Taurus hot and cold is wearing me down >._

May be it's just me but I think Taurus men are the most frustrating sign out there. I can't take the hot and cold anymore, it's driving me insane lol.

My Taurus was all over me last week. I had some personal issues going on. I'll admit I was acting weird and he even asked what was wrong, he said he thought I was mad at him, I wasn't but I just kind of wanted to be alone. He kept asking me to spend the night I said no. A guy friend was texting me and wanted me to come hang out, he leans into my phone and then came the interrogation. Are you going over there? Who is that? Are you going to spend the night with him? I said probably not (it was getting late and I hate to drive late at night, have a hard time seeing). I reassured him that he was just a friend to which he said "you seem to have a lot of guy friends" and then I said yea because I just don't like you. I was being sarcastic but he thought I was being serious. He still asked for me to spend the night and I said no and left. I didn't hear from him all week. I called him then we played phone tag. He called me back, I called him back and then he never called me back. I texted saying no biggie wanted to give back something I had borrowed and if he wanted to get together today and he says, "sorry I have plans". Ugh. For the most part I thought everything was okay, not enough for him to get cold on me.


Are you Taureens known for retreating/withdrawing? If so why? And how in the world do the rest of us reel you guys back in? Lol. Thanks.

Posted by clooneyyears
guy friends wtf?!

Lol yes? I'm guessing that's a no go for a Taurus?

I'm not sure if you genuinely don't see how you might be coming across or you do see it but are still playing a little dumb. Not being rude but it's the impression I form after reading this post and previous posts.

When you act 'weird' it's ok but when he does, it's not ok.

He asks you about staying over but you decline yet you are texting another man who is asking you to go out late that night. If boot were on other foot, do you think you would feel sufficiently reassured?

Having friends of the opposite is not a problem.

However, what you've described seems to me to be a bit disrespectful. Like you're rubbing it in his face. He likes you so of course he's going to be curious as to who you're texting and if you might choose to go out with your friend that night instead of staying with him.

I think you're enjoying playing with this dude and know what you're doing and how you're behaving.

If it were me, I'd not sit there texting another fella while I'm sitting with a fella I liked and who liked me.

I think manners are important here.

Posted by AgentP911
I'm not sure if you genuinely don't see how you might be coming across or you do see it but are still playing a little dumb. Not being rude but it's the impression I form after reading this post and previous posts.

When you act 'weird' it's ok but when he does, it's not ok.

He asks you about staying over but you decline yet you are texting another man who is asking you to go out late that night. If boot were on other foot, do you think you would feel sufficiently reassured?

Having friends of the opposite is not a problem.

However, what you've described seems to me to be a bit disrespectful. Like you're rubbing it in his face. He likes you so of course he's going to be curious as to who you're texting and if you might choose to go out with your friend that night instead of staying with him.

I think you're enjoying playing with this dude and know what you're doing and how you're behaving.

If it were me, I'd not sit there texting another fella while I'm sitting with a fella I liked and who liked me.

I think manners are important here.

You're right. I guess I didn't see it as wrong because I knew it was something innocent but then again how would he really know that? Really not trying to rub it in his face that's why I told him he really was just a friend. But again you're right how would he really know. Thanks letting me know about my behavior, phone away from here on out lol.

Posted by AgentP911
I'm not sure if you genuinely don't see how you might be coming across or you do see it but are still playing a little dumb. Not being rude but it's the impression I form after reading this post and previous posts.

When you act 'weird' it's ok but when he does, it's not ok.

He asks you about staying over but you decline yet you are texting another man who is asking you to go out late that night. If boot were on other foot, do you think you would feel sufficiently reassured?

Having friends of the opposite is not a problem.

However, what you've described seems to me to be a bit disrespectful. Like you're rubbing it in his face. He likes you so of course he's going to be curious as to who you're texting and if you might choose to go out with your friend that night instead of staying with him.

I think you're enjoying playing with this dude and know what you're doing and how you're behaving.

If it were me, I'd not sit there texting another fella while I'm sitting with a fella I liked and who liked me.

I think manners are important here.

+ 1,000

as a taurus, reading this, his behavior sounds pretty normal to me. he shows interest over and over again and is denied. not just in sexual advance but it sounds like in general. you sound so aloof i wouldnt know what to do with you either. if i dont get a response to my advances, naturally i stop advancing. i will persue but i wont beg lol if you are interested, act like it.

It's not wrong. I just don't think it's appropriate. Some guys/girls might not be bothered by it at all but considering the more delicate nature between the both of you then I'd say it would be prudent to pay attention to your behaviour.

I'd go so far as to say you come across as a bit selfish especially regarding the personal issues and acting weird and wanting to be alone, then blaming him for being hot and cold. I think you might benefit from handling this kind of thing slightly differently to reduce the tension or miscommunication etc. of course, I'm not you and I'm not there so I'm only offering a view based on what you have said.

I've had many times where I've only identified with my own view point, and been either too tolerant or too intolerant. It's hard to balance but when you stop and look, and put yourself in someone else's shoes then maybe you will see things differently.

Manners and respectful behaviour will serve you well and will go a long way. That's in life in general too!

Posted by AbbyNormal
as a taurus, reading this, his behavior sounds pretty normal to me. he shows interest over and over again and is denied. not just in sexual advance but it sounds like in general. you sound so aloof i wouldnt know what to do with you either. if i dont get a response to my advances, naturally i stop advancing. i will persue but i wont beg lol if you are interested, act like it.

Thanks for the reply. I really didn't think it was a big deal at the time but now I understand that I need to be more considerate. I have to drop something off at his place, thinking of leaving a chocolate Easter bunny with it? Too cheesy/weird? I know I need to start acting more interested and start going about this the right way lol.

Posted by AgentP911
It's not wrong. I just don't think it's appropriate. Some guys/girls might not be bothered by it at all but considering the more delicate nature between the both of you then I'd say it would be prudent to pay attention to your behaviour.

I'd go so far as to say you come across as a bit selfish especially regarding the personal issues and acting weird and wanting to be alone, then blaming him for being hot and cold. I think you might benefit from handling this kind of thing slightly differently to reduce the tension or miscommunication etc. of course, I'm not you and I'm not there so I'm only offering a view based on what you have said.

I've had many times where I've only identified with my own view point, and been either too tolerant or too intolerant. It's hard to balance but when you stop and look, and put yourself in someone else's shoes then maybe you will see things differently.

Manners and respectful behaviour will serve you well and will go a long way. That's in life in general too!

Oh wow I didn't even see it as being selfish but you're probably right, you're really opening my eyes today agentP911! Lol. I don't like to burden people with my problems or make them feel weird just because I'm down about something hence why I like to be alone. I'll try to keep everything in mind moving forward 😄. So is he just over it or is he just retreating right now? I'm not really sure how to go about rectifying the situation.

Well I'm not a Taurus or a male so I've not much insight on that bit but from what I gather from this forum and it's members is that honesty and directness goes a long way as well as open communication.

If it were me then I'd be feeling considerably unsure with how you felt and your intentions.

The bunny sounds nice but the acting interested bit is concerning. Don't act interested. Be interested.

Yeah, clearly all those chocolate Easter eggs have made my brain go on fire... I'm in a roll!

It's ok, I'm a clueless fuck up too. That's probably why I can read your situation 😉

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Posted by AbbyNormal
as a taurus, reading this, his behavior sounds pretty normal to me. he shows interest over and over again and is denied. not just in sexual advance but it sounds like in general. you sound so aloof i wouldnt know what to do with you either. if i dont get a response to my advances, naturally i stop advancing. i will persue but i wont beg lol if you are interested, act like it.

Thanks for the reply. I really didn't think it was a big deal at the time but now I understand that I need to be more considerate. I have to drop something off at his place, thinking of leaving a chocolate Easter bunny with it? Too cheesy/weird? I know I need to start acting more interested and start going about this the right way lol.

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personally i adore cheesy and weird. at least i know you care!

Posted by AgentP911
Well I'm not a Taurus or a male so I've not much insight on that bit but from what I gather from this forum and it's members is that honesty and directness goes a long way as well as open communication.

If it were me then I'd be feeling considerably unsure with how you felt and your intentions.

The bunny sounds nice but the acting interested bit is concerning. Don't act interested. Be interested.

Worded that wrong lol. Show that I'm interested in the correct way without screwing it up is what I should've said lol.

Yeah, Freudian slip...

You don't. He is retreating and I don't blame him, not seeing how this played out. Chasing now will surly crack him since it will just reaffirm this 'game'you have got on. I have to agree with agent here, a very wise one here 😉, that more people have to first visit their own fault in things like this before pointing fingers. 'People will note your change in behavior but not there actions that led to it'

Back off for a bit, let him decide what happens next. If you push him he is going to take you down. And yes this will take time, and no, you brought him to this so you can't force it. It is in his hands, you already pushed too far.

I have been in similar situations, still am, just back down before he rips into you.

Posted by OmagaIII
You don't. He is retreating and I don't blame him, not seeing how this played out. Chasing now will surly crack him since it will just reaffirm this 'game'you have got on. I have to agree with agent here, a very wise one here 😉, that more people have to first visit their own fault in things like this before pointing fingers. 'People will note your change in behavior but not there actions that led to it'

Back off for a bit, let him decide what happens next. If you push him he is going to take you down. And yes this will take time, and no, you brought him to this so you can't force it. It is in his hands, you already pushed too far.

I have been in similar situations, still am, just back down before he rips into you.

*sigh* so no chocolate bunny when I drop off his stuff then huh?

Not a good idea no. Hell just dropping stuff off feels like a bad idea. The sight of you might force him to lockup, and then there will be your obvious intent on asking him why, and what is wrong and this just blowing up. If you want to get rid of him this is a sure fire way atm. If you don't want to lose him then leave him be and go on with your life. You have already given him more than enough to think about. Also, don't be surprised if he pushes you back all the way to just being a friend. You don't seem to be able to handle anything more, nor trustworthy enough to be anything more. He needs to figure this out him self. Any outside influence will just lead to a harsh point blank decision neither will like but that he will be convinced off.

Posted by OmagaIII
Not a good idea no. Hell just dropping stuff off feels like a bad idea. The sight of you might force him to lockup, and then there will be your obvious intent on asking him why, and what is wrong and this just blowing up. If you want to get rid of him this is a sure fire way atm. If you don't want to lose him then leave him be and go on with your life. You have already given him more than enough to think about. Also, don't be surprised if he pushes you back all the way to just being a friend. You don't seem to be able to handle anything more, nor trustworthy enough to be anything more. He needs to figure this out him self. Any outside influence will just lead to a harsh point blank decision neither will like but that he will be convinced off.

Oh well I was just going to leave it the front desk for him bc I didn't want to press my luck lol. See we're just fwb, I mean I know we like each other and I didn't think texting my guy friends while there was that bad (at the time)

^^^^

***raises eyebrow at total ignorance***

Jesus, I thought I was thick when it comes to this stuff but I'm stepping aside and retiring my crown!! 😉

Posted by AgentP911
^^^^

***raises eyebrow at total ignorance***

Jesus, I thought I was thick when it comes to this stuff but I'm stepping aside and retiring my crown!! 😉

No I get it NOW lol...I'm saying at that moment in time I didn't see it as wrong.

Rather just pass on. This is just so wrong and selfish on so many levels.

Good enough for a screw (till something more your style comes around) but not as a respectable human being. Never made sense to me.

Posted by AgentP911
^^^^

***raises eyebrow at total ignorance***

Jesus, I thought I was thick when it comes to this stuff but I'm stepping aside and retiring my crown!! 😉

LOL