Help a Confused Cancer girl out, please!

I met a Virgo guy online and we met after about a week at a local tavern for a drink. We seemed to hit it off-a lot of laughing and long hard stares....definitely a lot of chemistry going on. We kissed goodbye....for a long time. Great first date. He texted me about an hour later. And we both said we had a really good time.....that was Sunday-and now it's Tuesday and I have not heard a peep. I haven't texted him since then. Should I just sit tight and be patient? Or do you think maybe he's just 'not into me' and let it go? I am a Cancer, btw.

can totally relate Sillycrab... I met Virgo guy online also, then met in person... spent 2 hours talking, strong chemistry also...he was a bit shy though so no kissing, just a casual quick hug at the end... he texted an hour afterwards saying "it was nice to have met you".... then came silence.

I was ready to give up after 3 days, thinking he did not have any interest, and I've read him all wrong.

Then Finally on the 4th day came the text... that was 9 months ago....and I have learned since that it takes a lot of patience to love a Virgo man...but it is worth it 🙂

Isn't the new rule for guys 4-7 days after a date to make contact? I wouldn't worry unless its 7+ days.

Silly rules!

I say don't text or call him and for me personally if a guy waited until after day 3 or 4 to follow up then I wouldn't bother with it.
Also it's only Tuesday. Even though things went well, it's still the beginning, so maybe you are on his mind and he might want to be in touch with you but he doesn't want to scare you away by being too forward either.

Why does a person have to follow up with you just because a date was good?

Can't he just have a good time, and nothing more?

It seems like you now have expectations on what he is suppose to do to satisfy your feelings.

Are you also expecting him to have feelings for you, since you obviously cannot even be satisfied with a lovely time with a person, and feel compelled to place deeper meanings, and so believe he is suppose to place this deeper meaning also?


I hate it when women do this ... they automatically attach their emotional baggage to men the moment a man notices they exist, and then become expectant that the man carry thier bullshit for them.

Sunday to Tuesday, really? I'd track him down, preferably to his workplace, and rip his head off for not contacting me on the intervening one day - Monday - how very dare he!

Well P-Angel.....I didn't have any expectations other than hoping he had as good a time as I did-and that he would want to see me again. And...CelticLioness....you're right-I was jumping the gun on worrying if he would contact me. I can be a little shy and I really stink at reading people sometimes.

On a positive note-he texted me quite a bit all day and we are going out on Saturday 🙂 Thank you for everyone's input!

3 days is good.
SillyCrab I'm glad he contacted you and you are going on another date.
If you like the guy it's perfectly natural to want to see him again and hope he feels the same way.
Best of luck to you both.