Need help..dating recent Taurus widower

I just found this site and message board tonight. I hope that writing here and asking for advice is not inappropriate. Any suggestions or input, especially from Taurus men, would be greatly appreciated. I'll try to make this brief. I met a Taurus male (bday April 21) on the yahoo personals this past December (he wrote to me). He let me know up front that his wife of 7 years had died suddenly in May and that he has three small children (which was fine with me even though I am 48 and my daughter is grown and married). We were anxious to meet and met that night. Things went very well and there seemed to be feelings of mutual admiration, however.....the problem now, three months later is that I have alot of feelings for him (I'm a Cancer, go figure) and he has made it clear that he is not ready to be in any kind of relationship yet. This is understandable since his wife only passed away 9 months ago. The problem ....he is more than willing to be intimate and have sex but no other "committment", really, even as far as dating goes. I adore him (and I think he knows it) and when we are together, things are great, but it is starting to get painful for me as I feel like I am waiting for him to "come around". I've read a few books on grieving men and widowers and seems the advice is to not even get involved with someone until it has been 1.5 to two years until the passing of their spouse. I know he is lonely and 'sexually frustrated' since his wife died, and of course, I am the ever-present Cancer rescuer and nurturer. Thanks for listening and again any help or advice would be great.

Don't have sex with him... sounds like something to his advantage. If you're not ready for commitment then you're not ready to be intimate. You should have just stayed as friends since the beginning. Plus I think he's an aries... april 22 starts taurus.

Oh, I adore him (and we have been intimate already). His b'day is April 21st, which, as I've been reading up on today, is on the Aries/Taurus cusp (?). I'm not really up on astrology but I think this is correct. I'm trying to learn as much about this 'character' as I can (smile).

Any Aries/Taurus men out there that can give me some good advice? Thx