Will My Taurus Boyfriend come back to me—??

Hello everyone!
(Libra Female) I am or was in a relationship with a wonderful Taurus male and we have recently had a little disagreement and now he has DISAPPEARED!!! He won't return my phone calls or respond to my emails. I'm wanting to talk to him and clear this up but how can I when he won't give me a chance?? It's been three weeks since we have last talked and I'm afraid the he has left me for good. I don't understand this because he has told me that he loves me everytime we would speak. He even told me this after our disagreement!! Also, we were engaged and planning on getting married in a couple of years. So, how could he just leave such a beautiful relationship behind as if it didn't exist— I'm confused and hurt about this. I really need some advice. He happens to be really insecure due to past hurts in previous relationships. I really love him and I know that I want to live the rest of my life with this man. So, what I'm wanting to know is, does this mean that he wants to move on and I should just give up— Or is he just upset right now and need some time— Please help me get the Love of my Life back!!!!!!
His SugarPlum

Awwww... you must be going crazy right now. Tauruses do have a tendency to stubbornly withdraw when they are hurt but this is ridiculous... definitely NOT a healthy way to deal with problems. Even if he were to leave he should have the decency to tell you so. Please make a promise to yourself that if and when he does come back you deal with his insecurity and disappearing act because you don't want to marry someone who reacts to problems that way.

About whether he'll come back... like I said, Tauruses do withdraw and are very stubborn... but there is no way to predict whether he'll move on based on his sun sign. My advice is that you write one last email... telling him you are now leaving it up to him to return. Tell him that you love him but you've got to assume that he's gone forever because that's basically what he's communicating to you with his absence. In other words, let him know that if he still wants to work this out TO LET YOU KNOW, otherwise you'll leave him alone from now on and go your separate way. But do this in a gentle, non-threatening way.

That's just what I would do though, only you know the real circumstances... do what you feel is right.

Taurusgirl, thank you so much for the advice. I think you're right about writing one last email to him. And if he doesn't respond, I should just move on with my life. It will tear me apart, but it's something that I NEED to do. I don't deserve to be treated in such a fashion. I deserve much better. However, I still love Taureans!! *smile* Thanks again.
Shimmer

Hmm...Shimmer, I'd like to hear more details. What was the fight about? Did you call him any names? Did you say or do something out of character? Not to point fingers at you in particular, but I ask because you are the only one in the relationship posting here asking questions. It's normal for each party to have their own interpretation of the story.

I'll tell you this---when a bull gets hurt, its a long way back. A LONG way back, if they ever decide to come back.

Ferdinad,
It really wasnt a fight to begin with. It all started with hurricane Rita. He lives along the gulf coast of Texas and his hometown, which is outside of Houston, was directly along the path of Rita(yes, this is a long distant relationship...I live outside of Austin, which is 150ml from him). Well, he had to flee the city and went to Dallas with his family. He called me before he left to tell me that he loved me and that he would try to contact me once he made it safely. Well, he did and everything was fine. He told me that if his house didn't survive the hurricane, that he was thinking about moving to my city! Of course I was extremely excited about that. Anyway, for some reason his cell wouldnt work the whole four days he was away so I didn't get to talk to him. Well, once he got home on the fifth day, he didnt call me or email me at all. So naturally I was a little concerned considering the fact that we had not spoken to each other in five days now. I thought he would be anxious to hear my voice since he kept claiming that he missed me so much. Well, finally he decides to email me at 2am in the morning apologizing and claiming that he was just really busy. So, I forgave him. I completely understood that he had just went through a lot on account of the storm. That following day he calls (this is when it all went down) and everything was fine at the beginning except I could tell that he was tired. He told me that his friend's house was hit pretty bad and his father's house had some minor damages. Then he tells me that he wasnt going to be able to talk to me again that night because he sorta "volunteered" himself to help out. Well, I didn't really like that too much because of the fact that I am his future wife to be and I felt as though I wasnt important to him. And on top of that, I didn't see how anyone could get anything done at nighttime, which is really the only time we get to talk in the first-place. I tried to hide my disappointment but he read right through it. He kept asking me to promise him that I wasnt upset but I couldnt. I know I should have shared my feelings with him at that moment but I felt as though it was selfish of me. Then he starts asking me questions about some guy at work that kept hitting on me. I told him that he is still doing it but I also made it CLEAR that I wasnt interested in this person (he's like too old for me)! So he proceeds to raise his voice and ask me if I told him that I had a boyfriend and I told him that I did. Now, here is the statment that I truly regret saying, I told him that sometimes it feels like I spend more time with this other guy than I do with my own boyfriend only because I work with this person. Well, he didn't like that too much. He kept saying, "Well that aint right!" I tried to explain what I meant by that and I guess he didn't hear me because I havent heard from him since. Well by then I was a little aggravated and told him that I was gonna let him go because it was on his dime and I didnt want him to have ANOTHER $ 400 phone bill because of me. He told me that something was different with me but I was only a little disappointed that's all. He told me that he loved me and that was the end of it.
That night I wrote him an email explaining why I was hurt about it and I apologized for being inconsiderate. I told him that I loved him and that we needed to talk and clear this up. But as you know, he hasn't responded to me at all and it's been three weeks now. So, it really wasnt a fight at all. Honestly, it was really stupid now that I look back on it. I don't know why he would just up and disappear because of this. It doesn't make any sense!!!

~Shimmer~

Ok, IMHO, here is where I think things may have gone wrong...
He asked you about this other guy and you said you weren't interested in him because he was too old for you. Sorry hun, big mistake. He wanted to hear you say, you weren't interested in the other guy or anyone because you love him and only him. You have to think of how that must have sounded to him. He is obviously hurting.

where you went wrong was by saying you spend more time with him than with your bf i think he may have got a little jealous it might be best for you to let him cool down and call you i wouldn't email him tauruses can't stand to be ignored so just ignore him for a while if you email him your only giving him the satisfaction he needs that's where i went wrong.let him cool down then when he calls you be unavailable trust me you won't loose him you'll just make him realize that despite what you two fight about he can't just pop in and out of your life.i wish i would have done this because now my taurus thinks i am his personal doormat.

Thank you all for your response. I realize now that it was my fault. I wish I could take that whole conversation back and be that sweet loving "sugar plum" that he fell in love with instead. I messed up and now I'm paying for it. But I don't think I deserve this treatment though. Hell, I wouldnt even do my own dog this way! Anyway, life goes on and I have to move right along with it. So, thanks again for listening to me. *smile*
Shimmer