Confused about this virgo man. Did I blow it? Did I do wrong? (Page 2)

Posted by magma
The only thing you did wrong was be too good for your own good. If a guy is into you he treats you right at all times, not just when you are in person, when he anticipates sex. And he'd reciprocate readily and willingly because he'd feel like you did, like he can't get enough. It's OK that he does things on his own, but there is no justification for disrespect and rudeness.

In matters of the heart, when in doubt, don't, because when the right one comes along there won't be any doubt.

Thank you so much. He is just not the guy I thought he was

Posted by SuperMercurial

Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
"He has leo venus though. We can't feign interest. We're just super reactionary."

Lmao just looking at Booms confirms this. I don't envy you lot, and I'm an Aries Venus! Lol

Lol I like to think I'm more clever with my insults. The only person I've been like that towards was the libra I dated because god. damn. I only had to get angry with an aries twice in four years.

click to expand

I'm so curious to hear what this libra did to you

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by LadyNeptune
He was probably turned off by you making demands of him after casually dating for only 2 months. It's always better to not be so eager at the start of things. By all means make yourself available but don't chase.

Also those 'dark secrets' you shared with him might have turned him off. 8 weeks is not enough time to trust someone, as proved by him throwing this sensitive information back into your face in the form of insults.

Yes I have a lot to learn. I need to find the balance with that, available but do not chase.

He started the "dark secret" thing though and it made me feel like I could trust him too. Oh well

click to expand

In a perfect world and with the right man you could spill your very soul to him and he would never leave your side.

Over the years I've learned to hold my cards closer to my chest. People are rarely who they display themselves as.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by LadyNeptune
He was probably turned off by you making demands of him after casually dating for only 2 months. It's always better to not be so eager at the start of things. By all means make yourself available but don't chase.

Also those 'dark secrets' you shared with him might have turned him off. 8 weeks is not enough time to trust someone, as proved by him throwing this sensitive information back into your face in the form of insults.

Yes I have a lot to learn. I need to find the balance with that, available but do not chase.

He started the "dark secret" thing though and it made me feel like I could trust him too. Oh well

In a perfect world and with the right man you could spill your very soul to him and he would never leave your side.

Over the years I've learned to hold my cards closer to my chest. People are rarely who they display themselves as.

click to expand

I guess sometimes we just need to learn the hard way. Just a lesson for when the right one does come around

I've noticed in a lot of threads that guys do not respond well to girls who expect too much too soon. Two months is not long at all. I think that scared him off a bit. Gotta play the "cool chick" until he's madly in love.

What he didn't do wasn't right either. No excuses for him.

He definitely seems confused. I always wonder if there's any other interest in another girl.

Posted by pinkbird03
I've noticed in a lot of threads that guys do not respond well to girls who expect too much too soon. Two months is not long at all. I think that scared him off a bit. Gotta play the "cool chick" until he's madly in love.

What he didn't do wasn't right either. No excuses for him.

He definitely seems confused. I always wonder if there's any other interest in another girl.

Yes i def learned that through this lol. Its just annoying though, like he came on so strong and I liked him so naturally I was like "omg hey lets hang out and talk as much as we did at first" in my head. I guess the hot and cold kind of threw me off and maybe made me naturally more attracted. and he might have been. his ex gf he had dated for 2 months dumped him a month before we had started talking. maybe he is still harboring on that

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by Scorpmoon39

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by Scorpmoon39
Typical virgo male behavior.

Do yourself a favor and walk away...it never ends and usually gets worse. He will never apologize or admit his faults...virgos are quite frankly a pain in the a**. Went through themail exact same thing recently...after him disappearing for the hundredth time I said the hell with it.

As much as I hate to say this, I am slightly entertained. We went to highschool together so of course all my friends are "omg yay hes such a nice kid hes so quiet and kind" but now I see maybe you really do need to avoid the super quiet ones? Lol I feel bad though I did nothing but apologize that I made him feel personally insulted but I was very nice about the whole thing. I'm just curious to see if he will try to get in touch with me again. I kind of hope so because I feel crappy for making him feel crappy but the whole time I was just asking what is making him feel so crappy

He won't...once you insult a virgo man, they shut down. If he does come back around its only to screw with you so he can get his digs in and make you feel crappy about yourself. Games, games, games....all they're about. Selfish and plain evil, most of them.

I'm just hoping he's rational enough to realize I wasn't trying to insult him. Who knows though I kind of wish I got to know him better to know what he is thinking. I can't help how one feels but I cannot validate how one feels

click to expand

You did insult him. He saw your texts about hanging out and he ignored them on purpose. This made him angry.

because you brought it up after the fact that he ignored you.

Now tell us why do you want him again ?

or what has he done to deserve you ?

Posted by libracusp924
It also kind of hurt when he said "I've never dealt with a girl like you and I do not like it" but my response was "That's a damn shame because it means you've never dealt with a girl who has actually cared about you" I know that was kind of mean but it was truthful. He has always been cheated on or "ghosted" by the three flings he has had

Rule number 1. Never fall for the guy who always plays victim.

And you were not mean in saying he never had a girl that cared for him. Just a bit naive.

He has had women care for him...this is how he learned you and how to pull your heart strings.

Posted by happyface1

Posted by libracusp924
It also kind of hurt when he said "I've never dealt with a girl like you and I do not like it" but my response was "That's a damn shame because it means you've never dealt with a girl who has actually cared about you" I know that was kind of mean but it was truthful. He has always been cheated on or "ghosted" by the three flings he has had

Rule number 1. Never fall for the guy who always plays victim.

And you were not mean in saying he never had a girl that cared for him. Just a bit naive.

He has had women care for him...this is how he learned you and how to pull your heart strings.

click to expand

with your first comment:

I know I might have insulted him. But it was not intentional. I tried explaining that I did not intentionally try to insult him. I realize now never go for anyone who plays victim. Especially when they claim I am playing victim. I know i was maybe too clingy, but he was at first. He earned my trust. Now I know to be harder about whom I trust

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by happyface1

Posted by libracusp924
It also kind of hurt when he said "I've never dealt with a girl like you and I do not like it" but my response was "That's a damn shame because it means you've never dealt with a girl who has actually cared about you" I know that was kind of mean but it was truthful. He has always been cheated on or "ghosted" by the three flings he has had

Rule number 1. Never fall for the guy who always plays victim.

And you were not mean in saying he never had a girl that cared for him. Just a bit naive.

He has had women care for him...this is how he learned you and how to pull your heart strings.

with your first comment:

I know I might have insulted him. But it was not intentional. I tried explaining that I did not intentionally try to insult him. I realize now never go for anyone who plays victim. Especially when they claim I am playing victim. I know i was maybe too clingy, but he was at first. He earned my trust. Now I know to be harder about whom I trust

click to expand

good girl...the observations people are giving you can most likely go towards men of any sign.

I honestly think the person you were dealing with was rude and could have just said today is not a good day...let's shoot for a different one.

Virgo or not

Posted by happyface1

Posted by libracusp924

Posted by happyface1

Posted by libracusp924
It also kind of hurt when he said "I've never dealt with a girl like you and I do not like it" but my response was "That's a damn shame because it means you've never dealt with a girl who has actually cared about you" I know that was kind of mean but it was truthful. He has always been cheated on or "ghosted" by the three flings he has had

Rule number 1. Never fall for the guy who always plays victim.

And you were not mean in saying he never had a girl that cared for him. Just a bit naive.

He has had women care for him...this is how he learned you and how to pull your heart strings.

with your first comment:

I know I might have insulted him. But it was not intentional. I tried explaining that I did not intentionally try to insult him. I realize now never go for anyone who plays victim. Especially when they claim I am playing victim. I know i was maybe too clingy, but he was at first. He earned my trust. Now I know to be harder about whom I trust

good girl...the observations people are giving you can most likely go towards men of any sign.

I honestly think the person you were dealing with was rude and could have just said today is not a good day...let's shoot for a different one.

Virgo or not

click to expand

yes I def see now it is not a sign thing just a character thing. now I see why he has never had a serious relationship, I'm sure this is not the first time something like this has happened with him.

I completely agree. Not matter how clingy someone is, a simple "rain check" would have been good enough. plus the fact even the night before he still texted me "good night beautiful" just too hot and cold