Better to tell him I like him or try to work w him

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius
I have a crush on a virgo guy who I've never met, but have many mutual friends with. I know him because I see his profile on facebook and he's also very prominent in the field we work in, so I am always hearing about his work and seeing him talk.

I was wondering if it would be weird to send him an email asking if he's single and saying that I'd like to get to know him better OR if it would be better to try to work with him in some way so that I can get to know him and then ask him out?

I'm worried though that once we work together he might rule me out as a date cause another virgo guy I know doesn't date women he works with.

Anyway, what can I say to him and how should I approach him? For the next few months I'm in a different city than him, so I can't just bump into him or get a friend to introduce us. I also wouldn't be comfortable doing that even if we were in the same city right now.

I'm a pisces by the way in my mid twenties and he's in his mid thirties...

Why don't you just send him a friend request on fb? Or send him a flirty message & see how he responds, & just go from there.

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius
What do you think I should say?

Ummm...maybe you should reference work & say something like working hard or hardly working? Just don't wanna see a fine thing like yourself getting all worked up...especially if I am not there to calm you down. ROTFL!! IDK you probably think that's corny lol. But just keep it brief, sexy & witty. 😛

Posted by RealTalk

Or send him a flirty message & see how he responds, & just go from there.

This approach puts me off as I would be unsure if it is honest interest, a joke, or dangerous. Its not worth my time and energy to worry about such things as there are enough things to worry about. I would've detached myself from this situation very quickly.

If you must confess your attraction PiscesLeoAquarius, do so with heartfelt honesty. While you may not get a reaction you're hoping for this method is much more appreciated...at least by me.

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius

I was wondering if it would be weird to send him an email asking if he's single and saying that I'd like to get to know him better OR if it would be better to try to work with him in some way so that I can get to know him and then ask him out?

I'm worried though that once we work together he might rule me out as a date cause another virgo guy I know doesn't date women he works with.

The Piscean infatuation fizzles out as quickly as it mounts ....

It's likely that once he gets to know you, he will rule you out due to your bubble ... so you should just admire him from afar and don't get close to any sharp objects.

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius
RealTalk - hehe no I like it!

🙂 Glad I could help 😉

Posted by Amandus

Posted by RealTalk

Or send him a flirty message & see how he responds, & just go from there.

This approach puts me off as I would be unsure if it is honest interest, a joke, or dangerous. Its not worth my time and energy to worry about such things as there are enough things to worry about. I would've detached myself from this situation very quickly.

If you must confess your attraction PiscesLeoAquarius, do so with heartfelt honesty. While you may not get a reaction you're hoping for this method is much more appreciated...at least by me.

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You're a kid. Why would she confess such a thing when she doesn't even know what she's dealing with? Better to keep it light at first. I would dismiss someone disclosing how they feel about me deeply when I don't know them that well. Seriously...that would freak me the hell out. But that's the difference between you & me.

Posted by RealTalk

You're a kid. Why would she confess such a thing when she doesn't even know what she's dealing with? Better to keep it light at first. I would dismiss someone disclosing how they feel about me deeply when I don't know them that well. Seriously...that would freak me the hell out. But that's the difference between you & me.

Makes me sad when people say, "You're a kid". Whats that supposed to mean? As if what I say has no worth?


But you make a good point. The fact that they haven't actually met escaped me. I was just saying if she must confess... Still, I wouldn't suggest flirting.


I do like P-Angels suggestion though because its definitely something to consider in this case.

Posted by Amandus

Posted by RealTalk

You're a kid. Why would she confess such a thing when she doesn't even know what she's dealing with? Better to keep it light at first. I would dismiss someone disclosing how they feel about me deeply when I don't know them that well. Seriously...that would freak me the hell out. But that's the difference between you & me.

Makes me sad when people say, "You're a kid". Whats that supposed to mean? As if what I say has no worth?


But you make a good point. The fact that they haven't actually met escaped me. I was just saying if she must confess... Still, I wouldn't suggest flirting.


I do like P-Angels suggestion though because its definitely something to consider in this case.

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I didn't mean it that way at all. When I say you're a kid, I'm saying with certain things, you'd view from a different perspective as opposed to someone being older than you. Not that I couldn't learn anything because you make alot of valid Points.

Posted by RealTalk

I didn't mean it that way at all. When I say you're a kid, I'm saying with certain things, you'd view from a different perspective as opposed to someone being older than you. Not that I couldn't learn anything because you make alot of valid Points.

Thanks for the clarification. And sorry for projecting my insecurity onto you.

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius

But aren't you married to a virgo P-Angel. That would mean the infatuation didn't fizzle out.

Also we all live in a bubble.

I was never infatuated with him, never dreamed of having him while he didn't even know I existed. You are talking about a dream, and trying to figure out how to apply it.

I actually related with my husband physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally ... didn't sit in the shadows of my mind like you are doing and admired him from afar and then tried to figure out how to get him to become a knight in shining armour.


You're dreaming ... wake up.


And no, we all don't like in a bubble ... you are at this moment, however.

^^^^^What she said! Plus mixing business with pleasure, especially when it fails, is a rly bad concoction! They say not to do it for really valid reasons!

Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius

I have a crush on a virgo guy who I've never met ....

.... so that I can get to know him and then ask him out?

I'm worried though that once we work together he might rule me out as a date cause another virgo guy I know doesn't date women he works with.

You are deluded, which is typical of a Pisces, and I will attempt to point this out to you .. however, I'm certain that you probably won't get it so long as you live in a bubble.

Your worry, according to what you wrote, is that he might not want to date you because of working together .... with no awareness on your part that he might not want to date you because of you. In your mind, because you are infatuated with him, in having never met him, you have yourself believing that he would want you to ask him out, would want to date you, based solely on your desire for him to do so.

There's no comprehenion in what you said that even remotely suggests that he might not even like you .... you have in your mind that he does already, or will and it's only a matter of how you meet him in person so you can ask him out.

That's illogical, irrational and fanatical .... and you don't seem to realize that it is those things.

This is typical for Pisces though, the Fish is so wrapped up in their fantasy .. that it is hard to distinguish where the reality is.

Posted by Amandus

Posted by RealTalk

I didn't mean it that way at all. When I say you're a kid, I'm saying with certain things, you'd view from a different perspective as opposed to someone being older than you. Not that I couldn't learn anything because you make alot of valid Points.

Thanks for the clarification. And sorry for projecting my insecurity onto you.

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All good babe...😉

Hie, I'm new here but have been reading alot here lately. May I ask you, is the field you're mentioning the Marines by any chance?