He loves me?He loves me not?

I had dinner with my Virgo Thursday night for his birthday. He called me the day before to ask me if I would go out to dinner with him for his birthday. I hadn?t talked to him in 2 weeks, since we went on an overnight backpacking trip together- he called me his girlfriend to someone offhand; and we had such an amazing time together, it really felt like we were back together (he broke up with me in March). When I asked him later about us, he said that we are dating. Everything felt fine until the ride home when I asked him if it means that he is my boyfriend ? and he said no. I was upset, he was too (cried a little), we talked it out ? he pretty much explained that his feelings for me have not changed since he was my boyfriend, but he is not wanting to be in an exclusive relationship, and wants to be free to date whomever (even though I know he is not & hasn?t dated anyone since me). He said that even if we were in a committed relationship and you (meaning me) were to meet someone that you had stronger feelings for then me then you should date him. After he said this I wondered if he is still has some insecurity over what happened with his ex ? they were engaged to be married, she was supposed to move here from his country to be with him; he went to visit her and she broke up with him saying that she met someone else; she then married the other guy & had a baby soon after. (He never said anything about this relationship until over a year after we met ? and finally told me how heartbroken he had been)
Anyway, after the backpacking trip I decided that it would be better to distance myself from him ? I felt like I needed to be clear about my own needs and boundaries and not fall into a pattern of just being his quasi-girlfriend when he feels like it.

However, we both had a wonderful time for his birthday dinner; the chemistry is still there- I still get butterfly?s in my stomach when he looks at me(we?ve known each other for 2 years); and he is still affectionate with me: he put his arm around me, and held my hand & kissed me goodnight.
I just wonder if it is typical Virgo male behavior to hold on to an ex (meaning me) to be affectionate & loving & funny until he meets someone else, rather than be alone?

They analyze alot so he could be doing that, but I think he will hold you with a good extent of loyalty, even if isn't done analyzing.

Same situation for me! I'm a taurus female and I heard this before from my virgo, exactly every word!. I decided to distance from him. But somehow we are back together. I decide to give him time and understanding. He fears to get hurt and hurt me. He's back off everytime the relationship gets more serious. I think you have to be strong but sensitive with virgo. He needs reassurance. Talk but don't teach. Ask but do not force.

The feeling towards ex? That's what I wonder. In your case, he might not consider you his ex. :-) although he said so. He just doesn't want to let the relationship 'grow' and prefer to keep things flexible and esily handle. (which is not at all!). If he's loyal to you it's a good sign. Good luck!