guys will not approach me

ok. I a feel like I am a goodlookng female. I am have the looks (not concidet)I have my own house, car. I work and go to school. However I have notice every since I was able to notice guys noticing me.I have realized I guys will not approach me. I see women who are not as attractive and they ge approached. but not me. I never understood it. I mean there are sum who will approach. but not alot. i also notice that I hear alot of guyssaying I am cute or I am "bad". they pretty much talk on the side line... so what's ur take. I dont get it. I am very fun an loving. I dont give off the "bitch" attitude.

what i mean by the bitch attitude is I dont act suck up. and nasty. i dont play games. but i am not rude.

I think guys look for signals (green lights). Do you smile when a guy is "noticing" you? Do you say hello first? Are you approachable?

Sometimes being in a group or on your cellphone or hustle & bustling throws a man off and makes them feel like you're in a hurry and there is no time for him to come over and chat you up?

I am with you on the not being a bitch and game playing. That's not me either. But, unfortunately, some men only recognize that attitude. It is my belief that most men (99.9% ) do not want a good woman to spend the rest of their lives with in Happily Ever After Land. They feel better skipping around from woamn to woman breaking hearts and ruining their reputation.

If men could just relax and release their fears and trust that a woman can be good for him then you will be more strong relationships being built. And this doesnt mean that a man has to wife the first good woman he gives a chance to but enjoy being in a relationship to see how it is and the joys it can bring so that when he finds the right woman he will be mentally prepared to build and make it work.

Miss Karma, I would say just make sure the airways are clear so that the men you notice realize you want their attention. A lot of women give off the "not interested" vibe and don't realize it.

"Only a real man that is serious need apply and that is the vibe I give off and perhaps the same as you..."

Yep, that's the vibe I'm speaking of. Before you know it, it's habitual and you're giving it to all men and you're none the wiser.

I don't think it has anything to do with Bitch Attitude .. that is something that women have in their heads as being the culprit because women who feel scorned or rejected, view other women as being a Bitch.


What it is MissKarma .. is strength. A woman who can take of herself intimidates a man, for then the man is left feeling like his masculinity of taking care of a female is inferiour to you.


Evolution hasn't quite caught up to us yet in this sense .. we know a woman can handle her life, and in doing so, this doesn't mean she doesn't need a man. However, the conditioned program that has been instilled in men that says ... women are weaker, they need manliness to care for them ... hasn't caught up to men yet because there are still people alive who have been programmed by their forefathers. Just like racial issues, for example .. we KNOW NOW how foolish we were in the past in thinking black people were inferiour .. however, there are still people alive today who have had this program instilled.

Time ... we need more generations to happen before men can fully come to terms that for a woman to need him, doesn't = caring for her because she is weaker, or incompetant to handle her life.


When you see women who you all call bitches .. what a man sees is that this woman needs to be controlled, she is too weak to have control of her own life. She's not a threat to his masculinity. Unfortunately for the women out there who KNOW what and who she is, these weak women who are lost in their individuality and have to present a cocky attitude, actually know that they appear to be a threat to a real woman, and display this in your presence ... because that's all they have to feel good about themselves. When you are showing disdain, or jealousy, or any kind of negative reaction to her ability to take a man over you .... only increases her bitch attitude, which only draws more men to her.

And men (most of them) really have no clue why they like this type of woman ... I've asked them before and they have no answer because they don't know .. it's on the subconscious level because it's been programmed. It's funny because some men will say .. "I hate that type of woman" .. and then be attracted to a woman who has no emotional composure.

thanks. I believe he is coming. i was just kinda wondering. why does it seem this way. if i do the online thing then I get a lot of responses. but when it somes down to actually meeting sems to fall thru. I have meet 2 scorps off the internet and 1 taurus me and the scorps hit it of well... its funny becuz i went to the club and onne of the scorps i met asked me how many numbers i get. and thats what made me come and ask the question. I didnt get a single number. He thought i was lieing. he said There is no way I walked out of the club without a number.I told him that its always been like that thru highschool. now that I am older sum guys from school say they always wanted to talk to me but was scared.. I am cool I can wait. alot of times I feel cum correct or dont come at all. I am very socialable. I smile.

I am not worried I know I am sexy

But I am still no cocky.I have my silver bullet hey I been using it.and will continue 2. Oh and by the way I also noticed I really have never had a lot of bf. I have alot of male friends but not bfs. I am known to walk alone. but its by choice.. maybe I am being misunderstood or maybe I am not expaling myself rite.

p_angnel. One of my male friends did tell me I was intimadating. but I guess i really didnt pay him any mind becuz he was 2 of my friends..hehehe if that made any sense

Perhaps you could drop a few pounds?

Hide that comment Yum ....

starfish225.."The man for you will do the work and all you have to do is smile and be pretty bc he knows at first glance what he has..And most importantly remain confindent and secure and the rest will fall into place..Thats the kind of situation you should want and deserve"..


Funny you said that a guy I was dating. said that to me. I didnt have to do anything but continue to be the women he is falling for. I didnt have to do a thing for this man. however. I have to be of some help if i am not elping or if i feel like iam not doing anything for who eva I date i feel worthless. its funny the guy neva asked me for a thing. until his car got stolen and he neede a ride to the police station and work..He didnt wanna ask me but when he did i was excited about helping him.

this guy was a scorp. i really could see myself being with him.

Well ... I hope he didn't .......

I am still sexy with the weight I am.. neva ben told anything different. I am not gonna listen to sum one on this board that does not even show a pic of themselves.

Awwww, Yum Yum is a sweeeeetie pie 😄 He's just ... you know, Yum 🙂

Anway, back to the topic. I think its better to not be approached by men then to get approached by the wrong men. Some women get approached by the wrong kind of guys >>>>>>>>>>>>> Me 😢

But you sound like you have alot going for yourself, that's cool. Try meeting men in college 😄

"I am still sexy with the weight I am.. neva ben told anything different."

Hey, some people like it, I've never said different. People who like thinner women seem more numerous to me, though, I guess it might be different in the US.

"Awwww, Yum Yum is a sweeeeetie pie 😄 He's just ... you know, Yum"

I think the word you're looking for is Israeli. Really, in my culture I'm considered polite.😛

ahahahaha @ Elena

No, in the OC they like stick-thin-woman. I wouldn't last two seconds out there. Those people would want me to be a size 2 and smaller and I refuse to down to that. I've been a size 4 before and looked like wierd LOL.

Oh! You live there Elena? OOOPIES 😛

I like to eat normally, I only eat alot of fastfood if I have no choice -- like if I'm unsettled or whatever.

hahahahahahaha yeah right 😄 I couldn't tell that you were from the OC but now that I know ... 😉

GB: "most guys are intimidated by beautiful women, thinking that they cannot get a woman like that, which is true as long as the guy thinks it."

I couldn't agree with you more hey...I don't get approached very much either (I usually get stared at alot), and i've heard soooo many times guys doing the whole "i'd never have a chance with her" thing, it drives me nuts - coz I think, Why not? Don't I deserve to be happy? And it's usually the nice guys that think like that too...

maybe I didnt explain myself correctly. I am no where near desparate. I can get guys if I want.and maybe I dont know how to say what I am saying. some guys will approach me its not like every guy just drives rite bye. I just noticed that alot of times I hear guys talking about me . but none of them will approach me. like its alot of side line talk but they will not step up to the plate... I dont need the attention. Just a subject something I thought i asked the board. I am often known to be the one to be alone. all my friends ask me or are often shocked when i tell them I am not involved. when it comes to relationships I dont like to waste my time.

guys approach me. however I seem to be the women they talk about on the side ine or at the bar but alot of times they will not approach me.

as far as getting laid. lol. sex is good. but if its not worth my time. i am cool with my silver bullet.

maybe its nothing. its been like this 4 a long time. i have been 125 pounds and its the same thing wieght has nothing to do with it. i am sure about that.. matter of a fact. more guys have tried to holla when i was 160 then they did when I was 125..

or maybe I feel nobody worth my time approaches me. I dont know. hehehe.


I am confident. not concidet.far from desparate. wondering if sum1 could give me some insight.

"good thing about a silver bullet is that its doubles as a werewolf killer"

what do you mean by that? what do you know about the bullet?

Hey miss karma

I haven't read this whole thread, but I gotta tell ya...just by looking at your picture, I can tell you ooze confidence.

Confidence is a weird thing with men. See, it can be a turn-on or a turn-off. You can't change who you are, because then you wouldn't be true to yourself, right? Right.

I have been reading a whole lot on how to read body language lately. Now most women will think they are natural experts on this topic. But I was quite amazed at some of the things I learned.

You should check it out. Maybe the way you carry yourself is intimidating to them. I don't think it's the whole "men need a weaker woman to feel masculine/needed" etc. It's kind of like making new friends. If someone seems like they got it ALL goin on, it sorta makes them a little less approachable then the sweet/smiley/open look on their face person. It kinda makes a person feel competitive. It's okay for a man and woman to compete, but that sort of behavior can ruin relationships in the end.

You're supposed to both be on the same side. Don't look at it as a man vs woman thing. Think of it from a different perspective....a human perspective.

And in the mean time, don't lose that confident, kick ass attitude...just tone it down when you wanna meet a new person.

And I should add that I am an Aries. We exude confidence too,..even when that may be far from what we actually feel. THese are things I have learned that help.

MISS KARMA, I GOT IT ALL FIGURED OUT.. YOU ARE 24 AND YOU HAVE THREE KIDS AND YOU ARE MARRIED, GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE. OKAY FIRST OF ALL, YOU A GROWN AZZ WOMAN. YOU HAVE A GROWN WOMAN LIFE, SCHOOL, JOB, ETC. MY GUESS IS, YOU ARE SERIOUS, AND HAVE ZERO TOLERANCE FOR THE GAMES 25 YEAR OLDS STILL MAY BE PLAYING. YOU HAVE A FAMILY, CHANCES ARE, YOU FEEL LONELY BECAUSE YOU ARE USE TO BEING WITH SOMEONE, I.E. HUSBAND. AND YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A REAL MAN. YOU SEND OUT THAT VIBE AND BROTHAS PICK UP ON IT. BROTHA'S BEING VERY SENSITIVE TO THE VIBES SISTA'S SEND OUT. BE CAREFUL THEY READ EVERY BIT OF YOUR BODY LANGUAGE.. !! YOU MAY BE SENDING OUT A = ARE YOU THE ONE VIBE AND IF HALF OF THESES CATS YOU CROSS PATHS WITH AREN'T THE ONE, MOST LIKELY YOU'RE NOT CONNECTING. I ALSO THINK THAT, YOU MAY NOT CARRY YOURSELF AS BEAUTIFUL AS YOU CLAIM YOU FEEL. SOMETIMES AS A MOTHER,YOU TEND TO LOOSE YOURSELF, YOUR EXTERIOR MIGHT NOT BE AS POLISHED AS YOU SAY IT IS.
I GOT TIRED OF THE B.S. AT 24 TOO, NOW MIND YOU, I'M A DON JUANA... MEN LOVE ME, BUT ONCE I STARTED THINKING, i'M TIRED, WHERE'S MR. RIGHT, THE MADNESS STOPPED. THEN ONE DAY I SAID, FUHK IT, I'M THE SHEIT AND MR. RIGHT WILL COME ALONG WHEN IT'S TIME, NOW I GOT THE GUYS FLOCKING ALL OVER THIS ONCE AGAIN. THE KEY IS, THE SINGLES YOU SEND OUT.. YOUR VIBE...

CHECK YOUR VIBE, THEN CHANGE IT.. LET YOUR VIBE SCREAM , "WANT ME, COME GET ME, LOVE ME!" THEN WA LA , IT WILL COME...AND STOP COMPARING YOURSELF. I REMEMBER A LONG TIME AGO , I WANTED A NEW GUY, AND I KEPT SAYING IN MY HEAD, I NEED A MAN, I NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE, AND WA LA, A WEEK LATER, A BROTHA CAME ALONG. NOW BE CAREFUL AND MAKE SURE THAT YOU SEND OUT THE RIGHT SIGNALS, TO MATCH WHAT YOU WANT , OTHERWISE , YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU ASK FOR. U SEE WHEN I DID IT, I NEVER SPECIFIED WHAT I NEEDED AND SIX YEARS LATER THAT CRUMB IS STILL FLIRTING AROUND, I JUST RECENTLY HAD TO RELEASE THAT PIECE.

JUST FOCUS ON YOUR VIBE, REMEMBER KEY WORD, VIBE, PEOPLE WILL PICK UP ON THE THINGS YOU SAY IN YOUR OWN HEAD!!

OMG.

i feel you.

Oh my!!! I think I just might try that...

That was very nice DVLRam 🙂

I'm from ATL and I have met some wild sexy black Virgos > you're types are a mixed bag but your Virgo expression tends to be extremely banked up (empty vessel Virgos) its alright probably cos my vibration is rather cold, earthy and dense itself. Its a matter of consequence and mutual vibe.

your types?



plz explain!

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