Ladies, have you ever had to teach your man how to pleasure you?

Of all my boyfriend's shortcomings, this one is by far the most problematic for me. I NEED sex...but he fucking sucks at it! And it isn't just the sex - he's a good kisser, but seriously needs to improve on making out, and even his fingering skills leave much to be desired. I don't know what to do with this poor sap. He's had like 15 lovers, and he's in his mid-thirties, but for some reason he just is not a good lover.
I guess I'll have to ever-so-kindly help him improve somehow.
Has anyone else had to do this? :/

I'm open about what I like, what I want to try, and what I like about the things he does. I focus on what I LIKE and ENJOY and what feels good for me. I may give tips like "I'm feeling sensitive, be gentle there," but I don't coach him (I don't feel the need to) because I want to experience his personal lovemaking expression. Then, I am always sure to open space for him in the conversation so that I can hear what he enjoys, wants to try, and likes about what I do. this is important for me because he always cares about me, and it can be too easy to be lulled into the Take aspect of communication when someone is so thoughtful and caring. It's lovely pillow talk, and my favorite is to have it served with a bucket of cuddles. *^___^*

As for you, how do you feel about the situation and what are you willing to do? How does he feel about your intimacy style?

I'm frustrated, of course. Sex is a huge deal for me. The only thing I can think of to do is offer gentle tips so as not to bruise his incredibly fragile ego (he's a Cancer sun, Leo rising and Venus). He's turned on by me, but knows I'm not impressed with his lovemaking skills.

So it's the kissing that turns you on but that's it. And to have 15 lovers is alot if he isn't tied down to one person. Which makes me think he gets dumped or is the dumpee.

Build his confidence by telling him all the things he does brilliantly!
Poor cancer are so eager to please, and they are very passionate and filthy underneath, you can have lots of fun together if you just big him up on what he does well, you'll only have to show him once, don't forget to hide any slight feelings of disappointment, you will hurt him more than you know if he loves you, make it all about fun, big up what a wonderful kisser he is and just lead him from there.
Guide his hands, head how you like, talk lots of sexual fantasies together, my husband surprised me how totally filthy he could be once we opened up with each other, we were the same as you when we started out and I felt a little disappointed with his skills.
Trust me on this, he is really eager to please you, help him, but pls don't insult him, his past lovers probably never had the patience to teach him, be the one, you'll see..trust me on this. Hope this helps x

Yes, vixen2 that's the idea, show him what passion and sexiness looks and feels like, hell get the idea ðŸ‘

Um.

I palmed his hands inside of my own, and literally masturbated myself using his fingers. It's my go-to instruction method because it combines hands on experience for him while revving my engine.

Ugh...
My almost 35-year-old boyfriend just texted me "Can we do it?" (referring to sex)
Talk about a turn-off...
I've got my work cut out for me with this one...

He'd love to, but I'm not into that. I'm the rare female that really doesn't like guys going down on her. Does nothing for me.

Try watching porn together...one that turns you on. Personally a visual always helps me learn. I did that with one of my exes.

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Posted by Keres
I NEED sex...but he fucking sucks at it! . He's had like 15 lovers, and he's in his mid-thirties

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I'm so so glad we have these little talks over

Sunday morning coffee.

Posted by starlover
I am not sure

Sexual chemistry is hard to find. I would rather have a lover that naturally gels with me

It happened once for me

Team Pisces!

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Posted by starlover
I am not sure

Sexual chemistry is hard to find. I would rather have a lover that naturally gels with me

It happened once for me

Team Pisces!

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For me it was Pisces.

The chemistry.

I seem to be unable to post clearly this weekend. :/