Don't think I'll be speaking to Virgo for a while (Page 2)

Posted by Jason2213

...too safe, motherly, matronly and no man is attracted to that...

I actually find those qualities arousing. 😛

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But then again the women that like these kind of men are usually not the desirable men most women are attracted to...so hmmm quite interesting.

LOL@gasp

you don't have my permission to gasp in small caps or big caps

Oh wait you like the motherly matronly type...

awww sweet pooh pooh baby bear Jason let me kiss your gasp and make it all better (:

I appreciate your comments, tiki, but I think you keep categorizing me as a stereotypical female that is trying to trap a guy and change him to meet my standards. That's not the case here...... he's free to be how ever way he chooses to be, but I've learned from my past experiences that it's important to set boundaries, so that other people know where they stand. If he wants to push that boundary, then there are going to be sanctions placed on him, and he needs to decide if it's worth the effort or not. That's to protect ME...... and I'm entitled to that.

Now, with Virgo, he really believes that we could do well in a relationship. I give him his honesty.... it's a little scarey, because I feel like I've been put on a pedistal. When I asked him how long he has been feeling like this, he told me that pretty much the day that he met me, and watched how I interacted with things around me. He said he finds in intriging, and that caught his interest. As we started to spend more and more time together, that's when it got more and more real. During that time, I started a fling with someone else, and he said that that pretty much fucked things up for him and he couldn't understand why I would go for the other guy, an not try and build something up with him, someone that I was becoming close with. There was no game there!!! It was simply we were living our lives......

The game started when he started initiating remarks that were sexual. The kiss was amazing, I'm not going to lie. The way he did it was smart, because I didn't have to think about it. He made it happen, and it was passionate. He wants me to see him as a potential boyfriend. I've told him my concerns, and it's something that will be eased into, rather than rush into. That way, at any stage, either one of us can turn around and stop it. It's going to be slow. Very very slow..... but at least this allows a margin of error for him to change his mind at any moment, and for me to slowly take that step forward. I'm not going to go back and forth, get hurt and unhurt..... I've been in those relationships before. I deserve to have someone in my life that compliments my life, and that can encourage me to keep pushing forward. So far, he has shown this, but like I said in the other thread, he can't fool me, because there are certain things that I'm looking for and I get to watch him in a natural environment as he naturally is. I'm constantly self reflecting, and that is why I'm not going in head over heals

Posted by Mars.In.Aries
I appreciate your comments, tiki, but I think you keep categorizing me as a stereotypical female that is trying to trap a guy and change him to meet my standards. That's not the case here...... he's free to be how ever way he chooses to be, but I've learned from my past experiences that it's important to set boundaries, so that other people know where they stand. If he wants to push that boundary, then there are going to be sanctions placed on him, and he needs to decide if it's worth the effort or not. That's to protect ME...... and I'm entitled to that.

Just to develope a little bit more.... if he does go through the efforts, only to intentially hurt me, then he will suffer the wrath of my fury. I go by people's intent, but I'm so accustomed to people using my free spirit approach ot life as an excuse to be reckless with me. That is not an entitlement, but so far, what I've experience with my virgo is that we both push each other in a sincere way. I'm a free spirit, and he's a little reserved, but I can push my qualities out of him a little bit, so that he can expereience some fun too. He's very serious, and he can push that quality on me for the times that I need to be serious and not take lite of the situation. This is the first time that I've ever experienced someone not being threatened by my aggressiveness, independence, my upbeat, my constant moving around..... he has always been right there by my side, silently. Any time that I just need to get away, he pops into my mind. He has provided a safe haven for me a couple of times, and I don't even have to explain myself. It's a nice change..... that doesn't come easily. Nobody is willing to put that much of effort into something, just to risk being told to fuck off, right—? He sees something in me that I'm not aware of myself. That is scarey..... I don't like being exposed, but this is the case that I didn't realize that I've been exposed all along, and he's liking what he sees. He can see what he can help me with so that I can be more of the person I'm trying to develope. I can say that the same is true on my end.... but even though I'm stubborn (hard headed as he puts it) he's very stubborn too!!!