CLINGY OR INSECURE - VIRGO MEN

I'm currently in a relationship with a virgo man and since day one of the relationship, he's required most if not all of my time. When we're together, he's very "touchy feely" even in public places. I'm ok with that, but now he wants to know all about my facebook friends, especially the males. He has many females friends on Facebook and often chat or text with them. I have no problem with that. But it's clear he has a problem with men on my friendlist. Are Virgo men insecure?

Posted by CluelessCancer
LMAO are VIRGO MEN INSECURE?

Is Water WET?

LOL..

He is perceiving that you are not reassuring him that he is number one. So he's applying analysis to your relationship. He may text or chat with other women and be okay with it because he's made you number one.

He doesn't feel completely safe in the relationship with you.

So should he? Is he? And do you want him to be long term? Answer these questions and you can solve this problem.

If you answer "no" to any of them and now you can understand his inquisitiveness.

Posted by miamivirgo
He is perceiving that you are not reassuring him that he is number one. So he's applying analysis to your relationship. He may text or chat with other women and be okay with it because he's made you number one.

He doesn't feel completely safe in the relationship with you.

So should he? Is he? And do you want him to be long term? Answer these questions and you can solve this problem.

If you answer "no" to any of them and now you can understand his inquisitiveness.

Thank you Miamivirgo!! I actually do want a long term relationship with my Virgo, but It concerns me when he questions my motives for being on facebook when I'm hardly on there compared to the time he spends on there if we aren't in each others presence. He should feel safe with me because I don't think I've given him any indication that I want other men or the impression that I could do better. I love and care for him and he knows that. IDK..

Posted by miamivirgo
He is perceiving that you are not reassuring him that he is number one. So he's applying analysis to your relationship. He may text or chat with other women and be okay with it because he's made you number one.

He doesn't feel completely safe in the relationship with you.

So should he? Is he? And do you want him to be long term? Answer these questions and you can solve this problem.

If you answer "no" to any of them and now you can understand his inquisitiveness.

+1

Posted by Ixion120
Its okay not to know, you gotta address it for what it is call him on it, let him know that he needs not worry...but to answer your real question, some are, some are not it all depends on how much the person has come to understand themselves truly.

I actually called him on it and he went into defense mode. He acted as if I attacked his character and I was wrong for even coming to him with it. My approach to the topic was very light-hearted... He always emphasize communication, but if the issue is about him he's irate. SMH..

Posted by sunnyvirgo83
If he's jellous about you having male friends that is a problem, always asking about them. Seriously, your a grown woman. You had the friends before you met him....seriously think of that. You've been on your feet and have male and female friends and male friends you prolly still talk to and if he has a problem with that it's his problem not yours. I'd say sit down and tell him look, I have male friends I talk to them, I'm not doing anything with them. Ask him why is it wrong to for you to have male friends and talk? But your aloud? No way, to understand a virgo you must think like a virgo. Ask him questions and see how he likes the contradiction!!!

Definitely a RED FLAG...

It's normal to be "insecure" about this as a virgo male because most virgo male would understand the consequences of leaving an blind eye on this subject. You can possibly get hit blindsided by that woman, and that shit will hurt for awhile, not to mention the scar it can form.

The best thing you can do for the virgo is to help him relax. Show him that he does not need to be too tense about this subject. And never make a joke about this, its highly important to us. Time can be better spent else where then to lose it all to a bad investments (a slutty bitch).

My developed mentality as a virgo male is that I do not care who she talks to during the day, as long as she with me at the end of the day. Also, I work twice as hard when I'm in a relationship, this is to provide and also to be the right man - for then she would have no reason to cheat me out, and if she did - then its her lost.

if he is talking to other girls but worried about who you have on a facebook friend's list... that's sometimes a sign that a man is worried you're doing behind his back what HE is doing behind yours. Or it could just be insecurity like others said, and reassuring him while putting your foot down about your freedom would be the right way to go.
I have to say though that, as a libra woman, the inability to address his own problems/flaws is going to drive you absolutely insane in the future if it is already that bad. I'd nip that in the bud too.

Posted by ANRivas
if he is talking to other girls but worried about who you have on a facebook friend's list... that's sometimes a sign that a man is worried you're doing behind his back what HE is doing behind yours.

^^^ This was my first impression. He seems like he's projecting.