Confused about this virgo man. Did I blow it? Did I do wrong?

I had started talking to a virgo man almost 2 months ago. At first, we were very flirty and texted each other all day every day. We hung out about four times since we started talking. Each time we hung out, the flirting was get less and less. He blew me off once or twice. We are both very busy with work we have very demanding jobs. He got very hot and cold on me. This past Thursday night, we had talked on the phone and decided we would hang out on Saturday night and make Saturday nights and Sundays our day, before I would have to go into work (at 5 PM). We had never actually done anything, we've been fishing together once but every other time we hung out, he would sleep over my place or I would sleep over his place and he would fall asleep within an hour or two. It is difficult because my only days off are wednesday and thursday, while his are sometimes saturday and always sunday. Saturday rolled around he texted me "good morning babe wish I could have woken up next to you" to which I replied "good morning Hun I'm sure you will soon". I did not hear from him again all day. At around 10 o'clock at night I texted him "hope you've had a good day" to which he replied "not really good night beautiful" "goodnight". before I went to sleep, I texted him "if you would like to go to the beach or something tomorrow please text me in the morning "yes" or "no". Morning rolled around and he didn't text me. I texted him in the afternoon "good afternoon" to which he replied the same. "how has your day been so far?" "good I'm camping" this kind of annoyed me because I had asked for a simple yes or no. I texted a few hours later "you could have texted me "no" about the beach or hanging out today. I set up a picnic basket thinking we were hanging out today. This is not the first time you have blown me off or just ignored me about plans. We have talked about our pet peeves and I told you me being ignored is mine" to which he replied "you're crazy I'm just trying to relax today I don't have to answer you if I do not want to I'm done finished good bye." I continued to try to text hi to get an explanation of why all this happened but he got meaner as I tried to figure everything out. He really hurt me by something personal I told him in confidence (he told me something personal in confidence as wel. I wanted to throw that in his face but decided to not stopp to his levell) so I called him a jerk and told him f you and he continued to blow up on me so I blocked him for the night. We're both 24 years old. He has never been in a serious relationship and I have been in two serious relationships. On lasted almost three years, one lasted four years. Did I do something wrong? I'm very curious to see if he will text me to apologize. I am soooo confused and hope he at least apologizes. Maybe he was drunk or something

also both of our Venus is in leo

Typical virgo male behavior.

Do yourself a favor and walk away...it never ends and usually gets worse. He will never apologize or admit his faults...virgos are quite frankly a pain in the a**. Went through themail exact same thing recently...after him disappearing for the hundredth time I said the hell with it.

Posted by Scorpmoon39
Typical virgo male behavior.

Do yourself a favor and walk away...it never ends and usually gets worse. He will never apologize or admit his faults...virgos are quite frankly a pain in the a**. Went through themail exact same thing recently...after him disappearing for the hundredth time I said the hell with it.

As much as I hate to say this, I am slightly entertained. We went to highschool together so of course all my friends are "omg yay hes such a nice kid hes so quiet and kind" but now I see maybe you really do need to avoid the super quiet ones? Lol I feel bad though I did nothing but apologize that I made him feel personally insulted but I was very nice about the whole thing. I'm just curious to see if he will try to get in touch with me again. I kind of hope so because I feel crappy for making him feel crappy but the whole time I was just asking what is making him feel so crappy

.............2 months is not enough privilege to get demanding with a virgo.... Some ppl just don't answer back and when that happens take it as a no...

This all could have been prevented if you kept it cool.

Always best to get to know the ins and outs first...

It takes me years before I decide if I like someone or I if I'd rather push them off a cliff and collect the insurance money.

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by Scorpmoon39
Typical virgo male behavior.

Do yourself a favor and walk away...it never ends and usually gets worse. He will never apologize or admit his faults...virgos are quite frankly a pain in the a**. Went through themail exact same thing recently...after him disappearing for the hundredth time I said the hell with it.

As much as I hate to say this, I am slightly entertained. We went to highschool together so of course all my friends are "omg yay hes such a nice kid hes so quiet and kind" but now I see maybe you really do need to avoid the super quiet ones? Lol I feel bad though I did nothing but apologize that I made him feel personally insulted but I was very nice about the whole thing. I'm just curious to see if he will try to get in touch with me again. I kind of hope so because I feel crappy for making him feel crappy but the whole time I was just asking what is making him feel so crappy

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He won't...once you insult a virgo man, they shut down. If he does come back around its only to screw with you so he can get his digs in and make you feel crappy about yourself. Games, games, games....all they're about. Selfish and plain evil, most of them.

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.............2 months is not enough privilege to get demanding with a virgo.... Some ppl just don't answer back and when that happens take it as a no...

This all could have been prevented if you kept it cool.

Always best to get to know the ins and outs first...

It takes me years before I decide if I like someone or I if I'd rather push them off a cliff and collect the insurance money.

Lol I'll keep that in mind for next time! I'm very quick deciding whether or not I would like to be with someoneor not. I think I'm just in a rush now because I'm almost 25. Just my personal preference. If I like you hey let me cook dinner for you sometime. 2 months is like 6 months for me. I was just trying to woo him I guess but I feel like he never gave me a chance or tried. I was chill though that was the only time I did not keep my cool but it was because it was not the first time it had happened

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Posted by Scorpmoon39
Typical virgo male behavior.

Do yourself a favor and walk away...it never ends and usually gets worse. He will never apologize or admit his faults...virgos are quite frankly a pain in the a**. Went through themail exact same thing recently...after him disappearing for the hundredth time I said the hell with it.

As much as I hate to say this, I am slightly entertained. We went to highschool together so of course all my friends are "omg yay hes such a nice kid hes so quiet and kind" but now I see maybe you really do need to avoid the super quiet ones? Lol I feel bad though I did nothing but apologize that I made him feel personally insulted but I was very nice about the whole thing. I'm just curious to see if he will try to get in touch with me again. I kind of hope so because I feel crappy for making him feel crappy but the whole time I was just asking what is making him feel so crappy

He won't...once you insult a virgo man, they shut down. If he does come back around its only to screw with you so he can get his digs in and make you feel crappy about yourself. Games, games, games....all they're about. Selfish and plain evil, most of them.

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I'm just hoping he's rational enough to realize I wasn't trying to insult him. Who knows though I kind of wish I got to know him better to know what he is thinking. I can't help how one feels but I cannot validate how one feels

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This is my favorite picture ever lmfaooooooo my best friend actually showed this to me yesterday. Because he is a D*&Khead right? I'm crying laughing omg

Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything

Why should he apologize?

In the beginning he texted too much. That is why I am so confused. I did not consider it too much but as time went on it got less. He was extremeley charming and sweet at first. But he blew me off. That is not cool to me and I am not afraid to speak up about it. I get maybe I didn't give him enough space, I like my space too. But I will not tolerate being ignored. He still sweet talked me the night before. I feel he should apologize for blowing up on me for no reason and being very mean to me for expressing my annoyance of him blowing me off. If that is what I need to learn about a virgo, so be it. But I feel I did nothing wrong. If I deal with a Virgo again, now I know. But he said very mean things to me when all I asked for was a peaceful conversation

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Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything

Why should he apologize?

In the beginning he texted too much. That is why I am so confused. I did not consider it too much but as time went on it got less. He was extremeley charming and sweet at first. But he blew me off. That is not cool to me and I am not afraid to speak up about it. I get maybe I didn't give him enough space, I like my space too. But I will not tolerate being ignored. He still sweet talked me the night before. I feel he should apologize for blowing up on me for no reason and being very mean to me for expressing my annoyance of him blowing me off. If that is what I need to learn about a virgo, so be it. But I feel I did nothing wrong. If I deal with a Virgo again, now I know. But he said very mean things to me when all I asked for was a peaceful conversation

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also the picnic basket thing I didn't mention to him my grammar got out of whack lol he didn't know of any of that

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Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything

Why should he apologize?

In the beginning he texted too much. That is why I am so confused. I did not consider it too much but as time went on it got less. He was extremeley charming and sweet at first. But he blew me off. That is not cool to me and I am not afraid to speak up about it. I get maybe I didn't give him enough space, I like my space too. But I will not tolerate being ignored. He still sweet talked me the night before. I feel he should apologize for blowing up on me for no reason and being very mean to me for expressing my annoyance of him blowing me off. If that is what I need to learn about a virgo, so be it. But I feel I did nothing wrong. If I deal with a Virgo again, now I know. But he said very mean things to me when all I asked for was a peaceful conversation

also the picnic basket thing I didn't mention to him my grammar got out of whack lol he didn't know of any of that

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Although I get he clearly had a reason but I just wanted to know what the reason was. All I asked at that point. He called me some pretty nasty stuff though. He did tell me he wants to make it work but slowly. I understand that but I feel like it's disrespectful if he can't even simply say "no." I thought we were on the same page but if you can't simply text "no" but I see you posting on facebook all day (forgot to mention that) thats not cool!!! could you really disagree with that?

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Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything



Why should he apologize?

It was never a clear sign...she asked for him to let her know in the morning 'yes || no', he never did.

He's disrespectful virgo, plain and simple. He could of had respect to let her know regardless even if he did not want to go.

@libracusp924

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Thank you! We are old enough for that right? I get "he needs lots of space" but a simple "no" would have been sufficient enough. I literally told him "don't ignore me" and he told me "don't be dramatic" and that was when we had just started talking. All we asked each other for was honesty but he got crazy on me calling me every name in the book for announcing my annoyance of being ignored

I wouldn't try to date someone I didn't see potential with. Just very confusing. All "Goodnight beautiful" and "Good morning beautiful wish I woke up next to you" but maybe I am naive. I don't see why he would either because I don't think he got to know me well enough and I think he is crazy, but I do not think I deserved all the things he said to me. But after two months? Someone has got to wonder where it is going. I get I maybe stuck with it for toolong, but he was very hot and cold

Posted by zFlavor
@libracusp924

@leowww

A virgo guy with his head screwed on right want ignore you and want play head games.

It's not about dating anyone...It's about being respectful of the other person. Think about it a few days and it will grow on you.

Thats what I am thinking too. If it was a friend he would have probably let them know "nah not today" but clearly does not see me as a friend either

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Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything



Why should he apologize?

It was never a clear sign...she asked for him to let her know in the morning 'yes || no', he never did.

He's disrespectful virgo, plain and simple. He could of had respect to let her know regardless even if he did not want to go.

@libracusp924

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I thought I had responded to this before but seriously! At that point it's not even a sign thing its just a character thing. I doubt he'd do that to friends or family

Posted by SuperMercurial
Dont spam text virgos when youre upset unless you want them to tell you to go diaf. It might not be fair, but it is what it is. Dont text him again. He might come to you, but you should reconsider dating him because its only been two months, and you're already seeing ways in which you arent compatible.

I guess I'm learning to not text much the hard way. Was just hard for me because I liked him and it was our only form of communication for a while, which he had started. I def do not plan on texting him again. I just feel so used and I'm wondering what I did wrong. That is what brought me here, just confusion. We told each other "dark" things about ourselves and he went and threw it in my face all because I was upset being blown off. Just kind of hurt and confused as to why when the day before he "wished he had woken up next to me." Maybe its more than a "sun sign" thing

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What are your moon signs?

He is gemini I am aries. We are both leo venus

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Posted by libracusp924
I wouldn't try to date someone I didn't see potential with. Just very confusing. All "Goodnight beautiful" and "Good morning beautiful wish I woke up next to you" but maybe I am naive. I don't see why he would either because I don't think he got to know me well enough and I think he is crazy, but I do not think I deserved all the things he said to me. But after two months? Someone has got to wonder where it is going. I get I maybe stuck with it for toolong, but he was very hot and cold

Some people you meet are just good with words. However not with me, many others in life are the case.

While some peoples words are actually meaningful sayings, things and are or will act on them..

Mean what you say and say what you mean. Many people say words and never act upon said words.

Words are deathless prose'.

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I think that is wrong with texting too! People put on a brave front but say things they would never say in person. In texting, one could be suave, sarcastic, or sincere and you would never know. That is why I really wanted time face to face to really get to know him, but I was denied that. Oh well though. I'm actually kind of relieved but I am just super curious now. Very shocked although that will go down as days go on. He even met my parents! Nervously too! I'm just fascinated like I want to help what he is stressed with

It also kind of hurt when he said "I've never dealt with a girl like you and I do not like it" but my response was "That's a damn shame because it means you've never dealt with a girl who has actually cared about you" I know that was kind of mean but it was truthful. He has always been cheated on or "ghosted" by the three flings he has had

Any other takers? Lol it's my day off I am already bored and it is far too hot outside for me

Posted by libracusp924
Any other takers? Lol it's my day off I am already bored and it is far too hot outside for me

the way you worded this, it sounds like you think this is a game ... like you want people to say their pov so you can bat it away in victory.

As if you know what you're doing and in complete control, and what anyone else says you want to prove wrong.

yet, you say you can't fathom your own errors, and so have to ask strangers what you've done wrong.



You're obviously not genuine, and just looking for attention by starting drama ... kudos to him for seeing right through you and sending you to the garbage can.

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Any other takers? Lol it's my day off I am already bored and it is far too hot outside for me

the way you worded this, it sounds like you think this is a game ... like you want people to say their pov so you can bat it away in victory.

As if you know what you're doing and in complete control, and what anyone else says you want to prove wrong.

yet, you say you can't fathom your own errors, and so have to ask strangers what you've done wrong.



You're obviously not genuine, and just looking for attention by starting drama ... kudos to him for seeing right through you and sending you to the garbage can.

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I'm curious to see if I did anything wrong. That's literally the second question I am asking in this title. I've actually agreed with most things people have responded

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Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything

Why should he apologize?

In the beginning he texted too much. That is why I am so confused. I did not consider it too much but as time went on it got less. He was extremeley charming and sweet at first. But he blew me off. That is not cool to me and I am not afraid to speak up about it. I get maybe I didn't give him enough space, I like my space too. But I will not tolerate being ignored. He still sweet talked me the night before. I feel he should apologize for blowing up on me for no reason and being very mean to me for expressing my annoyance of him blowing me off. If that is what I need to learn about a virgo, so be it. But I feel I did nothing wrong. If I deal with a Virgo again, now I know. But he said very mean things to me when all I asked for was a peaceful conversation

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All clear signs of a player.

Most men with ill intent and actually anyone for this matter with misplaced motives will usually come on strong. You have to always ask, "why the sudden, intense desire or interest to know me, be around me, etc.?"

Usually it is a greater reflection of the individual, who just wants another form of entertainment or ego boost.

Have you ever met those peers in school where you think you may have met a new bestie because you hit it off so well, hang out all the time but the next school year comes around and their gone off making new friends?

Well I call those people "filler friends," temporary peers who come around and USE people to fill a void they have in themselves.

This guy is like that. His words were more of an act than anything else because if he really did WANT to wake up next to you, he would. I mean just look at how invested you are! If he wanted you. He could have you but the fact that he isnt moving to make it happen tells you all you need to know.

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Posted by leowww
@libracusp924

You guys aren't dating.

Youre texting way too much, you're not even letting him follow up

I'm all for not playing games but you don't have to chase anybody let it happen naturally...

Him not texting you about the beach was a clear sign that it was no

asking him to text you...probably annoyed him

Preparing a picnic when you don't even know if he wants to go....wasn't the best idea

blaming him for it..you crossed a line there

Virgos need their space, unless he commits to you first. ..never expect anything

Why should he apologize?

In the beginning he texted too much. That is why I am so confused. I did not consider it too much but as time went on it got less. He was extremeley charming and sweet at first. But he blew me off. That is not cool to me and I am not afraid to speak up about it. I get maybe I didn't give him enough space, I like my space too. But I will not tolerate being ignored. He still sweet talked me the night before. I feel he should apologize for blowing up on me for no reason and being very mean to me for expressing my annoyance of him blowing me off. If that is what I need to learn about a virgo, so be it. But I feel I did nothing wrong. If I deal with a Virgo again, now I know. But he said very mean things to me when all I asked for was a peaceful conversation

All clear signs of a player.

Most men with ill intent and actually anyone for this matter with misplaced motives will usually come on strong. You have to always ask, "why the sudden, intense desire or interest to know me, be around me, etc.?"

Usually it is a greater reflection of the individual, who just wants another form of entertainment or ego boost.

Have you ever met those peers in school where you think you may have met a new bestie because you hit it off so well, hang out all the time but the next school year comes around and their gone off making new friends?

Well I call those people "filler friends," temporary peers who come around and USE people to fill a void they have in themselves.

This guy is like that. His words were more of an act than anything else because if he really did WANT to wake up next to you, he would. I mean just look at how invested you are! If he wanted you. He could have you but the fact that he isnt moving to make it happen tells you all you need to know.

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Thank you so much for this new perspective. I guess I am just very new at all of this. I've only had two boyfriends, both were serious and I guess this is all stuff I have just never been through before

I am kinda similar so i understand but I definitely learned from my own experience with a Sagg that no man should be calling you "babe" or any term or endearment, giving grand declarations of love or just generally coming on too strong if you havent been dating long. Those type of men are in it for the conquest and the ego boost. The best way to handle them is by keeping a level head and not allowing yourself to be swept off your feet.

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I am kinda similar so i understand but I definitely learned from my own experience with a Sagg that no man should be calling you "babe" or any term or endearment, giving grand declarations of love or just generally coming on too strong if you havent been dating long. Those type of men are in it for the conquest and the ego boost. The best way to handle them is by keeping a level head and not allowing yourself to be swept off your feet.

It's a rough world out here in the dating world huh? Lol I guess it is just more of a character thing than a sign thing. I should have known, but my curiosity got the best of me. He had dated a girl for a month but she broke up with him we only started talking two weeks later. I knew to tread with caution in the beginning, but again curiosity got the best of me and we had (what I believed to be) honest conversation about how we were going to go about things. Oh well, his loss

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I am kinda similar so i understand but I definitely learned from my own experience with a Sagg that no man should be calling you "babe" or any term or endearment, giving grand declarations of love or just generally coming on too strong if you havent been dating long. Those type of men are in it for the conquest and the ego boost. The best way to handle them is by keeping a level head and not allowing yourself to be swept off your feet.

It's a rough world out here in the dating world huh? Lol I guess it is just more of a character thing than a sign thing. I should have known, but my curiosity got the best of me. He had dated a girl for a month but she broke up with him we only started talking two weeks later. I knew to tread with caution in the beginning, but again curiosity got the best of me and we had (what I believed to be) honest conversation about how we were going to go about things. Oh well, his loss

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Yeahhh I am willing to bet he had a bruised ego after being with her for 1 month and her just giving up on him like that, and so he needed to prove to himself that there was nothing wrong with him by "winning" you over.

But I think the real key here is that you noticed a wane in interest from the first "date," and yet he continued to ask you out? You should of asked yourself why. But you are right his loss. I wouldnt take it as it is something wrong with you, I just dont think he was ever really gonna give you a fair chance.

At least now I see early on that there is something very wrong with him for talking to me the way he did after a simple desire for an explanation for blowing me off.

I think maybe after our first time hanging out, he thought to himself "ok shes hooked not much more effort needed." Clearly he doesn't know about Libra women lol. I do not think he is ready to put much effort into anyone or anything besides work for now. Maybe that will change in time, and as selfish as it is from me, I do hope he someday realizes what he lost and the potential we could have had given I had a fair chance. We have all the same interests, hobbies, and sense of humor. I was gonna teach him some notes on the piano, he was gonna take me skeet shooting. But I guess another one bites the dust

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What is wrong with aries moons. This is painful to read.

We're psycho so stop commenting on my stuff if this is painful to read or I'll snap on you 🙂

Posted by libracusp924
At least now I see early on that there is something very wrong with him for talking to me the way he did after a simple desire for an explanation for blowing me off.

I think maybe after our first time hanging out, he thought to himself "ok shes hooked not much more effort needed." Clearly he doesn't know about Libra women lol. I do not think he is ready to put much effort into anyone or anything besides work for now. Maybe that will change in time, and as selfish as it is from me, I do hope he someday realizes what he lost and the potential we could have had given I had a fair chance. We have all the same interests, hobbies, and sense of humor. I was gonna teach him some notes on the piano, he was gonna take me skeet shooting. But I guess another one bites the dust

Shot this was supposed to be attached to a quote

Posted by SuperMercurial
What is wrong with aries moons. This is painful to read.

Dont blame an aries moon. It's just plain rude to come on strong to someone and act interested if you are not. How hard is it to say what you mean and mean what you say? But I am guessing you subscribe to the ol' hit heavy and dip act lol.

Posted by libracusp924
At least now I see early on that there is something very wrong with him for talking to me the way he did after a simple desire for an explanation for blowing me off.

I think maybe after our first time hanging out, he thought to himself "ok shes hooked not much more effort needed." Clearly he doesn't know about Libra women lol. I do not think he is ready to put much effort into anyone or anything besides work for now. Maybe that will change in time, and as selfish as it is from me, I do hope he someday realizes what he lost and the potential we could have had given I had a fair chance. We have all the same interests, hobbies, and sense of humor. I was gonna teach him some notes on the piano, he was gonna take me skeet shooting. But I guess another one bites the dust

No dont do that to yourself. It is tempting to hope that the guys who do you wrong will someday realize the great "catch" you are but that just leaves your heart connected to them and the situation. Acknowledge this for what it was, him for who he truly is and embrace it as a lesson learned for the future. It sucks to fall for these typs of guys but I promise you next time around, sweet words will be absolute meaningless to you, you'll be all about the action.

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What is wrong with aries moons. This is painful to read.

We're psycho so stop commenting on my stuff if this is painful to read or I'll snap on you 🙂

Haha I love aries moons. I just don't like your assessment on the virgo with leo venus 😭

I want to prove you wrong, but I have to realize this isn't about me lol

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I'm not trying to say anything mean, I'm just stating what has happened. Maybe its just a character thing and not a sign thing. I'm sure you virgos are great! I'm on the cusp so I'm a little virgo myself lol

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What is wrong with aries moons. This is painful to read.

Dont blame an aries moon. It's just plain rude to come on strong to someone and act interested if you are not. How hard is it to say what you mean and mean what you say? But I am guessing you subscribe to the ol' hit heavy and dip act lol.

He has leo venus though. We can't feign interest. We're just super reactionary. No! I dont subscribe!

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Oh idk, never met a Leo Venus but it is still inexcuseable. Aries are impulsive but it doesnt give them an excuse to make rash decisions involving other people's feelings and then later decide "oops, sorry changed my mind...you dont mind right?" Lol

More people, especially guys need to learn when to take some accountability for their shitty behavior.

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Posted by libracusp924
At least now I see early on that there is something very wrong with him for talking to me the way he did after a simple desire for an explanation for blowing me off.

I think maybe after our first time hanging out, he thought to himself "ok shes hooked not much more effort needed." Clearly he doesn't know about Libra women lol. I do not think he is ready to put much effort into anyone or anything besides work for now. Maybe that will change in time, and as selfish as it is from me, I do hope he someday realizes what he lost and the potential we could have had given I had a fair chance. We have all the same interests, hobbies, and sense of humor. I was gonna teach him some notes on the piano, he was gonna take me skeet shooting. But I guess another one bites the dust

No dont do that to yourself. It is tempting to hope that the guys who do you wrong will someday realize the great "catch" you are but that just leaves your heart connected to them and the situation. Acknowledge this for what it was, him for who he truly is and embrace it as a lesson learned for the future. It sucks to fall for these typs of guys but I promise you next time around, sweet words will be absolute meaningless to you, you'll be all about the action.

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Again thank you so much! I usually get trolled hard on these things lol this is the first time people have said anything useful or anything that even resonates with what I had posted. All just lessons which is clearly needed considering how clueless I am

But @supermercurial to be fair, 4 "dates"which seems like it was probably more hanging out and chilling, an exact call for a proper and formal "hey this just isnt gonna work, i wish you the best."

Doesnt seem like a call*

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At least now I see early on that there is something very wrong with him for talking to me the way he did after a simple desire for an explanation for blowing me off.

I think maybe after our first time hanging out, he thought to himself "ok shes hooked not much more effort needed." Clearly he doesn't know about Libra women lol. I do not think he is ready to put much effort into anyone or anything besides work for now. Maybe that will change in time, and as selfish as it is from me, I do hope he someday realizes what he lost and the potential we could have had given I had a fair chance. We have all the same interests, hobbies, and sense of humor. I was gonna teach him some notes on the piano, he was gonna take me skeet shooting. But I guess another one bites the dust

No dont do that to yourself. It is tempting to hope that the guys who do you wrong will someday realize the great "catch" you are but that just leaves your heart connected to them and the situation. Acknowledge this for what it was, him for who he truly is and embrace it as a lesson learned for the future. It sucks to fall for these typs of guys but I promise you next time around, sweet words will be absolute meaningless to you, you'll be all about the action.

Again thank you so much! I usually get trolled hard on these things lol this is the first time people have said anything useful or anything that even resonates with what I had posted. All just lessons which is clearly needed considering how clueless I am

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No problem. If you look at my post in the Aries board you would see how much I have been trolled but meh, whatever this is the internet, no one knows you or what you look like. Come online to get what you need and dip. Who cares what strangers think. Just try to gather useful advise and ignore the unhelpful.

Good luck. 🙂

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But @supermercurial to be fair, 4 "dates"which seems like it was probably more hanging out and chilling, an exact call for a proper and formal "hey this just isnt gonna work, i wish you the best."

Exactly! That is the problem with dating today. The whole "ghosting" thing or "take a hint" is the silliest thing I have ever heard of. Why can't people be direct? It's a lot meaner to just do that instead of being like "hey I don't like you like that" "Hey this is not working"

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Posted by malloryor
But @supermercurial to be fair, 4 "dates"which seems like it was probably more hanging out and chilling, an exact call for a proper and formal "hey this just isnt gonna work, i wish you the best."

Exactly! That is the problem with dating today. The whole "ghosting" thing or "take a hint" is the silliest thing I have ever heard of. Why can't people be direct? It's a lot meaner to just do that instead of being like "hey I don't like you like that" "Hey this is not working"

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Actually about to make a post on this lol

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What is wrong with aries moons. This is painful to read.

Dont blame an aries moon. It's just plain rude to come on strong to someone and act interested if you are not. How hard is it to say what you mean and mean what you say? But I am guessing you subscribe to the ol' hit heavy and dip act lol.

He has leo venus though. We can't feign interest. We're just super reactionary. No! I dont subscribe!

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I do too so maybe just not a good combination, considering I'm super reactionary too. Plus the aries in moon I get intensely annoyed for about 5 minutes then I forget why I was annoyed. Pus being a libra just want to keep things cool. I just pick my battles the best I can and being ignored is never tolerated

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Posted by libracusp924
At least now I see early on that there is something very wrong with him for talking to me the way he did after a simple desire for an explanation for blowing me off.

I think maybe after our first time hanging out, he thought to himself "ok shes hooked not much more effort needed." Clearly he doesn't know about Libra women lol. I do not think he is ready to put much effort into anyone or anything besides work for now. Maybe that will change in time, and as selfish as it is from me, I do hope he someday realizes what he lost and the potential we could have had given I had a fair chance. We have all the same interests, hobbies, and sense of humor. I was gonna teach him some notes on the piano, he was gonna take me skeet shooting. But I guess another one bites the dust

No dont do that to yourself. It is tempting to hope that the guys who do you wrong will someday realize the great "catch" you are but that just leaves your heart connected to them and the situation. Acknowledge this for what it was, him for who he truly is and embrace it as a lesson learned for the future. It sucks to fall for these typs of guys but I promise you next time around, sweet words will be absolute meaningless to you, you'll be all about the action.

Again thank you so much! I usually get trolled hard on these things lol this is the first time people have said anything useful or anything that even resonates with what I had posted. All just lessons which is clearly needed considering how clueless I am

No problem. If you look at my post in the Aries board you would see how much I have been trolled but meh, whatever this is the internet, no one knows you or what you look like. Come online to get what you need and dip. Who cares what strangers think. Just try to gather useful advise and ignore the unhelpful.

Good luck. 🙂

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Exactly what I have learned! and thank you good luck to you as well 🙂

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But @supermercurial to be fair, 4 "dates"which seems like it was probably more hanging out and chilling, an exact call for a proper and formal "hey this just isnt gonna work, i wish you the best."

Exactly! That is the problem with dating today. The whole "ghosting" thing or "take a hint" is the silliest thing I have ever heard of. Why can't people be direct? It's a lot meaner to just do that instead of being like "hey I don't like you like that" "Hey this is not working"

Actually about to make a post on this lol

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Preach it! where are you posting it to? I would love to jump in on this post

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But @supermercurial to be fair, 4 "dates"which seems like it was probably more hanging out and chilling, an exact call for a proper and formal "hey this just isnt gonna work, i wish you the best."

Exactly! That is the problem with dating today. The whole "ghosting" thing or "take a hint" is the silliest thing I have ever heard of. Why can't people be direct? It's a lot meaner to just do that instead of being like "hey I don't like you like that" "Hey this is not working"

Actually about to make a post on this lol

Preach it! where are you posting it to? I would love to jump in on this post

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You should see it now. It is in relationships.

He was probably turned off by you making demands of him after casually dating for only 2 months. It's always better to not be so eager at the start of things. By all means make yourself available but don't chase.

Also those 'dark secrets' you shared with him might have turned him off. 8 weeks is not enough time to trust someone, as proved by him throwing this sensitive information back into your face in the form of insults.

In the beginning he texted too much. That is why I am so confused. I did not consider it too much but as time went on it got less. He was extremeley charming and sweet at first. But he blew me off. That is not cool to me and I am not afraid to speak up about it. I get maybe I didn't give him enough space, I like my space too. But I will not tolerate being ignored. He still sweet talked me the night before. I feel he should apologize for blowing up on me for no reason and being very mean to me for expressing my annoyance of him blowing me off. If that is what I need to learn about a virgo, so be it. But I feel I did nothing wrong. If I deal with a Virgo again, now I know. But he said very mean things to me when all I asked for was a peaceful conversation

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male virgo's will NEVER apologize or admit fault even IF they are fully guilty. it's all about "being in control" for them, no matter who else gets hurt.

Trust me, I've been burned by several male virgo bosses who said one thing, then did another. I've been burned by a life long friend who invited me to an event he was part of, then he ignored me the entire time and refused to respond to my F/U email asking why he did that. That was two years ago and still, crickets.

These are just a few of some of the negative experiences I've had with male virgo's. I'm not saying ALL MALE VIRGOS are bad. I guess it's just one of those things that my personality and loyalty comes into play every time and they can't handle a woman who is strong willed, outgoing and not afraid to tell it like it is. I think they are attracted to that initially, but in the end, it's like kryptonite to them.

Thank God I married a Scorpio!

Honestly libracusp924, you're much better off finding a man whose not into playing games with your heart and can be up front and honest from the get go. I understand where you're coming from in regards to simply wanting a reply to your inquiry about spending time together. There is NOTHING wrong with what you did. I'm sorry but those who say there is are wrong. It's called showing some mutual consideration. That's all you wanted, some consideration.

I too wanted the same but never got it.

Do yourself a favor, move on and leave this insecure boy alone. That's exactly what he wants, to be alone. Can't you understand that? He doesn't want a relationship with you or even a friendship. If he did, he would have responded the first time. Again, it's all about them having ultimate control, which is why they are born insecure manipulators. Any chance that you might see him not in full control and OMG, there will be all hell to pay.

The reason he's sweet talking you is simple. He wants you to respond by inflating his fragile ego. This is a revolving cycle. Get OUT OF IT NOW WHILE YOU CAN!

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He was probably turned off by you making demands of him after casually dating for only 2 months. It's always better to not be so eager at the start of things. By all means make yourself available but don't chase.

Also those 'dark secrets' you shared with him might have turned him off. 8 weeks is not enough time to trust someone, as proved by him throwing this sensitive information back into your face in the form of insults.

Yes I have a lot to learn. I need to find the balance with that, available but do not chase.

He started the "dark secret" thing though and it made me feel like I could trust him too. Oh well

thanks all!