Why does he still pull away?

So my Taurus has finally expressed how he feels about me. He says that our connection is more than physical, it's mental, emotional, and spiritual. He's opening up more and letting me in more, but I still feel like it's such a slow process. And then sometimes he pulls away, and won't talk to me for a day or two. I know things are progressing, but why does he still pull away?? Is it natural for a Taurus to pull away when things are progressing. Is he scared?

That is so him, one minute I think he's going to overwhelm me with all this love and affection. Then it's like do you even remember my name (maybe not that extreme) haha! But we've been talking for almost a year and a couple of months. At first he was like I don't want a relationship, and now it's like I want to see where this goes. But the hot and cold scares the hell out of me, he's worth the wait though. So I'm trying to keep patient!

Bulls are notoriously slow. We love to take our time. I don't even really consider my feelings before the 1st six months as anything other than a warmup. I'd say give him time and go with the flow. Once we're in which can take some time, you have us for a long-term.

Posted by Joy84
That is so him, one minute I think he's going to overwhelm me with all this love and affection. Then it's like do you even remember my name (maybe not that extreme) haha! But we've been talking for almost a year and a couple of months. At first he was like I don't want a relationship, and now it's like I want to see where this goes. But the hot and cold scares the hell out of me, he's worth the wait though. So I'm trying to keep patient!

don't be scared. it's just his process. have faith in what you have, be appreciative you have him in your life and look forward to its continuance.

Joy84,


Patience. Patience Patience.
Bulls are worth the wait!

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Joy84,


Patience. Patience Patience.
Bulls are worth the wait!

Now, that is the truth!! Yyou must have patience BIG TIME! You cannot rush a bull whatsoever. You have to learn to keep yourself busy with your own life and allow him to come back to you when he is ready. Key words here...when HE is ready. In the meantime, enjoy your life with other things, friends and family. I've been dealing with one for almost 2 1/2 years.

That's funny...just today the Taurus i've been dealing with fir 2 12 years told me we will get married in 2022 lol. And he told me it was worth the wait.

I'm a Sagittarius so patience is not my virtue. I'm trying to be patient, but I can't help but feel this is all about him. When "he is ready" or "you have to wait for him". I'm afraid that if/when he decides to come to me, this relationship will be all about him. I'm starting to feel like maybe we should just be friends, I care for him a lot. But this this shouldn't be one sided, it should be mutual.

but you said he was worth the wait....

not everyone is going to run to your timetable. sometimes he will be lagging behind, other times you will. if you care about and are interested in seeing where this is going, then i would advise to see the good in him and give it the benefit of the doubt.

if you are happy to toss this aside because he doesn't match your pace now, understand that this delay is what is going to happen all throughout you relationship. as a sag i'd imagine you would appreciate the desire not to be placed under constraints.

what about the rest of your relationship? do you feel that that is about him too? or do you get a sense of contribution in other areas?

Oh he's there for me big time, he's always rooting for me. Tells me he's proud of me and my accomplishments, when I'm down he'll do things to cheer me up. He hates it when I'm sad and I notice he'll pay a little extra attention when I'm upset. He thinks I'm hilarious, I can make him laugh so effortlessly. He'll ask my opinion about his music, and I always tell him it's amazing. Because it is!!! I see the man he is, and I think he sees the woman I am. I guess to answer your question, no I think we both put effort into this. Honestly even writing this makes me realize that I may be over reacting. I'm just really scared of these feelings I have, and I don't want to get hurt in the end. Recently he did say that he felt I was a bit distant, we went out with some friends. The whole night my friends were saying that his eyes were locked on me, I didn't notice at all. He came over and was talking to my friends, while standing there he put his arm around me. I kind of turned the other way to talk to a friend, although his arm was still around me. He later told me that he felt I was acting distant and he wasn't feeling it that night. Every since then, it's been slooooow again. Sometimes I don't really pay attention to his signals, I'm so naïve and I think that at times we miss our connection because I don't pay attention. Does that make any sense? My feelings are so strong for this man, they scare the shit out of me. To the point where I feel like running away from this, because I these feeling are getting a little too real. I just want the hot and cold to stop.

When I say I'm naïve I mean I think everything he does is because he my "friend". Not because he may be trying to move forward!

Posted by Joy84
I just want the hot and cold to stop.

ha! then you should stop being hot and cold! be consistent and strong and steady. it's not easy when you are feeling vulnerable however if you can master it, you'll get what sounds to be a great guy.

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Posted by Joy84
I just want the hot and cold to stop.

ha! then you should stop being hot and cold! be consistent and strong and steady. it's not easy when you are feeling vulnerable however if you can master it, you'll get what sounds to be a great guy.

Well said "Libraurus "!! Lol

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ha! i'm only at chapter 1 of the taurus handbook but im determined to get there!