Scorpio man with Virgo Woman

I met my scorpio guy last year in May but we didn’t go out with each other until September.

He a great guy and I adore him. At this point given that its been 5 months of dating/seeing each other I am unsure of where we stand. We are boyfriend girlfriend.. are we exclusive .. what are we?

I don’t want to ask him because I don’t want him to feel like I’m pushing him I just think I want to know given I’m growing more and more feelings for him.

Last week he told me he made plans with some guys to go out but the guys never showed up until 12am to the bar and then he says there was some girl that was looking at him so he went over and talk to her.. this throws me off COMPLETELY.. I’m not sure if he was looking for a reaction (testing me) out of me or making a statement that he is looking to date other people

I few things about us so far:

He texts me every day and always in a timely manner, never ignores me.

He calls me to talk about his day every so often or texts, we’re both not phone people I think.

He’s very considerate.

He buys dinner and brings it over.

When we go out we hold hands.

We’ve been intimate and it’s amazing. Lately he’s been softer with me in regards the way we’ve been intimate.

We don’t use a condom and he said in the beginning if he was going to be intimate with anyone else other that me he would tell me first.. Obviously I want happy about that but at least he was honest.

We snuggle all the time especially after sex.

We don’t have sex every time we see each other

He tell me he misses me.

He lives with his mom.

I’ve never met his friends or family.

He says he wishes he could have me over (but I don’t think its time to meet the mom yet)

He never breaks plans with me

He makes the initiative to make plans with me if I haven’t

Sometimes we only see each other once a week

He makes comments about our future

We don’t fight at all..

Do you think it’s too soon to ask him where this is going (especially after that going up to the girl thing).. are Scorpios slow at making things official ..

I wonder if you held back on emotional expression throughout these 5 months to the point he had to throw that comment about that girl to see if you are even that much into him.

Having sex without a condom with someone you don't know fucks others or not is beyond irresponsible. At its best fucking someone without a condom whom you're with exclusively can still yield massive surprises.

Anyway:

1) Open your mouth.

2) Utter the following: "Hey, we've been seeing each other for almost half an year and on my end I am only dating you. Are we on the same page here? I don't want to operate under false premises here and your comment about going to talk to a girl who was looking at you made me think you might still be open to dating others. I would like to know so I can make my own choices about how to proceed from here."

He'll either laugh it off as a "smdh you should know by now we are together" or be concerned about you actually not knowing where you stand...

...or you'll get shifty eyes and philosopical "oh what even is a verbalized commitment" statements, in which case he's shady af.

It's not pushy because both parties should have clarity and you have a duty to yourself to know what you are involved with before you have a duty to omg not seem clingy or desperate or needy to him.

I have held back a lot because Im afraid of getting hurt.. but I also felt like I make it clear to him that I want to be with him.. I cook for him.. I never cancel on him, I make plans with him,

But I sent that message and I'm thankful for your advice. i think it was great advice and will see what he says

Don't assume he can read your mind although he can lol... Speak up... Ask him... Just that simple

Posted by virgo29
I don’t want to ask him because I don’t want him to feel like I’m pushing him

We snuggle all the time especially after sex.

So to put this into perspective...you are afraid to ask him where the relationship is headed/to define it. But you have no problem putting his dick inside of you...

You should always be clear about what you want/are looking for. Ends up saving tons of time and heartache.

Just ask hun.

It's always okay to ask 🙂

So I did ask and he said he didn't intend on anything other than telling me about his night out. Also said a relationship wasn't on his radar.

He likes our time together and my company and hasn't thought about much else because we originally talked about keeping this casual.

SOOO question asked and answered..

I'm still happy i asked .. kinda shitty but at least I know.

Thanks everyone for your advice.

Cheers

Posted by virgo29
So I did ask and he said he didn't intend on anything other than telling me about his night out. Also said a relationship wasn't on his radar.

He likes our time together and my company and hasn't thought about much else because we originally talked about keeping this casual.

SOOO question asked and answered..

I'm still happy i asked .. kinda shitty but at least I know.

Thanks everyone for your advice.

Cheers

Enjoy the sex and make sure you use a condom from now on.

I see you got your answer.

Get tested immediately. An in the future don't fuck dudes raw unless your in a committed monogamous relationship and trust the person.

"I don’t want to ask him because I don’t want him to feel like I’m pushing him I just think I want to know given I’m growing more and more feelings for him."

So let me get something straight a guy you're having sex (unprotected might I add) with you're afraid to ask if you're exclusive? You can give it up but you can't ask a simple question?

Posted by virgo29
So I did ask and he said he didn't intend on anything other than telling me about his night out. Also said a relationship wasn't on his radar.

He likes our time together and my company and hasn't thought about much else because we originally talked about keeping this casual.

SOOO question asked and answered..

I'm still happy i asked .. kinda shitty but at least I know.

Thanks everyone for your advice.

Cheers

See you left out the part where you two agreed to be FWB but you thought you could manipulate him into a relationship if you acted like a girlfriend. Dudes aren't stupid.

I think that EVERYTHING will be so much easier if we were honest and upfront . I don't give a fuck if the guy gets scared of something . it means that the guy is not the right guy for me .

The momnt I open up my legs we become exclusive . That's it .

I have a filter but I will speak my mind or hell . If I'm upset , you will know . If I'm happy you will know , if something bothers ? You will know . If the guy gets scared of can't keep up ? Move to the next one , the guy is not for you .

I am a virgo by the way .

Posted by Already-use
I think that EVERYTHING will be so much easier if we were honest and upfront . I don't give a fuck if the guy gets scared of something . it means that the guy is not the right guy for me .

The momnt I open up my legs we become exclusive . That's it .

I have a filter but I will speak my mind or hell . If I'm upset , you will know . If I'm happy you will know , if something bothers ? You will know . If the guy gets scared of can't keep up ? Move to the next one , the guy is not for you .

I am a virgo by the way .

Absolutely agree!

Yeah he does not want a relationship ... He just enjoys your company ... Probably has his eyes set on someone else