masomenos
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Does this Virgo man want to be my friend or lover?
Well if he asked you out on a date, I'm sure that means he want to date* you.
*walks over to Aries board.*
*walks over to Aries board.*
Ask him about the date?
thanks for your comments.
the trouble is, i am too shy to ask him directly. is there anyway of knowing how he feels without asking him? do virgo men often do this? i thought they were quite good at communicating?
the trouble is, i am too shy to ask him directly. is there anyway of knowing how he feels without asking him? do virgo men often do this? i thought they were quite good at communicating?
Patience is essential with a Virgo.
So is confidence, if you are too shy to discuss your feelings or tell him how you feel, things will definitely go no where.
Just be patient and remind him that you were/are looking forward to the date.
What's your sign?
Pisces, Scorpio?
So is confidence, if you are too shy to discuss your feelings or tell him how you feel, things will definitely go no where.
Just be patient and remind him that you were/are looking forward to the date.
What's your sign?
Pisces, Scorpio?
Gosh, that'll be hard for me. But I'll give it a shot!
I'm a Scorpio/Libra cuspie! Good guessing.
I'm a Scorpio/Libra cuspie! Good guessing.
Posted by masomenos
Gosh, that'll be hard for me. But I'll give it a shot!
I'm a Scorpio/Libra cuspie! Good guessing.
Your talk of shy-ness was a give away.
Your lack of patience is also a give away, for the Scorpio vote.
Patience is key babygirl.
Posted by Kaleidescorp44
Ok, Caj. Shyness I'll give you. However, for a scorp, I'm extremely patient. >:-|
Haha, seems like you have lost patience with me 😉
Posted by Kaleidescorp44
I want an edit feature!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please DXP gods, can you please add an edit button————?
In the post above, remove the "a" in "pigeon-holing us a scorps"
lol...it's okay!
we will pretend that post is not there friend 😉
so good to see you here!!! i was wondering about you and your life and may i say dear kaleidescorp you really are an awesome scorpio representative. you and aqua---something something scorpio have been making me really evaluate my choices this year and i think next time i date an scorpio, it will have to be a mature one.
i am done with dating inmature girls in general (although i seem to have a magnet) BUT i will keep my eye on mature scorpios for the near future hehe.
meanwhile, i'm being chased by 3 aries...believe it or not..and my ex scorpio and i are trying to be friends now. we will see. scorpio number 2 wants to move near my city eh so we need to have a talk about that. i have more than verified that scorpio number 1, although lovely, is too immature for me to date her right now, but i'm keeping my eye on her, lol, maybe 3 years from now we can have real talks and stuff.
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back to the poster. send this guy a casual message...try to chit chat, don't mention the date plans if you are not ready but defenitely make some contact...if after talking for a while he doesn't mentions it, mention something casual that you would like to do. sometimes, we need time, as cajun mentioned...or sometimes we need a little push because we can get lost in our thoughts and/or question others just like you do.
Posted by Kaleidescorp44
LOL - nah, that's just my mean face at you for always pigeon-holing us a scorps. I have to remind myself you are generally dealing with the younger scorps though. Ewwwwwww. I wouldn't want to deal with the younger scorps as a potential love interest. We are bad (and not in a good way) when we are young. When we mature, we're still bad, but in a good way. 😉
Heeheehee
Why don't you just lay back on my couch here and let my hands soothe you....
Nice pic Cajun, green is your color! 🙂
Posted by seavixen2Posted by Kaleidescorp44Posted by CajunspiritPosted by Kaleidescorp44
Ok, Caj. Shyness I'll give you. However, for a scorp, I'm extremely patient. >:-|
Haha, seems like you have lost patience with me 😉
LOL - nah, that's just my mean face at you for always pigeon-holing us a scorps. I have to remind myself you are generally dealing with the younger scorps though. Ewwwwwww. I wouldn't want to deal with the younger scorps as a potential love interest. We are bad (and not in a good way) when we are young. When we mature, we're still bad, but in a good way. 😉
the temperature in here just rose about 20 degrees!click to expand
haha...mature scorpio ladies...hmm, the next frontier! 😉
truthseeker_10 thank you, that is great advice! i should just talk to him casually anyway and see if the date plans come up again in conversation.
Posted by GeorgiaPeach
Nice pic Cajun, green is your color! 🙂
It's weird how good it looks on me 😛
I still love my bright reds though!
Posted by masomenos
truthseeker_10 thank you, that is great advice! i should just talk to him casually anyway and see if the date plans come up again in conversation.
yes. talk to him casually...make him laugh and then things will feel easier for both of you, for either him to bring it up (ideally) or for you to bring it up if you want to take that chance.
if he is a virgo though, he has thought about it, especially if "he" asked you. he might be hesitant now for whatever reason (that could be outside of you and his connection with you) or busy. casual talk always help...you will sense his reactions then to see where he stands. good luck!
HELP. I took your advice and got in touch with him about the date yesterday and he's just replied. He's now said the event he wants us to go to is tomorrow (it's a gig).
If I go will it look like I have nothing better to do?! I'm supposed to be having a birthday dinner with my family but if I blow him off this time god knows how long it'll take for him to make another move again. And he might perceive it as something i made up to get out of going.
Also! And this is the tough part. He said, and I quote, "i'm going to go, come, bring a friend, why not or whatever". Bring a friend? So that's like not a date, then. Or could this be because the last time I asked him to do something I said my friend was coming too. Does he think this is just how we roll? Always bring other people with us everywhere?
Should I go or not?
Reasons to go: 1) it'll take him ages to make a move again and i'm impatient, 2) if i don't go he'll take it badly, 3) i really want to hang out with him again!
Reasons not to go: 1) family dinner, 2) short notice, 3) this whole 'bring a friend' thing has thrown me.
That's equal footing. Please help! Need to make a decision tonight!
If I go will it look like I have nothing better to do?! I'm supposed to be having a birthday dinner with my family but if I blow him off this time god knows how long it'll take for him to make another move again. And he might perceive it as something i made up to get out of going.
Also! And this is the tough part. He said, and I quote, "i'm going to go, come, bring a friend, why not or whatever". Bring a friend? So that's like not a date, then. Or could this be because the last time I asked him to do something I said my friend was coming too. Does he think this is just how we roll? Always bring other people with us everywhere?
Should I go or not?
Reasons to go: 1) it'll take him ages to make a move again and i'm impatient, 2) if i don't go he'll take it badly, 3) i really want to hang out with him again!
Reasons not to go: 1) family dinner, 2) short notice, 3) this whole 'bring a friend' thing has thrown me.
That's equal footing. Please help! Need to make a decision tonight!
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by GeorgiaPeach
Nice pic Cajun, green is your color! 🙂
It's weird how good it looks on me 😛
I still love my bright reds though!click to expand
I LOOOOOVE bright red. I always wondered why; I always found it funny that sites say brown and blue are virgo colors... personally I just love red.
You could say you've got plans until X:00, but if he can pick you up after that, or meet you, then you accept.
thanks for the advice sandyclaws, i have done just that. have said i'm doing something but will leave early to come and see him. good compromise.
clearly, i'm incapable of making a decision on my own. ugh. didn't used to be like this.
what do you think about the whole 'bring a friend' thing? did he really mean that? do virgos see stuff like this as date situations or will he see it as friends meeting up? we're not particularly close but always got on well. i've known him since october last year, by the way.
clearly, i'm incapable of making a decision on my own. ugh. didn't used to be like this.
what do you think about the whole 'bring a friend' thing? did he really mean that? do virgos see stuff like this as date situations or will he see it as friends meeting up? we're not particularly close but always got on well. i've known him since october last year, by the way.
Posted by masomenos
thanks for the advice sandyclaws, i have done just that. have said i'm doing something but will leave early to come and see him. good compromise.
clearly, i'm incapable of making a decision on my own. ugh. didn't used to be like this.
what do you think about the whole 'bring a friend' thing? did he really mean that? do virgos see stuff like this as date situations or will he see it as friends meeting up? we're not particularly close but always got on well. i've known him since october last year, by the way.
My virguy friend used to say things like that when he first started asking me to go see his friend's band play. It wasn't like he was asking me on a date, so that makes sense. But it was pretty obvious he was anxious about if I would show up or not, and his friends told me he was more 'concerned' than he let on. But the more we started hanging out, the more he seemed to loosen up and not play it as casual. I think he wanted to see if I was 'presentable' out with his friends, or would turn into a stalker like this other gal he knows. Now there's none of that 'weirdness', just hey come over or I'm going to the club are you. And no fussing about who pays for what, etc. like there used to be.
So maybe it's something virgos do, friend or otherwise, to test the waters. Maybe your friend wants a chance to see you socially without pressure. If you brought a friend, it would be less romantic, so less anxiety. Also, if you didn't bring a friend, it would be a clue about your intentions too.
Of course I'm a sneaky sideways crab, so that's my interpretation and possible actions. I like tossing out options not only to give the other person wiggle room, but to have clues to sort out based on their choices 😉
masomenos ...... you are putting all this excessive emotional energy into something he probably cared about for the whole thirty seconds it took him to ask it.
Seriously ... you are putting way, fuck w-a-y too much thought and over analyzation into what is virtually nothing.
It is reasons like this why men hestitate to even talk to females, you know ... because the moment they even look in a girls direction she automatically attaches tremendous emotions to it, to him.
You need to just relax and let it be ... whatever it is that its suppose to be ... let it fall into place naturally without all this worry and trying to figure out how to make it happen.
Seriously ... you are putting way, fuck w-a-y too much thought and over analyzation into what is virtually nothing.
It is reasons like this why men hestitate to even talk to females, you know ... because the moment they even look in a girls direction she automatically attaches tremendous emotions to it, to him.
You need to just relax and let it be ... whatever it is that its suppose to be ... let it fall into place naturally without all this worry and trying to figure out how to make it happen.
so it went really well, in case anyone was wondering! he was late but we had a great time and spent a long time chatting afterwards. even arranged to do something else.
sandyclaws: that makes a lot of sense, thanks! i, too, think he was testing the waters. of course, i didn't bring anyone and made a point of saying that i didn't want anyone else to come to make it clear to him that i wanted to spend time with just him.
p-angel: ah yes, that is very true! it's odd because i had been quite calm about this situation but in the last few days i got very het up about it and started panicking! you're right, i definitely need to relax and just let it be. thanks.
sandyclaws: that makes a lot of sense, thanks! i, too, think he was testing the waters. of course, i didn't bring anyone and made a point of saying that i didn't want anyone else to come to make it clear to him that i wanted to spend time with just him.
p-angel: ah yes, that is very true! it's odd because i had been quite calm about this situation but in the last few days i got very het up about it and started panicking! you're right, i definitely need to relax and just let it be. thanks.
Posted by masomenos
so it went really well, in case anyone was wondering! he was late but we had a great time and spent a long time chatting afterwards. even arranged to do something else.
sandyclaws: that makes a lot of sense, thanks! i, too, think he was testing the waters. of course, i didn't bring anyone and made a point of saying that i didn't want anyone else to come to make it clear to him that i wanted to spend time with just him.
p-angel: ah yes, that is very true! it's odd because i had been quite calm about this situation but in the last few days i got very het up about it and started panicking! you're right, i definitely need to relax and just let it be. thanks.
hey,
sorry to be a bit later for this, but very glad to know things went well.
i have a friend here (kaledioscorp) who helped me a lot during certain questions i had with my ex scorpio, so i want to be here for you too when i can, to at least give you my 2 cents k.
all i can say for now is this...
i am glad that you went. don't overanalyze the "bring a friend" statement with a virgo. IF a virgo invites you to events, regardless of the way the virgo say things (unless you are an ex and thus it could be a cordial thing) at least in my experience with my own life and other virgo friends, it means they "like" you at the very least...as friends or possibly more.
we are very complex, although we appear to be simple, when it comes to love.
but if you are invited, that is a good thing (unless like i said, you are an ex we are trying to be cordial with or want a bunch of people and we don't have any beef with you).
he probably wanted to see, if you were strong enough and chill enough to come up with a friend or not and keep it casual and simple...and have fun.
if you did...that's a plus.
i personally, don't like girls that are displaying drama right away...it is more understandable if they show it when they love me, if we are in a realtionship or something, but if we are not...and i am still in the "getting to know you" stage, then i like to keep it simple, real, and fun...so maybe he thinks something like that too.
i have virgo guy buddies and have also gone on dates with virgo girls (one of them is a good friend of mine now) and i have seen the way they operate towards relationships...and yes we observe, take our time, but once we are in, we are in.
also, remember, that
wow, truthseeker, that is so kind of you, thank you! i'd appreciate your help as i've not had many virgos in my life before, if any, and they are very different to most other people i know.
it was definitely casual and fun, probably because we've been friends for a few months now. but i do still feel we're in the getting-to-know-you stage. this is the first time we've spent time together alone with no one else we know around.
couple of things i wanted to ask about: he was quite skittish and fidgetty the whole time and was always talking with his hands, playing with the buttons on his jacket or ruffling his hair. he seemed kind of awkward and unsure of himself at times. what's that all about?
also, as we had just exchanged numbers and were going our separate ways at the end of the night we were talking about something (annoyingly, i've forgotten once) and he said 'you're not all that, you know!' i laughed and then he said 'you're not that amazing!' he seemed to be joking as he was smiling as he said it but it threw me completely! having been the picture of politeness towards me all evening it struck me as odd. is this just his sense of humour or is he telling me (very directly, hehe!) that he doesn't like me?
(sorry, p_angel: over-analysing again!)
it was definitely casual and fun, probably because we've been friends for a few months now. but i do still feel we're in the getting-to-know-you stage. this is the first time we've spent time together alone with no one else we know around.
couple of things i wanted to ask about: he was quite skittish and fidgetty the whole time and was always talking with his hands, playing with the buttons on his jacket or ruffling his hair. he seemed kind of awkward and unsure of himself at times. what's that all about?
also, as we had just exchanged numbers and were going our separate ways at the end of the night we were talking about something (annoyingly, i've forgotten once) and he said 'you're not all that, you know!' i laughed and then he said 'you're not that amazing!' he seemed to be joking as he was smiling as he said it but it threw me completely! having been the picture of politeness towards me all evening it struck me as odd. is this just his sense of humour or is he telling me (very directly, hehe!) that he doesn't like me?
(sorry, p_angel: over-analysing again!)
Posted by masomenos
wow, truthseeker, that is so kind of you, thank you! i'd appreciate your help as i've not had many virgos in my life before, if any, and they are very different to most other people i know.
it was definitely casual and fun, probably because we've been friends for a few months now. but i do still feel we're in the getting-to-know-you stage. this is the first time we've spent time together alone with no one else we know around.
couple of things i wanted to ask about: he was quite skittish and fidgetty the whole time and was always talking with his hands, playing with the buttons on his jacket or ruffling his hair. he seemed kind of awkward and unsure of himself at times. what's that all about?
also, as we had just exchanged numbers and were going our separate ways at the end of the night we were talking about something (annoyingly, i've forgotten once) and he said 'you're not all that, you know!' i laughed and then he said 'you're not that amazing!' he seemed to be joking as he was smiling as he said it but it threw me completely! having been the picture of politeness towards me all evening it struck me as odd. is this just his sense of humour or is he telling me (very directly, hehe!) that he doesn't like me?
(sorry, p_angel: over-analysing again!)
no problem!
in response to your questions.
if he was playing around with his hands...he might have been nervous/ansy. he might like you, but in order to know, check out if he acts the same way around other people, like his good friends...i would say he was nervous though.
as far as the jokes towards the end, my bet is that he was joking/flirting.
i don't know any virgos yet who during the process of 'getting to know' someone would say things that are rude or mean...so he would never said that unless he was joking (i am almost positive and would be surprised if that is the case). we tend to joke around with sarcasm...and that is usually thrown towards people that we know can take it and handled it...and more so and in stronger ways at the beginning to people we like....to make them laugh...kinda odd i know, but we wouldn't spend those silly jokes unless we liked seeing you smiling...at least that is how i am.
since i am not the bold type, then i just become very witty with words...when i am trying to interact with someone who i enjoy or like.
stay connected with him, but don't act ne
dy or clingy, consistency is the way.
connect with him mentally first. we don't like the average person....we like people who can take us to deeper levels whereas mentally or emotionally...or both.
at the same time though, evaluate as you get to know him better as a potential special someone...if he is relationship material, because although virgos and scorpios do have a special connection and can be an amazing couple, where each person is in their lives with respect to readiness of commitment of expectations...or maturiy levels for good relationships...plays an important role, so don't forget that is important too. keep the big picture in mind, as you discern the details.
all the best!
connect with him mentally first. we don't like the average person....we like people who can take us to deeper levels whereas mentally or emotionally...or both.
at the same time though, evaluate as you get to know him better as a potential special someone...if he is relationship material, because although virgos and scorpios do have a special connection and can be an amazing couple, where each person is in their lives with respect to readiness of commitment of expectations...or maturiy levels for good relationships...plays an important role, so don't forget that is important too. keep the big picture in mind, as you discern the details.
all the best!
well sounds good so far the whole bring a friend was a test to see how much u like him. A women who really likes a guys is going to say no which u did so past. U have to remmeber ur dating a virgo guy so normal dating style s don't work on us like other sign guys. One style like playing hard to get we jugde ur action when know some one and playing hard to get confuse us... playing hard to get is one fast ticket to slow vill lol. So what ever ur feeling u should say but in a nice way never blow up. Unless its really really need it. Oh he was just teasing u about ur not so great we do that. But what he is saying in virgo talk lol is that your great and amazing.
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