Please help me understand the Virgo man

Thank you sugaries and tiki33 for the replies. From everything I've read about Virgo men you both made very good points. I've never dated a Virgo man before and this is very new to me. I usually date men that want to be up my rear end 24/7 which sends me running the opposite direction. I will take the advice and will take one day at a time and let it run its own course.

Posted by sugaries

.... people say they've see the person they're dating still signing into the dating website they met on. Maybe he's checking to see if you're still signing in like you're doing to him?

That's a very good point.

If you are seeing him on the website .. then that means YOU are still on the website.

Posted by tiki33

If you don't exist when you're out of his presence then there is no real relationship

Well that's bullshit.

To the OP, you should probably be careful of listening to people who have no experience with Virgos because the above quote is in error of the Virgo nature.

Posted by Kimberlylw4

I barely hear from him and usually I have to initiate contact. When we have spent time together and he is leaving we usually make tentative plans for the next time and I may not hear from him until it gets closer to that day. It confuses me terribly. How can he seem so interested in me when we are together then be so distant when we are not. I

Is this just typical Virgo man behavior?

Yes, typical

The Virgo man works opposite of tiki told you.

@tiki33

19 Years10,000+ Posts

LOL Fuck off P, stop worrying about me, jealous fool, you don't have to discredit what I say to make yourself appear competent, lousy hating ass attention seeking bitter troll.

@trashedbliss

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Kimberlylw4

I barely hear from him and usually I have to initiate contact. When we have spent time together and he is leaving we usually make tentative plans for the next time and I may not hear from him until it gets closer to that day. It confuses me terribly. How can he seem so interested in me when we are together then be so distant when we are not. I

Is this just typical Virgo man behavior?

Yes, typical
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Hey there! For me (I know Im a woman so maybe its a little different....) but when Im not initiating contact its because when I did either I felt there was some hesitation or that I may be bugging the person? I would say to probably ask him about it. In a non-pressure kind of way etc. I prefer if the other person contacts me. You can tell if Im interested etc if Im really chatty with you if you text me and its slow and stagnant then Im probably not into you...

@pis0378

14 Years

I already see a few ladies in this forum who date Virgo men met at dating site for a few months and have very similar experience. I have been dating one for half a year too and we both are still on the site (i hided a few times)since he doesn't want to hide his profile and I don't seem to exist either, when we don't meet. I already lose most of my interest and patience now, and have no expectation.

I wonder if Virgo men can deal with a couple of women in the same way at the time before they commit and don't feel bad at all that he keep those women waiting? Those women don't exist unless they date but will the Virgo men think of them when they don't contact each other??

Many Virgo men tend to reply texts slow. Does the speed of reply mean something in some way?

@capbaby

15 Years

They dont ALL respond slowly. But don't chase him. Once he gets to know you better, and if he really really catches a 'feeling' for you, he will text more readily. But if you push and not give him his freedom, he will withdraw..in the beginning if its too soon for him. Once mine made up his mind to commit to me, he has always replied promptly like he would his 'wife'.

He's not off because he doesn't feel he needs to be right now. I had a Taurus man who didnt hide his profile either but told me he didnt want me dating anyone else, so I hid mine. I thought it odd. Obviosuly we aren't together..

I wouldnt hide mine if he doesn't hide his until/unless it becomes more serious and that takes time and talk.

@Kimberlylw4

Thank you for all the responses. I have not been on for a while. There is an update: soon after posting my original post I did confront the issues, via text. His response was that he was still as interested in me as he always has been but he doesn't feel the need to stay in constant contact with me. Then he seemed to shut down even more than before. He said "do you know the feeling of satisfaction you get when you randomly text someone and you know they didn't expect it so it made them happy? You're taking that away from me. I can never text you and it be that I've done it just because I was thinking about you and wanted to, I'm always texting you as a response to a text from you." After my response to that text his response was "it's like you're trying to get me to lose interest in you, so now I just did. I'm sorry."

There was no communication between the 2 of us whatsoever for over a week until I was offered 2 tickets to a NFL game and I invited him. He said yes that he would love to go. I have seen him once since I invited him to the game. Everything is the same as before except I have stepped way back. I let him initiate contact, which he has, the day after seeing me just to tell me that it was great seeing me again and he had a good time. He did tell me through text that it was never that he lost interest but that I was coming on way to strong. Which is typical for my Leo nature. I'm a very "in your face" kinda person.

I'm still as perplexed as before. I know that I probably never would have heard from him if I had not invited him to the game. I'm hoping that's not the only reason he is talking to me again but only time will reveal that.

From what I've read, Virgo men are genuinely good men. So I'm willing to just give it time and see how it goes.

Thanks

@Kimberlylw4