How do I get and KEEP this Virgo's attention?!

I've been friends with my virgo for two years now. Great friends. We've been "intimate." We met in college, but now we've both graduated and we live an hour away from each other. So whenever I'm in town, we always make time to see each other and catch up.

Well his birthday just passed and I wrote him a really nice birthday shoutout on facebook accompanied by a photo and he thanked me for it, said he appreciated me for appreciating him. And I swear that must have opened up some new doors for him because he was contacting me more frequently than he ever had in the past. I've always been confused with how he feels towards me because one week he can be totally over me and the next be totally distant and I won't hear from him.

I snoop a lot on his social networks (tumblr/facebook/) and I know that he writes little blurbs or quotes on his blog and what not. He wrote this little exerpt describing a guy and a girl in love but the description did not fit our situation. So I know for sure that it wasn't about me. I know he sees other girls, because we're both single.

I beat myself up about this because I don't understand why he and I don't work. Or what he DOESN'T see in me. I'm a Capricorn and when he and I first met we hit it off like we'd known each other for years. We've expressed feelings to each other time and time again but it always comes down to this distant thing. It's been a cycle for two long years and I don't know how to make it something more steady.

I guess my dilemma is....how do I capture this man for good? I know that virgo men like women who are intellectual. I'd like to think I'm pretty smart but when I'm around him I don't even know what to say half the time. I freeze up and I get quiet. We both get quiet. I don't even know how to hold a conversation with this guy let alone begin one.

He probably thinks I'm dumb and air-headed which is why he isn't intrigued by me. At least that's my rationale for it. He also likes this other girl who I found out is a Virgo and he went to high school with so he's known her for YEARS longer than he's known me. I've subtly questioned him about her and he's denied a relationship between them by saying "sometimes things aren't always what they seem." Typical player line right? I just wish I knew how to capture his interest....we've been friends for so long and I know we're not ever going to not be friends because we both have that loyalty thing goin on....

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
how do I capture this man for good?

smh.

This guy is blowing you off yet you try to think of ways to capture his interest.

You shouldn't have to capture someone. Why wouldn't you want someone who is drawn to you because of who you are? Two years is a long time to be on stand by for another person.

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I guess my dilemma is....how do I capture this man for good? I know that virgo men like women who are intellectual. I'd like to think I'm pretty smart but when I'm around him I don't even know what to say half the time. I freeze up and I get quiet. We both get quiet. I don't even know how to hold a conversation with this guy let alone begin one.

He probably thinks I'm dumb and air-headed which is why he isn't intrigued by me. At least that's my rationale for it. He also likes this other girl who I found out is a Virgo and he went to high school with so he's known her for YEARS longer than he's known me. I've subtly questioned him about her and he's denied a relationship between them by saying "sometimes things aren't always what they seem." Typical player line right? I just wish I knew how to capture his interest....we've been friends for so long and I know we're not ever going to not be friends because we both have that loyalty thing goin on....

The comment he made to you above that I bolded...speaks volumes, and I completely understood what he meant by it, and exactly where he's coming from unlike you. No, it's not a player line..at all. In fact if I put myself in his shoes (I'm guilty of this...as an attempt see both sides), he's telling you very nicely
STOP ASSUMING SHIT!!

Because you are incapable of being yourself and communicating with him when he is before you, it is causing a void. He's doing the same thing. However for someone who wants to snatch this Virgo up and keep his attention, you certainly aren't doing or saying anything to clue him in on that fact. Instead, you are making yourself paranoid, and coming up with assumptions/conclusions that you believe are facts/truth after asking "subtle" questions that have nothing to do with you and him. Big mistake. You say you've been friends for so long. Really? How did you manage that? Why aren't you able to talk/communicate with him? Was there no communication during this really long friendship?

Drop the guard you have up, let him know EXACTLY how you feel, and if you feel compelled to ask him "subtle" questions, make the questions about you and him...and COMMUNICATE that you want him in your life a step above friendship. Stop assuming without communicating. Turns Virgo guys the hell off. Grow some balls and SPEAK UP!! Good luck.

Posted by virgo24
Maybe you can ask him how he feels about you or tell him how you feel. That way if he likes you as just a friend, or is on the fence, you can move on. Or maybe he does have feelings for you and you can find out. Either way, it would be good to find out.

See? Virgo's will answer and respond WHEN you stop beating around the bush.
You may get an answer if you simply ASK HIM. 😉

Thanks for all your input guys, I really do appreciate it. LetItB you're completely right, thanks for the tough love. 🙂