posted by fingirl31
Oh and he would tell me how cold and mean I was, simply because I didn't rise to his level of drama and hysteria. And he would beg for me to spend time with him. You don't get to act like an idiot and then have someone fawning over you, wanting to enjoy the company of a drama queen. Be frank and straightforward if you're pissed about something, especially with a Taurus. Ultimatums do not work on us. If you're unhappy leave and be gone for good. The hard sell doesn't work on us - soft sell, patience, love and affection. If you can show a Taurus that they will be eating out of your hands.



This ^^^^^


Very well stated!

Nothing more to add!
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@Scorpchick76

Bulls don't necessarily play 'victim.' We're emotionally strong people, remember. We will deal with things internally, vent to our loved ones in our inner circle, make peace with it, and eventually accept it. We're earth signs.

I think what you meant was....

"How to get a stubborn Bull to admit when they're wrong?"

It's simple.

Avoid using emotions or any dramatic displays to state your premise.

Simply create a logical, unbiased persuasive argument. This is the BEST method.

1. It shows that you're honest (we always respect that)
2. It demonstrates emotional maturity.
3. It asserts that you DO understand us, and you're attempting to convince us to understand "you" as well. (the best way to get a stubborn Bull to adjust to your personality type).

Many people are under the impression that it's 'perfection' we look for.

Wrong.

We respect people who are Real, Honest, and in it with us for the long haul.

It's the phonies, liars, flighty ones, and game players we can't stand.

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Posted by TaurusBull1977


It's simple.

Avoid using emotions or any dramatic displays to state your premise.

Simply create a logical, unbiased persuasive argument. This is the BEST method.

1. It shows that you're honest (we always respect that)
2. It demonstrates emotional maturity.
3. It asserts that you DO understand us, and you're attempting to convince us to understand "you" as well. (the best way to get a stubborn Bull to adjust to your personality type).



Do this, and you will be amazed to know how much we will bend for our partners.

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mehak
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TAURUSBULL well thanks for that....u could have lowered down your rudeness was all that i meant.

DRAMA QUEEN THAT REQUIRES A LOT OF ATTENTION—? sweety u dont know me...so stop interpretting all that.....u seriously dnt know what the real situation was...!

the above comment of urs was very helpful n i gues i've done that already .....i have made him understand where he was wrong.....n i accepted where i was at fault..without any kind of DRAMA and that is all i've been doing for days.. n i suppose now he is kinda normal....he called me today twice and talked to me.......
and as u say the fourth breakup...well sweety its not gonna happen...!

cheers..thanks anyways 🙂
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What TaurusBull said above ^^^!!!!

Mehak I dont think anyone is making fun of you. I think what happens with earth and water is that earth is very direct...we cut through the bs and take the very direct straight path which can leave water thinking that we are being mean and hurtful...which we didnt mean to do at all. Trust me this happens all the time with me and my sis (scorpio) and mommy (cancer). I am sorry if you took anything I said that way and I dont think the other bull girls meant it that why either.

To answer your should you contact him question...here's the deal, it's like I told you earlier, he's watching to see what you will do. He cares about you because he is still there. Honestly the fact that he cried says a lot. I'm a girl and let me tell you I would not let anyone see me cry unless the feelings run deep. I mean don't get me wrong I would cry at home by myself or maybe my mom or closest friend might see a tear or two but to show such vulnerability to someone that was braking up with me...never...I dont know maybe that is just me though. Yes contact him if you have the patience to wait and show him that you will be around and not bolt the minute you feel you are not getting what you want. It's gonna take time. I think it is hard for a girl in this situation because as women we want the man pursuing us...that's one why we know they care and want us. In this case I dont think you should purse him just keep in contact a few times a week to let him know while he's watching and figuring things out you are still there and this time you are not going anywhere. If at any time things get hard for you talk to him in a direct straight forward way and do it after you have gotten your emotions under control. Dont jump to an extreme and brake up with him unless you really mean it is over and you are done...just take a brake...dont contact him for a week or two. To be honest this has happened a few times with the 2 Scorps I have dated and I would make rather just take a little brake for us both to figure things out and have a breather then for them to say it is over. If it is over then I take it for just that...being over. It's like TaurusBull said what you have been doing hasn't worked so try doing something new.

The thing is sweetie you did this and I'm not saying that to be mean. You kept braking up with him. Yes maybe you did it because you thought he didn't care or wasn't giving you what you wanted??_I fully understand that. B
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Posted by sugerbear
countioned from above:

But if you want him and you truly think this could be love and something deep you are going to have to be the one to fix it and that is going to take time and a different approach.



AMEN!

The more the OP tries to convince herself she's NOT being a drama queen. She will continue on with those same tactics...but still expecting different results.

You noticed Scorpchick had a more direct approach/question...and therefore was given a straightforward candid answer. (You have to love and respect Scorpios 🙂)

The OP never once asked this question...
Posted by scorpchick76
TaurusBull...

How do you get a taurus to stop playing the 'victim'? Is that possible - with a venus in gem? Just curious? He hasn't really owned up to his actions in our demise other than feeling the full weight of the hurt and saying that it might have been better if he'd never started it (that's crap)... but anyway... curious is all for no other reason than that.
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I'm sure her Bull is flawed.
I'm sure he doesn't admit when he's wrong.
I'm sure this was the major underlying issue the OP had with her Bull.
He wasn't listening.

But instead of asking a direct question that would be beneficial to her relationship.
She opted to alleviate herself of any real blame, ask for 'indirect advice' and chastise anyone who insisted on not pacifying her.
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Well I am glad we could help and that things are starting to turn around. YAY! Just remember what you have learned here and use it!!! If you need to vent or if something happens and you need to understand your man come here and ask question before you jump down his throat. 🙂 I know that for your cute little watery self us bulls can be hard to understand. And above all else NO MORE BRAKE UPS unless you really really mean it is over.
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Posted by mehak
will you please stop all this...u stubborn bulllllll——————?? go get a life



You're the one who posted this on the Taurus forum.

I just simply pulled your last post from the Astrology thread and informed people who you REALLY were.

You're a manipulative sneak....and you're not fooling anyone!

If you actually confessed to being a drama queen, and that you were in fact trying to illicit a reaction, my responses to you would have been a bit more favorable....and I would have offered you some advice on how to win him back.

But you stayed true to your manipulative nature and refused to cop up to what you did.

Yes, we don't mind flaws as long as it's truthfully addressed, (this is why at times, you find Taurus pairings with people we're not suppose to be compatible with in the zodiac). We prize honesty above EVERYTHING else, yes...even stability.

I repeat..... it's phonies and liars we can't stand!

But since you insisted on playing victim until the cows came home...

Lets just say....I called it how I saw it!
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Mehak, I'm happy that it looks like things are turning around but you need to retract your claws when it comes to TaurusBull. Her advice was well meaning (as was mine) and you're upset because of the delivery. I've been in your shoes. In a situation where I was in the wrong and expected to be coddled. You're not going to get that here so don't look for it. We all want to hear the advice we want to hear in the manner we want to hear it, but that's what you give up when you post on a public forum.