Break-Up with Virgo Man

So I've been seeing my Virgo guy for a little over 2 years now, on and off. We've always been friends before anything else but we've both always had a love interest for each other. As of recently, the last couple of months, we've been seeing ALOT more of each other.. Spending all of our days and nights with each other. He has always hid his feelings and emotions from before, but as of lately he's been expressing his feelings to me, verbally telling me that he loves me (not just showing me), and one night he even cried with me after I confessed my true feelings to him after an argument. And we NEVER argued before now, but now there's an argument just about every week. Most arguments root from me having male friends that he feels "aren't necessary" and that I "don't have time for". NOTE we are not in an exclusive relationship, but he doesn't want me having male friends, attending social gatherings, or having social networks. He's never acted in this manner regarding our friendship before, it all started when we started spending all of our time together. I am the epitome of a cancer and when I decide to get into a relationship with someone, it's ALL or nothing, and being as though we weren't in a relationship, I wasn't going to cut off contact with my male friends, cut off my social life and everything else for some one who was not committed to me and ME ONLY. It doesn't make sense to me to give fully give myself to someone who's not committed to me.. I'm FAR too emotional for anything close to that. So after a while I limited my emotional connection to our friendship and became very nonchalant towards his problem with me communicating with other guys. I had put my foot down and let him know that there is nothing wrong with keeping in contact with guys who are strictly friends, ESPECIALLY when I am not in a relationship. I guess he couldn't understand my reasoning.. the next day he came and took all of his belongings that he had ever had over at my place. It was to the point that he had his hygiene stuff here, majority of his clothing, toothbrushes, just about everything at my place. And then one day he was gone with nothing to say but that I had "taken his kindness for weakness" and some other things pointing to the fact that he was upset about my male friends. Does any one with experience with virgos know what I did wrong? In his mind, what the heck did I do wrong? I'm so confused.

@piscesmoon thanks for your input. I am a cancer female. And see, I guess I'm being just a little manipulative. I know that these others guys don't want to only be a friend and my virgo guy has made that point clear MANY times. I'm not even the type of female to keep male friends bc I find it hard to open up and gain closeness with alot of people, guys mainly. My virgo guy told me that I was "playing games", and in a sense I kinda was, but not in the sense that he meant. I was just trying to make a point that if you want me to yourself, then you have to commit. I am in love with my Virgo friend and always have been, since the beginning, it's always been a spark between us. As I've said before, it's hard for me to open up to guys and let my guard down but it was different with him. He's all I want, he's all I see, but I push that fact to the back of my head b/c I CAN NOT fully emotionally attach myself to him when he is not committed to me. I'm in NO WAY attracted to those other guys, I just use them to take my mind off of him sometimes. Not the most considerate thing, I know, but I was just trying to prove a point b/c he DOES seem to just welcome these females friends all the time.. and 9.5/10 they're not "just friends". The problems that we're having, we never had before, I guess b/c he was able to keep his cool or maybe he simply never cared. Our arguments over these guys get TERRIBLE now. I've had him shove me numerous times, throw my phone across the room, throw my laptop across the room and stomp my laptop to the point I thought my laptop screen was broken. And he has been through A LOT with females, and when I say A LOT, I do mean a lot. He has been hurt really badly in the past and I've been patient with him trying to gain his trust and show him that my intentions are nothing but innocent, hence we've been friends for a little over two years.
But no, @piscesmoon, he DID take ALL of his stuff. He left literally two belongings.. two belongings out of the hundreds he had over here and I doubt they were left intentionally. Whether or not he wants me to chase him, I can't find it in myself to b/c I honestly feel that he was wrong. I felt as though he wanted to have his cake and eat it too, and that's not fair.

You will have to come to him. They don't chase. In his mind he has done nothing wrong. You as a woman should only be committed to him and you should show him that he in the only one you see. Being friends with all those guys means you could possibly stray. Even if that's not the case. It's not the talking it's the showing. They need reassurance that he is what you want. You can tell this guy you love him but if you are paying attention to other guys, going out with them, then that's showing him you're open to others and I understand you are not committed. They don't like to be labelled. In his mind you guys are but it's something he will not admit to. You just have to talk to him and reassure him.