jalyssa62
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Help From Virgo Men regarding a Virgo Man
Posted by 25thDecan
Bluntly....sthu and relax and enjoy it for what it's worth. It COULD turn out greater than your last relationship.
Ruthlessly: find ways to do serious bonding AND include sex...if he's not a dipshit he'll have one of two reactions: 1)the worst...feel manipulated and run 2)the best...call you "babe" and mean it
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Awesome. Thanks 25th!
Posted by 25thDecan
Bluntly....sthu and relax and enjoy it for what it's worth. It COULD turn out greater than your last relationship.
Ruthlessly: find ways to do serious bonding AND include sex...if he's not a dipshit he'll have one of two reactions: 1)the worst...feel manipulated and run 2)the best...call you "babe" and mean it
Wait...so about the reactions he could have. I don't want him to feel manipulated in any way (even thought that's essentially what I'd be doing =/). Could u recommend a way to go about planning things for us to do that isn't overtly sneaky?
Thanks.
Posted by jalyssa62Posted by 25thDecan
Bluntly....sthu and relax and enjoy it for what it's worth. It COULD turn out greater than your last relationship.
Ruthlessly: find ways to do serious bonding AND include sex...if he's not a dipshit he'll have one of two reactions: 1)the worst...feel manipulated and run 2)the best...call you "babe" and mean it
Wait...so about the reactions he could have. I don't want him to feel manipulated in any way (even thought that's essentially what I'd be doing =/). Could u recommend a way to go about planning things for us to do that isn't overtly sneaky?
Thanks.click to expand
If there is something in particular you want to do just ask him - that's the least sneakiest way
If there is something in particular you want to do just ask him - that's the least sneakiest way
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Thank you. And I'll try. I just feel like asking via texting is a bit impersonal...and I've never talked to him on the phone (I don't know how to initiate that either). There's the Gemini in me....over-thinking. #sigh
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
I say Fuck em again. I don't think less of you because of early sex. Don't know about him, but communication is the key with most Virgos. Talk to him about how you feel. Be real, and be you. He'll either respect it or check it. It's inevitable.
Thank you PotHeadVirgo22.
As much as I would love for us to treetrunk (LOL) again....he's not initiating anything. He barely texts me...with the exception of a few times. I'm afraid to initiate things.
Talk to him and let him know that you normally dont fuck on the first date but that he was so irresistable that you couldnt help it and you would hate for him to judge you and the sort.
I find that I have always had a fine line with getting sex early but we are all so different.
When I dont have to work for it, i become less interested. No challenge, no fun.
Now if im truly into you the best thing that can happen is you sleeping with me and then telling me how usually dont give in to sex so early but you couldnt help it with me. Wow. I definately want to be with someone who lusts for me like that.
But like i said, we are all different so do as most of us are saying.....communicate!
We Virgos like all the facts out in the open, no beating around the bush with us. Tell him how you feel.
I find that I have always had a fine line with getting sex early but we are all so different.
When I dont have to work for it, i become less interested. No challenge, no fun.
Now if im truly into you the best thing that can happen is you sleeping with me and then telling me how usually dont give in to sex so early but you couldnt help it with me. Wow. I definately want to be with someone who lusts for me like that.
But like i said, we are all different so do as most of us are saying.....communicate!
We Virgos like all the facts out in the open, no beating around the bush with us. Tell him how you feel.
Posted by wgamador2
Talk to him and let him know that you normally dont fuck on the first date but that he was so irresistable that you couldnt help it and you would hate for him to judge you and the sort.
I find that I have always had a fine line with getting sex early but we are all so different.
When I dont have to work for it, i become less interested. No challenge, no fun.
Now if im truly into you the best thing that can happen is you sleeping with me and then telling me how usually dont give in to sex so early but you couldnt help it with me. Wow. I definately want to be with someone who lusts for me like that.
But like i said, we are all different so do as most of us are saying.....communicate!
We Virgos like all the facts out in the open, no beating around the bush with us. Tell him how you feel.
He intimidates me.
And it would be easier to communicate if he would just...text...back. It's not like I bombard him with texts. I send him ONE text...then allow him to respond. My texts are usually a greeting. Then he responds, I respond...and then BAM! Nothing. Why??
Is it true that Virgo men go through phases where they want to be "alone" or not bothered?
I'm afraid to initiate things.
Let me get this straight...you had courage to "hook up" with a dude you techinically just met, sleep with him and now you are afraid to initiate communication?
Why? Are you afraid that he will reject you cause he already "had the milk" and didnt test drive the cow.....you know, whatever the saying is----anyways, dont be afraid.
Fuck Fear. Own fear. Make fear your little prison bitch.
Read up on Virgos so in the future you dont go jumping in bed with dudes who dont respect women who do that.
Virgos are some of the most reserved individuals out there, we like modesty, modest women, sure some of us will fuck (some Virgos will actually make love) a sexy slut in a heartbeat but it dont mean we can see them as long-term partners.
Posted by wgamador2I'm afraid to initiate things.
Let me get this straight...you had courage to "hook up" with a dude you techinically just met, sleep with him and now you are afraid to initiate communication?
Why? Are you afraid that he will reject you cause he already "had the milk" and didnt test drive the cow.....you know, whatever the saying is----anyways, dont be afraid.
Fuck Fear. Own fear. Make fear your little prison bitch.
Read up on Virgos so in the future you dont go jumping in bed with dudes who dont respect women who do that.
Virgos are some of the most reserved individuals out there, we like modesty, modest women, sure some of us will fuck (some Virgos will actually make love) a sexy slut in a heartbeat but it dont mean we can see them as long-term partners.
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You hit the nail on the head. That is EXACTLY it. But our text convos are brief...and I have issues with sending anyone texts that indicate feelings. Sad thing is...I don't even know how to say what I want to say.
Jalyssa62,
You're exuding too much too soon, in my opinion, you will (if you haven't already) scare him away.
Connection should NEVER have this many questions.
Go with the flow. Be calm. Be collected.
And yes, what WGAMADOR said. Sex too soon eliminates the prospect of developing a healthy relationship, especially with a Virgo. Nonetheless, goodluck.
You're exuding too much too soon, in my opinion, you will (if you haven't already) scare him away.
Connection should NEVER have this many questions.
Go with the flow. Be calm. Be collected.
And yes, what WGAMADOR said. Sex too soon eliminates the prospect of developing a healthy relationship, especially with a Virgo. Nonetheless, goodluck.
Hmm, I don't mean to steal the thread but does this work with making out as well? As in if we made out say on the second date (and quite heavily too!) But I put the brakes after he suggests continuing it on his bed - would that constitute as too much too soon? And unladylike?
Admittedly to me its moving way too fast; typically I do a simple peck or light kissing on the second or even third date - but not sure how you Virgos view that.
Admittedly to me its moving way too fast; typically I do a simple peck or light kissing on the second or even third date - but not sure how you Virgos view that.
Posted by Tora
Hmm, I don't mean to steal the thread but does this work with making out as well? As in if we made out say on the second date (and quite heavily too!) But I put the brakes after he suggests continuing it on his bed - would that constitute as too much too soon? And unladylike?
Admittedly to me its moving way too fast; typically I do a simple peck or light kissing on the second or even third date - but not sure how you Virgos view that.
For me making out is on a different level. You wanna make out with me on the first date....im all in.
Let me show you what my lips and hands can do. Come get this pre-view lady love.
When women have kissed me on first dates , i tend to think of them as daring and brave.
Plus its a pretty decent sign that you are into me....a lot.
But we are all different. I tend to do my best work when there has been a build up, like im constructing a story and i just know that if i dont rush to the 'climax' it will be so worth it when I finally do.
A slow burn.
Allow me to illustrate what im saying trhough one of my favorite quotes by my main man, Dante Algheri:
"A mighty flame followeth a tiny spark."
-Dante Alighieri.
.......and you thought i was all fart jokes and ham wallet references.
Is there a way to "save face" after us having sex so soon? Or is it a lost cause?
Posted by jalyssa62
Is there a way to "save face" after us having sex so soon? Or is it a lost cause?
Two people had sex on the first date here. Do you still respect him? Assuming the answer is yes, cab you still respect him if he has lost respect for you over this. I hope the answer will be no.
Posted by celticlionessPosted by jalyssa62
Is there a way to "save face" after us having sex so soon? Or is it a lost cause?
Two people had sex on the first date here. Do you still respect him? Assuming the answer is yes, cab you still respect him if he has lost respect for you over this. I hope the answer will be no.click to expand
No...I can't. And I'm thinking this whole thing is a lost cause.
Good, well you don't know whether he has lost respect or not, assume he hasn't and keep that positive energy out there, enjoy what you have with him and let him know what you want, if you want to go to the movies for example tell him, if he doesn't want to go then do your own thing and leave him to come and get you when he is ready, if you're still available then and want to see him then let him know what you want to do... Virgo's are lovely people and are very responsive to directness, don't do him an injustice by imagining what he is thinking, just let him know how you need to be treated, if he wants you he will respond to your feelings and wishes if they are presented with calmness - and make sure to find out how he likes to be treated too and reciprocate - tenfold (they are worth it 🙂)
Posted by celticlioness
Good, well you don't know whether he has lost respect or not, assume he hasn't and keep that positive energy out there, enjoy what you have with him and let him know what you want, if you want to go to the movies for example tell him, if he doesn't want to go then do your own thing and leave him to come and get you when he is ready, if you're still available then and want to see him then let him know what you want to do... Virgo's are lovely people and are very responsive to directness, don't do him an injustice by imagining what he is thinking, just let him know how you need to be treated, if he wants you he will respond to your feelings and wishes if they are presented with calmness - and make sure to find out how he likes to be treated too and reciprocate - tenfold (they are worth it 🙂)
Thank you Celticlioness.
I'll try to tell him in the mos calm manner I know how. I hear it takes loads of patience to hook a Virgo. Hopefully pursuing him will give me a little more of that.
I'll give it a week before I text him again.
Can any male Virgos answer this question:
I read that you guys tend to value alone time more than any other sign (sort of a childish revelation, but hat's what I've read). During said "alone time," what do u do? And do u shy away frm all contact with the outside world?
Thanx
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I want to know if any possibility of us going further has been ruined by us having sex so soon. I've read that Virgo men shy away from emotional displays (oh..his Moon is in Capricorn by the way).
Being that I'm a Lunar Libra...I need to have someone to share things with...companionship. I'm so enamored with this guy that I'll concede and "mold" myself into what I feel I "need" to be. Oh, I'm a Solar Gem. My sun sign is notorious for being impatient and flighty, but I really want this to work out.
I want to tell him how I really feel, but I'm afraid. IT seems like he's going thru one of his loner phases...as you guys typically do.
More of his Aspects:
Moon-Cap
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Mars-Libra
Mercury-Virgo
Someone please give me some insight?