Taurus woman-Scorp Moon w/ Taurus man-Cap Moon

Hello everyone, I need some advice. I'm not sure what he meant by this. I'm not sure if he wants some space and time or if it is his way of saying he wants a clean break from me. Please read my story and send me your thoughts.

His birthday is May 16th, 1979. A Taurus sun with Capricorn Moon, Merc. in Taurus like me, with Venus and Mars in Aries.
He was immediately interested in me and the chemistry was out of this world. We were both very turned on that night, but of course it was felt more strongly on his end. I told him it's too bad he lived so far and I live with my mother. The second date, without even telling me, he booked a room at a hotel near the ocean where I live. I was surprised and hesitant, but I went along with it because I wanted to. The chemistry was just so good.
After that, we went out on another date to the movies and to dinner. He kissed me, passionately, held my hand in front of everybody. During the movie he had his hand on my leg, and kissed me at every several times during the movie, and at the stop lights in his car, and whenever we'd be on an escalator. I told him I liked him at the restaurant because it felt right. He said he liked me too.
Then he disappeared for a few days. He told me he felt I really liked him and that he doesn't think he could handle a relationship right now. I told him I'm not looking to dive into one either...
He ignored me once again sometime after another date that night...
I was tired of it and gave him an ultimatum text saying that I was sure I made it clear to him that I see no point in frivolous dating, and that I would not have a sexual relationship with him if he did not show any consistent/fixed behavior towards me.
He apologized and said that he is very attracted to me but he is not eager to jump into a relationship as his past one ended rather badly. I reassured him that I am not looking to jump into one either!
In fact, I never even brought up the subject of exclusivity or relationship, yet that is his biggest worry.
The last time I was saw him was about two weeks ago. We went to the movies and he wanted to have a drink with him. We have seen each other maybe 5 or 6 times only, and the only time we had sex was that night at the hotel. He lives a bit far, yet he still came to see me.

"Esther esther ESTHER! I'm sorry, i've been a total douchebag, yes. I have been working two jobs the last weeks, and in between I wet back to Iowa for a few days. Not that those are good excuses or anything. And causing horniness and not dealing with that is mean on my end. I was waiting to write back and equally long and elegent response. No luck, too busy. And no good excuse for avoidence. Just traveling to road alone for awhile. Maybe a little longer. I wish you only the best too Esther. Business does have a way of distancing people you know??_"

This is the message he sent me when I facebook messaged him saying he can block me there so he doesn't have to receive anymore of my messages.

I wonder what would happen if, when guys started saying that old, "I don't think I'm ready for a relationship..", the girl he was saying that to DIDN'T chirp back, "Oh, I'm not either. This is just fine with me!" (in other words -- "Whatever you want to give me is good enough! I'll take the little crumbs you toss my way, cuz that's all I feel I deserve!!") and INSTEAD, they started looking him dead in the face and saying very clearly, "Oh, that's too bad, cuz I'm not looking for casual or noncommittal. That's fine for you, but it feels sad and yucky to me. Best of luck to you, sweetie. I'm out." and then she walks away, no hesitation, no second-guessing.. she values herself more than she values some guy she just met, some guy who is really just prettying up saying, "I want casual, and I want to do the least amount of work to get it. You in? At least until I find the girl I REALLY want, cuz HER I'll work for!"

What would happen? Would the world split apart? I think it might...