Taurus hurt me..

Hindsight is always 20/20, but here's what I would have done.

You say he was under the influence of drugs. When you talked to him, I would have made that the most important reason for talking to him. Showing concern for what is our what could be his drug problem would be my immediate concern. Perhaps giving him an ultimatum at that particular time wasn't the best timing. I too would see that as being too emotional...no one likes to be given an ultimatum, especially when they're at the office and they are not in a position to stand their ground on their terms. To a certain degree, I see that as disrespecting him and he's probably not happy that you put in that position while he was at work.

I am curious, did you only address your relationship with him and not anything to do with his impending drug problem?

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If you don't feel like he's going to change things for the better, i.e, drug use, then he is better off as your friend. Drug use causes a downward spinal in my opinion and he shouldn't take you down with him.

Thank your LUCKY STARS you sabotaged a relationship with a drug user...Go do your happy dance and get out there and find a drug free man, this one is a loooooooooser and will only bring you disappointment and pain whilst on drugs, disappointment and grief that's your plight if you stick out, you cannot trust a guy that uses drug, he will not only be careless with your feelings but he'll be a big huge pain in your rear end, you will be in a relationship with him and his drugs, those 2 will always be first, you'll be competing with his drug habit and you won't win, I hope this guy wakes up and get some help, just make sure you don't go down with his sinking ship.

what kind of drugs he on?

"but I can't be disrespected. He's the closest friend I have, and I'm terrified of losing him."

You think that if you lose him and you're alone,you'll be unhappy.And maybe you will be temporarily.
But trust me honey,if you keep him you will be very unhappy.Happiness will come eventually if you let him go....but you stand no chance of this if you join him in the train wreck.
What happened that upset you will be the norm for the relationship,do you want to feel that way most days?
Women sometimes have romantic notions in this situation,that her love will change him.
It won't.