Another scorpio + virgo story

I have read some of the topics about virgo men and I decided to share my experience here as well so I can vent and get it out of my system. I myself am a scorpio woman if it matters.

About 9 months ago I joined this online group where this one guy was too. At first we didn´t talk much and for some reason I got a feeling that he found me annoying. However we had these group calls where we both would participate and after some time he started talking to me and after some time he told me that he liked me. I was hesitant at first but then I began to have feelings for him too. He asked me if I could be his girlfriend and I told him that maybe it is best that we meet up first and then decide since we live in different countries and he agreed. I told him though that I think I would like being his girlfriend and we discussed about that couple of times. We talked about many things and he was very sweet towards me and supportive and so was I. We were basically contacting each other regularly on Skype. At some point he seemed distant and might be off Skype for couple of days and then come back apologizing for being busy with friends or work. I had some doubts but decided to believe him anyway because he seemed trustworthy.

This online dating lasted about 5 months and during that time we had set up couple of dates to meet but unfortunately couldn´t make them happen. Finally couple of weeks ago I told him that I could travel to meet him next month and he agreed and said that he could try to take couple of days off from work to spend time with me. However after that he became quite distant and told me at one point that he was feeling a little down but didn´t tell me why when I asked him. We still had normal conversation till couple of days ago when he "dropped the bomb". I asked him if it´s alright if I book this room from some hotel room to which he said that it might not be a good idea because he had met someone else who he had been dating for a while. Then he told me that he hasn´t had feelings for me for quite a while and that he couldn´t do long distance because it´s too isolating. Then he said that he is sorry and that he doesn´t feel good about it. I was very shocked to hear that and it still feels difficult to understand. I told him my thoughts about his actions and how hurt I was and asked him for example when did he notice that his feelings for me had changed but he didn´t answer and haven´t heard from him since. He deleted me on Facebook but for some reason not on Skype. I am sad and also angry that it had to end like this since I would have imagined that he would have told me first about his feelings changing before starting to date anybody else and now I just keep wondering how long was he pretending and why did he do that.

Oh well, this is my story, do any of you have similar experiences with some guys/girls?

This is my ultimate fear with my LDR Virgo 😄 We did meet though and he's still in my life, not as intense as in the beginning though. I freak out about other women in his life (mostly his colleagues), once I was worried he's dating one of them so I just asked him about her and he said she's just his friend and I believed him. She moved out of his city anyway and then there is this other girl right now that I'm bit worried about, but I don't have any real evidence that they're dating (basically it's all in my head) and he never talks about other women in front of me. So I'm just gonna try to avoid stalking her as much as I can cause it's making me bit crazy. 😄 He's very attracted to me though, that I know for sure. And somehow I know he likes me and cares about me... He wanted to see me again like 10 days ago, but his grandmother died so he had to go back to his home country for a funeral otherwise we'd spend another weekend together. He said he'd really like to see me and even repeated it once. 😄 But LDR is hard... If he ever told me he found someone else in his city then I'd understand... After all I'm open to meeting someone in my city as well because we're not commited to each other and unless he tells me he doesn't want me to date anybody else I won't commit to him. It'd be crashing if he started seeing someone else because I really like him and we have a lot in common and I just felt so good around him, but that's life. I would move on... In your case you haven't even seen him and nothing really happened between two of you. I know it's sad and hard, but you need to move on. I'd delete him from skype, spend a lot of times with friends, if you have some hobby engage in that, go out, meet new people and keep yourself busy and one day it'll be all good again. It takes time to heal, but you're the one who has to start it. 🙂 Good luck!

Agreed that it is very hard. I suppose you live in the same country then? I understand that in long distance relationship feelings die more easily and that is okay with me even though it feels bad. What I don´t understand is that he decided to tell me only after he found somebody else so it seems that he has pretty much moved on. And since he seems to refuse to talk about things, things ended quite loosely which I hate but gotta move on. Good luck with your relationship too, hopefully it will be better than mine.

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Agreed that it is very hard. I suppose you live in the same country then? I understand that in long distance relationship feelings die more easily and that is okay with me even though it feels bad. What I don´t understand is that he decided to tell me only after he found somebody else so it seems that he has pretty much moved on. And since he seems to refuse to talk about things, things ended quite loosely which I hate but gotta move on. Good luck with your relationship too, hopefully it will be better than mine.

I don’t live in the same country, but it’s only 4 hour drive by car so it’s not impossible to meet we just both have quite busy schedules and I was bit stubborn to be honest because I want him to initiate all the time and didn’t realize he might want me to initiate sometime too. So I’m trying to be less stubborn and more fearless. 😊 He’ll be travelling for one month since Thrusday so who knows when I’ll see him again or if ever, but I’m okay with it really. If it works out it’ll be great if not I’m gonna get over it and live my life anyway. 😄 I think he just didn’t wanna hurt your feelings, be glad that he told you for real because you can have closure. Believe me there’s nothing worse than being left without any answer! Closure will help you to move on faster. Stay strong! ❤️