Help needed: Scorpio female for male Virgo

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Looking for some advice because I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm generally interested in older men, but this damn virgo (about 5 years younger) drives me crazy. Being the loyal Scorpio I am, I didn't give him "special" attention when I was with my ex. Infact I was pretty oblivious. Now though, cough*. And covid. 😑 I know he likes me...or at-least did. When we were all at a work party he sat next to me and had said hi. (Me, hi- cold shoulder)staying in my vicinity. Always stared at me when we were at work, or work events...and doesn't look away when I catch him. on another company outing he was asking me about my living/relationship status in front of people. Which another girl stated I lived with my boyfriend.... yeah more drama.. but I did at the time.. we did have fun though, all smiles and jokes between us. Looking back, being around him has always been easy. Months later, after a lot of instant messaging during covid and learning more about him and him typing messages he didn't send 😑. He wasnt much of a text kind of guy...so me wondering if it was me, asked if he just wanted to talk to me at work...but then responded with I can text him anytime, and he doesn't text much but it is his habit not a reflection of me. Me being the intense sign that I am, sent him a text telling him I have a crush on him and flirt with him all the time. But also knowing how he is, I told him he could formulate a response, didn't need a reply right away. Oh and asked if he wanted to go on a walk. Him being the overly analytical, practical Virgo he is; of course I didn't get a response for days. We work together (I know, terrible), so we were talking, and his voice went from overtly serious to soft as he got comfortable (which I love) which is when he told me he thought he'd be seeing me soon (sounding a bit nervous). I don't know. Maybe my intensity scares him away? He sends me tmi in texts (work related but with more info than needed about him) so I told him tmi makes me worry, and he went more in depth so I wouldn't. So when we were talking all the time, he told me personal info and even told me he trusts me..but then added for the most part. He has me so confused. He doesn't have an issue with being stubborn or argumentative or just flat out saying no. He hasn't said no to me. I don't think he will either, just pretends like I said nothing. He did stop being extra talkative and extra personal. (After sending thank you messages with a heart when he was offering to come into work early to set up my desk with me;unpaid) I definitely don't want to chase; He knows how I feel. (Or being practical and rationalizing covid/break-up/loneliness) for being the reason...but it's not; I enjoy my peace and quiet.

Could make this longer... but is this a hopeless situation? Did I already scare him off entirely? Its hard, being attracted to both his personality and intelligence, he's not bad on the eyes either. Takes me a long time to like someone, and trust; but I know I can trust him. I also know that it will be a long time before I like anyone else... the attractive guys trying to talk me, aren't a distraction at all. Can anyone give any advice on a younger virgo man with an older Scorpio woman? Or just confirm my insanity? Is it me? Or is he just as confused? Or is my thought that you need to talk on the phone or in person with a Virgo so they can't talk themselves out of something accurate?

...and yes. I know how pathetic I sound. 😂 Maybe he just wants to stay friends....if that's the case though, I wish he'd just say it.
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You're off your game Scorpio lady. He expressed to you that he likes you by giving you the same energy you're giving him, but we Virgo men often refuse to give more than that when a woman clearly keeps her options open. We want to be chosen as much as we choose our women. You're not crazy. Just be firm in your interest and intentions. We don't do wishy-washy or people that want to keep their options open. It's the easiest way for us to lose interest...
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You're off your game Scorpio lady. He expressed to you that he likes you by giving you the same energy you're giving him, but we Virgo men often refuse to give more than that when a woman clearly keeps her options open. We want to be chosen as much as we choose our women. You're not crazy. Just be firm in your interest and intentions. We don't do wishy-washy or people that want to keep their options open. It's the easiest way for us to lose interest...

So, Virgos are always going to be non-verbal about emotions? He went back to ghosting, but I know he's being critical of himself right now about work. Giving him space. I talk to everyone at work. (Introverted personal, extroverted overachiever work life) I know how serious he is when he's working/busy. He told me whats going on right now, but with lack of emotions. "I'm not affected emotionally at all."

All lies! I feel like if I stay too intense without verbal or physical consent I will just be overbearing. How do you reaffirm you still very much like someone, and care about them with out coming off as a desperate creep? He does not like compliments, or pretends he doesn't. Doesn't acknowledge them either. (Like me telling him I like how he's always serious)

This wouldn't feel so hard if we still saw each other, different project so no phone conversations either. Can't fully read him by writing. I'm high-risk so I won't be going in office, even when he tells me the weeks he's going in. Is giving him space coming off as wishy-washy? Or replying back to guys and girls I'm not flirting with in group chats?

Definitely not interested in anyone else, if I was I wouldn't of told him I'm into him. Kind of overly loyal. Why can't he just say I like you too? Or I'm not interested?
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Do you have gemini in your chart? Just wondering...lol

Sagittarius Moon, Cancer ascendant, Scorpio sun. Gemini wasn't in any planetary alignments either at time of birth.

that sag moon, providing you with the urgency apparent in your writing.

virgos are slow & ime, arent phone savvy.

do you happen to know his placements?
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Dont know his time of birth, but pretty sure he's: Virgo sun, leo moon, ascendant Libra.

And just super confused at this point, wish I could actually see him. Urgency is more like, should I just leave it alone. And this is the first time I'm writing about it...been months of confusion. But every time I leave him alone he ends up writing me again. (I'm not the hot/cold type) slow is fine...but need an idea if it is heading anywhere? Or if I'm wasting my time? (Not like I want to look elsewhere, but I can focus that energy somewhere else like art or writing)
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Posted by jammyjam

Do you have gemini in your chart? Just wondering...lol

Sagittarius Moon, Cancer ascendant, Scorpio sun. Gemini wasn't in any planetary alignments either at time of birth.

that sag moon, providing you with the urgency apparent in your writing.

virgos are slow & ime, arent phone savvy.

do you happen to know his placements?

Dont know his time of birth, but pretty sure he's: Virgo sun, leo moon, ascendant Libra.

And just super confused at this point, wish I could actually see him. Urgency is more like, should I just leave it alone. And this is the first time I'm writing about it...been months of confusion. But every time I leave him alone he ends up writing me again. (I'm not the hot/cold type) slow is fine...but need an idea if it is heading anywhere? Or if I'm wasting my time? (Not like I want to look elsewhere, but I can focus that energy somewhere else like art or writing)

its the sag urgency. “i need to know now so i am not wasting my time & move on”. sag energy is the eternal rolling stone.

i dont like virgo as romantic interests bc they seem to work backwards. i dont like uneven communication, or people who think i should be some kind of mind reader.

imo, if its months of confusion, it doesnt sound worth it to me.

how long have you been broken up with your ex?
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11 months, 6 months since I told him I can't stand him, and we couldn't even be roommates.
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Posted by dillweed
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Posted by jammyjam

Do you have gemini in your chart? Just wondering...lol

Sagittarius Moon, Cancer ascendant, Scorpio sun. Gemini wasn't in any planetary alignments either at time of birth.

that sag moon, providing you with the urgency apparent in your writing.

virgos are slow & ime, arent phone savvy.

do you happen to know his placements?

Dont know his time of birth, but pretty sure he's: Virgo sun, leo moon, ascendant Libra.

And just super confused at this point, wish I could actually see him. Urgency is more like, should I just leave it alone. And this is the first time I'm writing about it...been months of confusion. But every time I leave him alone he ends up writing me again. (I'm not the hot/cold type) slow is fine...but need an idea if it is heading anywhere? Or if I'm wasting my time? (Not like I want to look elsewhere, but I can focus that energy somewhere else like art or writing)

its the sag urgency. “i need to know now so i am not wasting my time & move on”. sag energy is the eternal rolling stone.

i dont like virgo as romantic interests bc they seem to work backwards. i dont like uneven communication, or people who think i should be some kind of mind reader.

imo, if its months of confusion, it doesnt sound worth it to me.

how long have you been broken up with your ex?
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Not really interested in looking for someone either. Pretty good with just being with myself, but if could be my Sag energy. But my Scorpio energy finds challenge exciting. That and general sexual nature, unexperience virgin Virgo seems exciting? So I have a few times just been like, forget about it. But when he writes me, then I'm like I'm still crazy about him. F* me. You're not looking and then find amazing people, that have been around all along. And what is with the Virgo stare? Most people find me intimidating and will look away.
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Posted by scorpioseasonisthebestseason And what is with the Virgo stare? Most people find me intimidating and will look away.

i think they look like serial killers but 🤷🏻‍♀️
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🤣🤣😂😂🤣😂🤣 I know what you mean, they do have that Sus. face.... but the intense serious stare with unwavering eyes is still alluring. 😂🤣😂
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Posted by scorpioseasonisthebestseason
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Posted by jammyjam

Do you have gemini in your chart? Just wondering...lol

Sagittarius Moon, Cancer ascendant, Scorpio sun. Gemini wasn't in any planetary alignments either at time of birth.

that sag moon, providing you with the urgency apparent in your writing.

virgos are slow & ime, arent phone savvy.

do you happen to know his placements?

Dont know his time of birth, but pretty sure he's: Virgo sun, leo moon, ascendant Libra.

And just super confused at this point, wish I could actually see him. Urgency is more like, should I just leave it alone. And this is the first time I'm writing about it...been months of confusion. But every time I leave him alone he ends up writing me again. (I'm not the hot/cold type) slow is fine...but need an idea if it is heading anywhere? Or if I'm wasting my time? (Not like I want to look elsewhere, but I can focus that energy somewhere else like art or writing)
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Be consistent with your attention. If you go too hard and fast too soon, yes you will spook him. He will pump the breaks unless he is a high spirited Virgo. He doesn't sound like one of those to me.

You are more then welcome to tell him what you just said. " I like you a lot. I'm all for playing it slow but not the hot and cold. Are you up for it?

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virgos sharing TMI stories mean nothing

and that was the first time i learned that boobs can float in water

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🤣😂🤣 that was funny. Naw he immediately texted back when I told him he had me worried. Never seen him reply that quick. 🤣

I appreciated the laugh though. I agree, older women don't.
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sometimes i feel like scorpios like that virgos are TMI

coz they don't have to dig coz there's nothing there
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virgos sharing TMI stories mean nothing

and that was the first time i learned that boobs can float in water

FB=Vρg

🤣😂🤣 that was funny. Naw he immediately texted back when I told him he had me worried. Never seen him reply that quick. 🤣

I appreciated the laugh though. I agree, older women don't.

sometimes i feel like scorpios like that virgos are TMI

coz they don't have to dig coz there's nothing there
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Funny thing is he isn't tmi about anything too personal. He's very Introverted, but he's smart, practical, thinks things through. Always tells me way too much though, even has me tell our colleagues things because he'd rather not. (Unless that's a ploy) Or maybe doesn't want to acknowledge follow-up questions? I don't, I say what he wants said and that it. And I dig, can't hide emotions forever. Nobody at work knows anything about him except what he wants. He's very good at not acknowledging peoples questions. Maybe more of a mystery you want to get to the bottom of? I know a lot, but still want to know more. 🤷‍♀️ Maybe Virgos just have a Scorpio magnet?
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virgos sharing TMI stories mean nothing

and that was the first time i learned that boobs can float in water

FB=Vρg

🤣😂🤣 that was funny. Naw he immediately texted back when I told him he had me worried. Never seen him reply that quick. 🤣

I appreciated the laugh though. I agree, older women don't.

sometimes i feel like scorpios like that virgos are TMI

coz they don't have to dig coz there's nothing there

Funny thing is he isn't tmi about anything too personal. He's very Introverted, but he's smart, practical, thinks things through. Always tells me way too much though, even has me tell our colleagues things because he'd rather not. (Unless that's a ploy) Or maybe doesn't want to acknowledge follow-up questions? I don't, I say what he wants said and that it. And I dig, can't hide emotions forever. Nobody at work knows anything about him except what he wants. He's very good at not acknowledging peoples questions. Maybe more of a mystery you want to get to the bottom of? I know a lot, but still want to know more. 🤷‍♀️ Maybe Virgos just have a Scorpio magnet?
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no idea why a scorpio would like me

i'd think they'd like mysterious geminis or smthng

virgos just don't answer questions when we don't feel like it
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Posted by virgoOPPP

virgos sharing TMI stories mean nothing

and that was the first time i learned that boobs can float in water

FB=Vρg

🤣😂🤣 that was funny. Naw he immediately texted back when I told him he had me worried. Never seen him reply that quick. 🤣

I appreciated the laugh though. I agree, older women don't.

sometimes i feel like scorpios like that virgos are TMI

coz they don't have to dig coz there's nothing there

Funny thing is he isn't tmi about anything too personal. He's very Introverted, but he's smart, practical, thinks things through. Always tells me way too much though, even has me tell our colleagues things because he'd rather not. (Unless that's a ploy) Or maybe doesn't want to acknowledge follow-up questions? I don't, I say what he wants said and that it. And I dig, can't hide emotions forever. Nobody at work knows anything about him except what he wants. He's very good at not acknowledging peoples questions. Maybe more of a mystery you want to get to the bottom of? I know a lot, but still want to know more. 🤷‍♀️ Maybe Virgos just have a Scorpio magnet?

no idea why a scorpio would like me

i'd think they'd like mysterious geminis or smthng

virgos just don't answer questions when we don't feel like it
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Been there done that. No Gemini's. I think control over emotions, being well put together. Practical is better than head in the clouds. Having goals, and being able to focus on them. Honesty, loyalty, knowing you can trust someone. Someone that can think on the same level as you, but still holds their own opinions. Too many people can be influenced easily. Striving for perfection. Appreciate someone who wants to master their skills.🤷‍♀️
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One more thing about what I said about pumping breaks. It's not about the energy of the relationship but milestones. Go easy on those. Test the waters before trying to dive in.

I dated a woman for 8 months when I was young and dumb that had some scorpion qualities. I welcomed and enjoyed the energy. Had no trouble matching it.



It was the milestones that tripped me up. She was wanting more then I was comfortable/ready for. It was really bothering her and her distress pained me as well. It forced me to make a snap judgement about wether or not it would work out "at that time". My thought process was whether or not I was holding her back since I couldn't give her what she wanted/needed.

To be fair both of our personal lives were a disaster then. Again young and dumb(immature) and self-esteem & confidence issues, a weak person. Looking back, as I am now I could have made it work. Shit happens and life can be messy. Wouldn't even phase me now.

To this day I love her very deeply and she is 1 of 2 people in this world I wouldn't hesitate to marry.

Yes this is my own personal experience and may not apply. What I got from it is valid here though.

Feel free to be your passionate talkative self. You do you. Just don't jump the gun with milestones. Test the waters before you dive in.

Also I was and still introverted. I open up with people I trust to the extent I'm comfortable with them. Naturally tmi with stuff I'm passionate about like the above 😂

If he opens up to you more then others, it absolutely means something. Work romances are a gamble. Be very sure about crossing into serious dating territory.



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One more thing about what I said about pumping breaks. It's not about the energy of the relationship but milestones. Go easy on those. Test the waters before trying to dive in.

I dated a woman for 8 months when I was young and dumb that had some scorpion qualities. I welcomed and enjoyed the energy. Had no trouble matching it.



It was the milestones that tripped me up. She was wanting more then I was comfortable/ready for. It was really bothering her and her distress pained me as well. It forced me to make a snap judgement about wether or not it would work out "at that time". My thought process was whether or not I was holding her back since I couldn't give her what she wanted/needed.

To be fair both of our personal lives were a disaster then. Again young and dumb(immature) and self-esteem & confidence issues, a weak person. Looking back, as I am now I could have made it work. Shit happens and life can be messy. Wouldn't even phase me now.

To this day I love her very deeply and she is 1 of 2 people in this world I wouldn't hesitate to marry.

Yes this is my own personal experience and may not apply. What I got from it is valid here though.

Feel free to be your passionate talkative self. You do you. Just don't jump the gun with milestones. Test the waters before you dive in.

Also I was and still introverted. I open up with people I trust to the extent I'm comfortable with them. Naturally tmi with stuff I'm passionate about like the above 😂

If he opens up to you more then others, it absolutely means something. Work romances are a gamble. Be very sure about crossing into serious dating territory.


❤ Thanks, I appreciate the advice. It is good advice. We will see what happens. I'll let him just bug me when he wants. Glad to know I'm not crazy, and it's just a slow thing.
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One more thing about what I said about pumping breaks. It's not about the energy of the relationship but milestones. Go easy on those. Test the waters before trying to dive in.

I dated a woman for 8 months when I was young and dumb that had some scorpion qualities. I welcomed and enjoyed the energy. Had no trouble matching it.



It was the milestones that tripped me up. She was wanting more then I was comfortable/ready for. It was really bothering her and her distress pained me as well. It forced me to make a snap judgement about wether or not it would work out "at that time". My thought process was whether or not I was holding her back since I couldn't give her what she wanted/needed.

To be fair both of our personal lives were a disaster then. Again young and dumb(immature) and self-esteem & confidence issues, a weak person. Looking back, as I am now I could have made it work. Shit happens and life can be messy. Wouldn't even phase me now.

To this day I love her very deeply and she is 1 of 2 people in this world I wouldn't hesitate to marry.

Yes this is my own personal experience and may not apply. What I got from it is valid here though.

Feel free to be your passionate talkative self. You do you. Just don't jump the gun with milestones. Test the waters before you dive in.

Also I was and still introverted. I open up with people I trust to the extent I'm comfortable with them. Naturally tmi with stuff I'm passionate about like the above 😂

If he opens up to you more then others, it absolutely means something. Work romances are a gamble. Be very sure about crossing into serious dating territory.

❤ Thanks, I appreciate the advice. It is good advice. We will see what happens. I'll let him just bug me when he wants. Glad to know I'm not crazy, and it's just a slow thing.
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If you want to reach out then reach out just don't have expectations and take things personal. Your instinct was probably right just the. Knee jerk reaction why and the stacking assumptions(mental spiral) you built upon it was the problem. I see people do this with each other often. Good luck.