Greylatern, The Laughing Heart
@Lostthoughts
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Open and side relationships. Serious responses.
Posted by Chicadee
initial post a bit long.
also 3 out of your 4 criteria are like the meat and potatoes of all the advice given here lol
Yes I wanted to weed out bullshit. Yes I know it's long. Had trouble really defining what it is I want to hear and not hear.
Hopefully anything posted will be genuine and not some dude ego stroking. If I allowed cheating and throw away relationships, you know damn well this thread would explode lmao.
She is hottt, recently got engaged to a vanilla guy due to family pressure. She was in relationship with this guy for 3 years before getting engaged. I knew she had the kink in her, when we first met.. I am her closest friend till date. She made the first move on me, saying the sexual attraction is killing her . I Widened her horizon and filled it with heavenly sexual experiences.
We were pretty honest with each other since the begining. So it was purely sexual for both of us. Later on she developed feelings for me... I could never accept her.. so I convinced her to be friends. Then I introduced her to my other male friend who is also good in bed, just so that she can get over me..
We were pretty honest with each other since the begining. So it was purely sexual for both of us. Later on she developed feelings for me... I could never accept her.. so I convinced her to be friends. Then I introduced her to my other male friend who is also good in bed, just so that she can get over me..
Posted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Posted by TurnedOn
She is hottt, recently got engaged to a vanilla guy due to family pressure. She was in relationship with this guy for 3 years before getting engaged. I knew she had the kink in her, when we first met.. I am her closest friend till date. She made the first move on me, saying the sexual attraction is killing her . I Widened her horizon and filled it with heavenly sexual experiences.
We were pretty honest with each other since the begining. So it was purely sexual for both of us. Later on she developed feelings for me... I could never accept her.. so I convinced her to be friends. Then I introduced her to my other male friend who is also good in bed, just so that she can get over me..
Violates the cheating rule if it wasn't open relationship married or not. Was this the case and I don't just mean what did she tell you about it.
what were the reasons you couldn't accept her? Did she actually get over you or just move on?
Posted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.click to expand
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOn
She is hottt, recently got engaged to a vanilla guy due to family pressure. She was in relationship with this guy for 3 years before getting engaged. I knew she had the kink in her, when we first met.. I am her closest friend till date. She made the first move on me, saying the sexual attraction is killing her . I Widened her horizon and filled it with heavenly sexual experiences.
We were pretty honest with each other since the begining. So it was purely sexual for both of us. Later on she developed feelings for me... I could never accept her.. so I convinced her to be friends. Then I introduced her to my other male friend who is also good in bed, just so that she can get over me..
Violates the cheating rule if it wasn't open relationship married or not. Was this the case and I don't just mean what did she tell you about it.
what were the reasons you couldn't accept her? Did she actually get over you or just move on?click to expand
Naah, when I first met her it was in her city where I went to for like 2 years. I recently moved back to my home city and now she is planning on moving here to my city. She is saying she will get married to her fiance but would still like to continue what she had with me. And she promised me that she won't bother me and all... So let's see.
Ohhh and her fiance knows about me very well. She told him that I am her best friend and that she hangs out me. That's it nothing about sex.
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?click to expand
I see a person with any kind of baggage I never cut deals with them. I always keep them as options. In order to cut a deal with me, a person has to be highly sorted in his or her life. Black and white sorting. There was no way in hell I was going to marry her. Lol
Posted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?
I see a person with any kind of baggage I never cut deals with them. I always keep them as options. In order to cut a deal with me, a person has to be highly sorted in his or her life. Black and white sorting. There was no way in hell I was going to marry her. Lolclick to expand
baggage??
Do you honestly love or really care for her?
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?
I see a person with any kind of baggage I never cut deals with them. I always keep them as options. In order to cut a deal with me, a person has to be highly sorted in his or her life. Black and white sorting. There was no way in hell I was going to marry her. Lol
baggage??
Do you honestly love or really care for her?click to expand
I care for all the people I am dealing with and that is why I did not ghost her after returning back to my city and instead tried to get her above this unhealthy attachment style of hers.
Posted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?
I see a person with any kind of baggage I never cut deals with them. I always keep them as options. In order to cut a deal with me, a person has to be highly sorted in his or her life. Black and white sorting. There was no way in hell I was going to marry her. Lol
baggage??
Do you honestly love or really care for her?
I care for all the people I am dealing with and that is why I did not ghost her after returning back to my city and instead tried to get her above this unhealthy attachment style of hers.click to expand
You don't fit the profile I'm looking to hear from. There is something to this though. Define this unhealthy attachment style you speak of.
What exactly is it?
As well as is it something just not your cup of tea and you see as negative or is it a true negative and detrimental to her? Not just a matter of taste.
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?
I see a person with any kind of baggage I never cut deals with them. I always keep them as options. In order to cut a deal with me, a person has to be highly sorted in his or her life. Black and white sorting. There was no way in hell I was going to marry her. Lol
baggage??
Do you honestly love or really care for her?
I care for all the people I am dealing with and that is why I did not ghost her after returning back to my city and instead tried to get her above this unhealthy attachment style of hers.
You don't fit the profile I'm looking to hear from. There is something to this though. Define this unhealthy attachment style you speak of.
What exactly is it?
As well as is it something just not your cup of tea and you see as negative or is it a true negative and detrimental to her? Not just a matter of taste.click to expand
You better find someone who fits the profile, otherwise it would just be the waste of time.
Posted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by LostthoughtsPosted by TurnedOnPosted by sagaciouscorp
Could never accept her??!?
Yeah I tried... Thought of marrying her and having kids as that was her plan. She was going to break her engagement with that guy whom her entire family loves. But I always thought I deserve much better, so I told her to not to do it.
Deserve better? What was missing or wrong?
I see a person with any kind of baggage I never cut deals with them. I always keep them as options. In order to cut a deal with me, a person has to be highly sorted in his or her life. Black and white sorting. There was no way in hell I was going to marry her. Lol
baggage??
Do you honestly love or really care for her?
I care for all the people I am dealing with and that is why I did not ghost her after returning back to my city and instead tried to get her above this unhealthy attachment style of hers.
You don't fit the profile I'm looking to hear from. There is something to this though. Define this unhealthy attachment style you speak of.
What exactly is it?
As well as is it something just not your cup of tea and you see as negative or is it a true negative and detrimental to her? Not just a matter of taste.
You better find someone who fits the profile, otherwise it would just be the waste of time.click to expand
No I insist. For personal reasons. You hit close to home honestly on a few things. It is similar enough to hold my attention so not a waste of time. Page space for the thread, maybe. Time definitely not. Answer though 2 last questions if you up for it, then I'll let it go.
Posted by alexscaries
A few years ago I couldn't get a girl who was in an open relationship with a sag to leave her bf for me. She was Gemini, I think scorp moon, but not 💯 percent.
Lol that isn't how open relationships are suppose to work. How long were you together and how did it start?
Besides why did you want her to leave her bf for you? What did you want to change by doing that and why?
Was their something you were not ok with in the situation?
Did you ever meet her boyfriend and if so how did that go?
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You are wasting space tinder for men trying to get to a thot near him. Take your good girl ways to Christian mingle thank you. Men are trying to get easy ass your taking up space
Giggity
https://youtu.be/J626Qcd7Glo
are workplace bullies, how do I destroy them? they’re the type of tag team who wear matching outfits outside of work
I don't, I don't even know a man that does. I have women that are friends but they can still get the dick. I might not go after it but if it came up I'm not saying no.. Is that the man version of the friends zone.
I know its 2020 and all, but would you appreciate flowers or would you feel weird about it?
I agree I always say that's a red flag... it seems like other men are catching on. Here is news report about it.
https://www.refinery29.com/amp/en-gb/2020/01/9244509/laurence-fox-anti-woke-meaning?__twitter_impression=true
Every guy I know has warning sign but some are the same and some are different what's yours.
Mine are any women that is 28 really attractive and She never been married or had a long term relationship some thing is up.
Women that have sad stories.
Women
I want a males perspective on this. I’d love to read your honest opinions.
What names do you like to be called by your girlfriend?
Do you hate any in particular?
Okay so I REALLY like this guy. We have been chatting a lot lately.
We chat mostly about work things, plans on weekends and few things here & there. We are neither very good friends nor are we dating each other. And we have never hung out together or
My top 5 would be
1 libra
2 virgo
3 Taurus
4 cancer
5 sag
I'm not interested in replies involving:
-Cheating( It's cheating if it's not a real open or casual relationship)
-Replies not based on experience
-Negative replies colored by the problems with the person themselves not the poly situation.
-females. I'm looking for male perspectives.
There has to be some guys in this site who had this experience with someone you actually care about and you where not the main focus, she was the focal point.
No I'm not "asking for a friend" or looking for this. It's a dynamic I want to learn about from real people. Feel free to do the whole "my friend.." If you uncomfortable owning your past or present. Again a actual relationship(you care) and your NOT the focus as in not 2 girls with one guy. I'm talk one girl with possibly one or more guys and you know about it.
How did you feel about it?
What mindset did you take regarding your relationship with her and the other guys in her life?
How did you deal with jealousy, envy, and the other notions of threats to your relationship?
If you met the other guy how did you handle that?
Was there a breaking point where you walked away or did you break up for more traditional reasons?
Edit: You know what let's open this up a bit. Add your girlfriend having a very close male friend or you being the very close male friend. Sex can be taken out of the equation, since I'm interested more in the dynamic and human problems and experiences. Maybe I'll make another topic about that later.