REALLY confused by Taurus man with venus in Aries

I've been reading up on this topic a lot (big believer in astrology here), but I was hoping to get some more insight about this Taurus man that I have been seeing. He's got his venus in Aries, moon in Scorpio and Mars in Gemini. I have my sun in Aquarius, Venus in Pisces, Moon in Leo and Mars in Gemini. I met him through mutual friends, and we ended up exchanging numbers and hanging out quite a bit for about 3 weeks or so. He'd want to hang out almost everyday, and I knew he was interested in me because he would compliment me. He also texted me quite a bit, and seemed to make time in his day to hang out with me. I know he gets very busy at work, so I didn't want to push anything. I also thought it was very sweet that he didn't try to make a move on me immediately, and it didn't seem like there were ulterior motives involved in terms of him wanting to get into my pants. We were getting along fabulously, and we had basically started talking about how he'd been in a long term relationship that wasn't working out and I told him about how I had been in a long distance involvement for two years and felt very betrayed when it ended.
Anyway, so one day we were hanging out and he finally said he liked me. We hung out a few more times after that and made out (we haven't had sex yet)and then I asked him if this meant something or whether we were randomly hooking up. When he had told me he liked me I had said we should take it slow and not rush into things, and he seemed to agree. I'm not dying to get into some serious commitment at this point, but I do like him a lot and would like to date him and continue seeing him. The only problem is that a few days ago when I asked him if we were randomly hooking up, he said no and that he really does like me and thinks I'm cool but he's not in a place to have a relationship. I told him that was fine, but I just don't want to be in a place where two or three months down the line he ends up going back to his ex. He told me he can't guarantee anything right now because they were involved for two years and his feelings for her might not have died. I felt a little betrayed because when he'd told me he liked me, he seemed to be REALLY into me and over his ex.

I thought about it a little more, and I would like to still be friends with him, but I'm getting mixed signals from him. I backed off a bit, and he doesn't text me as much as he used to, but he will still text me good morning everyday. When I reply, he'll stop replying afte

When I reply, he'll stop replying after a few texts. I know I don't come across as clingy, but I'm just confused about why he'll text me if he doesn't want to have a conversation, especially when it's the first thing he does when he wakes up. I also don't know how to interpret the fact that he seems to not really be concerned about when we hang out again. I don't want to initiate making plans because I really don't want to be too forward in this whole thing and just end up getting hurt again. He's the first guy I have properly liked in a year and I would rather not deal with being hurt, especially if he goes back to his ex. I haven't seen him since the day we had this conversation and he said he couldn't guarantee anything, and he hasn't made a plan to see me. I honestly find myself wishing he would just stop contacting me altogether so I can stop being so confused. Because right now my guard is up, and I know I come across as aloof but when I fall I become very, very loving and I don't want him to see that side of me (it's been used a lot). I'm really confused at this point, and some help would be appreciated. thanks! =)

Hi-I want you to go and read the thread about Taurus guy slooow to make a move. I would retype it all here but I have to go. That should give you some direction on this issue. You both have about the same story to tell. And I had the same experience. So that is the only reason I tell you to read that thread. Don't take this as a brush off, it isn't. I know from experience and am just sharing the knowledge I have gained.

Thank you so much for the insight! Piscesgirl18, do you just suggest waiting this out then? He continues to text me but won't make plans to see me, and I'm just very confused at this point as to what I should do.

I don't know much about astrology as far as where my Sun, Venus, Moon and Mars are, but I'm a Taurus male and I think he's just conflicted about where he stands right now. If he's telling you his feelings for his ex might not have died, that means they definitely haven't died. He's not trying to hurt you or lead you on, but if he's conflicted about his previous relationship he won't commit to you until he knows for sure how he feels about his ex.

I can't speak for him but if I still had feelings for my ex I'd continue fighting for her until it was obvious the relationship was dead, and I wouldn't get involved with another woman until I had closure. That said, if I met someone who floated my boat I wouldn't want to miss the opportunity to get to know her and would probably do what he's doing---telling you he likes you and being affectionate without jumping in with both feet. And, yes, texting every morning sounds just like something I'd do. I'd want you to know that I'm still around and working through my feelings without saying as much.

It sounds like he's keeping you within arm's reach until he figures it all out. He's not playing games with you and doesn't want to hurt you, he's just conflicted right now. Be patient and eventually he'll either come around and realize you're the one he wants to be with or he'll let you go so you can move on while he figures it out.

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I don't know much about astrology as far as where my Sun, Venus, Moon and Mars are, but I'm a Taurus male and I think he's just conflicted about where he stands right now. If he's telling you his feelings for his ex might not have died, that means they definitely haven't died. He's not trying to hurt you or lead you on, but if he's conflicted about his previous relationship he won't commit to you until he knows for sure how he feels about his ex.

I can't speak for him but if I still had feelings for my ex I'd continue fighting for her until it was obvious the relationship was dead, and I wouldn't get involved with another woman until I had closure. That said, if I met someone who floated my boat I wouldn't want to miss the opportunity to get to know her and would probably do what he's doing---telling you he likes you and being affectionate without jumping in with both feet. And, yes, texting every morning sounds just like something I'd do. I'd want you to know that I'm still around and working through my feelings without saying as much.

It sounds like he's keeping you within arm's reach until he figures it all out. He's not playing games with you and doesn't want to hurt you, he's just conflicted right now. Be patient and eventually he'll either come around and realize you're the one he wants to be with or he'll let you go so you can move on while he figures it out.

That's really helpful, thank you! One of the problems I'm facing right now is the fact that I was really, really broken when my previous relationship ended (almost a year ago) and while I am over my ex and the relationship, the prospect of feeling emotionally vulnerable in that way is really daunting for me. That's why I don't want to try and rush things in any case. I really do like him and am very interested, and I am usually quite good at being just friends with people I might be romantically interested in if I feel like they're worth having around. However, I got so tired and felt a little rejected because of his behaviour, and didn't reply to his text for a few hours. He sent me another one, after which I replied and told him I was having a bad day. He reached out to me again a few hours later, but still no mention of plans. Today is the first time in days that he hasn't texted me first, and if he's waiting for me to text first it's just not going to happen- not

because I am playing games or anything, but just because I feel like if someone is interested in being friends with me or anything else for that matter, they should show it and make the effort too, especially when I have ventured outside of my comfort zone.
I've been hearing and reading that if I stop replying, ignore him or plain just don't reach out to him, he'll think I've lost interest. I still like him a lot, but it just feels like forgetting about him would be easier than hanging around waiting like this.