Do you have an odd Venus-Mars combination

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by solarflare on Tuesday, February 14, 2012 and has 35 replies.

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@Nefer
17 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

Venus in Aries, Mars (and Moon!) in Taurus.

FASTERslowerfasterSLOWERfasterslowerFASTERslowerFASTERslowerfasterSLOWERSLOWERfasterFASTERsloooowdooooowwwwwnnn!!

The Venus is FAST moving, rash, bold, reckless, fearless, jumps headfirst without looking.. wants the fun and the chase, craves excitement and spark, very playful and smiley -- rebels against anything boring, stuffy, settled. Loves to change things up, keep it fresh and new. The Aries Venus wants it ALL, can be a touch selfish and me-centered (thank goodness for the Pisces that keeps me from being a complete bitch!) But when I GET it, all that challenge and excitement.. the Mars (and Moon) pipes up, saying she's unsure and worried, needs to KNOW what's going on, needs some security before she freaks out (and runs away?)

The Mars (and Moon) is careful, practical, SLOW moving. Usually HATES drama and change, more comfortable with routine and knowing where something is and where it's going. Craves stability, permanence, commitment, solidity. SECURITY! But when I GET it, the Venus pipes up, saying she's getting bored and we need to break routine before she pops a cap in someone!

I read once (somewhere).. that with my combination.. what makes me feel LOVED and CHERISHED is not the same as what makes me feel WANTED and DESIRED. So it's a juggling act, delicate balancing back and forth, sometimes one and sometimes the other. Generally speaking, only one of those "needs" can be met at a time, because what satisfies them are SO different!

The ONLY thing that ever helped me in this inner war.. was learning to FEEL and SPEAK my truth, openly, honestly, clearly.. people aren't mind readers, and can't possibly know that I'm feeling LOVED, but not DESIRED.. that I'm feeling WANTED but not CHERISHED.. and that a shift is needed to meet the other needs for awhile.

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@solarflare
14 YearsAries

Nefer - that must be frustrating for you! Totally different speeds in romance, right? Perhaps you get attracted to someone very quickly (Aries), but when it comes to anything sexual, you take your time

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@solarflare
14 YearsAries

Posted by bluemoon9043834
Posted by solarflare
What are they, and has it caused you any trouble

I have Venus in Aries, Mars in Cancer - hard to figure out.

2 steps forward, 1 step back, 2 steps forward, 1 step back....

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Exactly. But it's also kind of a fun combination, you want a little bit of everything. Fast and furious combined with soft and nurturing.

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14 Years1,000+ Posts

Hi. I have Venus in Leo in a wide but applying square to Mars in Taurus. As a Virgo I am sensitive to begin with so hate to be rejected, but this Taurus-Leo thing adds pride to the mix as well so that makes it even more painful and mean to be rejected but would be intensely pleasurable and generous to be accepted. As it is a square one can sometimes feel "paralysed by pride" with regard to the danger of romantic rejection. Another thing that adds to the sensitivity is that Venus is elevated over Mars, and I guess that Uranus (conjunct Venus) adds to the intensity of it all.

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@EmeraldMayhem
14 Years

True masculine essence to my mars and true feminine essence to my venus. So I'm not at any odds. My mars isn't aspected at all and my venus has a lot of positive aspects.

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@EmeraldMayhem
14 Years

Posted by solarflare
What are they, and has it caused you any trouble

I have Venus in Aries, Mars in Cancer - hard to figure out.

Does your venus have a disharmonious aspect to your mars? I think its one of those really intense aspects.

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@lildol
16 Years5,000+ Posts

Another oldie... but I'll play nice

Like CP, I too am Sag Venus Scorp Mars - go in for the kill and when it's all said and done get on your own side of the bed unless you're ready to go again.... 😄

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@owlwind
13 YearsCancer

Posted by Pisceology
No not really. Venus in pisces, mars in taurus.

My MOON and mars on the other hand... That's like the worst combo ever 😄

lol, same here (same mars and moon too).

Being in love with somebody for me is like playing red light green light. Go, STOP, slow, GO GO GO, slow, stop, go, STOP

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@Ninjagirl
15 Years500+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by Claro de Luna
Posted by Ninjagirl
I have Venus Capricorn Mars Aquarius. Don't know if that's a bad combo or not.

It is for a Sagittarius, ime. 😉

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LOL care to elaborate?

When it comes to relationships I'm difficult. *holds hands up*
I'm traditional but I'm not. I want it all one day and then I don't. I want to mesh the old and new together but they don't correlate. I'm picky but easy-going. It's a paradox to say the least.

I'm doomed.

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@libragemmale
14 Years

I am Venus conjunct Mars in Sag. by one degree ,it is as crazy as it reads here and is often exhausting :

Venus conjunct Mars
For people with a Venus-Mars conjunction in their natal charts, the blending of the feminine and masculine energies within is a natural process, although other aspects to the conjunction will tell the whole story as to how this is done. These people possess personal magnetism in spades. They live and breathe romantic/sexual relationships. It is generally easy for them to form relationships, unless the conjunction is severely afflicted. They ooze sexuality, and they are generally quite impulsive with regards to entering new relationships. Relationships are not only important to them, they require a fair amount of excitement, adventure, and passion in their pairings in order to feel alive and vital. With this conjunction, there is generally a pleasing blend of self-assertion and cooperation. This comprises some of their charm, in that they generally know how to assert themselves without stepping on others' toes. In some cases, men with this aspect may be too dominating in romantic situations, and might gain a reputation for being "macho". This is not always the case, however. For the most part, these people are quite direct about what they want in a relationship, and they are quite passionate when it comes to going about getting what they want. It can be a challenge maintaining perspective when it comes to relationships. These people are generally highly creative and are bent on finding outlets for their creativity. Their vitality and warm energy is something that can be felt by others, as if it lies just below the surface.

Some Famous People with Venus conjunct Mars: Barry Bonds (in Gemini), Carmen Electra (in Gemini), Bette Davis, James Caan (in Taurus, also conjunct Uranus), Sally Field, Eva Gabor (in Pisces), Merv Griffin (in Leo), Kris Kristofferson (in Gemini), Bruce Lee (in Scorpio), Courtney Love (in Gemini), Peter O'Toole, Al Pacino (in Gemini), Stefanie Powers (in Scorpio), Sting, Uma Thurman (in Gemini), Vincent Van Gogh (in Pisces), Harry Hamlin