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Aries Woman & Virgo Man (It's a long one)
This sounds so much like myself and my Virgo he said pretty much all the same things. We dated for 7months and we were so in love but then in July if 2017 he broke up with me saying he isn’t ready for a relationship, that he was sorry that he hurt me, that I deserve better, and that he needs time to find himself. The only difference is that he lost his wife of 25 yrs and then 3 months later started pursuing me. After we broke up we continued talking via text. He is dealing with an anger that he has never had and it spilled out on me a couple of times and he couldn’t get past it as he’s not an angry man but I understood that it was his grief. In October he told me he was never coming back to me. We didn’t talk for a few weeks and then he came back Nov 2017 and for 3 months we were happy and he called me his girlfriend when talking on the phone to a friend. Come Feb. he’s pulled away again. He feels like shit cause he said he wants this but is torn because he still is dealing with grief, anger and now he’s admitted depression. The only thing I can do is give him space and time and be patient and understanding in an attempt to move forward myself letting him know that I am still standing here and try to keep him talking to me. I too am scare that I will loose him to another and just the thought hurts my heart but I have to have faith that if we are meant to be he will not fade away completely and he will find his way back to me again. I have never had this connection/ this love with anyone. I understand Virgo’s take their time before getting into a relationship and they don’t easily say I love you but although my Virgo and I knew each other for 24yrs he said I love you 1week after we started dating and a few weeks later he was talking about buying a house together and helping me raise my boys. He was excited, happy and looking forward to a future together. Hmmm...how life can throw you a curveball 😢 My reality today is I can only take this one day at a time and it still doesn’t mean he will come back to me.
No, I never knows with a Virgo. After my Virgo guy yelled at me and told me he was never coming back and then not even a month later he was back. I know he loves me and is pushing his feelings away is the only way he can deal with the fact that he knows he hurt me. Just last Wednesday after he said he was too busy and didn’t have time to see me I told him “No, worries I understand!” By Sunday he was messaging me to meet for lunch. We had a nice visit and at the end he leaned in for a hug, kissed me on the cheek and said “Love ya!”
what is yours and his b day
@virgoking22
Me: Gemini born June 5
Him: Virgo born Sept. 3
@UnicornSag hit the nail on the head. He jumped into a situation he thought he wanted too quick, too soon after loosing his wife got scared of how quick we developed feelings and felt guilty as he realized he didn’t properly grieve her. He needs time to figure out his anger/ grief and to find himself. I am completely understanding, respectful and am patient all I ask is that he is honest with me and keeps the lines of communication open. I just struggle cause he can’t seem to talk to me about it and I am not sure whether it’s he himself doesn’t know what he is doing or what he wants or if it’s because he doesn’t want to hurt me anymore. He thanked me in the beginning for not running away and I told him last week I am still not running away and he once thanked me for my patience!
Me: Gemini born June 5
Him: Virgo born Sept. 3
@UnicornSag hit the nail on the head. He jumped into a situation he thought he wanted too quick, too soon after loosing his wife got scared of how quick we developed feelings and felt guilty as he realized he didn’t properly grieve her. He needs time to figure out his anger/ grief and to find himself. I am completely understanding, respectful and am patient all I ask is that he is honest with me and keeps the lines of communication open. I just struggle cause he can’t seem to talk to me about it and I am not sure whether it’s he himself doesn’t know what he is doing or what he wants or if it’s because he doesn’t want to hurt me anymore. He thanked me in the beginning for not running away and I told him last week I am still not running away and he once thanked me for my patience!
what year
Posted by virgoking22
what is yours and his b day
Me: Gemini born June 5, 1970
Him: Virgo born Sept. 3, 1965
Posted by NancymIt look like you like him more than he likes you i didn't even read your post by the way. You have a lot of powerful connections to his mars in scorpio. You have cancer venus and mars both are conneted to his mars in scorpio. So you have a powerful sexual connection with him. His neptune is connected to your venus so he really knows how to sweet talk you and put the wool over your eyes. Now he is attracted to you but you have nothing positive connection to his moon sign in sag. Men fall in love with women based off there moon sign. But I don't know both of your time of birth which can change this reading if your planets fall in his good houses.Posted by virgoking22
what is yours and his b day
Me: Gemini born June 5, 1970
Him: Virgo born Sept. 3, 1965 click to expandclick to expand
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But for the first 2 months, there was a time where he was really busy with school and he had recently found out that his mom had personal issues she needed to deal with. So he didn't really talk to me for 2 weeks, I understood but it still crossed my mind every now and then. I confronted him about it and he said he was sorry/felt bad/told me he wouldn't do it again. (never got angry, just a bit upset over text and never showed any bit of emotion except happiness in front of him).
Fast forward to 6 months, every thing was smooth sailing. I would visit him every chance I got since I wasn't in school and he had work. I was going to go into schooling the next month so I was keen on seeing him as much as I could before I wouldn't be able to since I would be a full time student.
One day I noticed I was getting short answers, and he didn't reply to what I was use to. I suddenly brought up the question "hey, is every thing okay", that's when every thing blew up. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship and that we should call it off immediately. Being the Aries I am, I suggested we go on break since I don't like having any reason that doesn't make sense to me.
So I gave him 2 months, I started messaging him between these 2 months. (reading through recent forums, I figured that was a bad call on my part, but i just didn't know what to do). Message after message and no response. I knew he was hiding something from me and I wasn't sure what. He drank for 3 days straight on a weekend he wasn't working, went over to a friends house and slept over (a woman, but i confronted to him about it and he said she was just a friend, nothing else)."I wouldn't cheat"
There would be constant back and forth of "we'll clash" "we're not suited for each other it seems like" and "I'm not ready for commitment, I'm scared and I want to protect you from myself". Remind you some of the things he said to me after we figured we should talk wasn't something I had expected from him and I lost my cool. We got into our first fight from the 6 months we were dating. (saying this out loud I figured I scared him off and he thought I was done with him).
So I ignored it, said what I needed to say (lost my cool once again), gave him some time to think about it and he came back to me saying "I wanted to push you away, make it easier for you, and I was scared you wouldn't take me back after how horrible a person I am, etc etc etc" the whole soap opera basically telling me he felt guilty.
That's when every thing started to click in my head, I suggested that we meet up and talk in person. I was nervous, I wanted to run away for good and I didn't want him to say "yes that sounds good, we should do that". But he did, I missed him, I was angry, I was happy, and most of all I was relieved. It seemed that emotionally baggage kind of threw itself off of me and I had some hope for the better.
The day came (happened 5 days ago) when we met up, I had told him to pick the time and I would pick the place. He met me at my school at around the time I got off, as soon as I saw him, I placed my hand on his face to properly look at him then we talked on our way to our destination (15-20 minute walk) it was mostly me talking though.. We didn't talk about the relationship, it was just me rambling on and on about school life, stressed, and classmates. I acted like nothing was wrong, constantly talking to myself, him listening and his usual witty remarks about how I should do this and that. We were almost there, I asked him anything was happening in his life and he responded "work, working for friends, and hanging out with them occasionally". As you guessed it, this isn't what I wanted to hear.. small remarks, small gestures and certainly a plain conversation between an Aries and Virgo. I tried to hold back tears as we waited for the light to switch, I turned away so he wouldn't see me get teary eyed because the last thing I wanted him to see that I was hurting inside. I knew he was looking at me, trying to properly see my face and it was silence for the next 5 minutes until he asked where we were going. We got there within that time span, it was a small park, no one usually comes here, and it was a place I would go to when I'm feeling sad (I told him that as we walked there). He said it was nice, and we sat down on a bench by the river.
I just sat there, not saying anything, waiting there for a response and he finally asked "so what do you want to talk about". Being the stubborn person I am, I waited for him to bring it up so I said "I don't know anymore".
(I realized that this is getting long so I'm so sorry to everyone who has made it this far and I appreciate it).
Basically we talked about his life at home, us, and what his plans are in his future. His sister has ran away from home (to her boyfriends parents house, remind you that his parents know where he lives and it's just a 10 minute from where they are), his mom is feeling lonely now that her daughter is not home with her and his dad wants him to take over their business that is in another town (maybe 3-4 hour drive from where I am right now). In the middle of us talking, I began to kind of see where things were going, I held my hand out and he placed his hand over mine. I said "your sister is lost as much as you are, she's running away from her problems as much as you want to, and you should talk to her. If you're scared of fighting, siblings fight, and they make up right away because you're family." (giving examples of my siblings and I fighting, me not being afraid of telling my siblings they're bad at things etc etc). With his mom I suggested talking to her daughter or finding another hobby because she's now trying to make him be there for her when it seems he just wants to get things done. With his dad, I suggested he follow his own path, do whatever he wants, and think about it more. He said it brought more money in, but it isn't sure that is what he wants.
Then he said "I'm sorry, I know I hurt you, you deserve better, I think I should stay away from people for awhile, find new friends, work on myself for awhile and I don't work well in relationships". In the middle of all this, he began to squeeze my hand, started shaking and there were tears flowing out of his eyes. "I know I should've been there for you, but if you want to wait for me.. or find someone else then that's okay too". His voice was cracking and he was breaking down at this point. I laughed , basically giggled in front of him. I told him "you really do overthink a lot , don't you? I'm not going anywhere , I don't know why you don't see that. I love you, it's okay and how long will I have to wait", he said he didn't want me to but I could see a smile go across his face. We talked for 3 hours, I asked for a kiss, he refused of course (tbh I'm not sure what I expected) and he said "then what? what will happen then?" he was getting closer to my face as he was saying this, I kinda shrugged and felt myself sink down, tears were forming. I quickly got up and said we should go. I made jokes about him crying, said he would regret not kissing me, i don't know when the last time I'll see him and basically the witty comments back n' forth. I didn't look back as we parted ways because I knew I would start crying (cried all the way home, felt sorry for myself etc etc etc).
I guess the moral of the story is that I wanted to rant, give an example of how it is to date a Virgo.. takes a lot of the waiting game, mind games and heartbreak that he didn't realize he did. He'll run and it's hard to predict when he'll come around again.
I guess I just want some insight on the whole Aries and Virgo situation I have going for myself, I'm scared he might move on without me, he's found someone already, if I was just someone to get himself back on his feet and know what he wants. From friends, most of them said he wasn't someone for me, move on, work on myself and basically pretend it never happened. Others say, he truly loved me, he's lost in himself, confused and needs time.
I came on here asking for advice on what I should do with myself, because after the whole break up I haven't messaged him at all. But he gets constant messages nowadays (phone was going off as we were talking at some point), he's online more and I guess I'm scared I might've missed my chance.
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I may also add, never really had sex with him because I wasn't ready at the time. I read that they're very sexual signs, but they also don't crave it for the most part unless it's instigated. But I thought I might add that.
From forums, some Virgos move on quickly once they find someone that is ideal, or give up once they figure out they didn't quite fit the whole image they have. Looking at the way he is, overthinking a lot, hard working to the point he's constantly tired, and it seems he's obsessed with being sad or relating to everyone around him.
I'm not looking for him anymore, I don't have the time to look and mess around with my feelings. I guess I'm also impatient as well, questioning myself, and overall need reassurance he didn't bother giving to me.