Problem with Taurus guy. Should I move on?

We've been friends with this Taurus for 9 years now. The first time I met him I felt the tension. In the first 3 years we've been texting and hanging out with our friends. Sometimes he would want to visit me at my place and offer to bring me food. I would decline because I am not sure what his intentions are cause he's always hot and cold. To cut the story short, I was not a fan of hot and cold attitude. Then one of our friends(not really a close friend of him)asked me out on a date and since then I started seeing this other guy. He was my boyfriend for five years. Then we broke up due to him being violent.

A few months after we broke up this Taurus suddenly re appeared in my life. We've been hanging out and this time we go on dates just the two of us. We started becoming intimate. As always he still has that hot and cold attitude. We stopped seeing each other for a few months because I am so confused with this guy. He dated other people and I did the same thing.
I swear not to contact him anymore but something happened a terrible tragedy involving his family. So I reached out to him like what friends would do. We started communicating again and started being intimate.

Anyway, when we are together, his focus was on me and he would be slightly upset if I always check my phone. So I tried my best to focus on him when we are together. We hold hands, cuddle and he always hug me and kiss my forehead. Also one thing that I will never forget is how he brushed my hair away from my face, I think this is one of the sweetest thing a guy could do. He is not much of a talker but he listens very well and affectionate.
After a few days of seeing him I decided to have the talk with him. He didn't want to commit to me because he has financial issues(huge problem with his family + financial issues). He told me that he has nothing to offer me and told me that I would be happier with another guy.
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But he wants us to be friends. He also told me that I am the first person that knew about his current situation. I kept on asking him if the reason that he is not ready to
Commit was because he didn't like me enough. Just to check if he's lying or wants to let me go gently. He told me that is not true. That he didn't want to lie to me and I can see sincerity in his eyes. At one point he broke down in tears, this is the first time I've seen him cry. And it's such a heartbreaking moment. He's always project this strong man persona so seeing him so vulnerable made me tear up. He told me why would I want him now that his life is miserable. I reassured him that I still want to be there for him no matter what. But he keeps on pushing me away. Told me not to wait that our 'relationship' is never going to work. But wants me to keep in touch with him still be friends?
I'm really confused if I should move on. I love this guy but I don't know if I should wait for him since he told me not to wait.


I am a Sagittarius.


Any help is highly appreciated.

I think you should try harder. I personally see a little of myself in him where I want myself and my life to be perfect before pursuing serious relationship but the catch 22 with that kind of thinking is life is NEVER perfect. He obviously waited 9 years and he was passive about taking action and let his friend swoop in and take you. Don't let him push you away. He sounds like a good guy and a little on the pessimistic side so he definitely needs a Sag in his life. So take the initiative and pursue a relationship with him. Once you have your hooks in him, he definitely won't let you go. Good Luck.

Thanks VenusStar!

I think right now he really needs a friend/companion to be with him through his darkest days. I know this is so hard for me but I have to be strong. I don't wanna push him to commit but I know he knows that I will be always there for him. He also told me that it's fair if I cut all communications with him because he cannot commit right now, if that's what I want. He will accept all the consequences.

It's so confusing on my part because he's always pushing me away with his words but his actions and eyes say the opposite.

My Taurus has been ignoring me for a couple of days. I think it's better if I just give him space and wait for him to contact me instead, whenever he is ready. He also told me that he was anticipating an issue that will arrive this week. That's why I have to be really patient with him.

Anyone in the same situation as I am? I wonder if he will ever come back. How patient were you with your Taurus? Did it work?

Please help!!

you should have never moved in