Advice needed

Hi Everyone,

I am posting on here for the first time, however I have been reading the boards for a while now. I am a Gemini and I have been dating a Virgo for the past 3 months last night we had a blazing row and he told me to f**k off , then he starts texting me saying "im sorry I love you I don't mean to hurt you ect ect"
He is so sensitive I feel like I am walking on pins around him, he taked everything to heart. Is this normal behavior for a virguy? I don't know what to do
part of me says leave him and my heart says put up with it he will change ect ect.
How can I get him to open up to me and stop being this way?

I think a relationship has to base on mutual respect. You can forgive what he did, but you dont have to put up with it. People dont change unless they want too. I think if a guy tells you to f**k off, that shows his openess to tell you exactly how and what he felt about you right at that moment. Stand your ground, and teach him how to respect you.

"teach him how to respect you."

i think this is something one doesn't have any control of ..

especially if you are taming a wild horse .. saving a person who do not want to be saved .. waiting for someone to change .. they won't realize these faults in their own time and initiative because it works on their own benefits .. it's something they do not want to acknowledge ..

it will only leave you like you're barking at a wrong tree .. being pessimist when you are being optimist .. stooping DOWN to the level of immaturity when you're on the stage of maturity .. trying to loving someone who do not have a heart .. that so-called relationship .. is just simply pointless .. you will only end up giving and giving without receiving .. it just be a two-way process .. a two-way street ..

if you knew your worth .. how you should be treated .. with respect, empathy, appreciation, and love .. you wouldn't chase some boy around the corner .. who doesn't even give a damn about you .. it only loses your self-esteem and sanity .. which is unhealthy ..

the kind of person you will invest all your time, energy, and emotions .. i guess you just have to simply live with that decision ..

* when you know yourself better .. and love yourself better .. you respect yourself ..
you know the kind of person you will invest all your time, energy, and emotions .. who is worth the tears and the pain .. then i guess you just have to simply live with that decision ..

I'm not sure I understand your post .. it appears to be narrow-minded and lacking any understanding of human nature on your part and then saying that something is wrong with him .. for instance.

"last night we had a blazing row and he told me to f**k off"

We ALL say and do things when we are angry .. every single one of us often regret our actions in an emotional spike, especially anger. However, it's when there is no remorse that it becomes unacceptable because it leaves the person to start to comprehend that there is no conscious .. if a person doesn't feel bad, or guilty for what they've done, then certainly this would be bad ... however ..

"then he starts texting me saying "im sorry I love you I don't mean to hurt you ect ect"

I'm not really getting you at all, Angelina26Gem. Are you implying here that you've never said or done anything you didn't mean in a fit of anger? He does indeed have a conscious and he does indeed feel bad when he has a human err .. what exactly is the problem here?

So, in a fit of anger, you've never called someone an asshole? Or bitch? You've never called ANYONE a bad name, or told them to get lost, simply because you were angry?

I understand the whole respect angle that has taken place with this thread and a person does deserve respect .. but, if respect is being judged purely during an emotional spike of anger, then that's pretty shallow on your part. Let me ask you .. when he's not angry or upset, does he tell you to fuck-off then? Or, is he normally a gentlemen?

"He is so sensitive I feel like I am walking on pins around him, he taked everything to heart."
"How can I get him to open up to me and stop being this way?"

I'm not sure I understand the above .. if someone is sensitive and takes everything to heart, then the only way you would know this is if he's told you so .. how else would you know that everything is heartfelt, if a person doesn't express it?

Yet, you want him to open up and stop being this way?

That's a contridiction .. do you want him to open up? Or, do you want him to stop taking everything to heart, which means being open?

This thread makes absolutely no sense to me .. it shows no compassion or understanding on your part, and it's a contridiction.

To want someone to open up means, you want them to express how they are feeling .. if this same person takes everything to heart because they are sensitive, then they have in fact opened-up.