When a Taurus man disappears (Page 3)

^^^ that's because everyone is sitting back waiting for the other person to invest first or to invest more so it can be very much a stale mate situation ”

Posted by AgentP911
^^^ that's because everyone is sitting back waiting for the other person to invest first or to invest more so it can be very much a stale mate situation ”

Yep. That's why I really don't advise waiting, particularly with a Taurus man, who has all the time in the world, and who could be shy/passive/busy or any number of things making him slow to assert. Just be blunt, tell him how you feel and what you want, ask if he feels the same, wants to hang, etc. I think Agent's approach is best with a bull. Its typically women who are on a biological timeline anyway, so they're in more of a rush to move things forward.

Look at how OP is back now, and her bull has reappeared, but....she's just gonna hang back and wait it out and *see* if things go back to normal. A better approach is "Hey, we were talking regularly, and I was really enjoying it...and then you just dropped off. I thought you just lost interest..." Its honest, vulnerable, will facilitate communication around what *actually* happened. Wouldn't that be nice - to actually *know* and not have to lump a person in to a stereotype about astrology or men in general? Plus it shows him that those kinds of breaks are not ok. He MAY VERY WELL think that its just ok. People have different levels of expectations for communication, *ESPECIALLY* when there is no determined status of what your relationship is.

The whole "I'm gonna play it cool and pretend like that didn't bother me" approach is terrible. You are not just omitting the truth, you are actually conveying a lie. So its just encouraging someone to treat you in a way you don't want to be treated. You can't be like that with a Taurus; if we're being lazy in an area you can't enable it by acting like you're ok with it. Sometimes we need to be whipped in the arse...

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
The whole "I'm gonna play it cool and pretend like that didn't bother me" approach is terrible. You are not just omitting the truth, you are actually conveying a lie. So its just encouraging someone to treat you in a way you don't want to be treated. You can't be like that with a Taurus; if we're being lazy in an area you can't enable it by acting like you're ok with it. Sometimes we need to be whipped in the arse...

i agree. i think it's particularly important at the beginning to set standards of what you are willing to accept and what you're not. those standards can't be determined based on fear either. they have to be consistent and clear guidelines that you would expect from any relationship, be it family, friends or romantic interest.

it's important because it conveys the kind of person that you are and the kind of behaviour you expect if people want to hang with you. it's a way of allowing them to get to know and learn more about you. naturally, you can't be unreasonable in your demands but likewise you can't be a doormat. if someone wants to treat you in a way that you deem to be disrespectful or rude or mean then they can step off.

but that goes for any sign.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by AgentP911
^^^ that's because everyone is sitting back waiting for the other person to invest first or to invest more so it can be very much a stale mate situation ”

Yep. That's why I really don't advise waiting, particularly with a Taurus man, who has all the time in the world, and who could be shy/passive/busy or any number of things making him slow to assert. Just be blunt, tell him how you feel and what you want, ask if he feels the same, wants to hang, etc. I think Agent's approach is best with a bull. Its typically women who are on a biological timeline anyway, so they're in more of a rush to move things forward.

Look at how OP is back now, and her bull has reappeared, but....she's just gonna hang back and wait it out and *see* if things go back to normal. A better approach is "Hey, we were talking regularly, and I was really enjoying it...and then you just dropped off. I thought you just lost interest..." Its honest, vulnerable, will facilitate communication around what *actually* happened. Wouldn't that be nice - to actually *know* and not have to lump a person in to a stereotype about astrology or men in general? Plus it shows him that those kinds of breaks are not ok. He MAY VERY WELL think that its just ok. People have different levels of expectations for communication, *ESPECIALLY* when there is no determined status of what your relationship is.

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Oi! Enough of the biological timeline thing! I'm not in a bloody rush!

Actually I thought I was in a bit of a rush but concluded I'm actually ok just bumming around a bit more and seeing how life goes.

I've got a victim who I met over in Marrakech who was quite nice. Could do with a weeks holiday in a few months time. Doss about a bit, experience stuff. Might get swapped for a camel!

Then there's a bloke I've known for four years who wants me to go to Nairobi with him which is where he's from. Might get swapped for a tiger!

Young Taurus didn't reply. Not much of a surprise there really. Trouble with the UK is if you ask someone if they want to meet up they think you've just asked them to marry you. They take it all so seriously you can't just meet up for a beer for a few hours.

Then there's the Egyptian fella. Me first love ” appa

Then there's the Egyptian fella. Me first love ” apparently we will meet again... Inshallah...

Notice the pattern of foreigners here... That's me Sag bits! Š

Then I'm supposed to meet a Leo in September but I dunno where I'm gonna fit him in so maybe I'll have to have a juggle about a bit or tell him to come back next month!

The rest of what TLS said is spot on. I don't think us women always voice things in the way we should. I find it hard as, believe it or not, I don't always want to 'offend' the other person but I think it's more to do with my lack of asking for what I want and going from one extreme to the other. Either being too 'tough' and tolerating nothing, or tolerating too much and getting shit on. Emotions aren't always crystal clear to me and it seems to change a bit - Pisces moon

Posted by AgentP911
The rest of what TLS said is spot on. I don't think us women always voice things in the way we should. I find it hard as, believe it or not, I don't always want to 'offend' the other person but I think it's more to do with my lack of asking for what I want and going from one extreme to the other. Either being too 'tough' and tolerating nothing, or tolerating too much and getting shit on. Emotions aren't always crystal clear to me and it seems to change a bit - Pisces moon

ah, you need to take emotions out of it. you need logic and hard rules. emotion is a fickle bitch. yes, it's easier said then done but you have to ask yourself, would i accept this kind of treatment from a friend? sibling? no? then why accept it from some random guy?

Yeah I do that much better now ^^^

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Posted by AgentP911
Then there's the Egyptian fella. Me first love ” apparently we will meet again... Inshallah...

Notice the pattern of foreigners here... That's me Sag bits! Š

Then I'm supposed to meet a Leo in September but I dunno where I'm gonna fit him in so maybe I'll have to have a juggle about a bit or tell him to come back next month!

That's me on a normal basis and I have no sag bits!! Travelled 18 countries and 60 locations and all my relationships with foreign men!

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52 countries and a shit load of places!!

I'm sure there's a running joke that I've got an admirer in each place... Dirty bitch!!

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Posted by AgentP911
Then there's the Egyptian fella. Me first love ” apparently we will meet again... Inshallah...

Notice the pattern of foreigners here... That's me Sag bits! Š

Then I'm supposed to meet a Leo in September but I dunno where I'm gonna fit him in so maybe I'll have to have a juggle about a bit or tell him to come back next month!

That's me on a normal basis and I have no sag bits!! Travelled 18 countries and 60 locations and all my relationships with foreign men!

52 countries and a shit load of places!!

I'm sure there's a running joke that I've got an admirer in each place... Dirty bitch!!

You h been to 52 countries? Jeeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzz!!! You are defo sag ENHANCED!!

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Yeah, 52 countries sweetie.

Posted by AgentP911
Then there's the Egyptian fella. Me first love ” apparently we will meet again... Inshallah...

Notice the pattern of foreigners here... That's me Sag bits! Š

Then I'm supposed to meet a Leo in September but I dunno where I'm gonna fit him in so maybe I'll have to have a juggle about a bit or tell him to come back next month!

aww. allahuakbar. mabrouk AgentP.