Really confused by this Taurus guy...

Hello all~ I am new to this site. I have been confused by a Taurus guy for almost two months now and I am not sure what I should do about it. I was hoping to get some advice here.

So I met him online about two months ago and we started hanging out after we talked for two weeks. I was not looking for something serious at the time and I didn't think I liked him when we first met. He seemed to be affectionate and loving. I slept over at his place the forth time we met. I thought I was not gonna get attached to him but I did... But after that we didn't see each other for three weeks, but we were talking almost everyday. He told me he was not looking for anything serious right now and he just wanted to have fun. I slept over at his place a couple of times after that and he just kept saying that he thinks I am a very cool girl. We would go out to dinner as well and hang out.

He went to Toronto last week and I haven't talked to him since. I am not sure if he's back yet but this is the first time I haven't talked to him for more than two days... I don't know if I should be the one to initiate contact or just let it go. :/

If you know you are the type to get attached after the fourth date and your not 100 percent sure about you and your life and where things are headed, or you simply get attached to people right away instead of just meeting in public places , the bull won't bother with you afterwards.

Two days and your tripping if you made a mistake after the fourth date and then some.. go do your own thing and know he still said not ready for a relationship right now, it would waste time, energy and effort.

If you do talk about getting to know each other from a friendship foundation slowly.

@InstantKarma- Hm temptation is blind though. And after and only after sex the clouds leave. In some cases though you can spot red flags in two days of meeting someone online or irl before hopping in bed and still get that euphoria fix, craving..some people say fuck the red flags and still just get their sex craving and move in too that is okay though. It is happening more because being in a relationship with someone is complex and should not be. A guy who respects you would not suggest after the 4th date come to my home. That's creepy.

i think you should only contact him if you want to sleep with him again.

can you explain a little more about what you are confused about?

Oxytosin has taken over. Abandon ship!

Initially you said you didn't want anything serious and you didn't even think you liked him.
You had sex thinking that because you didn't think you really liked him you could handle it. The problem is when you have sex with someone you release a large burst of hormone called Oxytosin which is a bonding hormone and you will start to feel connected to the person you had sex with, even if you didn't like them very much. The more you have sex with the same partner, the more bonded you feel. Then you start to forget about all of the things that you initially didn't like much. Then you start to replay things that he said and did during times you were together. This makes you feel like there's more of a relationship than there actually is.

"I'm not looking for anything serious right now"
I've found that there are a few types of people who say this
1. Genuinely not looking for anything serious & if the man/woman of their dreams came into their life they would turn them down - This is rare.
2. Says they aren't looking for anything serious because they are guarded, wounded, emotionally unavailable, scared but if they met someone they liked they would give it a go. Basically this is a wall/defense mechanism that can quickly crumble.
3. People who say they aren't looking for anything serious as a way to gently reject someone. They actually are open for something serious: a relationship, just not with you. It just sounds nicer than saying "I fuck buddy zoned you"

Generally.... men are the #3 types and women are the #2 types. Yes, there are exceptions. But because women say this as a defense mechanism, when the wall crumbles they tend to assume that the man was also using it as a defense mechanism and they think his wall will crumble too. But it doesn't because he's genuinely not interested in you in that way.

Long story short, let it all go because the longer this goes on, the more you sleep with him, the more attachment you'll have & the harder this will be to walk away from.

The bonding hormone Oxytosin is released in the brain, it literally changes how you think, perceive and feel = a mental thing due to Oxytosin. Sex = relationship due to Oxytosin.

#4 is #1. But that's why it's rare. If you meet someone who you really like, who you feel like could be your person for life, most people despite anything they have going on, aren't going to let them get away. The problem is women tell themselves "we're just going to take it slow until he's ready" But ready never comes and they've wasted a whole lot of time, when he was actually a #3

I am also new here, and I have read tons of threads just out of curiosity. And I must say for random people who are willing to put all of their personal business on the internet and be completely vulnerable just to get a little bit of insight into this whole Astrology thing. You people are so rude and disrespectful in you responses. She and a lot of other people was not asking for your personal opinions on her "judgement choice", but yet ya'll continue to drill her/them on that. Your responses make people like the OP seem like they should have known what they was getting into and that their only FWB or try and make them feel completely stupid. However, there are THOUSANDS of threads, google searches, topics, etc on these exact behavior patterns of Taurus Men whether they are actually like someone or just FWB, or they take a long time to decide, or they withdraw because they THINK so deeply about everything, or they have family/work problems.... So ON and SO ON! "They behave the exact same way". HOWEVER..... FWB is just that FWB. But then Taureans can't just be FWB because they are possessive, and because Taureans can't just have sex continuously W/O some type of emotional attachment, and because Taureans needs their routines(which includes the same sexual partner). So Basically, ya'll are completely confused and full of S $ hit! And then you get defensive about the fact so many people have the same problems with your Inconsistent Bipolar personalities, that you troll these message boards all day everyday making up excuses about your behavior instead of actually getting off the F& $ KING couch and living a actual life.

Get the fuck out.

I'm not taking personal. Opinions are opinions. However, there is no reason for most of these "Taurus Women" to be A-holes or make nasty unnecessary comments to these posts. The OP did say that they had sex, went out to dinner and etc. My point is... No one deserves to be disrespected and their throat jumped down just for asking a question. All of the responses was "2 days, and you tripping?" "F-buddies and casual sex, that's what it is", "get your head out of the clouds, you should have spotted red flags". I mean Damn... forreal? Why the hell are these women so mad tho? If the OP wanted her mother to tell her all of that, then she probably would have asked her. Like I said before, there are a million topics on the internet about this same thing so it's not like she's asking a off the wall question. The problem is that answers are so Damn contradicting and inconstant with what people are saying and doing. These men are unpredictable and unsure of exactly what they want. (Like most men). I'm just sick and tired of seeing all of these women being attacked because Taurus men are mentally/emotionally challenged

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Get the fuck out.

Get your Introverted boring A $ $ off the internet and off the F% $ KING sofa and get a Real life

Yup. I will thanks.

The truth is that guy is a douche...so are you. Give the proper advice then then we'll talk. Other than bashing other people for telling it like it is. The truth hurts.

Trust if I was 10 years younger I would want that advice. So read how you want to. You still didn't help OP none.

I am not sugar coating a damn thing. Fuck off your high horse and give the correct advice then.

You are rude and miserable. Simple as that. You were clearly a FWB that went wrong somewhere and all you do is slam women on here about. Give your comments or Advise as you call it on the appropriate topics that your have specific experience with. You are NOT a Taurus Male, so STFU on the thoughts of "MEN"

Firstly I am never miserable.
2. I am always cool and level headed when it comes to people who get disrespected and possibly that this guy has told her the truth but she did have sex even when said I am not interested in a long term relationship. So I do go by experience and what people say..

3. You still don't see any males on here giving advice an it wasn't specific that anyone could answer.

4. She left things out and until she comes back and explains more. Then he is a douche and she got attached that's not her fault clearly. But it takes two.

5. You still aren't fucking giving advice to where I could see it in a different way. Bottom line is most guys who aren't ready simply just wanting sex, fun and NSA and the other person gets attached strongly after a few days.

6. I am knowing alot about it now that I am older. People just have to learn from there mistakes like everyone else.

Fwb is open relationship type and it is not monogamous and certain people can't do fwb. I can't and wont. I have had flings but mutually..this isn't mutual discussion topic op had as adults. It is one sided.

Posted by wintermelon
Hello all~ I am new to this site. I have been confused by a Taurus guy for almost two months now and I am not sure what I should do about it. I was hoping to get some advice here.

So I met him online about two months ago and we started hanging out after we talked for two weeks. I was not looking for something serious at the time and I didn't think I liked him when we first met. He seemed to be affectionate and loving. I slept over at his place the forth time we met. I thought I was not gonna get attached to him but I did... But after that we didn't see each other for three weeks, but we were talking almost everyday. He told me he was not looking for anything serious right now and he just wanted to have fun. I slept over at his place a couple of times after that and he just kept saying that he thinks I am a very cool girl. We would go out to dinner as well and hang out.

He went to Toronto last week and I haven't talked to him since. I am not sure if he's back yet but this is the first time I haven't talked to him for more than two days... I don't know if I should be the one to initiate contact or just let it go. :/

Firstly, I think you need to be clear about what you're looking for and wanting. In life right now and with this guy. Then you need to find out what this guy wants and see if it's a match.

He's already said upfront he's not looking for anything serious. That could be for a multitude of reasons. Those reasons don't matter and you don't need to take them personally. If he says he's not looking for serious then he has his reasons. I don't think he is a bad guy based on what you have said. He knew what he was and was not looking for AND he was upfront about it. He has not mislead you. He offered you the 'nothing serious' contract and you 'signed' it.

You started out not looking for something serious for whatever those reasons are. As time has progressed, your intentions and interest in him has also changed. What has happened in the last two months for this to occur?

I think it is normal for you to have a re-think. I think it's good that you've noticed the change. It's what you do with it from now on that matters.

If you do want more from him but he doesn't from you then thank him for his time and move on so you can find someone who you do match with.

You're obviously not happy to continue the FWB and rightly so. If you do, others have already stated here that it is likely to make you feel worse as time goes on and, frankly, why would you want someone who doesn't want you back?

As for a course of action to take right now. I'd say do nothing and get on with your life just as he is doing. I would choose not to contact him and see if he contacts you. Some might say this is 'game' playing and if you like him you should contact him etc BUT this is not a mutually matching s

scenario. By you 'caring' about him more than he may care about you tips the balance out of your favour which is triggering a little insecurity. To assist you with managing that I'd do nothing. If he contacts you then carry on responding as normal. If you see him face to face you can have a conversation with him to say your situation has changed and you're looking for someone to build something more with (not necessarily from him) and that you're not going to continue with the FWB in order to find that person. That is, if you're looking for something serious. Equally, you might want time on your own. You don't have to get shitty about it. He'll do one of two things. He'll either put more in as he feels the same as you (careful he doesn't just say it, you need to watch his actions. None of this 'yeah babe I want a relationship, can we fuck now') or he'll run away so fast you won't see him for dust. Either way, you'll have your answer.