How To Handle an Attention-Whore (Hits you up but won't set a date)

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E. M. Henderson
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An attention-whore is a girl that wants your non-sexual attention. She hits you up to talk for hours and to text back and forth.. But she will never agree to a date or let you know when she is free.

I am dealing with one now and I'm honestly hella offended... I don't why this chick thinks she can call me at 10 PM at night, I had to shut that down cuz she thought she could just call me whenever she feels like it.

I actually used to answer the phone, but then I realized this can't be good game.. Why does she just assume I'm available like this?

If you are interested in a woman and she calls you late, you should be offended by this. That means she thinks you ain't got shit to do at night.

How does she know I'm not with other women? How does she know I'm not working?

Don't answer for the phone for this bitch, I don't care if you just at home scratching your ass.

Answering the phone for her at late hours will make her form an opinion about you - that you don't have a life. You not fucking anybody else.. You are not a busy person.

She will think you ain't got shit else better to do than to talk to her nappy-headed ass because you want to smash.

If you DO eventually want to fuck this attention-whore, answering the phone for her at late hours will not raise the attraction where it needs to be for her to set a date with you and so you can be seductive.

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Simple.

I don't do chatter, I don't talk on the phone for more than a few minutes. I don't text back and forth. I don't validate the bitch.

I didn't even ask how she is doing, or say "I hope you are good".

And if you haven't noticed, I replied to her almost 24 hours later. She didn't even get a timely response from me.

Texting and calling is for making dates, hook-ups, and hangouts... I don't have conversations on the phone anymore.

Women, friends, it don't matter.

If someone really wanna talk to you, they will see you.. And I do this with friends especially, because this is how I weed out the fakes.

A woman that wants to see you anyway, will never just talk to you and leave it at that.

When you ask her if she is free, and she isn't - a chick that's interested in more than just your non-sexual attention will always follow up with another day she is available, instead of never mentioning it again or skipping around the question.

My attention-whore is only talking to me because I am a back up... She might be seeing some mystery person, having problems with her partner, or getting over an ex - and wants to keep me just in case things go bad with whoever else she is talking to.. So she stays in contact, flirts, but won't go on a date with me.

If you have an attention-whore, this means you don't creep her out but she not ready for you.. She might even think she can do better than you. This means she is attracted to you, but there is low-interest.

Don't be mad at your attention-whore. Just be cordial and don't validate this creature.
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Hmm I read your posts and I see your standpoint but based off that screen shot I feel like maybe she did want to hang out with you but didn’t want to be like... my car shit the bricks can you come scoop me up ... maybe she was waiting for you to offer to pick her up and hang out?

I’m sure your opinion is based off previous experiences with said attention whore specimen , but I’m just saying based off the above ... she seemed pretty open to chill
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E. M. Henderson
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Posted by Vitale

Hmm I read your posts and I see your standpoint but based off that screen shot I feel like maybe she did want to hang out with you but didn’t want to be like... my car shit the bricks can you come scoop me up ... maybe she was waiting for you to offer to pick her up and hang out?

I’m sure your opinion is based off previous experiences with said attention whore specimen , but I’m just saying based off the above ... she seemed pretty open to chill


Nah... She straight bullshitting. Won't even let me come over.
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E. M. Henderson
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Posted by Vitale

This is off topic but I find it very interesting that you guys talk astrology in normal real life conversations

I would’ve just said my friend has a birthday this weekend ... or coworkers .. or white friends... or gym friends.

I’ve never in my life been like... chillin with the Taurus



Very very interesting



Sorry I digress


Me and my Roommate actually talk like this all the time... As far as this girl, I introduced to this way of referring to people.

Me and my homies talk like this on the regular. It's so normal.