Dont know what went wrong

Posted by Ritaleona
but this time hes being too hard on me

He's being too hard on you? Seriously?

Serious advice: Leave this man and check your insecurities if you want to attempt partnership with anyone else again.

Not sarcastic, it is going to keep causing you grief to act like that.

What the fuck is wrong with you?

READ what you wrote, you illiterate child. I feel so bad for him. Leave him alone. He's responding PERFECTLY to your nonsense. Kudos to him for ditching a crazy bitch who shouldn't be dating to begin with.

Yes second chances, third chances, forth chances....
No advice for you other then leave him be
you crossed a boundry that you knew was there and now pay that consequence. Learn from your mistakes.

you sabatoge your own relationship no one here needs to tell you what you already know. In no way shape of form past relationships need to be brought up especially frequently. You were obsessed with his past you needed him to feed your ego and tell you that you are better than anyone he ever dated. The sad part is you're not even aware that you were because those women are long gone and you had him. Lesson learned for you.

Oh yeah give him space and if he gives you one more chance stop making the same mistakes!

Posted by Rambunctious76
What kind of a person values chemistry OVER loyalty in a relationship??Really?what kind of person??

Ram....u'd be surprised to find out how many actually do because some feel one has an direct impact on the other....i.e., intense strong chemistry have been known to cause others to be loyal in their relationships because they value chemistry above all. I was just reading about this on another relationship debate forum about a week ago....I think it was a relationship debate on which is better "chemistry" vs. "compatibility", and some threw loyalty in their argument/stance. It was an interesting topic to say the least. I enjoyed the takes on both sides of the fence actually.

Posted by SingASong41
Please tell me this a joke, and that you're a troll, and we're all gonna have a good laugh about this because this thread is just too ridiculous.

You sound crazy. Definitely too insecure to be in a relationship. Why would you tell him things you don't mean? As a test? Sweetie, we don't do tests.

Also, you have NO respect for his privacy. I'm surprised he's been so patient with you. You're always forcing him to talk about things he doesn't want to and acting differently than how he feels. Like come on.

Leave the poor guy alone and focus on yourself. Build your self confidence, self esteem, and self love.

^^^THIS +1! If we get to a point where we "verbally" state we're going to block you.....please do urself a favor and back away very carefully & w/out disrupting the rest of the classroom...Lol! At this point, only WE are the ultimate decision makers that decide if we'll continue to deal with u or not any further. Nothing u say or do is gonna change it....sorry dear!

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Posted by Rambunctious76
What kind of a person values chemistry OVER loyalty in a relationship??Really?what kind of person??

Ram....u'd be surprised to find out how many actually do because some feel one has an direct impact on the other....i.e., intense strong chemistry have been known to cause others to be loyal in their relationships because they value chemistry above all. I was just reading about this on another relationship debate forum about a week ago....I think it was a relationship debate on which is better "chemistry" vs. "compatibility", and some threw loyalty in their argument/stance. It was an interesting topic to say the least. I enjoyed the takes on both sides of the fence actually.

Do people ever really know what loyalty means though? Too many think it involves just hanging about.

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Hey Tiz dear....always a pleasure seeing u! 🙂......

You and I both are very well aware that term "loyalty" is like opening up another can of worms altogether...LOL! Usually when I read stuff like what I stated above regarding "loyalty" I always think "surface-type and in-general" because it's another one of those terms when used in speaking about relationships is just "thrown" around haphazardly! LOL!

Thank you everyone for the replies. Its truly a lesson learnt!.. 😢

Posted by Vanish
If he had intense chemistry with her, he probably wouldnt have let go so easily. He didnt let go of his ex for a long time after she split it sounds like, yet he dropped her like everything between them meant nothing.

Because she came off as crazy as fuck.

You cannot have anything stable if one partner is INSANELY insecure. I just watched something similar happen between two friends. She was insanely insecure. He saw the signs from the beginning but chose to ignore them. It never got better, just worse. So instead of cutting ties in the beginning with someone who had some serious issues that needed resolving, now he's dealing with a messy divorce.

You can't really fault the guy for taking off after the ridiculous displays of mental instability that she showed. That would make ANYONE run.

He dropped her because she proved that she wasn't worth keeping due to her atrocious behavior. She needs to keep that in consideration and use what she learned from this to better improve herself for future relationships.

Posted by Vanish
It wouldnt make me run and hasnt. I'd take it on and help them work through it especially if I told someone what he told her. I mean what I say about loyalty. That's why Tauruses always want to hit this.

White knighting is a whole other section of issues. I wouldn't brag about it. It's not a good trait to have.

eps posting and deleting her original post. Here's her post from two weeks ago....

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Posted by Ritaleona

Anyway I m a leo engaged to this virgo guy who is very patient, loving caring but has his mood swings which i have managed to adjust with in the past 2 years.

he is so not happy with anything, all the time when i try to talk about us and our marriage he seems distant!

he starts confusing me, he says he can never be happy with anything and that its his nature and hes cursed!

Also he is very negative, he stays quiet and half the time its me who initiates a conversation and he only contributes to a goodbye,

I wanna know whats up with this secretive guy!

The question is....what the hell is the matter with you that agreed to marry him?
Are you so desperate you need to settle? Who agrees to marry someone they don't know—?

Let me clue you in on something. I'd venture to say he only put a ring on your finger to get you off his back. It DOES NOT mean you are going to marry him. Judging by his behavior, he wants nothing to do with marriage. He also sounds like he's doing everything in his power to get you to walk and you haven't caught onto that yet, OR you are so desperate that you are clinging onto the hope that this confusion you have going on will magically go away.

Check yourself first would be my advice.

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^^^^My response stands. Get your head checked

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Posted by Rambunctious76
What kind of a person values chemistry OVER loyalty in a relationship??Really?what kind of person??

Ram....u'd be surprised to find out how many actually do because some feel one has an direct impact on the other....i.e., intense strong chemistry have been known to cause others to be loyal in their relationships because they value chemistry above all. I was just reading about this on another relationship debate forum about a week ago....I think it was a relationship debate on which is better "chemistry" vs. "compatibility", and some threw loyalty in their argument/stance. It was an interesting topic to say the least. I enjoyed the takes on both sides of the fence actually.

Do people ever really know what loyalty means though? Too many think it involves just hanging about.

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