Getting a virgo guy to attend events

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Gemini74 on Tuesday, April 14, 2015 and has 8 replies.

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@Gemini74
11 YearsGemini

My Virgo guy is an introvert and can only handle one of my family members at a time. How do I get him to want to attend parties and holiday events with me? Should I ask him at all. Should I just go and tell him how much fun there were? He already declined for Thanksgiving so I don't want to seem pushy. He did invite me to his brothers wedding in August.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Gemini's talk so much, ordinarily, that you likely cannot even begin to grasp how much Virgo's probably want to tell you to stfu. Not mean, just fucking be quiet .... goddam man !!!

So, now throw in the fact that your thought begins with you saying he can't deal with your family members, except one on one ... the logical assumption then becomes = your babbling includes family members on the regular.

Of course, he's not going to want to hang out with you ... you probably are annoying, if you're so social that you chatter.

So, you want a real answer to your dilemma? shut the fuck up !!!!! ..... and then you might begin to see him come out a little.

Social functions are perfectly ok with an introvert, so long as they (or the person on their arm) remain incognito.

However, I have a feeling that it's not a far stretch to believe that you probably babble (something) to every person there, and probably even attempt to include him. Because really, this isn't rocket science. You only need some common sense to rationalize this. So, the question begs to be asked: why can't your brain figure it out?

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Virgo's find themselves trying to show love to you by serving you.

If you want a male Virgo to be present with you, then you have to let him serve you.

Don't ask him if he wants to go, rather, TELL him that you need him there with you. Then be quiet and let his ever turning gears in his head to think in peace.

I doubt you have the capability of looking at the direction, and will surely only acknowledge my finger.

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@Gemini74
11 YearsGemini

Ok so don't bother asking him to graduation party's or holiday events. What about my daughters baptism? He's a part of her life and he should be there. Maybe I should go with P Angels advice and tell him he needs to go. Is this an exception?

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@LetltB
13 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by P-Angel

Virgo's find themselves trying to show love to you by serving you.

If you want a male Virgo to be present with you, then you have to let him serve you.

Don't ask him if he wants to go, rather, TELL him that you need him there with you. Then be quiet and let his ever turning gears in his head to think in peace.

I doubt you have the capability of looking at the direction, and will surely only acknowledge my finger.

Really good advice, I don't think she comprehended it though.

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@Lovelyisis
11 Years

Couldn't agree more PA and VirgoDrag...as long as we feel we're needed and as much as we hate to "let down" others we care for in any capacity....we'll be there if for no other reason but support. The key is to get us to feel "needed"....lol...which is a bit tricky if it's not sincere and just some scheme to try and get us out of our introvert comfort zone. We see bs coming 100 miles away (even though we don't always speak up on it...lol)!!! So, the only thing I would add is to be "sincere" in letting him know that you "need" him there.