Depressed Virguy

Worried about my virguy. I haven't seen him this depressed.. ever. The reasons for it are mostly all things I can't do anything about, and neither can he. (Finances mainly, and still not being over his last breakup, and all the things that go along with that).

He's self isolating, like I've never seen. He's already a loner but seriously. What can I, or any of his friends, do to get him to enjoy life again? Breaks my heart to see him like this.

Posted by Skykomish
Worried about my virguy. I haven't seen him this depressed.. ever. The reasons for it are mostly all things I can't do anything about, and neither can he. (Finances mainly, and still not being over his last breakup, and all the things that go along with that).

He's self isolating, like I've never seen. He's already a loner but seriously. What can I, or any of his friends, do to get him to enjoy life again? Breaks my heart to see him like this.

Break something in your house or apartment and tell him you need help! 🙂 Seriously...that will take his mind off things, and while he is fixing, he may vent. There really is nothing you can do directly, he's in self analyze mode, working things out and figuring out a path. Let him do that. (but really, if you need something fixed give him a call) It's not going to make him come around completely, but he may feel better knowing he can help. Patience...

Thanks LIB 🙂 I love the fact that you're a scorpio too lol. That helps 🙂 So.. I couldn't help myself, I wrote him a letter (before you replied) and said.. I miss him, he hasn't been himself lately, and it makes me sad to know he's so sad.. and if its me, that's making him this way, that his happiness is more important to me than.. well, whatever we are.. and I'm here for him if theres anything I can do all he needs is to say so. And that I wrote it down because then he can decide when he's ready to talk about it, instead of just asking and putting him to where he has to answer right then.

Was that okay? I don't want to make things worse.

Mr Defense, that wasn't what I was asking, was it? Regardless of what we are additionally, he is one of my best friends and I dont like seeing him hurting.

Posted by virg_goki
LIB you've been around virgos for too long.. Go dig out the dirt on other signs! Pfft! jk

😛

Posted by Skykomish
Thanks LIB 🙂 I love the fact that you're a scorpio too lol. That helps 🙂 So.. I couldn't help myself, I wrote him a letter (before you replied) and said.. I miss him, he hasn't been himself lately, and it makes me sad to know he's so sad.. and if its me, that's making him this way, that his happiness is more important to me than.. well, whatever we are.. and I'm here for him if theres anything I can do all he needs is to say so. And that I wrote it down because then he can decide when he's ready to talk about it, instead of just asking and putting him to where he has to answer right then.

Was that okay? I don't want to make things worse.

I wouldn't have done that, but you didn't add pressure to his plate that much. (asking if it's you was not necessary since you already know what the problem is) You let him know you are there, he obviously knows you care about him, leave him to his strategies now. Let him come to you.