Taurus and Libra

I am a Libra with a Taurus. Ahh, I was where you were because women flock to them. And it doesn't help that they are flirts. But, you really need to make this about you for a second. I know the first knee-jerk reaction is to try to hurry up and get security by being back with him. But once you are, you will realize right now you can't handle him dating other women. Is there anyway for you to minimize the window/peep show of knowing exactly how many girls he has after him because that does two things: 1) It makes you want to be back so that they dont get him, even at your own detriment and 2) It makes it harder because you are going to be insecure. So I say until you can either mute his other activities or until he can make it clear that it's about you and there aren't any grey areas, I would wait it out. Bulls are persistent he will lurk anyway trying to figure out where you are. Give yourself more time to figure out how you can deal with it if you are aware of the other girls. This time away can be a cat and mouse game, Taurus men love mind games they pretend they don't but it's like playing mental courtship chess they secretly love to know where you are even though they crave immediately to feel secure they contradict themselves by not wanting to feel all the way secure. Fine delicate line that us scales have to balance but we can be just the girls for them. Take some time away. See if he pursues you with the maturity level of making it either friendship or exclusive one or the other because he knows you cant handle it. They are intuitive. If all fails and he is in stubborn mode, revisit it and then send him a light note.

I was very overwhelmed by how much attention he gets from girls, and I was uncomfortable with the disappearing/reappearing acts. He pressed me several times to talk but I never knew the right things to say. I was always unclear with his attentions and have trouble trusting him. We have admitted to each other that we both have trust issues.

Marie, here are my opinions right or wrong. You will need to decide if you can be okay with the attention from other females as it will happen, it's just the nature of the sign. Also, the sign needs to withdraw from time to time, it allows us to center ourselves and analyze the situation - and especially situations involving how we feel and how to properly communicate our feelings to you. We need our own time to provide the best answer. Trust is a large hurdle to get over for us. We may flirt but it's all surface and not of substance. I think it gives an outlet to not have to share our real feelings. He may like the idea of love but not know what to do with it when he has it in his hands. Also love and commitment is very strongly attached to one person. It's hard to get us there, but when we kneel its very real.

6 months ago I pushed him away and told him I needed space. He gave me space, and now I really regret it. I've dated a handful of other men since but can't get him out of my head.

When you tell us you need space, it puts our guard wall up. Even though you may mean very well, he may be on the defensive now. Is he more passive aggressive, elusive?

We've hung out about once a month since then, and then I spent his birthday with him. After that, it really opened my eyes that he may have stronger feelings than I thought, though he is very good at hiding them. We are always very affectionate towards each other, but are hesitant with our words.

See above. He still is very much into you, I'm sure.

Is it too late to muster up the courage to try to talk to him, or should I be patient with him and see if he pursues me? I don't like seeming wish-washy about my feelings, but that is what I have done. He motivates me in all areas of my life and has been an inspirational influence on my career.. I have very strong feelings for him now.
I really don't like being in this "limbo" zone, but I don't know if pushing him to change is the right idea.

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Tell him how you feel. We like something concrete so a h

Oops. The last part got cut off in the original reply and I can't find the edit button, if there even is one. So here is the addendum...

Is it too late to muster up the courage to try to talk to him, or should I be patient with him and see if he pursues me? I don't like seeming wish-washy about my feelings, but that is what I have done. He motivates me in all areas of my life and has been an inspirational influence on my career.. I have very strong feelings for him now.
I really don't like being in this "limbo" zone, but I don't know if pushing him to change is the right idea.

Tell him how you feel. We like something concrete so a hand written letter would do the trick. No email 🙂 Give him some time to assess and let him come to you. If he doesn't then he is not ready for the type of commitment. I'm a cusper so I'm very borderline fire and earth and relationships are like a muddy pool to me, but the bull in me thinks that you need to make the move as you were the one that created the distance in the first place aka needing your space

Wow he seems spot on, I still say that you have to be comfortable with what is going on with him first before proceeding with anything. But I wanted to just come in and say you are welcome! I am still struggling to learn my own bull from time to time.