Generic question for all guys though this is about a virgo

I have made a post regarding this before. But long story short, I had a falling out with a virgo guy I was dating a few weeks ago, and since then I have realized it was most probably because I got emotional (because I was having personal issues) and since he was starting a new job it was too much to handle.

There was about a week when we didn't talk much. Also when I tried to make contact I ended up calling 2X and leaving him like 3 texts (Damn mercury Rx and phone glitches). So I did do a lot of stuff that must have scared him shitless and I expected him to just disappear but he did check up on me soon after all that, I had to be a little passive when he first made contact since I was busy with some work project. But soon after I contacted him again and just kept things casual and light hearted.

Before the falling out he did mention that we can still talk and start dating again when things are sorted out. But our recent texts have definitely not been as warm they are kinda distant.

I am having a hard time reading this situation. Is this a behaviors of a guy who is just keeping a girl on the hook or is there a genuine interest and it's just a virgo over analyzing and testing me?

Could it be mirroring your actions because of you getting distant? Is his behavior a direct reflection of yours? If he’s saying that you can can work it out, then trust that and get back into a good place with him. Try and get things back on track like before.

Did you let him know you were stressed around that time and that type of thing usually doesn’t happen? That you’re so glad he didn’t take it personally.

This could work, since he will know it wasn’t his fault.

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Could it be mirroring your actions because of you getting distant? Is his behavior a direct reflection of yours? If he’s saying that you can can work it out, then trust that and get back into a good place with him. Try and get things back on track like before.

Did you let him know you were stressed around that time and that type of thing usually doesn’t happen? That you’re so glad he didn’t take it personally.

This could work, since he will know it wasn’t his fault.

Hmm.. I have not exactly been distant. And yes I did tell him all about my side of the story before, during our fight, and then left him alone. Our recent text have just been friendly (kinda like catching up) but very neutral and distant which is why I don't want to talk about dating yet because of my fear of rejection. What's the best course of action here? give him space and see where this goes?

I am also trying not to cling to the whole 'we can date again when this is all sorted out' statement people sometimes do say things they don't mean although I do get that it's a positive thing.

Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

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Could it be mirroring your actions because of you getting distant? Is his behavior a direct reflection of yours? If he’s saying that you can can work it out, then trust that and get back into a good place with him. Try and get things back on track like before.

Did you let him know you were stressed around that time and that type of thing usually doesn’t happen? That you’re so glad he didn’t take it personally.

This could work, since he will know it wasn’t his fault.

Hmm.. I actually haven't been distant. I have kept up the same behavior that I always had towards him. I did tell him my side of the story during our initial fight, I wanted him to know that I was stressed and didn't hold him responsible for anything, and then left him alone. Our recent texts have been just friendly (Just like catching up) very neutral and distant in tone which kinda bothers me and that's why I don't want to bring up anything dating related yet because of my fear of rejection. I guess the best course of action is to go about my life and give him space?

I also don't want to cling to the whole "we can start dating again when things are sorted out' thing. People say a lot of BS that the don't really mean. I am just taking it as a positive sign defiantly not counting on it.

don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

Lol yes your are right. just wondering if the casual brush off on his part can be something negative and is there anything I can do to make things worse. Hope this phase doesn't last too long lol

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Could it be mirroring your actions because of you getting distant? Is his behavior a direct reflection of yours? If he’s saying that you can can work it out, then trust that and get back into a good place with him. Try and get things back on track like before.

Did you let him know you were stressed around that time and that type of thing usually doesn’t happen? That you’re so glad he didn’t take it personally.

This could work, since he will know it wasn’t his fault.

Hmm.. I actually haven't been distant. I have kept up the same behavior that I always had towards him. I did tell him my side of the story during our initial fight, I wanted him to know that I was stressed and didn't hold him responsible for anything, and then left him alone. Our recent texts have been just friendly (Just like catching up) very neutral and distant in tone which kinda bothers me and that's why I don't want to bring up anything dating related yet because of my fear of rejection. I guess the best course of action is to go about my life and give him space?

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Oh, I'm not sure. I don't have much experience with Virgos. Especially after an argument.

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Well I get no texts at all from you- I'm slightly disappointed! 😛

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

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i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

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Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

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honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

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Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

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Posted by virgoOPPP

don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

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i may not look like it but i'm an overly sensitive little shit which means a lot of things can put me off. being too pushy, flirting with instahoes, being cheap, repeatedly asking me if i'm engaged, not having sex with me on sunday when i'm horny, having a small penis, lying about your height, asking way too many questions about my friend who likes to pole dance as a recreational activity, my toothbrush suspiciously not on your sink, bringing up money too much, etc.

so many dumb ways to get dumped.

may not even cross your mind why i dumped you but i don't really care to explain myself to you until we've reached the 2 month trial run's end.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

i may not look like it but i'm an overly sensitive little shit which means a lot of things can put me off. being too pushy, flirting with instahoes, being cheap, repeatedly asking me if i'm engaged, not having sex with me on sunday when i'm horny, having a small penis, lying about your height, asking way too many questions about my friend who likes to pole dance as a recreational activity, my toothbrush suspiciously not on your sink, bringing up money too much, etc.

so many dumb ways to get dumped.

may not even cross your mind why i dumped you but i don't really care to explain myself to you until we've reached the 2 month trial run's end.

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Oh lol I can see that Virgos are super sensitive. Our issue actually started because I asked him if he needed more space since I thought I was involving him too much in my personal issues. But he thought I was assuming something negative and not appreciating his efforts of being there for me even with his busy schedule and a new job. But again I did explain my side of the story and I am hoping for the best! 🙂

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

i may not look like it but i'm an overly sensitive little shit which means a lot of things can put me off. being too pushy, flirting with instahoes, being cheap, repeatedly asking me if i'm engaged, not having sex with me on sunday when i'm horny, having a small penis, lying about your height, asking way too many questions about my friend who likes to pole dance as a recreational activity, my toothbrush suspiciously not on your sink, bringing up money too much, etc.

so many dumb ways to get dumped.

may not even cross your mind why i dumped you but i don't really care to explain myself to you until we've reached the 2 month trial run's end.

Oh lol I can see that Virgos are super sensitive. Our issue actually started because I asked him if he needed more space since I thought I was involving him too much in my personal issues. But he thought I was assuming something negative and not appreciating his efforts of being there for me even with his busy schedule and a new job. But again I did explain my side of the story and I am hoping for the best! 🙂

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always remember that a Virgo is insecure no matter what they look like

tread lightly

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

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You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Weeds

Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

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Is there such thing?

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Posted by virgoOPPP

don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

i may not look like it but i'm an overly sensitive little shit which means a lot of things can put me off. being too pushy, flirting with instahoes, being cheap, repeatedly asking me if i'm engaged, not having sex with me on sunday when i'm horny, having a small penis, lying about your height, asking way too many questions about my friend who likes to pole dance as a recreational activity, my toothbrush suspiciously not on your sink, bringing up money too much, etc.

so many dumb ways to get dumped.

may not even cross your mind why i dumped you but i don't really care to explain myself to you until we've reached the 2 month trial run's end.

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Why would someone ask you if you're engaged? Do you wear a diamond ring on your ring finger? And why are you only horny on Sundays?

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Posted by virgoOPPP

don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

i may not look like it but i'm an overly sensitive little shit which means a lot of things can put me off. being too pushy, flirting with instahoes, being cheap, repeatedly asking me if i'm engaged, not having sex with me on sunday when i'm horny, having a small penis, lying about your height, asking way too many questions about my friend who likes to pole dance as a recreational activity, my toothbrush suspiciously not on your sink, bringing up money too much, etc.

so many dumb ways to get dumped.

may not even cross your mind why i dumped you but i don't really care to explain myself to you until we've reached the 2 month trial run's end.

Why would someone ask you if you're engaged? Do you wear a diamond ring on your ring finger? And why are you only horny on Sundays?

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some paranoid virgo man kept asking me coz his ex turned out to be engaged to another man. some women just ruin other men for the next woman like that. i'm always horny haha but i dumped someone over that day once.

Are you both in a romantic relationship or still just getting to know each other? Instead of talking though text why not try to ask him to hang out with you sometime and have a conversation personally. I don't see anything wrong with talking through cell phone or computer, but real couple should make time for each other personally. I'm sure both of you are not busy all the time and can find a way to see other.

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

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If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

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Are you both in a romantic relationship or still just getting to know each other? Instead of talking though text why not try to ask him to hang out with you sometime and have a conversation personally. I don't see anything wrong with talking through cell phone or computer, but real couple should make time for each other personally. I'm sure both of you are not busy all the time and can find a way to see other.

We were romantically involved (dating exclusively) it wasn't too too serious though since we dated for about 3 months and knew each other for about a month or so before that.

During our fight I did ask if we can hang out in person and talk this through but as he was not willing to do that at the time and understood and didn't push it too much to not aggravate the situation since he was upset. In person conversation especially when emotions are raw can get super tricky anyway.

Right now I think we are in an awkward phase where I don't really feel comfortable asking him if we can hang out in person. Maybe it'll be better if I give it a shot after a few more text exchange and conversations?

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

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lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

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Posted by Weeds

Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

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Way too early to call it.

He is going to judge your actions and determine if your worth the risk a second time.

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Are you both in a romantic relationship or still just getting to know each other? Instead of talking though text why not try to ask him to hang out with you sometime and have a conversation personally. I don't see anything wrong with talking through cell phone or computer, but real couple should make time for each other personally. I'm sure both of you are not busy all the time and can find a way to see other.

We were romantically involved (dating exclusively) it wasn't too too serious though since we dated for about 3 months and knew each other for about a month or so before that.

During our fight I did ask if we can hang out in person and talk this through but as he was not willing to do that at the time and understood and didn't push it too much to not aggravate the situation since he was upset. In person conversation especially when emotions are raw can get super tricky anyway.

Right now I think we are in an awkward phase where I don't really feel comfortable asking him if we can hang out in person. Maybe it'll be better if I give it a shot after a few more text exchange and conversations?

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Sure give a try, I'm not big on technology, but I don't mind using the phone or computer as a means of communication. For me I rather talk to people personally unless having a talking to phone or computer is the only option for now to communicate with each other. Just my opinion and personal experience though.

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

Way too early to call it.

He is going to judge your actions and determine if your worth the risk a second time.

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Sounds about right, Would you suggest any particular way I should act to make him feel secure? Like should I let him initiate conversations or would he want me to show some interest as well. I think I have already realized its not as easy as just straight up telling him how I feel.

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Posted by Weeds

Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

Way too early to call it.

He is going to judge your actions and determine if your worth the risk a second time.

Sounds about right, Would you suggest any particular way I should act to make him feel secure? Like should I let him initiate conversations or would he want me to show some interest as well. I think I have already realized its not as easy as just straight up telling him how I feel.

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Do what you did as when you first met...

Clearly there was something there that interested him in you.. people make mistakes virgos recognize that and I'm sure he recognizes that... but he needs security that the same mistake won't be made. Words aren't enough here. Time will make that confirmation.

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

Interesting, I have one last question for you - when you do like someone and suddenly change your mind I am guessing it is because of a certain thing that they did or said that irked you out? In that case would you there be any way your'd change your mind at a time with it's not an issue anymore?

i may not look like it but i'm an overly sensitive little shit which means a lot of things can put me off. being too pushy, flirting with instahoes, being cheap, repeatedly asking me if i'm engaged, not having sex with me on sunday when i'm horny, having a small penis, lying about your height, asking way too many questions about my friend who likes to pole dance as a recreational activity, my toothbrush suspiciously not on your sink, bringing up money too much, etc.

so many dumb ways to get dumped.

may not even cross your mind why i dumped you but i don't really care to explain myself to you until we've reached the 2 month trial run's end.

Why would someone ask you if you're engaged? Do you wear a diamond ring on your ring finger? And why are you only horny on Sundays?

some paranoid virgo man kept asking me coz his ex turned out to be engaged to another man. some women just ruin other men for the next woman like that. i'm always horny haha but i dumped someone over that day once.

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

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Damn. Lol.

The difference between a young and older Virgo, huh?

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Posted by virgoOPPP

don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

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what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

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i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

What are your other placements?

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virgo rising

virgo mercury

taurus moon

leo venus

libra mars

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

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so if a virgo tells you that, does that mean theyre being genuine about it and actually thinking—

My virgo in question told me this, so I gave him space/we avoided each other for some time and then he reappeared again when/where he knew I'd be, but hasnt said anything just observed me from a distance, and is just around me again and observing. I havent said anything cause I dont feel its my place to??

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

so if a virgo tells you that, does that mean theyre being genuine about it and actually thinking—

My virgo in question told me this, so I gave him space/we avoided each other for some time and then he reappeared again when/where he knew I'd be, but hasnt said anything just observed me from a distance, and is just around me again and observing. I havent said anything cause I dont feel its my place to??

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making up his mind

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

so if a virgo tells you that, does that mean theyre being genuine about it and actually thinking—

My virgo in question told me this, so I gave him space/we avoided each other for some time and then he reappeared again when/where he knew I'd be, but hasnt said anything just observed me from a distance, and is just around me again and observing. I havent said anything cause I dont feel its my place to??

making up his mind

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so if they come back around that means they made up their mind?? lol

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

so if a virgo tells you that, does that mean theyre being genuine about it and actually thinking—

My virgo in question told me this, so I gave him space/we avoided each other for some time and then he reappeared again when/where he knew I'd be, but hasnt said anything just observed me from a distance, and is just around me again and observing. I havent said anything cause I dont feel its my place to??

making up his mind

so if they come back around that means they made up their mind?? lol

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we'll tell you and make sure to spend time with you

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

so if a virgo tells you that, does that mean theyre being genuine about it and actually thinking—

My virgo in question told me this, so I gave him space/we avoided each other for some time and then he reappeared again when/where he knew I'd be, but hasnt said anything just observed me from a distance, and is just around me again and observing. I havent said anything cause I dont feel its my place to??

making up his mind

so if they come back around that means they made up their mind?? lol

no. now he is watching you w/ a sharper eye.

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So basically if a virgo comes back or initiates contact after pulling away it is to observe/ judge you?

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don't know about virgo guys but i can be secretly obsessed with you but text you only twice a week

Which I think is fine, I don't put too much emphasis on texting.

But I still wonder if you would keep in touch with someone if you are not interested in them anymore or how would you act after a fight?

i'll only really stop replying if you've really annoyed me to the point of disgust

but if i'm just not interested, i'd still politely reply

Would you also make it clear that you are not interested anymore?

honestly, i just block people as a form of rejection

i ghost 👻 👻 👻

rare times that i actually just tell them straight up i'm not looking for a relationship right now if i really like them at first but changed my mind for some reason

what if you tell them you're "still trying to figure things out and where I want this to go" ...is that also a rejection?

i wouldn't say anything at all if i was going to reject you than say something like that.... which sounds like it promises a definite answer. won't trap myself like that.

so if a virgo tells you that, does that mean theyre being genuine about it and actually thinking—

My virgo in question told me this, so I gave him space/we avoided each other for some time and then he reappeared again when/where he knew I'd be, but hasnt said anything just observed me from a distance, and is just around me again and observing. I havent said anything cause I dont feel its my place to??

making up his mind

so if they come back around that means they made up their mind?? lol

no. now he is watching you w/ a sharper eye.

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he already did that before though? hes known me for a long time. we had a conversation last time, where i expressed my feelings and how i'd been mistreated by him and he acknowledged what he did wasnt cool and told me that the truth was hes figuring things out still, when i asked him to be direct with me. We then took some time away from each other and now hes back around but hasnt said anything.... I feel like I'm owed an apology but I know from a virgo that'll never come lol

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@capgirl5

virgo is always gonna observe & analyze

@aquatar1

what are your virgo’s other placements?

i think your virgo does have interest otherwise, he wouldnt keep coming around. even if only for an ego boost, he would seek it somewhere else if you didnt appeal in some way.

maybe he’s taking time to observe you during this no speaking phase. if you decide to make the first move, it will be observed & analyzed to decide on where to fit you back in his life. if you do good, things will be back to normal w/ time. if you fail, you will get downgraded in some way.

it’s like a weird virgo taxonomy:

group a: future potential

group b: fwb/ego boost

group c: friendzone

group d: block list

maybe im wrong, though? i dunno... this is just my observation from experience. i am very similar so i can kinda see a pattern

hes got a lot of virgo in his chart as far as i know lol. sun and moon and possibly other lol. is that you too?

He pursued me for a while, seemed to be all about me, flirted, he asked me out (very slow process) etc for a few MONTHS. then pulled back out of nowhere right before we were supposed to go out for real.... I asked him basically wtf is going on?? And he seemed genuinely surprised that I was upset about him pulling back. When I said he wasnt direct with me so I didnt know where I stood with him, he told me that hes "figuring things out still and where he wants it to go"..... I feel like thats something you figure out BEFORE you ask someone out/text them daily for months flirting...no??

I was nice about it and basically said ok you figure things out, hope im still around by then, and left him alone. He knows where to run into me if he wanted to, and for a few weeks he avoided me and then just came back now, and is observing but hasnt said a word. I smiled at him once and then went back to ignoring him/doing my thing cause I dont know what else to do... if he wanted me i feel like he'd say something, no?

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Posted by aquatar1if he wanted me i feel like he'd say something, no?

depends on the rest of his chart.

how long has it been since the conversation about him pulling back?

depending how much time has lapsed, if it’s easy enough, i’d prob pop around casually to say hi & ask him how he’s doing. just be casual & friendly, keep it light hearted. dont ask anything heavy, or bring up the conversation (work is not the place for that).

he might think yalls next interaction is gonna be heavy & weird so, i would try & keep it light... make him feel comf w/ engaging again.

can i ask what your placements are?

btw i am not a virgo but i deal w/ a virgo sun male rather intimately & have a number of virgo placement friends.

i am currently dealing w/ virgo sun coming back around for the 4th time in a year.

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its been about 3 and a half weeks since then. Last thing I said was I actually apologized to him if I had done anything to him and he said no you havent done anything, most of this was me. The conversation ended with me saying that i think its good for him to take time to figure stuff out and that i hope im around by then once he does figure it out, and that was it.

we then avoided each other. we didnt see each other at all, but he was watching my snapchat still when I'd post stuff.

He just came back around now, and I feel it was purposeful, cause he knows thats where I am at that time specifically. And he was kinda awkwardly at a distance watching lol. I understand he may be worried I'll confront him or something so at one point, I waved and smiled at him and kept walking by that day, after I saw him...and then the second day after that, I didnt acknowledge him at all and I did my thing/left basically. Then the day after that I didnt see him anymore lol. Was I not friendly enough? lmao

I feel weird acknowledging him now, cause hes the one who backed away from me initially to "figure things out", so if he wanted to have me in his life again I feel like HE should reach out, no?? I dont know how his thought process is right now?? What could he be thinking?

I'm a taurus sun, gemini venus, pisces moon. Please do give me any advice you have, this is my first virgo situation lmao

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Posted by aquatar1if he wanted me i feel like he'd say something, no?

depends on the rest of his chart.

how long has it been since the conversation about him pulling back?

depending how much time has lapsed, if it’s easy enough, i’d prob pop around casually to say hi & ask him how he’s doing. just be casual & friendly, keep it light hearted. dont ask anything heavy, or bring up the conversation (work is not the place for that).

he might think yalls next interaction is gonna be heavy & weird so, i would try & keep it light... make him feel comf w/ engaging again.

can i ask what your placements are?

btw i am not a virgo but i deal w/ a virgo sun male rather intimately & have a number of virgo placement friends.

i am currently dealing w/ virgo sun coming back around for the 4th time in a year.

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You have some interesting ideas! I would really like to know what you think of my original question in this post ? About this particular virgo guy 🙂

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Posted by aquatar1if he wanted me i feel like he'd say something, no?

depends on the rest of his chart.

how long has it been since the conversation about him pulling back?

depending how much time has lapsed, if it’s easy enough, i’d prob pop around casually to say hi & ask him how he’s doing. just be casual & friendly, keep it light hearted. dont ask anything heavy, or bring up the conversation (work is not the place for that).

he might think yalls next interaction is gonna be heavy & weird so, i would try & keep it light... make him feel comf w/ engaging again.

can i ask what your placements are?

btw i am not a virgo but i deal w/ a virgo sun male rather intimately & have a number of virgo placement friends.

i am currently dealing w/ virgo sun coming back around for the 4th time in a year.

You have some interesting ideas! I would really like to know what you think of my original question in this post ? About this particular virgo guy 🙂

will you send me a pm w/ a link to the og post?

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So I am actually not able to send emails coz apparently my email is not verified on here.

But I am actually talking about this current thread, if you just go back to the first page you will see the question I created this topic for!

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Posted by aquatar1if he wanted me i feel like he'd say something, no?

depends on the rest of his chart.

how long has it been since the conversation about him pulling back?

depending how much time has lapsed, if it’s easy enough, i’d prob pop around casually to say hi & ask him how he’s doing. just be casual & friendly, keep it light hearted. dont ask anything heavy, or bring up the conversation (work is not the place for that).

he might think yalls next interaction is gonna be heavy & weird so, i would try & keep it light... make him feel comf w/ engaging again.

can i ask what your placements are?

btw i am not a virgo but i deal w/ a virgo sun male rather intimately & have a number of virgo placement friends.

i am currently dealing w/ virgo sun coming back around for the 4th time in a year.

its been about 3 and a half weeks since then. Last thing I said was I actually apologized to him if I had done anything to him and he said no you havent done anything, most of this was me. The conversation ended with me saying that i think its good for him to take time to figure stuff out and that i hope im around by then once he does figure it out, and that was it.

we then avoided each other. we didnt see each other at all, but he was watching my snapchat still when I'd post stuff.

He just came back around now, and I feel it was purposeful, cause he knows thats where I am at that time specifically. And he was kinda awkwardly at a distance watching lol. I understand he may be worried I'll confront him or something so at one point, I waved and smiled at him and kept walking by that day, after I saw him...and then the second day after that, I didnt acknowledge him at all and I did my thing/left basically. Then the day after that I didnt see him anymore lol. Was I not friendly enough? lmao

I feel weird acknowledging him now, cause hes the one who backed away from me initially to "figure things out", so if he wanted to have me in his life again I feel like HE should reach out, no?? I dont know how his thought process is right now?? What could he be thinking?

I'm a taurus sun, gemini venus, pisces moon. Please do give me any advice you have, this is my first virgo situation lmao

why dont you just send him a text that says “hi, it’s been awhile, hope you are doing well : ) “

maybe he needs you to break the ice since it was your feelings that got hurt? he could think that you bringing up space was a way of saying YOU needed space... i dunno, sometimes virgos get it twisted

i say, if you care enough in making it work, just suck it up & be the first to initiate. 3.5 weeks is plenty of time to send a “hi how ya doin” text.

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Thats a very good and mature way to handle things lol. But Im not sure I can. See he's done the virgo disappearing stuff for a few days only, at a time, before and it was always me reaching out and breaking the ice with a text. This time around though I dont feel comfortable honestly... what if hes done with me, I don't want to bother him or make him feel pressured/guilty to be nice to me, ya know?? Cause to me someone saying "I'm not sure where I want this to go" is a rejection, you had enough time to get to know me, if you dont know now then its a no, ya know? Maybe virgos think differently idk.

I was just confused as to why he came back around my area. I wish virgos were more direct...this sign is so passive and sideways lol. how the heck do you handle it? lol

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Posted by aquatar1if he wanted me i feel like he'd say something, no?

depends on the rest of his chart.

how long has it been since the conversation about him pulling back?

depending how much time has lapsed, if it’s easy enough, i’d prob pop around casually to say hi & ask him how he’s doing. just be casual & friendly, keep it light hearted. dont ask anything heavy, or bring up the conversation (work is not the place for that).

he might think yalls next interaction is gonna be heavy & weird so, i would try & keep it light... make him feel comf w/ engaging again.

can i ask what your placements are?

btw i am not a virgo but i deal w/ a virgo sun male rather intimately & have a number of virgo placement friends.

i am currently dealing w/ virgo sun coming back around for the 4th time in a year.

its been about 3 and a half weeks since then. Last thing I said was I actually apologized to him if I had done anything to him and he said no you havent done anything, most of this was me. The conversation ended with me saying that i think its good for him to take time to figure stuff out and that i hope im around by then once he does figure it out, and that was it.

we then avoided each other. we didnt see each other at all, but he was watching my snapchat still when I'd post stuff.

He just came back around now, and I feel it was purposeful, cause he knows thats where I am at that time specifically. And he was kinda awkwardly at a distance watching lol. I understand he may be worried I'll confront him or something so at one point, I waved and smiled at him and kept walking by that day, after I saw him...and then the second day after that, I didnt acknowledge him at all and I did my thing/left basically. Then the day after that I didnt see him anymore lol. Was I not friendly enough? lmao

I feel weird acknowledging him now, cause hes the one who backed away from me initially to "figure things out", so if he wanted to have me in his life again I feel like HE should reach out, no?? I dont know how his thought process is right now?? What could he be thinking?

I'm a taurus sun, gemini venus, pisces moon. Please do give me any advice you have, this is my first virgo situation lmao

why dont you just send him a text that says “hi, it’s been awhile, hope you are doing well : ) “

maybe he needs you to break the ice since it was your feelings that got hurt? he could think that you bringing up space was a way of saying YOU needed space... i dunno, sometimes virgos get it twisted

i say, if you care enough in making it work, just suck it up & be the first to initiate. 3.5 weeks is plenty of time to send a “hi how ya doin” text.

Thats a very good and mature way to handle things lol. But Im not sure I can. See he's done the virgo disappearing stuff for a few days only, at a time, before and it was always me reaching out and breaking the ice with a text. This time around though I dont feel comfortable honestly... what if hes done with me, I don't want to bother him or make him feel pressured/guilty to be nice to me, ya know?? Cause to me someone saying "I'm not sure where I want this to go" is a rejection, you had enough time to get to know me, if you dont know now then its a no, ya know? Maybe virgos think differently idk.

I was just confused as to why he came back around my area. I wish virgos were more direct...this sign is so passive and sideways lol. how the heck do you handle it? lol

the first few times i always took him back. there was a 4 month period of barely any contact & no meet ups. the connection, on my end, dissipated.

now that he’s around again... texting a couple times a week, asking to hang out... im over it. not really interested in making any effort & not romantically interested anymore. he is working through major addiction issues & i still really care for him so, i am happy to be there as a friend but, not romantically.

this seems to only be encouraging him. he has a fire moon, venus, mars, & rising... so i think my lack of effort is seen as a chase. which is why i can never tell if his returns are genuine or for an ego boost.

i always conclude it’s for his ego. my aquarius & capricorn placements will never stroke an ego that doesnt deserve it.

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Were your guys every steadily 'together' before he started this the push and pull BS?

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

Way too early to call it.

He is going to judge your actions and determine if your worth the risk a second time.

Sounds about right, Would you suggest any particular way I should act to make him feel secure? Like should I let him initiate conversations or would he want me to show some interest as well. I think I have already realized its not as easy as just straight up telling him how I feel.

Do what you did as when you first met...

Clearly there was something there that interested him in you.. people make mistakes virgos recognize that and I'm sure he recognizes that... but he needs security that the same mistake won't be made. Words aren't enough here. Time will make that confirmation.

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Would you be weirded out if some one asked you politely - if you accepted their apology ?

Our fight was about 3 weeks ago and then we have steadily regained contact we talked a couple of times last week so I was gonna ask him this at some point not right away but after giving him some more space...

@virgoOPPP I would appreciate your opinion on this too

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

Way too early to call it.

He is going to judge your actions and determine if your worth the risk a second time.

Sounds about right, Would you suggest any particular way I should act to make him feel secure? Like should I let him initiate conversations or would he want me to show some interest as well. I think I have already realized its not as easy as just straight up telling him how I feel.

Do what you did as when you first met...

Clearly there was something there that interested him in you.. people make mistakes virgos recognize that and I'm sure he recognizes that... but he needs security that the same mistake won't be made. Words aren't enough here. Time will make that confirmation.

Would you be weirded out if some one asked you politely - if you accepted their apology ?

Our fight was about 3 weeks ago and then we have steadily regained contact we talked a couple of times last week so I was gonna ask him this at some point not right away but after giving him some more space...

@virgoOPPP I would appreciate your opinion on this too

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I would question why they would ask that.

Isn't him acknowledging you enough to confirm that?

When a virgo has burned their bridge it is over there is non of this stuff here... you are long dead and live on only as a memory.

It will always be actions over words.

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Do you really think he is going to be warm and fuzzy right off the bat?

He already knows what could happen.

What will happen if he's warm and fuzzy?

You're talking about one of those ultra soft and forgiving virgos.

Is there such thing?

If you can find them before life hammers them into bitterness and self pity sure.

lol I am sure life has hammered him a lot we both actually have a lot of past issues which we talked through in the beginning.

Anywho..... based on your responses I am still wondering if you think this is all positive or not? or at least is this a start to him maybe considering coming back around?

Way too early to call it.

He is going to judge your actions and determine if your worth the risk a second time.

Sounds about right, Would you suggest any particular way I should act to make him feel secure? Like should I let him initiate conversations or would he want me to show some interest as well. I think I have already realized its not as easy as just straight up telling him how I feel.

Do what you did as when you first met...

Clearly there was something there that interested him in you.. people make mistakes virgos recognize that and I'm sure he recognizes that... but he needs security that the same mistake won't be made. Words aren't enough here. Time will make that confirmation.

Would you be weirded out if some one asked you politely - if you accepted their apology ?

Our fight was about 3 weeks ago and then we have steadily regained contact we talked a couple of times last week so I was gonna ask him this at some point not right away but after giving him some more space...

@virgoOPPP I would appreciate your opinion on this too

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i'd be okay with it