Taurus man ups and breaks up with me

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I am a Leo woman and I met my taurus man last year. We were very opposite but somehow he literally WORKED his way into my life. During our 1st month together he took a unexpected trip out of town for 4 days & did not call me ONCE! I was furious & was about to leave him. He broke down & told me the truth (after he tried countless times to lie about it). I always stressed HONESTY in my relationship. He went to Mexico with a woman that he had previously planned the trip with. I forgave him and we moved forward. We went on things were great, 5 months later I moved out one apt and couldn't move into the next apt until the following week. I needed a place to go for a week. He NEVER offered his place AT ALL. I would spend the night every night, but I wanted it be verbally agreed I could stay for the week. We were laying in bed & I asked him. He chuckled but became very uncomfortable. So the following day I told him, since I can't stay with you (assuming since he never responded to my question) then it shouldn't be an issue or question were I stay. We ended up arguing & I hung up. He sent me a text asking off his belongings. I told him I would mail them to him. I was okay with it, cause I was very upset. We didn't speak for a week and I posted a funny post about single ladies on IG. He immediately responded with "thanks for confirming that we are not together". I to him if my man leaves me stranded & we don't speak for a week you r damn right I'm single. When that method didn't work he texted me saying "my mom said thanks for the card & that you look very pretty". I kept it short and told him tell her thanks. His final strategy worked. He just pretended we never broke up which was actually funny. He apologized & told me he loved me, & would do right by me. We were good for about a week, them he became distant. So I went to talk to him today, & he told me he didn't want to b in a relationship, & he wants to be friends. I was literally torn apart, he said it's not me but him. I began to cry and gather my belongings. He stopped me and asked "what's wrong". I was so upset and really wanted to know why even peruse me if he knew he was not ready for relationship. He was at a lost for words. I went to walk out and he asked so we can't talk any more. I told him I prefer not to at this time cause breaking up was not what I wanted. I left & I'm so hurt. We were SO close, we knew what each other was thinking before saying it, I took care of most of his business, and he calle
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Posted by Msvenus885
We were SO close, we knew what each other was thinking before saying it, I took care of most of his business, and he calle



You got cut off, but this sounds very much like Leo Female/Taurus Male pairings I know. Even with my Leo Moon, I think this is a really tough pairing. Lots of attraction, passion, and chemistry, but also drama, butting heads, fighting over who wears the pants, neither side backs down, etc. I think its a rough one and you should probably just get out now. He'd like you to still like him, lol....But its probably best if you just keep your distance like you intended to.
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Posted by Msvenus885
That's why I'm even more upset..I compromised and put my ego to the side so many times for this relationship to work.



Its just a tough pairing - neither of you are probably primarily to blame. He knows that and probably has so much he likes about you, and wants to remain friends because he can't handle the drama of the connection. But you probably need to blame him to move on like the Leo girl I was messing with.
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Us Taurus men HATE DRAMA! And from the looks of it (or what all of read) you enjoy it. He has a connection with you... But he does not and can not handle the drama you bring into the relationship. He can live without that.... Therefore, not investing feelings and a commitment with you. Once we know a relationship isn't going as smooth as we would like and there are continual issues and drama, we cut you off as gently as possible. Our sanity and peace is very important to us. Sorry!
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We DID NOT have any drama. I only mentioned the issues we had to to show we only had 2 situations. The first was not my fault at all. However, both situations we made it through. We were really close and had a ton of great times. It was at the very beginning when the first situation happened, and the end. Both times he apologized and we moved forward. I actually hate drama, and never nagged or knock picked at him, and made sure I gave him space.
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Posted by Msvenus885
I am always aware of my actions and I did not call or text him the first issue, and I am not this time.



But you have a very high expected from him that you have grown into very inpatient for a week/4 days!! Taurus is known for being very slow and you can't stand his slowness.
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EXACTLY!
And it was only the first month of them dating.... Ridiculous!
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First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!

Second he clearly ended it when he texted me bring him his belongings and then ceased communication with me. Nothing else had to be explained. The post was a repost of some one else and I thought it was funny. I do not pull "power" moves in my relationships. I'm pretty cut and dry, respect and I'll respect you. Not to mention if I missed 1 of his phone calls he would have a fit. Just like now, he made a decision, and I respect it (though I don't like it) and have ceased communication with him.
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Posted by Msvenus885
First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!

Second he clearly ended it when he texted me bring him his belongings and then ceased communication with me. Nothing else had to be explained. The post was a repost of some one else and I thought it was funny. I do not pull "power" moves in my relationships. I'm pretty cut and dry, respect and I'll respect you. Not to mention if I missed 1 of his phone calls he would have a fit. Just like now, he made a decision, and I respect it (though I don't like it) and have ceased communication with him.



Your "high" expectations of him sound way too demanding. As stated before, this was certainly a power struggle. Taurus' like to lead and dominate. He had no chance of that with you.
I'm not sure what type of explanation you are seeking from the Taurus board but it doesn't seem as tho you are happy with the ones we are handing down to you. Therefore, just accept the fact that Leo women and Taurus men are not an ideal match made in heaven. I wish you the very best of luck in your future relationships.
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Msvenus885,

I think you have to give a fresh air. You are more intense than scorpio. lol.

Anyway, it already happened.. all you have to do is just stand strong. I think you cannot deal his

bs also like dating other women, but I guess he knows this lady for a long time than you.

So just keep doing good and you will be fine soon..

your situation is not really about commitment. who's the guy is going to commit when he was just about

to know you at first. He was just flirting lady... and it goes like more *friendship* thing same thing

happened to libralady here in dxp.. she explode and taurus done.

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when Taurus man broke you up. Stay cool. be calm. don't talk. remain a lady with honor...

When you saw you taurus man dating online... kept saying *enjoy* and that with a kiss. lmao.

He knew you are teasing him.ignore him.punish him those things you don't like. lol

Don't argue even you heart wanting to explode and smash his face, lol.

Be in total control or suffer the loss of doing drastic decision.
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@MsVenus885---

This Taurus man wants to keep his options open. Consider this the more darker aspect of astrology you don't read about in the Hallmark cards. His serene approach to your passionate outbursts is what keeps you in line. He doesn't have to fight fire with fire. He's already winning. Tauruses can attract a moth to a flame with very little or no effort at all.

Distance...Charm...A Cool Head.
Distance...Charm...A Cool Head.

And the cycle repeats. Emotions do not cloud his judgement. This sign is ruled by practicality, despite the Venus influence.

He can re-visit this issue at another time, and you would be just as cooperating & equally receptive.

My advice...
Tell yourself that is over. There is no going back. He has no intentions of committing to you.

A 'harem' with this Bull exists. He will continue to explore his options until he finds what he's looking for. But my gut instinct tells me, you're not his immediate choice.

Just 'schooling' you on what to look out for when dating certain Bulls.
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Posted by truecap
Posted by Msvenus885
First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!





A Taurus committed after only one month of dating?

I either find this hard to believe or I'm pulling his earth sign card.



Posted by truecap
Posted by Msvenus885
First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!





A Taurus committed after only one month of dating?

I either find this hard to believe or I'm pulling his earth sign card.
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Lol, I'll have to introduce you to my bull so you can try to wrestle the earth sign card from his tight manly fists, he scared this leo senseless for a while, luckily for the earthlies we fire people are more rock solid than they realise. My very earthly bull was committed in less than a month. Taurus goes for what he wants speedier than your average Aries - when he knows what he wants, slow and steady just doesn't come into it.
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First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!





A Taurus committed after only one month of dating?

I either find this hard to believe or I'm pulling his earth sign card.
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No had been chasing me since November. I decided to give it a shot and commit in feb.
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First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!





A Taurus committed after only one month of dating?
I
I either find this hard to believe or I'm pulling his earth sign card.



Posted by truecap
Posted by Msvenus885
First, it does not matter what time you are once you commit to a person, taking a 4 day vacation without 0 communication (especially since the last thing he said to me was I will call you when I get to the hotel) is not okay!!





A Taurus committed after only one month of dating?

I either find this hard to believe or I'm pulling his earth sign card.



Lol, I'll have to introduce you to my bull so you can try to wrestle the earth sign card from his tight manly fists, he scared this leo senseless for a while, luckily for the earthlies we fire people are more rock solid than they realise. My very earthly bull was committed in less than a month. Taurus goes for what he wants speedier than your average Aries - when he knows what he wants, slow and steady just doesn't come into it.
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lol! He found a good woman and latched on!

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This combo is tricky I've been with my bull for years, although I will say the good absolutely outweighs the bad. It's all about being cool calm and collected with LOTS of communication with these guys. We lionesses love to be dominant but so do they, so I let him feel like he's in control and step off my pedestal for his benefit. It used to bug me, but now I've grown to enjoy being a purring kitty instead of a roaring lion (don't get me wrong, the claws DO come out when necessary.) Bulls love their privacy and feel very offended when you question them. They are men you have to learn to love, because it doesn't come all the way natural to us cats even if we have an amazing connection. If this is a relationship that no longer serves you, then by all means cut ties,..no need to feel like crap.
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Posted by Msvenus885
The first yesterday eve: "are you okay"
The second thus afternoon: "what's up"

Smh



You are gonna crack. You're barely holding it down. Don't lie to us. LOL.
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Lol..... Him texting consistently actually empowered me. So now I feel better and it's much easier to hold out and not contact him back. The thing about me is that when I feel right in a situation, I gave it everything that I could give, and know that I tried at all cost; and the person up and just say it's over (or he doesn't want this) without valid reason (or closure). then I feel slighted. Once I feel slighted no matter how bad I may want to reach out, I don't no matter what (I can stick to my guns_?'?) I already told him that I do not have a gray area (it's black or white), we was not friends before we met, when we met it was not to be friends (I have ENOUGH friends), so he was fully aware that leaving me meant all ties would be severed (I def told him this cause I know me). Whenever I make a decision, I OWN my decision, and except the consequences that come with it. When you make the Ulitimate decision that you do not want to be with the next person, then WHY continue to contact them EVERYDAY. It comes across manipulative and makes me angry _—
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Posted by Livibowyah
This combo is tricky I've been with my bull for years, although I will say the good absolutely outweighs the bad. It's all about being cool calm and collected with LOTS of communication with these guys. We lionesses love to be dominant but so do they, so I let him feel like he's in control and step off my pedestal for his benefit. It used to bug me, but now I've grown to enjoy being a purring kitty instead of a roaring lion (don't get me wrong, the claws DO come out when necessary.) Bulls love their privacy and feel very offended when you question them. They are men you have to learn to love, because it doesn't come all the way natural to us cats even if we have an amazing connection. If this is a relationship that no longer serves you, then by all means cut ties,..no need to feel like crap.



This is SO TRUE. I could not STAND him at first. But he kept trying, and succeeded. It was DEF not his charm that got me. It was other qualities I saw in him. He is an EXCELLENT father to his kids. But most importantly we had fun together, and would talk about everything. It did take me a lot of hitting my tongue, and humbling myself in the relationship. Whenever he did something I did not like, I would NEVER approach the situation at that moment. I would just be passive (far out of my character) and wait until we are doing lunch or having a light convo and thing bring it up and tell him how and why it made me feel a certain way. That was the only way to get him to understand. He would own up to the action and apologies, and we move forward. I would send him random text messages about the great man he was, and always show him gratitude for small things (like making time for me, or taking me somewhere) I noticed this made the relationship flourish. Somewhere in the last incident we lost respect for each other. He saw the lion come out cause I def stood my ground. But did what he needed to do to get us back together and made all these relationship promises. but then decides he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore, but texts everyday. He can kiss my whole black ass with these shenanigans!
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He seems very finicky and that probably something you don't want to spend anymore time entertaining. The Taurus and Leo relationship is fun and full of attraction, but if you've found one that you just don't click with you're going to make yourself MISERABLE trying to make it work. These guys can be manipulators (in my opinions from experience)in order to win fights. My man will probably die saying the words "you think you're better than me?" or twisting situations. You know you're better than this situation darlin, so walk away before you get hurt :/
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I am a virgo who dated a Taurus for two an half months. Yes, we were in love and everything would be good at times. But there was those times in our relationship were he was so hard headed (his way or high way, very loving and had my back for anything as while as my child who was not his). But he went into depression a lot thought the relationship and it was very hard trying to make it would.. I felt like he kept me guessing if it was me.. if I wasn't doing enough for him..I tried many times to talk to him about my feelings.. he would say nothing or just say hes not man enough and I deserve better..I seriously didn't like hearing that and only wanted to be with him.. I loved what we had.. He was so stuck in his ways and would never let me into his life fully.. I felt like he shut down a lot and I would argue a lot with him about it. I couldn't understand how he would not let me in and we had been together for two years..I think what really did is that he didn't have his life together and I know there are things he wanted to do but just wasn't able to right now because he lost his job.. A year later of up and down rollercoster he starts working but I still felt like he didn't seem interested in us anymore..I asked him recently what is he expecting from our relationship..does he see up with him in the future.. He flipped out and was like oh I never thought about u guys like that before..Which hurt deeply! I was stock..I said I dont' want to get married or move in together right now.. Im just asking so we are on the same page.. he like I don't know ..while we are always together..while I felt that he was a great guy..loving,caring, vey supportive, but left me guessing to much on where he stand.. He would tell me while I do a lot for u and that should be good enough..the hard things about our relationship was him communicating he would not say much but did everything for me.. I have been very patient with him but I didn't like that he could not tell me yes or no if he saw us moving in together or growing together..leaving me guessing where things where going..The comment above said somethinga bout Bull wanting to own their own things like house he was sooo like that.. he's like I need to get my own things (house, finical things, car, etc) before anything..I was like why can't we do that together/ I had my own place, money and car.. he lived with his parents because he lost his job.. I told him one day that he was driving my crazy because he would not open up
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about things..he would ask me where I was going and who I was with but he didn't like me asking him..He would say stop questiong me..lol I would go out with him and his family but he never wanted to take me around his friends non wanted to hang out with my friends but came to my family gathering..I got tired of the games and I told him I wasn't happy.. this had been maybe the third time..hoping that he would open up and try to make us work on things..I told him one day Why are we together if your never going let me in??...He didn't say nothing.. He stayed quit then said he wanted to be single..Anyways, we broke up..Im so lost and confuse.. how could he just lose or let us go we had something wonderful—?? I feel like shit... I still talk to him but he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship and wants to be single.. He said he will talk to me but he doesn't want to hear about us because Im only making it harder on him..wtf! He said we tried to work things out but he's not happy and neither I am. He once told that his exs are all crazy.. I think I might now know why because he is a bull and will not buge.. I love him but I hate who is becoming now 🦇 He said there's nothing I can do or say this time he wants to be single and maybe in future things might change..what should I do—??
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Here is my input; I am not saying this about this man in general - not every Taurus is the same but....Taurus facts -

He sounds like he isn't ready. He is trying to stay friends because he probably still loves or likes you. Taurus people are very withdrawn by nature. THEY ALWAYS DO THIS. He keeps being distance after everything so give him space -- Taurus is slow to change. Why would he not want you to stay at his house a week while you two are intimate? Third party? Relationships with Taurus works when he charges and is being a Taurus - consistent in feelings and very reliable. I say leave him alone because he doesn't have his head in the game and needs to understand your value. Men will continue to do this because they can't understand that the right girl might be with them till they start missing them. You should watch yourself because he may seem nice...just unfaithful too. He wants to stay friends and when the time comes and you are the one for him, he will be back. If he doesn't come around, he will regret it and he doesn't want to change.


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Posted by RedAx
I am a virgo who dated a Taurus for two an half months. Yes, we were in love and everything would be good at times. But there was those times in our relationship were he was so hard headed (his way or high way, very loving and had my back for anything as while as my child who was not his). But he went into depression a lot thought the relationship and it was very hard trying to make it would.. I felt like he kept me guessing if it was me.. if I wasn't doing enough for him..I tried many times to talk to him about my feelings.. he would say nothing or just say hes not man enough and I deserve better..I seriously didn't like hearing that and only wanted to be with him.. I loved what we had.. He was so stuck in his ways and would never let me into his life fully.. I felt like he shut down a lot and I would argue a lot with him about it. I couldn't understand how he would not let me in and we had been together for two years..I think what really did is that he didn't have his life together and I know there are things he wanted to do but just wasn't able to right now because he lost his job.. A year later of up and down rollercoster he starts working but I still felt like he didn't seem interested in us anymore..I asked him recently what is he expecting from our relationship..does he see up with him in the future.. He flipped out and was like oh I never thought about u guys like that before..Which hurt deeply! I was stock..I said I dont' want to get married or move in together right now.. Im just asking so we are on the same page.. he like I don't know ..while we are always together..while I felt that he was a great guy..loving,caring, vey supportive, but left me guessing to much on where he stand.. He would tell me while I do a lot for u and that should be good enough..the hard things about our relationship was him communicating he would not say much but did everything for me.. I have been very patient with him but I didn't like that he could not tell me yes or no if he saw us moving in together or growing together..leaving me guessing where things where going..The comment above said somethinga bout Bull wanting to own their own things like house he was sooo like that.. he's like I need to get my own things (house, finical things, car, etc) before anything..I was like why can't we do that together/ I had my own place, money and car.. he lived with his parents because h