hey all here's the UPDATE

So he TEXTS me this morning saying " I understand, my apologies. I have a lot on my plate right now. It would be unfair to start a relationship. I would suck!!!!!!!. As someone's significant other. So going forward...I will minimize my crassness in my discourse with you. And we can just keep it platonic (17min later he texts) I apologize for hurting you with my actions or the absence of action."

I so did not see this coming and I do not know what to say period or to say to him. I'm really upset that he texted it and I don't know know what to do next. I told him what I wanted n didn't want over a month ago when my feeling weren't all the way there...and he now tell me this after I developed feeling. I'm so mad right now I can't even work

This is a diff Virgo the one from Nov ended in March/Apr. This I've know since Jan but we started dating in May

No worries, lol

I feel like he's running scared b/c the plate he's referring to is the same, it hasn't changed. Idk if my getting on him about the lack of commo made him say this.

I need for us to talk face to face to find out the truth? How should I go about this?

I didn't have a problem giving him space....he had his space.

All I did was let him know that commo sucked and that we need to talk about it considering our date for Sun fell thru b/c of it

MixedMel909 u're right I'm hurt. And I'm upset I didn't get the chance to say my peace. And the advice ppl are giving me is not to respond for they feel like what can I say and they're right.

I'm just at a lost considering I asked him what he wanted a month ago so i can't help but to feel maybe its not his final answer thus he's scared, or he would have told me. On the other hand I want the TRUTH..his plate nvr changed... he didn't just started feeling like he sucked...and etc. These are all excuses.

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When someone comes out with the "I'm not relationship material," no matter how they word it, believe them. Then, move on.

You're absolutely right...when you're caught in your feelings its hard to think straight. I guess I just have to decide on accepting his friendship

Point well take CC...I'm not going to say anything, there's nothing to say that will change anything and/or make me feel better so I will respond w/ silence. I have no expectations of him...no expectations, no disappointments, right?