Help with Virgo Friend/Officemate

I need help with a Virgo friend who's an officemate too. We became friends through a common friend, a Sag girl, also an officemate and the Virgo's immediate superior . We we're very close when we became friends. We can't stop talking before. I helped her fixing the friendship with that Sag friend because apparently that friend of ours is leaving the company. My Virgo friend got so attached to her as she treats her as an older sister. So she was really devestated when our Sag friend left. So I tried to support her during those times. We had a restructuring so I offered her to become my staff and she agreed. She was about to resign also from the company but it was the reason she didn't leave. It was difficult to get her as my staff as she's from other department. She even resented when it took so long to be transferred to me. And finally when she was transferred to me that's when the problem started.

At first she was so happy. We even rented an appartment together with her cousin. But then I noticed she started drifting away from me. And now she won't even speak to me unless so needed or it's about work. Even at the apartment she won't speak to me. I tried to talk to her on how we can fix our relationship as a friend and colleague but nothing much change. She said she's having a hard time separating our work and friendship. She's worrying about her disrespecting me. But to no avail there are instances that she had dfinitely didn't treat me right as a friend and superior. I always ask her what's wrong but then she'll say nothing.

From our circle of friends, I've heard these reasons why she is acting like these to me. One is I spend more time with my boyfriend now. Another is I've told her that I'm giving her freedom on how to do her job . But then when I've given her instructions she took it differently. Also she said I'm too direct and frank for her.

I really want to save our friendship but then I'm already at loss with her. It's starting to affect our team performance. Thanks in advance.

I think it was a really bad idea to move her to your department.

It sounds like you are trying to make decisions for her, and she can't argue with you and tell you to stop because you are her superior.

And what is up with Bulls chasing people?

If she has decided to change the terms of her relationship with you, then that is her choice, and her right. leave her the fuck alone and let her make her own decisions.

Maybe it's your need to control, is the reason why she backs away.