Taurus EX won't give me my stuff back

thats because he knows if he does he will have no contact with u.its just something to hang over your head because he still cares.4 me giving u back your possessions means its over.but think hard not long on whether the relationship is over because once he feels its over its no turning back.dont allow time to pass if u want it to work.the one thing about us is once it is over its over..we may comeback
(not hardly) but if we do we feel something different about u,maybe lost of trust or something,but it will never be the same and u eventually break up anyway

Self explanatory & I agree with Taurus35. Why wouldn't you give someones things back? Because that's the only tie you have to that person & once things have been exchanged there is no excuse for contact. Taurus people are slow to give things up, we are also possessive. You were at one time "his" & so he, holding on to your things is giving him time to process giving up his possession...not your things but you. He doesn't want the relationship to be over, not yet. If he did he'd have no problem dropping your things off to you & walking away without looking back. When our feelings change for someone we have no problem doing that. When his feelings do change for you he'll have no problem looking at you with nothing but feelings of friendship if he chooses to give you that. Depends on how the breakup went down & who's idea the breakup was. THAT or he's just being a lazy bull LOL but my guess is the 1st, he's not ready to let go yet.

Aya...who broke up with who?

That wasn't long at all considering how I ramble on LOL anyway.....OK....1st of all he has kids, I assume you don't, you didn't mention any, so we bulls are family oriented more home body types, especially when we have kids. It seems to me that he is more settled & he was trying to take the relationship up a notch by introducing you to his kids (that's important) & asking you to spend time with him (& his kids?) at his home, doing more family oriented activities. Now please don't get offended, just giving my observation, but, you chose to go out with your friends that week, or that's how I read it. Personally, I want to feel like a priority & not a option & you chose your friends & going out. That wouldn't sit well with me. Yes I know that he said it was fine but if you could tell in his voice that it wasn't....why did you go?

You said after he said he wanted to talk & things shouldn't be this difficult (we run from drama & confrontation b.t.w)You decided to "give in & give him what he wanted" This won't work. You will resent him in the long run if you do something for him that you don't really want to do. Nothing wrong with wanting to go out with your friends & party or whatever, it just seems to me that you two are in different places in life. He seems to want to settle down. Are you looking to be a ready made family with him?

On top of that, you asked him for space. We are very stable people & your asking for space I'm sure made him feel like you may be ready to fly. That is scary to us. We won't continue to invest in someone or something when we think it's not a stable or secure thing. When we give, we give our all & we don't let go easily. So the reason he's probably upset & not speaking is because he feels like this will never work with you even though everything in him wants to hold on...because that's what we do, we hold on.

OK well this puts a whole different spin on things 🙂 I didn't know you had been together for such a short time & that you had previously been married & had that experience so now I understand more where you are coming from. Have you told him about why you want to take things slow? especially when you told him you needed some space? I understand why you'd want to but I must admit I do have the tendency to rush....then get scared & pull back...then rush again...not sure if thats a bull quality though? Anyway I think this is all just miscommunication & yes you'll probably have to do alot of reassuring because when I really like/love someone & I want to give it my all, I HAVE to know that they feel the same way...hence the reason I pull back...out of fear.

As far as him not saying things clearly, I can also relate to that. I don't like confrontation so I'm not always clear about the things I want which causes me to be a bit passive/aggressive. If he says things in passing & you think he's just thinking out loud, I'd pay attention to what he's saying, chances are good he's saying what he REALLY wants to say but doing it in such a way so that it seems like it's not a big deal when it really is. UGGHHH lol man I just realized I can be complicated!

Yeah we are complicated in alot of ways....even us women LOL I'm a chick but what I wouldnt give to have a man brain for a day! LOL 🙂