An extremely weird Virgo,Gem,Pisces situation

Posted by gia

Okay so it's sad for that I'm having to write this. So my virgo boyfriend, my gemini female bestie and I are a group of close friends in college. Now. my virguy has had this playboy sorta reputation before(the reason why I was too hesitant to get in a relationship with him)but everyone says he has changed a lot after getting in a relationship with me and my Gemini bestie is a conservative girl who has never had many male friends before. She talks to guys but all of them are conservative like her. She and I have always been too close. She'll share literally everything with me Now,whenever I am absent to college for some reason, next day I'll get an account of everything my virguy did with her. She'll tell me that he did this he did that they did this they did that and how she didnt want to do something but he still kept asking her to and how he kept asking her to go to that restaurant but she didnt want to but she had to as he was pressuring her so much. And I hear it all. Yesterday, 6 of our classmates including those 2 had to go to a company for an aptitude test. I didn't have to. While returning back home it was just both of them in the train as others left to party. So today she told me that he was keeping his hand on her shoulder in the train and how she doesnt like it and expresses it to him yet he does it. Then she said that he kept asking her to go to this restaurant(which is his and my fav spot) and how she didnt want to but she had to as he kept asking her to.

Then she told me that he was asking her for a selfie. She showed me some of the pictures. They looked fine.

However, my virguy and I had a bad fight 2 days ago (some other reason) so I wasn't talking to him today. I sat alone in our class and my bestie saw me so she came to give me company.

She asked me what's the matter and I shared it with her. Then she told me "I didnt want to say it to you but sometimes I feel really weird with the way he behaves. He was getting too touchy with me yesterday. I told him not to keep his hand on my shoulder as it felt very awkward especially with people around in the train but he still continued to. Then when we went to the restaurant, he came and sat next to me in the sofa. I felt weird because I thought he would sit in front of me because that's what friends do. It looked as if we were a couple. I felt very awkward."

Obviously,that got me mad. Just few minutes later she had to leave as she had to get her bag and just then he came to me and i just left immediately. Then he got mad and started yelling that she brainwashed me. He took me to the empty classroom and asked me to answer him why I was mad. I couldnt hold myself back, I told him everything she told me. He said she's exaggerating. He said "She's not a kid. Not once did she say that she felt awkward. Why on earth why I do it if she told me she felt awkward.She said nothing.Rather,she was enjoying because no guy has ever touched her before so she misinterpreted my intention. I'm never talking to her ever again because I hate her for trying to brainwash your head and for portraying me as some characterless guy".

He started ignoring her pre-lunch and then she came to me and asked why is he behaving like this suddenly and if I have told him everything. I told her the truth that I had to say it all. I even told her that he said that she never expressed that she felt awkward. She said he's lying. She said "I didnt want to say it to you and I hid this from you but few times while taking selfies he even had his hand on my back and waist a couple of times. It was really weird. I didnt want to say it to you because I knew you'd be hurt but even yesterday when he asked me for a selfie, he repeated it." That really exploded me. He saw me getting fumed up and he came running asking what's the matter. I told him what she said and he said "yeah, so whats the big deal? When we took few selfies I put my hand on her back or waist so what? That doesnt imply anything at all from my side. She's the one reading things wrong. My intentions have always been clear as just friends." It was still not at all acceptable by me. Even picturing that killed me from inside. I know I wouldnt let any of my bestest male friends touch my waist when I am in a committed relationship. He got so pissed that he came to our table and told her that he doesnt want to keep any friendship with her henceforth. He apologized to her as she felt awkward and then he left. She blamed me for all this. I left too as I needed to give him company. He said he's done with me if I remain friends with her. I told him that keeping his hand on some other girl's back in unnacceptable by me. He said he didnt know that and now that he does, he won't do it.

This entire thing turned out such a mess. I really dont know what to believe and what not. Do you guys think I over-reacted? If your guy put his hand on some other girls back or waist,is it okay with you? Any input on this situation? Please don't be too harsh as I've had an enough hell of a bad day.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Do you share everything with her?

Like all your relationships deets, how he’s such a great bf and the Dick game is on point?

Biatch wants to swoop in for the steal.

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

I’m rereading this story and screaming. So now he can’t put his hand on any girls waist or back. So if your around with a group of friends (boys and girls), and y’all take group pics he’s just gonna stand there with his hands in his pockets. How’s he gonna hug anyone💀💀

I’m yelling

Posted by gia

I know my bestie most likely didn't mean ill for me. She will not want that I get hurt and we breakup as she knows how much I love him. Many a times she has even given me positive thoughts when I thought negatively regarding a situation between my bf and I. But yes, I felt very weird and bad that she blamed me for all this as I shouldn't have said all this to him,according to her. She yelled at me saying "Because of you he now thinks that I'm a horrible girl who portrayed him as a characterless guy."

On one hand she's telling me that she felt awkward whenever he did that to her and on the other hand he tells me that not once did she express any hesitation but rather she enjoyed it. On one hand, she's saying that he's mad at her because she told me the truth and on the other hand she's mad at me because he is mad at her. Like whaaaaaaa...

Posted by gia

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

I’m rereading this story and screaming. So now he can’t put his hand on any girls waist or back. So if your around with a group of friends (boys and girls), and y’all take group pics he’s just gonna stand there with his hands in his pockets. How’s he gonna hug anyone💀💀

I’m yelling

Back is fine but not waist. Common, I've got my own boundaries too. I personally wouldnt let any guy hold my waist if I am in a relationship with someone else. That pose is only reserved for me with my guy. Same way, I can't see him do that with any other girl.

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Posted by tiziani

This story confused me.

If I were in your shoes, I'd approach the situation with the least expectations possible.

Assume neither of them owe me anything and just ask them straight up questions.

Eventually they'll ease up and stop with the long stories.

Posted by gia

Okay so it's sad for that I'm having to write this. So my virgo boyfriend, my gemini female bestie and I are a group of close friends in college. Now. my virguy has had this playboy sorta reputation before(the reason why I was too hesitant to get in a relationship with him) and my Gemini bestie is a conservative girl who has never had many male friends before. She talks to guys but all of them are conservative like her. She and I have always been too close. She'll share literally everything with me Now,whenever I am absent to college for some reason, next day I'll get an account of everything my virguy did with her. She'll tell me that he did this he did that they did this they did that and how she didnt want to do something but he still kept asking her to and how he kept asking her to go to that restaurant but she didnt want to but she had to as he was pressuring her so much. And I hear it all. Yesterday, 6 of our classmates including those 2 had to go to a company for an aptitude test. I didn't have to. While returning back home it was just both of them in the train as others left to party. So today she told me that he was keeping his hand on her shoulder in the train and how she doesnt like it and expresses it to him yet he does it. Then she said that he kept asking her to go to this restaurant(which is his and my fav spot) and how she didnt want to but she had to as he kept asking her to.

Then she told me that he was asking her for a selfie. She showed me some of the pictures. They looked fine.

However, my virguy and I had a bad fight 2 days ago (some other reason) so I wasn't talking to him today. I sat alone in our class and my bestie saw me so she came to give me company.

She asked me what's the matter and I shared it with her. Then she told me "I didnt want to say it to you but sometimes I feel really weird with the way he behaves. He was getting too touchy with me yesterday. I told him not to keep his hand on my shoulder as it felt very awkward especially with people around in the train but he still continued to. Then when we went to the restaurant, he came and sat next to me in the sofa. I felt weird because I thought he would sit in front of me because that's what friends do. It looked as if we were a couple. I felt very awkward."

Obviously,that got me mad. Just few minutes later she had to leave as she had to get her bag and just then he came to me and i just left immediately. Then he got mad and started yelling that she brainwashed me. He took me to the empty classroom and asked me to answer him why I was mad. I couldnt hold myself back, I told him everything she told me. He said she's exaggerating. He said "She's not a kid. Not once did she say that she felt awkward. Why on earth why I do it if she told me she felt awkward.She said nothing.Rather,she was enjoying because no guy has ever touched her before so she misinterpreted my intention. I'm never talking to her ever again because I hate her for trying to brainwash your head and for portraying me as some characterless guy".

He started ignoring her pre-lunch and then she came to me and asked why is he behaving like this suddenly and if I have told him everything. I told her the truth that I had to say it all. I even told her that he said that she never expressed that she felt awkward. She said he's lying. She said "I didnt want to say it to you and I hid this from you but few times while taking selfies he even had his hand on my back and waist a couple of times. It was really weird. I didnt want to say it to you because I knew you'd be hurt but even yesterday when he asked me for a selfie, he repeated it." That really exploded me. He saw me getting fumed up and he came running asking what's the matter. I told him what she said and he said "yeah, so whats the big deal? When we took few selfies I put my hand on her back or waist so what? That doesnt imply anything at all from my side. She's the one reading things wrong. My intentions have always been clear as just friends." It was still not at all acceptable by me. Even picturing that killed me from inside. I know I wouldnt let any of my bestest male friends touch my waist when I am in a committed relationship. He got so pissed that he came to our table and told her that he doesnt want to keep any friendship with her henceforth. He apologized to her as she felt awkward and then he left. She blamed me for all this. I left too as I needed to give him company. He said he's done with me if I remain friends with her. I told him that keeping his hand on some other girl's back in unnacceptable by me. He said he didnt know that and now that he does, he won't do it.

This entire thing turned out such a mess. I really dont know what to believe and what not. Do you guys think I over-reacted? If your guy put his hand on some other girls back or waist,is it okay with you? Any input on this situation? Please don't be too harsh as I've had an enough hell of a bad day.

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Posted by ladylibra21

Ok so I just read more. So he did go to a restaurant with her! Nope that is not OK. A guy that loves you will not set you up to be looking stupid . Because what would've happened if somebody who knew you saw them out together by themselves. Especially because he decided to drink til he was tipsy, that is a little too casual. A man who loves you will put space between him and another woman just so he doesn't give you the wrong impression.

I also forgot to mention don't like that Your friend did a lot of I didn't want to but I did talk. Because she is in charge of her own actions.

You're crazy.

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Posted by Arielle83

Your friend is an idiot

Posted by Ooops

Regardless of rather or not he meant anything by it, dude needs to watch the touchy feely, that's the shit sexual harrassment cases are made of.

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Posted by Sunsetvirgo

So this is all you have to do. Hang out with them seperately. That’s it. Sucks to do it but you’re gonna have to do that.

nah

she should hang out with them at the same time to get a 'feel' of things

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Posted by gia

So I just finished talking to him about this. He maintained the same that not once did she mention that she felt awkward and that his intentions and actions were purely platonic friendly. He said she did all this because she wanted to stir up a fight between us(him and I).

I told him very clearly that she's at fault but he's at a much higher level of fault that he shouldn't have let this situation arise in the first place. I told him he gave her way too much unnecessary attention just to make her feel special, even more than me. He agreed to it. He said he did that just because he thought she was feeling left out and lonely as we 3 were a group of close friends and there have been cases where she ended up crying because she felt left out during the initial phase of our relationship when we needed some privacy. He said its simple - whenever I am absent she's the only one left whom I've got so they end up talking and spending time. While he behaves like a normal good friend, she feels "why is he doing so much for me today" and she misinteprets and feels led on.

.....

....then maybe that's all it is

he was just trying to be a good friend

but yeah she may still have a little crush on him

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Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by gia

So I just finished talking to him about this. He maintained the same that not once did she mention that she felt awkward and that his intentions and actions were purely platonic friendly. He said she did all this because she wanted to stir up a fight between us(him and I).

I told him very clearly that she's at fault but he's at a much higher level of fault that he shouldn't have let this situation arise in the first place. I told him he gave her way too much unnecessary attention just to make her feel special, even more than me. He agreed to it. He said he did that just because he thought she was feeling left out and lonely as we 3 were a group of close friends and there have been cases where she ended up crying because she felt left out during the initial phase of our relationship when we needed some privacy. He said its simple - whenever I am absent she's the only one left whom I've got so they end up talking and spending time. While he behaves like a normal good friend, she feels "why is he doing so much for me today" and she misinteprets and feels led on.

.....

....then maybe that's all it is

he was just trying to be a good friend

but yeah she may still have a little crush on him

I am sure she earlier did but now I am sure she doesnt because she has been hurt by this incident that she blocked him on social media. He said he doesnt mind saying it to her face that she's lying about telling him that she felt awkward because not once did she and instead she enjoyed clicking pics with her. Rather, she even asked him to take her solo pics. If a guy makes you feel that awkward, how on earth can you ask him take your pics? even if he's your bestie. On top of that, she even passed comments like "yeah even i have got some good curves and ass" "even i have some hidden wild animal inside me" "I can be a model if i want to" "my lips turned out to look good in this pic". She surely hid this part from me but my bf told me about it. That's why he's shocked at her allegation.

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Posted by ACsquarepluto

Seems like you've reached a resolution since the two have blocked each other and the truth is coming to light.

Sucks to hear that her tears and his attempt to prevent them brought everyone so much headache. Growing up I've learned to cry less in front of others and not to sacrifice too much as a reaction to someone else's tears: some consolation is fine but crying can be a manipulative move. Its fine to be someone's shoulder to cry on but don't take on too much burden. We are responsible for coping with our own feelings.

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Posted by gia

So I just finished talking to him about this. He maintained the same that not once did she mention that she felt awkward and that his intentions and actions were purely platonic friendly. He said she did all this because she wanted to stir up a fight between us(him and I).

I told him very clearly that she's at fault but he's at a much higher level of fault that he shouldn't have let this situation arise in the first place. I told him he gave her way too much unnecessary attention just to make her feel special, even more than me. He agreed to it. He said he did that just because he thought she was feeling left out and lonely as we 3 were a group of close friends and there have been cases where she ended up crying because she felt left out during the initial phase of our relationship when we needed some privacy. He said its simple - whenever I am absent she's the only one left whom I've got so they end up talking and spending time. While he behaves like a normal good friend, she feels "why is he doing so much for me today" and she misinteprets and feels led on.

.....

....then maybe that's all it is

he was just trying to be a good friend

but yeah she may still have a little crush on him

I am sure she earlier did but now I am sure she doesnt because she has been hurt by this incident that she blocked him on social media. He said he doesnt mind saying it to her face that she's lying about telling him that she felt awkward because not once did she and instead she enjoyed clicking pics with her. Rather, she even asked him to take her solo pics. If a guy makes you feel that awkward, how on earth can you ask him take your pics? even if he's your bestie. On top of that, she even passed comments like "yeah even i have got some good curves and ass" "even i have some hidden wild animal inside me" "I can be a model if i want to" "my lips turned out to look good in this pic". She surely hid this part from me but my bf told me about it. That's why he's shocked at her allegation.

He lyin

could be

he's kind of a shady dbag before

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22

Posted by gia

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by gia

So I just finished talking to him about this. He maintained the same that not once did she mention that she felt awkward and that his intentions and actions were purely platonic friendly. He said she did all this because she wanted to stir up a fight between us(him and I).

I told him very clearly that she's at fault but he's at a much higher level of fault that he shouldn't have let this situation arise in the first place. I told him he gave her way too much unnecessary attention just to make her feel special, even more than me. He agreed to it. He said he did that just because he thought she was feeling left out and lonely as we 3 were a group of close friends and there have been cases where she ended up crying because she felt left out during the initial phase of our relationship when we needed some privacy. He said its simple - whenever I am absent she's the only one left whom I've got so they end up talking and spending time. While he behaves like a normal good friend, she feels "why is he doing so much for me today" and she misinteprets and feels led on.

.....

....then maybe that's all it is

he was just trying to be a good friend

but yeah she may still have a little crush on him

I am sure she earlier did but now I am sure she doesnt because she has been hurt by this incident that she blocked him on social media. He said he doesnt mind saying it to her face that she's lying about telling him that she felt awkward because not once did she and instead she enjoyed clicking pics with her. Rather, she even asked him to take her solo pics. If a guy makes you feel that awkward, how on earth can you ask him take your pics? even if he's your bestie. On top of that, she even passed comments like "yeah even i have got some good curves and ass" "even i have some hidden wild animal inside me" "I can be a model if i want to" "my lips turned out to look good in this pic". She surely hid this part from me but my bf told me about it. That's why he's shocked at her allegation.

He lyin

could be

he's kind of a shady dbag before

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Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by AfternoonDelights22

Posted by gia

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by gia

So I just finished talking to him about this. He maintained the same that not once did she mention that she felt awkward and that his intentions and actions were purely platonic friendly. He said she did all this because she wanted to stir up a fight between us(him and I).

I told him very clearly that she's at fault but he's at a much higher level of fault that he shouldn't have let this situation arise in the first place. I told him he gave her way too much unnecessary attention just to make her feel special, even more than me. He agreed to it. He said he did that just because he thought she was feeling left out and lonely as we 3 were a group of close friends and there have been cases where she ended up crying because she felt left out during the initial phase of our relationship when we needed some privacy. He said its simple - whenever I am absent she's the only one left whom I've got so they end up talking and spending time. While he behaves like a normal good friend, she feels "why is he doing so much for me today" and she misinteprets and feels led on.

.....

....then maybe that's all it is

he was just trying to be a good friend

but yeah she may still have a little crush on him

I am sure she earlier did but now I am sure she doesnt because she has been hurt by this incident that she blocked him on social media. He said he doesnt mind saying it to her face that she's lying about telling him that she felt awkward because not once did she and instead she enjoyed clicking pics with her. Rather, she even asked him to take her solo pics. If a guy makes you feel that awkward, how on earth can you ask him take your pics? even if he's your bestie. On top of that, she even passed comments like "yeah even i have got some good curves and ass" "even i have some hidden wild animal inside me" "I can be a model if i want to" "my lips turned out to look good in this pic". She surely hid this part from me but my bf told me about it. That's why he's shocked at her allegation.

He lyin

could be

he's kind of a shady dbag before

He lost me at she said "i have some hidden wild animal inside me"

Nobody says that

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Posted by gia

Posted by ACsquarepluto

Seems like you've reached a resolution since the two have blocked each other and the truth is coming to light.

Sucks to hear that her tears and his attempt to prevent them brought everyone so much headache. Growing up I've learned to cry less in front of others and not to sacrifice too much as a reaction to someone else's tears: some consolation is fine but crying can be a manipulative move. Its fine to be someone's shoulder to cry on but don't take on too much burden. We are responsible for coping with our own feelings.

Yeah. I told him I want him to say it to her face that she lied about feeling awkward and that she never said or expressed any such thing to him. I told him i dont care if she cries. I dont hate my bestie nor do i intend to hurt her. But this entire thing has hurt and affected me a lot more than it has affected both of them collectively.

I told him I hate him because i'll never be able to visit my favourite restaurant because of his stupid act. Although he may have been friendly but he should have held back all that over-friendliness and attention and spared me some heartache. He feels guilty about all this now and regrets it. I made it very clear to him that I dont want any friendship between those two ever again as I dont trust them. As much as I hate saying this but I wont allow that. He accepted it and said he himself doesn't want to.

okay what about this?

all 3 of you gather around and talk about that incident

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Posted by gia

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Posted by AfternoonDelights22

Posted by gia

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by gia

So I just finished talking to him about this. He maintained the same that not once did she mention that she felt awkward and that his intentions and actions were purely platonic friendly. He said she did all this because she wanted to stir up a fight between us(him and I).

I told him very clearly that she's at fault but he's at a much higher level of fault that he shouldn't have let this situation arise in the first place. I told him he gave her way too much unnecessary attention just to make her feel special, even more than me. He agreed to it. He said he did that just because he thought she was feeling left out and lonely as we 3 were a group of close friends and there have been cases where she ended up crying because she felt left out during the initial phase of our relationship when we needed some privacy. He said its simple - whenever I am absent she's the only one left whom I've got so they end up talking and spending time. While he behaves like a normal good friend, she feels "why is he doing so much for me today" and she misinteprets and feels led on.

.....

....then maybe that's all it is

he was just trying to be a good friend

but yeah she may still have a little crush on him

I am sure she earlier did but now I am sure she doesnt because she has been hurt by this incident that she blocked him on social media. He said he doesnt mind saying it to her face that she's lying about telling him that she felt awkward because not once did she and instead she enjoyed clicking pics with her. Rather, she even asked him to take her solo pics. If a guy makes you feel that awkward, how on earth can you ask him take your pics? even if he's your bestie. On top of that, she even passed comments like "yeah even i have got some good curves and ass" "even i have some hidden wild animal inside me" "I can be a model if i want to" "my lips turned out to look good in this pic". She surely hid this part from me but my bf told me about it. That's why he's shocked at her allegation.

He lyin

could be

he's kind of a shady dbag before

no, i believe this part because she has made such comments in front of me and him before. That's her special way of feeling aesthetically secure. She knows my boyfriend is big time on looks and body and he's way too particular about these two things. So she used to make such comments occasionally to catch his attention and hear him compliment her. Sometimes he'd compliment her just to make her feel good because she's always high on insecurity related to her looks. It's weird to say this but lately her sense of fashion changed as well. My boyfriends is too much into looks,clothes and body. He keeps complaining that I rarely wear his choice of clothes to college. She literally changed her wardrobe this semester and her clothes started blending with his taste of fashion. When he complimented her out of courtesy once or twice, she got further encouraged. And 2 days ago when she wore something sexy to college (she again made her usual comment "i didnt want to wear such tops to college but mom forced me so i had to") , my bf didnt compliment her so she didnt feel as happy. So this has been a part of her attention seeking behaviour.

ha geminis 😆

but now i understand.. she's only outwardly 'conservative'.. okay i recognize that, i respect that, i nod to that lol but you should totally throw words jokingly at her like: "you like my boyfriend's attention, huh?"

you ever say passive-aggressive stuff like that to test her reaction?

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Posted by gia

So an update for those who care and have supported me all this while here

- He whatsapped her today morning. He sent her a long super long text stating how she never even once mentioned that she felt awkward or uncomfortable the way she portrayed things to me but rather she enjoyed. Basically he called out on her lies. He also clarified that all those 'touches' and whatever light flirtings he said were purely platonic and on a fun note and because he had considered her a friend. He told her that she just portrayed him in a negative light so that she could brainwash me and have me breakup with him by tarnishing his image. He gave her a piece of his mind. He told her how her actions and wordings have affected me and our relationship .In the end he wrote in capitals "JUST STAY OUT OF OUR RELATIONSHIP AND OUR LIVES".

In response she responded back saying "I never told her anything of my own. It was Gia who'd ask me everything. Also, I didn't tell her anything so bad about you. I don't know what all did she say to you. I never intended to sabotage your relationship or your image. But as you asked me to stay out of your relationship and lives, we don't exist for each other anymore"

Then she texted me saying "Dude,stay away from me your boyfriend hates me around you.I'll pretend I never knew you people and you both don't exist for me anymore. He left me no option. I had told you not to tell all those things that I shared with you to him.I had trusted you but you still told him everything. But it's fine, atleast now I won't be between you two sabotaging your relationship as he claims. Anyways, if you ever considered me your friend then atleast don't share this text with him else he'll again think I'm brainwashing you and ruining your relationship. I'm done with all this shit and I wont let it affect my life so we better part our ways. I'll always be happy for you and if you ever need me I'll be there."

That was the end of it.

so what are you planning to do?

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