Will a Taurus run all over you if you let them?

Just curious, will a Taurus run all over someone they think are weak or a pushover?


Based on my observations, I would say yes. My college roommate was a Taurus and I asked her one time why she treated so and so like she did and she said, 'because they let me'. I know one Taurus man that cheats on his wife and she continually takes him back, so he keeps doing it because 'there are no consequences'. I've seen Taurus bosses dump work on certain people, but not others.

I know us cappys will run on people that let us, just wanted to see if my suspicions on Taurus was accurate of if I'm way off.

Yes totally, and make no apologies. Why? cus you take it, like my bitch... now get out of my way! Cus the truth is I don't respect you.

Only way to prevent this imo... is to confront it early on. We do understand boundaries, so set them!

But once they get into the habit of treating you like a doormat, its hard to break.

Hell yes we do! We like to test people.

I like to see how far I can get away with doing this. If you let me run you over then that's your fault for not sticking up for yourself lol I have respect for the people who put a stop to it right away, and put me in my place.

Posted by Infinite8
I'm glad you mentioned the below paragraph about Caps being that way, because I was about to share my experiences with that... But you got it covered 😉

Yes on Taurus as well. Honestly, I have seen this behavior from the three land signs.
It's a trait that always takes me aback. Practicality at its extreme, treating people as a commodity.

I have a question: how do you handle it as a land sign when treated this way by others? Does it bother you or does it make you laugh and take it lightly?!?! I have cut friendships out of my life from this type of behavior, but perhaps I was to extreme in my reaction. It's just a behavior that is so opposite from my own and I don't understand it too much.

lol! Didn't want anyone to think I was picking on Taurus's. 🙂

It really doesn't happen to me from them. I think there's just an unspoken vibe that they know I won't take it and it won't work. I think they know I will speak up. But I see them do it to other people. Especially at work.

I'm more likely to get dumped on by Sag's. lol! Just because they're just so sweet and irresistable and so busy and act like they really need the help and make you feel good about when you do help them, you've just saved their life. I see through it, but I have no qualms about speaking up when they reach their limit.

Posted by Astrobyn
Yes totally, and make no apologies. Why? cus you take it, like my bitch... now get out of my way!

Lol!!

I tell people to stand up to them and they look at me like I've asked them to swallow some poison.

I also respect people that call me out on my sh*t. If they don't know their self worth, why should that be my problem?

Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Absolutely! I do it once I know I have you! We like to collect ppl and put them on our private achievement shelves. Like, look what I wanted and got! Dust it occassionally and proceed looking for the next beautiful thing to add. The only way I taurus will treasure you if you keep jumping off the shelf and stirring sxit up. Then they'll have to take good good care of you 😉 but as a cap! Cap men can never be run over by a bull atleast not in my experience

They both have horns, both are tough and both are stubborn. The bull may be bigger, but the goat is scrappier. lol!

Well, theory confirmed!! 🙂

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Posted by truecap
Well, theory confirmed!! 🙂

We need to assure your stability. So all earth signs push you to see how stable you are. That's what we seek at core. Taurus pushes to see if you care by trying to make you jealous. Capricorn by mind games (oh how I love their darknes) but yeh both taurus and cap try to get over...it's how we build resistance with ourselves and other.

Taurus though with cap with began to feel like cap doesn't care cuz they're barely emotionally reactive. Taurus will push and cap will always stand firm until emotions get high n they bolt. That's when taurus realizes what has been done and returns as if nothing happened. All the while Cappy is deep away analyzing n falling for Taurus stability through the craziness. Let the games began _—

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I wasn't referring to romantic relationships, but I can see how what you said would happen.

My boss is a Taurus and it seems she dumps work on everyone except a few.

I was very very strict about boundaries at first, then I let them go... Big no-no! They will push and push to see how far they can go...

Wow! I wouldn't have paid and I never would have spoke to her again...

"I don't like this behavior in friendships. I want to be giving with my friends. But, I am not stupid. I am not a doormat... That is a deadly mistake of interpretation on their part."

Agreed.

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Posted by tiziani
What person doesn't, really? Human nature.

I guess I'm attracted to people that can control that human natured trait in a more ethical, kind-hearted way. Respect is very important to me. It's not just take, take, take....

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Amen to that. I can't stand pushy or domineering people - people that take advantage or take kindness for weakness, etc. It is selfish, immature, and betrays a lack of compassion IMO. I have seen a lot of Taurus males who do this, and some Caps I know are also this way. Virgos are generally more considerate, especially as leaders, bosses, etc. They take more of a servant-leadership approach, as you'd expect, and IMO are usually genuinely interested in developing others.

Posted by Infinite8
She actually admitted to playing "stupid" at the cashier because I didn't say anything!!!

Wow...I am shocked that people like this exist.

Yes, anyone would. It's human nature. In fact, I'd argue that it's animal nature altogether.

It is the nature of a child. Some of us learn to be more compassionate and cooperative as we age.

Posted by PVandJellay
Yes! I use to knock heads with Taurus women a lot in my youth because of this. They only respect people who stand up to them.

The immature ones maybe...

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Posted by truecap
I also respect people that call me out on my sh*t. If they don't know their self worth, why should that be my problem?

It can be exhausting if you have to do it over and over. Also, I lose respect for the person. With land signs this has happened to me only with Cap females. If just noticed it with the three in how they treat others.

I guess I'll give you the example. My friend wanted me to be a brides maid (it would have been the 6th in a row an I wanted to save money). I said "thank you but I have to decline, I'm on a budget plus it's a destination wedding". She insisted and really pushed it, said she would pay for my outfit. I saw her try, so I said ok.
This girl was ALWAYS talking about "the honor of your word" and "respect being important in friendship"... Things I believed in! So, I trusted in the honor of HER WORD.

We go to get our BM's dresses and she is with me at the cashier. Dress and shoes: $ 700.00. I stare at her, she blankly stares at me. I in disbelief slowly take out my wallet. The shock of her behavior had left me at a loss for words. I paid. I got furious. I ignored her, didn't show up for her shower. I calmed down and told her I needed to have a talk with her.
At the coffee shop, I
Let her have it. Let her see how her rhetoric didn't equate her behavior. She actually admitted to playing "stupid" at the cashier because I didn't say anything!!! I told her "what are you?!? A CHILD that needs to be reminded of your morals towards friendships?!?! I don't want to always keep an eye out with friends, watching my back. That is not a friendship!!"
She apologized and paid for my destination plane trip and hotel.
After that, she did two more of those... And I had to cut her loose.

I don't like this behavior in friendships. I want to be giving with my friends. But, I am not stupid. I am not a doormat... That is a deadly mistake of interpretation on their part. 😈

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I don't blame you. I wouldn't do that to someone. And you're right, friendships wouldn't have to be like that. My friends and I would say "hey b*tch, get out your wallet" with love and a laugh. But, really that was wrong of her.

Posted by tiziani
What person doesn't, really? Human nature.

What I was thinking.

I find this thread so intriguing and shocking at the same time because I'm not like this at all!

Have i seen it happen? Yes. Ever happened to me? Nope, i think i end up scaring them since i have pluto square ascendant

its not about using people, its about making them go away!

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Posted by phEnyxBull876
I find this thread so intriguing and shocking at the same time because I'm not like this at all!

me too! Hey, don't you have a Cancer husband or boyfriend? My Taurus girl friend (she's from Manchester, UK) has a Cancer boyfriend too. Every step for her has been really hard for her to take, she always doubts and gets scared. We talk a lot through skype and she's done great at just conquering her fears and taking the leap to each step. I think they make a very awesome couple 🙂

She is not one to use people. My mom(Taurus) is not that way either. Also, my favorite boss was a Cap female and she never used anyone. I think this is just a thing for Earth signs and it just really shows when not so evolved, happy or mature.

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Yes I do! It's definitely been a huge test of taking myself out of my comfort zone when it comes to letting someone know how I feel, but for the better. And all the while, it's bf been possible because I feel safe with him to do so. 🙂

Glad to know I'm not the only one who finds this using behavior shocking! But I wonder if this behavior is more commonplace than I know...or just very concentrated on this board lol. Whew!

Yeah but this thread doesn't seem to be abt how you get when you're unhappy. I'll fully admit I'm an outright bitch when I'm annoyed or pissed and proud of it.

But to like taking advantage of people who you deem weaker is another story altogether, and I doubt this is an inherent land sign or Taurus trait...anybody can be a douche. But its just interesting to see so many people pipe up here saying as much. :/

I've seen this trait in nearly everyone. If you seem okay, or not bothered by doing a certain thing, than people will go to you.

My moms Leo friend came to visit one year, and they'd go out to restaurants and when they'd finish eating the Leo would put her fork down and just sit there looking around, literally forcing my mother to pay for all of the meals. She even got my mother to buy her a shirt that way. My mom was SOOO mad, but she never confronted her about it.

There isn't really a sign exempt from this type of behavior. People may not be as bold as this, but still, if you are seen as a weaker link or just not bothered by paying or doing things, then people that need something done or paid for will gravitate towards you.

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Posted by PVandJellay
Yes! I use to knock heads with Taurus women a lot in my youth because of this. They only respect people who stand up to them.

The immature ones maybe...

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agree, I like to think everyone has a reason, I like to think beyond their actions and why they do certain things, thats how I see myself too..I always strat from me and see that i cant really judge . there are no saints so how can you feel rightous .

For the original OP. YES!

But it also depends on the person. I, for example, detest weakness. Not helplessness or genuine weakness (i.e. due to disability), but one might call it a lack of spine. If someone proves over and over again that they are unable to make decisions, agree with everything you say, never make a move or never have an original idea, then yes, I will "run all over" that person. Sometimes it's not even a concious move.

I have a situation with my best friend right now. We'd been getting along just fine, but as we have to share an apartment together, I've noticed more how dependent she is (she's a Cancer, btw). She agrees with almost everything I say or do, doesn't say one bad word about my behaviour etc. So I (un)knowingly like to push her buttons sometimes, just so she'd yell at me or at least stay mad. But she holds it in. And as the days/months go by, I detest (yea, I know, strong word) it even more.

She is one of those people who can't be on their own very long - she just doesn't know how to sit still, read, you know, take time for yourself. I can go for days without communication, I am never bored when alone. And if you can't be alone, then, to me, it's a warning sign for god-knows-what. I just know it makes me angry for some reason. It's like I have take care of a puppy someone left at my doorstep - even though I like this furry creature, I didn't ask for it, wasn't prepared for it, so please, take it away now.

Everybody needs some feistiness, you can't always be mellow and go with the flow. I've noticed it with other Bulls too - if you cannot stand up for yourself or your're just too lenient, then we tend to override your drives without feeling any remorse, thinking "maybe this time s/he'll learn something in the process".

innersmile, it sounds like you are mistaking her kindness for weakness. She sees you as a friend, and I bet she desire's your relationship with her to be stress free. Who wants to deal with having to constantly fight off a "friend" trying to push buttons? My Taurus cousin is like this, and it's why I keep a distance. She's gotten in a fight with both of her sisters(Sag and Cancer) AND my Cancer cousin popped her in the mouth recently because of the constant pushing. The Sag got her so bad she had to go to the hospital, but it's like no lesson has been learned. I don't get it.

My Taurus friend claims I'm too nice. He behaved MUCH better when idgaf smh. We had a nice time Tuesday, and now he's thrown his infamous curve-ball. Instead of getting whatever it is he may desire, I've become immune to his mean tactics and even more detached in the process. I enjoy his affection, but he's pushed me where I'm okay with not dealing with him. I'm not sure what exactly he's desiring, but if it's a reaction, his methods are tiring. My sister Taurus wants her but it's a road she doesn't want to travel again.

Inana, true that! I know she wants to be, or rather IS, kind to me. She teached me how to show my feelings better and so on, we're great friends and haven't had a serious fight. I don't like fighting, arguing, conflicts etc at all.

But my point was rather that a few people like a mirror staring back at them. I appreciate when someone shows some character, has an opinion of their own, e.g. mentally stimulating conversation. What I don't like is when people "absorb" what I say and then, after few days, come back and say the same to me, present exact same words as their own and don't understand why I go all silent or ignore. How come they don't remember or choose to ignore the fact we talked about it in a very recent past? It's those little things.

Gosh, I sound rather bi**y! 😄

Nah, I have a better understanding now. I can see how that particular behavior is annoying.

Reading this thread upsets me because I know how true it is. I don't think Taurus do this but people in general just do it. Adults are just older children. smh.

Posted by lnana04
Nah, I have a better understanding now. I can see how that particular behavior is annoying.

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It's only annoying from time to time. Sometimes I/we can deal with it, other times not so much. Depends on the circumstances. If I can see they are capable of learning or understanding their behaviour, then I'll try to understand and be patient as well. But if it's like that Einstein's quote (insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results), then ... : )