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Does my virgo really not love me anymore?
After I said that I would need time before I could even think about the friend route, she got upset. I told her that I would not contact her while I got my things in order and she made a big deal in saying goodbye. I asked her why she was making the goodbye so long (jokingly) and she responded with `Because you basically said that we can never talk to each other again`. I explained that I still love her so while I am trying to respect her decision to break up, I cannot just become friends immediately like nothing happened... She has not tried to contact me since I told her that I needed space.
How long is a good amount of time to wait before trying to reach out to her? Like I said before, I want to be with her romantically but she said that she doesn`t date people who she is not in love with.... Please help...
How long is a good amount of time to wait before trying to reach out to her? Like I said before, I want to be with her romantically but she said that she doesn`t date people who she is not in love with.... Please help...
Don't reach out to her. It might be a tough pill to swallow, but you can't be friends with an ex. She got pissed that you didn't want to stay friends because she wants to fool around with other people while still having you in her life. This will prevent you from moving on, which is what you need to do. Cut out all communication with her, concentrate on your new job, and give yourself time to get over her. It will be difficult, but you need to do it for yourself.
FWIW, I've never in my life been able to rekindle a flame. Once it's out, it's out for me. And believe me, I've tried!
I asked her if there was something going on and she said that she didn`t feel like talking to me right now so I gave her space....
There's something not being said here. Everything was fine, then she went cold for 2 weeks? That's not a usual Virgo trait, if we go cold then there's a reason. Something made her see you in a different, not so positive way.
One more thing, nothing will kill a Virgos attraction to you faster then silence. We are mental people communication is huge. We need mental stimulation from afar or the doubt will east us.
I 100% agree with this, too.
I asked her if there was something going on and she said that she didn`t feel like talking to me right now so I gave her space....
There's something not being said here. Everything was fine, then she went cold for 2 weeks? That's not a usual Virgo trait, if we go cold then there's a reason. Something made her see you in a different, not so positive way.
One more thing, nothing will kill a Virgos attraction to you faster then silence. We are mental people communication is huge. We need mental stimulation from afar or the doubt will east us.
I 100% agree with this, too.
Posted by greylaternI always responded as quickly as possible and tried asking her about her day and how she was doing (albeit sometimes hours after if I was doing training or in a meeting). I made sure to let her know I would make time for her if she became free as well since I wanted to be with her too but she didn't seem interested/was too busy spending time with her friends/family before going back to her school routine. When she finally started talking to me again after two weeks I did tell her that I was upset about it but I tried not to let things ruin the times we were able to message each other since I love her.
Something is missing. how did you talk to her and respond to her before you started the job? Did you engae her mentally what emotions were you broadcasting when you spoke to her.
Some people are a lot more sensitive then you think. If she is a virgo with some sensitivity placements she can read your emotions even over the phone like a book but only picking up the top layer which I'm guessing wasn't too nice. She may have been on a emotional rollercoaster ride with you. She is reading your emotions and your dismissive responses and it is making her doubt herself and her feelings in you. You have been too busy to realize how much it was effecting her. Then she told you waht was bothering her what were you feeling at the time? did you sound dismissve? Be honest did you sound irritated when she called you at work or interrupted something important?
it will take work to change her mind. Are you willing to put the time and effort? Especially female Virgos they are a hell of a lot more sensitive then people realize when you crack them open.
One more thing, nothing will kill a Virgos attraction to you faster then silence. We are mental people communication is huge. We need mental stimulation from afar or the doubt will east us.
She really only said there was a problem when she said she didn't love me anymore, I asked her if we could talk about it but she said she didn't want to put effort when she didn't even love me. I made sure not to get angry or yell but it honestly broke my heart. She didn't once call me until she broke up either, even though I always asked if we could chat or do something together.
I love her so much and there are few things I wouldn't do for her happiness, but being friends hurts and I don't think I could handle her falling in love with someone else any time soon. It doesn't help that she was adamant about not trying again, only friendship... she has a history of staying friends with all her exes and that gives me little hope of her looking my way again
Posted by csdude55The most I was able to get from her was "sometimes I get in a mood where I don't feel like talking to certain people and unfortunately this time it's you" Even just the day before she went silent we were doing well and interacting like normal. I was never able to get more of an explanation and believe me I tried asking at different times.
FWIW, I've never in my life been able to rekindle a flame. Once it's out, it's out for me. And believe me, I've tried!
I asked her if there was something going on and she said that she didn`t feel like talking to me right now so I gave her space....
There's something not being said here. Everything was fine, then she went cold for 2 weeks? That's not a usual Virgo trait, if we go cold then there's a reason. Something made her see you in a different, not so positive way.
One more thing, nothing will kill a Virgos attraction to you faster then silence. We are mental people communication is huge. We need mental stimulation from afar or the doubt will east us.
I 100% agree with this, too.
Posted by sierraleooneI see... for situations like that it's not considered good to keep hope, is it?
i think that maybe she just doesn't see things working out with how you both never seem to have the time
it seemed only practical and maybe less heartbreaking in her mind to cut things off before it goes any further
Posted by BiboroonFool around... that would honestly shatter me...
Don't reach out to her. It might be a tough pill to swallow, but you can't be friends with an ex. She got pissed that you didn't want to stay friends because she wants to fool around with other people while still having you in her life. This will prevent you from moving on, which is what you need to do. Cut out all communication with her, concentrate on your new job, and give yourself time to get over her. It will be difficult, but you need to do it for yourself.
Posted by ImpulsvShe's never been too selfish about things concerning feelings before so I can't help but feel some form of hope, but I don't know if that hope is just because I want to see it or if there's actually something there...Posted by utaShe sounds selfish
I am a scorpio woman and I was in a wonderful loving relationship with my virgo girlfriend for almost one year when she suddenly stopped talking to me for two weeks. She would respond to my good morning and good night messages but she didn`t ask to hang out or talk on the phone like before, and when I mentioned hanging out she would always say she was busy. I asked her if there was something going on and she said that she didn`t feel like talking to me right now so I gave her space....
After two weeks she said that everything was okay and we could talk like normal, but it was when I started working for a new company so I had less free time, I explained to her that I would be very busy in the beginning with training and work but that I would love to talk any time that we are both free, and I would only be busy in the beginning. She didn`t message me very often again but I thought she was just letting me get used to my new workplace.
On her birthday she told me she loved me and how much she wanted to be with me for many years and I agreed.... then two days later she called me on my day off and told me that she wanted to break up because she does not love me anymore. I asked her if this was something we could work out together to make better but she said she didn`t want to try. She didn`t want to date someone she doesn`t love anymore and she wouldn`t change her mind.
I asked her when she stopped loving me and if it was something specific, she said that she realized a few days before and that she stopped loving me because she didn`t like that I wasn`t talking with her like normal (even though I mentioned many times about my new company...)
She said that I was a wonderful partner and a great friend so she wanted to stay friends but I told her I would need time before I would be okay with being just friends...
I still love my virgo very much but does one really stop loving so quickly? Is there any way to work things out? Or should I just give up? I really don`t want to give up but I do not want my virgo to hate me....
My way or the highway
When n how I want
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Not sure if this can give a little insight on her:
Sun Virgo
Moon Sagittarius
Rising Scorpio
Sun Virgo
Moon Sagittarius
Rising Scorpio
Posted by FknNerdI see... Thank you for your input. I wish we could have discussed it before she just decided for us, though I doubt that would have changed anything if the problem was distance.
There was too much distance between you both. Virgos need someone theyre with to be in front of them.
The fooling around comment is not how we are. If she wanted to fool around, she could have easily done so without breaking up with you lol. To me, by what she said, it doesnt sound like there's anyone else. Just not enough physical contact.
If she remains friends with her exes then break ups hit her hard. She probably just wants to distance herself emotionally because of something that happened that made her upset like the lack of physical contact that makes her worry about what youre really doing.
Can you tell me more about the staying friends with ex thing? Usually when I take a break up badly then I try to distance myself from the person I was with, could you explain your reasoning?
With a virgo if we truly love you will always care about (though not necessary always love you)
The ability to love someone so strong to the point where it is too much pain... to cut of the person from your life (something virgo are known to do well)...you can also cut off any feeling associated with that person
so yes, a virgo given the circumstance can cut of love that fast . doesn't mean it wasn't real . We just reached our limit.
based on her response yes, she succeeded in cutting her love to you . if she communicates with you still , she at least cares about you a little. or she would've cut contact with you as well
The ability to love someone so strong to the point where it is too much pain... to cut of the person from your life (something virgo are known to do well)...you can also cut off any feeling associated with that person
so yes, a virgo given the circumstance can cut of love that fast . doesn't mean it wasn't real . We just reached our limit.
based on her response yes, she succeeded in cutting her love to you . if she communicates with you still , she at least cares about you a little. or she would've cut contact with you as well
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