How to convince a virgo to go on vacation

Listen lmao. I just need help, I try but listen okay I need help lol. My love as per my recent last topic is a virgo sun/cancer moon. So you know, workaholic, workoutholic, homebody. I’m going to Italy & paris end of the month and he brought up wanting to come to paris at least. I’m going for my birthday. Now this isn’t his first time bringing up traveling with or to me but not following through or fully committing and coming. So is there anything I can do to help him commit and come along? He told me his friend said he should come with me too. It would really make my birthday if he came but I do want him to decide on his own, I’m not big on pressuring ppl aka him lol. All advice will be appreciated 😊

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You pick the dirtiest places to try take a Virgo on his first overseas trip smh.

Umm okay? Lol. Do you have anything positive to contribute to this thread? If not you’re excused.

Posted by emeraldgem

Show him an agenda of all the fun things to do there so he knows what to expect. And talk it up about how excited you are and would hate to have him miss out on the experience.

I like you, you’re always trying to help me lmao. Hmm that actually makes a lot of sense because they don’t particularly like surprises so if they know what to expect they may be more comfortable with going. Great point 😊. Thank you

Virgo sun cancer moon here

I do this all the time. I do better if the person pretty much just adds me to the thing. Then I feel like I cant let them down. Then i end up so happy they did becuz i have a great time😊

Posted by Earthy

Virgo sun cancer moon here

I do this all the time. I do better if the person pretty much just adds me to the thing. Then I feel like I cant let them down. Then i end up so happy they did becuz i have a great time😊

See I would but I planned it with a friend & we’re all flying in from different places. He has to buy his flight. He knows I’m willing to find him cheap flights & I told him he’s welcomed to come. If he buys his flight I can plan the rest 😩

Posted by emeraldgem

Find out what he is into. Food? Museums? Damn I would love to go to Pompeii! See the Colosseum. He might like Italy more.

I got the best flight deal to Milan and my friend and I got excited and booked a trip to Paris in the middle of Italy lmao so I’m trying to at least fit Venice in. I’ll have to do southern Italy another time. I only have about 9 days for this excursion. I mean he could come to whichever but he said Paris & my friend will have friends there she can hang with if me and him want quality time together 😊

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Posted by Earthy

Virgo sun cancer moon here

I do this all the time. I do better if the person pretty much just adds me to the thing. Then I feel like I cant let them down. Then i end up so happy they did becuz i have a great time😊

See I would but I planned it with a friend & we’re all flying in from different places. He has to buy his flight. He knows I’m willing to find him cheap flights & I told him he’s welcomed to come. If he buys his flight I can plan the rest 😩

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Honestly in that situation I wouldn't go.

Idk just feel like if you planned with a friend and not me fron the beginning-than I'm just a second thought. So i might suggest but never really have intentions of going

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Posted by Earthy

Virgo sun cancer moon here

I do this all the time. I do better if the person pretty much just adds me to the thing. Then I feel like I cant let them down. Then i end up so happy they did becuz i have a great time😊

See I would but I planned it with a friend & we’re all flying in from different places. He has to buy his flight. He knows I’m willing to find him cheap flights & I told him he’s welcomed to come. If he buys his flight I can plan the rest 😩

Honestly in that situation I wouldn't go.

Idk just feel like if you planned with a friend and not me fron the beginning-than I'm just a second thought. So i might suggest but never really have intentions of going

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I understand. I didn’t plan with him originally because I didn’t think he would go. I never figured he would be interested in going or would commit and it’s my birthday trip so I didn’t want to get my hopes up or pressure him to come. I originally booked it with intentions of going alone but since my friend lives in Norway and wanted to come I was like awesome lol. She bought my flight to Paris from Milan. But my love keeps bringing up coming so I’m like hmm well then come on lol. So idk maybe he’s just talking but I’d make space for him for sure. Also, I wouldn’t mind planning a trip with just him and I if I truly thought we would want to go

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You pick the dirtiest places to try take a Virgo on his first overseas trip smh.

Umm okay? Lol. Do you have anything positive to contribute to this thread? If not you’re excused.

Find out where some gyms are that hr can go to and make time for him to go and some good meaty restaurants. Make an itinerary as opposed to just winging it because that will give him comfort. Have some downdays so he can be a homebody In the hotel or to do some work if its that kinda work.

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No this advice I can appreciate. Thank you 😊

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Posted by SlipperySlope

You pick the dirtiest places to try take a Virgo on his first overseas trip smh.

Umm okay? Lol. Do you have anything positive to contribute to this thread? If not you’re excused.

Find out where some gyms are that hr can go to and make time for him to go and some good meaty restaurants. Make an itinerary as opposed to just winging it because that will give him comfort. Have some downdays so he can be a homebody In the hotel or to do some work if its that kinda work.

No this advice I can appreciate. Thank you 😊

First comment still stands though. 😎

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But it’s not accurate since it was his idea to come &&& it’s not his first time out of the country 🙃

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Posted by SlipperySlope

You pick the dirtiest places to try take a Virgo on his first overseas trip smh.

Umm okay? Lol. Do you have anything positive to contribute to this thread? If not you’re excused.

Find out where some gyms are that hr can go to and make time for him to go and some good meaty restaurants. Make an itinerary as opposed to just winging it because that will give him comfort. Have some downdays so he can be a homebody In the hotel or to do some work if its that kinda work.

No this advice I can appreciate. Thank you 😊

First comment still stands though. 😎

But it’s not accurate since it was his idea to come &&& it’s not his first time out of the country 🙃

Accuracy went out the door when we logged on to an astrology website...

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Lmao annoying 😂

I booked an airbnb apartment. Two bedrooms, one of us and one for my friend. My friend said she’s happy for him to join us.

He still ain’t commit. Talkin about he has jobs lined up, yet still everyone keeps telling him to go.... I leave for Italy in less than 2 weeks. Paris is in 17 days. I’m just watching the flight prices change lol. I tried. I told him not to tell me next time until after he commits because I naturally get my hopes up.

Posted by Cg2016

Listen lmao. I just need help, I try but listen okay I need help lol. My love as per my recent last topic is a virgo sun/cancer moon. So you know, workaholic, workoutholic, homebody. I’m going to Italy & paris end of the month and he brought up wanting to come to paris at least. I’m going for my birthday. Now this isn’t his first time bringing up traveling with or to me but not following through or fully committing and coming. So is there anything I can do to help him commit and come along? He told me his friend said he should come with me too. It would really make my birthday if he came but I do want him to decide on his own, I’m not big on pressuring ppl aka him lol. All advice will be appreciated 😊

Show him a plan, an itinerary, and a budget list of everything you’re doing. If everything is planned out and you could come up with a half decent pitch he’ll probably be all hands on deck.

Gosh if theres anytime to put pressure on your bf its when you have a bday trip planned.

Just be all, "would mean the world to me if you came" "all I want for my birthday is to share this experience with you" "the only gift I need from you is you by my side" "yada yada blech"

Really lay it on THICK.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Gosh if theres anytime to put pressure on your bf its when you have a bday trip planned.

Just be all, "would mean the world to me if you came" "all I want for my birthday is to share this experience with you" "the only gift I need from you is you by my side" "yada yada blech"

Really lay it on THICK.

Begging a guy to hangout with you on your birthday? I don't know man Virgos seem really selfish to me for a service oriented sign - also highly unromantic

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No not begging. More like a gentle nudge. And for dudes that means you gotta say something at least 3xs before it sinks in.

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Gosh if theres anytime to put pressure on your bf its when you have a bday trip planned.

Just be all, "would mean the world to me if you came" "all I want for my birthday is to share this experience with you" "the only gift I need from you is you by my side" "yada yada blech"

Really lay it on THICK.

Begging a guy to hangout with you on your birthday? I don't know man Virgos seem really selfish to me for a service oriented sign - also highly unromantic

No not begging. More like a gentle nudge. And for dudes that means you gotta say something at least 3xs before it sinks in.

I guess i am an idealist. Id prefer a man plans out everything for me on my birthday and makes me feel special

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Nothing wrong with that.

Problem here is op is so chill with her bf he prolly has taken her behavior to mean that it doesn't much matter to her if he shows up or not. I've been the same way and am learning to open my mouth and tell him what I want.

A good one will show up when you ask plus go the extra mile to make sure your bday is extra memorable, in this case.

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Posted by Cg2016

Listen lmao. I just need help, I try but listen okay I need help lol. My love as per my recent last topic is a virgo sun/cancer moon. So you know, workaholic, workoutholic, homebody. I’m going to Italy & paris end of the month and he brought up wanting to come to paris at least. I’m going for my birthday. Now this isn’t his first time bringing up traveling with or to me but not following through or fully committing and coming. So is there anything I can do to help him commit and come along? He told me his friend said he should come with me too. It would really make my birthday if he came but I do want him to decide on his own, I’m not big on pressuring ppl aka him lol. All advice will be appreciated 😊

Show him a plan, an itinerary, and a budget list of everything you’re doing. If everything is planned out and you could come up with a half decent pitch he’ll probably be all hands on deck.

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Damn I’m not good at details I need a Virgo’s help 😩😭. I’m so serious 😅😭

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Gosh if theres anytime to put pressure on your bf its when you have a bday trip planned.

Just be all, "would mean the world to me if you came" "all I want for my birthday is to share this experience with you" "the only gift I need from you is you by my side" "yada yada blech"

Really lay it on THICK.

Begging a guy to hangout with you on your birthday? I don't know man Virgos seem really selfish to me for a service oriented sign - also highly unromantic

No not begging. More like a gentle nudge. And for dudes that means you gotta say something at least 3xs before it sinks in.

I guess i am an idealist. Id prefer a man plans out everything for me on my birthday and makes me feel special

Nothing wrong with that.

Problem here is op is so chill with her bf he prolly has taken her behavior to mean that it doesn't much matter to her if he shows up or not. I've been the same way and am learning to open my mouth and tell him what I want.

A good one will show up when you ask plus go the extra mile to make sure your bday is extra memorable, in this case.

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I figured he knows how much it means to me for him to follow through. I did tell him though last night. I try not to pressure him so he could decide on his own, but I’m not gonna lie I will be disappointed if he had me in limbo this long just for it to be a no. I did tell him next time to not talk about it until he’s sure because I get my hopes up lol. He has until Sunday to decide because that’s my deadline to modify the apartment arrangements. I don’t want nobody coming with me out of feeling guilty so I didn’t wanna press it. He’s the one who came up with the idea and kept mentioning it and that’s what’s aggravating me. Because I feel like I would tell him about himself and that’s always cutthroat 😩

Posted by Black-Mamba

Sounds like a headache. What's the big deal about taking a trip with your GF.

I want to be able to let it go and release my expectations but I naturally have anxiety when it comes to being in limbo on a decision. I also really want him to come so it’s like bruh come on. I’m being patient and that’s maddddd hard for me lmao

I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

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Gosh if theres anytime to put pressure on your bf its when you have a bday trip planned.

Just be all, "would mean the world to me if you came" "all I want for my birthday is to share this experience with you" "the only gift I need from you is you by my side" "yada yada blech"

Really lay it on THICK.

Begging a guy to hangout with you on your birthday? I don't know man Virgos seem really selfish to me for a service oriented sign - also highly unromantic

No not begging. More like a gentle nudge. And for dudes that means you gotta say something at least 3xs before it sinks in.

I guess i am an idealist. Id prefer a man plans out everything for me on my birthday and makes me feel special

Nothing wrong with that.

Problem here is op is so chill with her bf he prolly has taken her behavior to mean that it doesn't much matter to her if he shows up or not. I've been the same way and am learning to open my mouth and tell him what I want.

A good one will show up when you ask plus go the extra mile to make sure your bday is extra memorable, in this case.

I figured he knows how much it means to me for him to follow through. I did tell him though last night. I try not to pressure him so he could decide on his own, but I’m not gonna lie I will be disappointed if he had me in limbo this long just for it to be a no. I did tell him next time to not talk about it until he’s sure because I get my hopes up lol. He has until Sunday to decide because that’s my deadline to modify the apartment arrangements. I don’t want nobody coming with me out of feeling guilty so I didn’t wanna press it. He’s the one who came up with the idea and kept mentioning it and that’s what’s aggravating me. Because I feel like I would tell him about himself and that’s always cutthroat 😩

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I'd be disappointed too.

Your too nice. He should come with you not cause he feels guilty but because he wants to celebrate your birthday with you! Especially if he knows how important it is to you.

Hoping for the best for you here.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Gosh if theres anytime to put pressure on your bf its when you have a bday trip planned.

Just be all, "would mean the world to me if you came" "all I want for my birthday is to share this experience with you" "the only gift I need from you is you by my side" "yada yada blech"

Really lay it on THICK.

Begging a guy to hangout with you on your birthday? I don't know man Virgos seem really selfish to me for a service oriented sign - also highly unromantic

No not begging. More like a gentle nudge. And for dudes that means you gotta say something at least 3xs before it sinks in.

I guess i am an idealist. Id prefer a man plans out everything for me on my birthday and makes me feel special

Nothing wrong with that.

Problem here is op is so chill with her bf he prolly has taken her behavior to mean that it doesn't much matter to her if he shows up or not. I've been the same way and am learning to open my mouth and tell him what I want.

A good one will show up when you ask plus go the extra mile to make sure your bday is extra memorable, in this case.

I figured he knows how much it means to me for him to follow through. I did tell him though last night. I try not to pressure him so he could decide on his own, but I’m not gonna lie I will be disappointed if he had me in limbo this long just for it to be a no. I did tell him next time to not talk about it until he’s sure because I get my hopes up lol. He has until Sunday to decide because that’s my deadline to modify the apartment arrangements. I don’t want nobody coming with me out of feeling guilty so I didn’t wanna press it. He’s the one who came up with the idea and kept mentioning it and that’s what’s aggravating me. Because I feel like I would tell him about himself and that’s always cutthroat 😩

I'd be disappointed too.

Your too nice. He should come with you not cause he feels guilty but because he wants to celebrate your birthday with you! Especially if he knows how important it is to you.

Hoping for the best for you here.

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That’s how I feel but what woman really wants to tell a man that? So I was like okay I’ll just do my best to make you more comfortable with coming by eliminating your paying for housing. I’m not gonna buy your flight and I think I’m gonna stop bringing it up because mulling over it is exhausting and taking away from my being excited for the trip in totality. So that sucks.

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

I said this:

I feel like ever since you’ve shown interest in coming on this trip I feel like I’ve been obsessing about you actually coming. I think it’s because in a perfect world, you would, without me feeling like I had to convince you or anything along those lines. I feel like because I’m feeling like I’m in a limbo that I haven’t really been excited like I was before because limbo and uncertainty gives me a kind of anxiety. Usually I’d just let it go but these things are time sensitive and so it’s hard not to think about it. That’s why I said that if you’re unsure you’re going to commit to something don’t tell me because I naturally get my hopes up and then if it doesn’t happen it’s hard for me to not feel sad especially if I’ve been waiting for an answer for a long time. So it feels like a frustration I can’t shake. And it hasn’t been easy getting a straight answer. I don’t want this to become a big thing and I don’t want you to feel guilty or do anything out of guilt but I hope you can see where I’m coming from. I just wanted to get my feelings out because when I let them fester everything goes wrong. That’s not my intentions here. I just wanna know if you have real intentions on coming or were you just talking & if so can you tell me something more substantial so I’m not wondering everyday and in the dark. Hey if you feel that it’s not worth the days, time or money and you’d rather work, then do that, but please in the future if you know that’s where you stand don’t tell me because it’s not something I would like to be aware of. Of course it would mean the world to me if you really came, but all I’m saying is let me know what you’re genuinely intending to do so I can make peace with how to move forward and I can stop hoping and praying everyday. That’s all.

And he said: I’m not coming any more .

Was a wrong in what I said? This is why I didn’t want to express my feelings because I didn’t wanna press and ruin it. But oh well. I’m not gonna respond because I know I’ll make it worse and it’ll become a big mess.

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I said this:

I feel like ever since you’ve shown interest in coming on this trip I feel like I’ve been obsessing about you actually coming. I think it’s because in a perfect world, you would, without me feeling like I had to convince you or anything along those lines. I feel like because I’m feeling like I’m in a limbo that I haven’t really been excited like I was before because limbo and uncertainty gives me a kind of anxiety. Usually I’d just let it go but these things are time sensitive and so it’s hard not to think about it. That’s why I said that if you’re unsure you’re going to commit to something don’t tell me because I naturally get my hopes up and then if it doesn’t happen it’s hard for me to not feel sad especially if I’ve been waiting for an answer for a long time. So it feels like a frustration I can’t shake. And it hasn’t been easy getting a straight answer. I don’t want this to become a big thing and I don’t want you to feel guilty or do anything out of guilt but I hope you can see where I’m coming from. I just wanted to get my feelings out because when I let them fester everything goes wrong. That’s not my intentions here. I just wanna know if you have real intentions on coming or were you just talking & if so can you tell me something more substantial so I’m not wondering everyday and in the dark. Hey if you feel that it’s not worth the days, time or money and you’d rather work, then do that, but please in the future if you know that’s where you stand don’t tell me because it’s not something I would like to be aware of. Of course it would mean the world to me if you really came, but all I’m saying is let me know what you’re genuinely intending to do so I can make peace with how to move forward and I can stop hoping and praying everyday. That’s all.

And he said: I’m not coming any more .

Was a wrong in what I said? This is why I didn’t want to express my feelings because I didn’t wanna press and ruin it. But oh well. I’m not gonna respond because I know I’ll make it worse and it’ll become a big mess.

you're so cute

but you sound like someone i have to really commit to

and some of us get cold feet.... at times

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I said this:

I feel like ever since you’ve shown interest in coming on this trip I feel like I’ve been obsessing about you actually coming. I think it’s because in a perfect world, you would, without me feeling like I had to convince you or anything along those lines. I feel like because I’m feeling like I’m in a limbo that I haven’t really been excited like I was before because limbo and uncertainty gives me a kind of anxiety. Usually I’d just let it go but these things are time sensitive and so it’s hard not to think about it. That’s why I said that if you’re unsure you’re going to commit to something don’t tell me because I naturally get my hopes up and then if it doesn’t happen it’s hard for me to not feel sad especially if I’ve been waiting for an answer for a long time. So it feels like a frustration I can’t shake. And it hasn’t been easy getting a straight answer. I don’t want this to become a big thing and I don’t want you to feel guilty or do anything out of guilt but I hope you can see where I’m coming from. I just wanted to get my feelings out because when I let them fester everything goes wrong. That’s not my intentions here. I just wanna know if you have real intentions on coming or were you just talking & if so can you tell me something more substantial so I’m not wondering everyday and in the dark. Hey if you feel that it’s not worth the days, time or money and you’d rather work, then do that, but please in the future if you know that’s where you stand don’t tell me because it’s not something I would like to be aware of. Of course it would mean the world to me if you really came, but all I’m saying is let me know what you’re genuinely intending to do so I can make peace with how to move forward and I can stop hoping and praying everyday. That’s all.

And he said: I’m not coming any more .

Was a wrong in what I said? This is why I didn’t want to express my feelings because I didn’t wanna press and ruin it. But oh well. I’m not gonna respond because I know I’ll make it worse and it’ll become a big mess.

you're so cute

but you sound like someone i have to really commit to

and some of us get cold feet.... at times

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Listen, I have 3 days to amend the reservations. Like he could at least say like give me a few more days or I still have to figure out somethings. The only things he kept saying is idk yet but when I told him how I felt he responded quick af. That felt really cold to me and it takes a lot for me to communicate in a loving way because I’m usually blunt with no regard lol. I’m annoyed af. To add, he’s flaked on plans before and let me down so it’s like how do you expect me to feel? It’s my birthday trip

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

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Does he even have a passport? I read your other posts. Are you going with other friends? Just plan on having fun when you go. It's your birthday and he's the one that's going to be missing out!

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

Does he even have a passport? I read your other posts. Are you going with other friends? Just plan on having fun when you go. It's your birthday and he's the one that's going to be missing out!

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Thank you Sag! Yes he does and he’s only used it once but puerto rico doesn’t even count lol. I calmed down and asked him questions to see what exactly was the issue. He seems worried about being impulsive and not being financially responsible or whatever. I told him I’d rather for him to be comfortable and happy coming so if he’s not feeling that then don’t come lol.

Like I didn’t invite him originally because I anticipated this being a big deal or whatever which I def wanted to avoid and now look lmao

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Sorry, that sucks! You got honest and he did too. It’s not the answer you wanted, but it’s progress. Now you both know that you need to plan way ahead next time. Enjoy your trip!

Yeah I told him I seen some pretty good flights for april so we’ll see. Thank for your words.

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Posted by Cg2016

Listen lmao. I just need help, I try but listen okay I need help lol. My love as per my recent last topic is a virgo sun/cancer moon. So you know, workaholic, workoutholic, homebody. I’m going to Italy & paris end of the month and he brought up wanting to come to paris at least. I’m going for my birthday. Now this isn’t his first time bringing up traveling with or to me but not following through or fully committing and coming. So is there anything I can do to help him commit and come along? He told me his friend said he should come with me too. It would really make my birthday if he came but I do want him to decide on his own, I’m not big on pressuring ppl aka him lol. All advice will be appreciated 😊

f him go alone

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Lmao I was prepared to go alone but my good friend Mel is coming 😊

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

Does he even have a passport? I read your other posts. Are you going with other friends? Just plan on having fun when you go. It's your birthday and he's the one that's going to be missing out!

Thank you Sag! Yes he does and he’s only used it once but puerto rico doesn’t even count lol. I calmed down and asked him questions to see what exactly was the issue. He seems worried about being impulsive and not being financially responsible or whatever. I told him I’d rather for him to be comfortable and happy coming so if he’s not feeling that then don’t come lol.

Like I didn’t invite him originally because I anticipated this being a big deal or whatever which I def wanted to avoid and now look lmao

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That could be a little bit of the issue as well. You planning a birthday trip without your boyfriend. He could be hurt by it. Was he away for his birthday? Or did you celebrate it with him?

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

Does he even have a passport? I read your other posts. Are you going with other friends? Just plan on having fun when you go. It's your birthday and he's the one that's going to be missing out!

Thank you Sag! Yes he does and he’s only used it once but puerto rico doesn’t even count lol. I calmed down and asked him questions to see what exactly was the issue. He seems worried about being impulsive and not being financially responsible or whatever. I told him I’d rather for him to be comfortable and happy coming so if he’s not feeling that then don’t come lol.

Like I didn’t invite him originally because I anticipated this being a big deal or whatever which I def wanted to avoid and now look lmao

That could be a little bit of the issue as well. You planning a birthday trip without your boyfriend. He could be hurt by it. Was he away for his birthday? Or did you celebrate it with him?

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Well because he has a history of this limbo shit and I don’t have time for it. But on his birthday we discussed him coming to New York and he wanted to come. I did what I always do, sent him flights but it was pretty last minute so again he didn’t come. As for my bday trip he knew about it when I booked the flight in about end of June. So if he really wanted to come he had all that time to make up his mind and get his shit in order. I booked the trip with intentions of going no matter what. But now at the last min, he’s having all these qualms about it. If would’ve been great but it is what it is. I’ve said my peace. I have a life to live and we only get 1.

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

Does he even have a passport? I read your other posts. Are you going with other friends? Just plan on having fun when you go. It's your birthday and he's the one that's going to be missing out!

Thank you Sag! Yes he does and he’s only used it once but puerto rico doesn’t even count lol. I calmed down and asked him questions to see what exactly was the issue. He seems worried about being impulsive and not being financially responsible or whatever. I told him I’d rather for him to be comfortable and happy coming so if he’s not feeling that then don’t come lol.

Like I didn’t invite him originally because I anticipated this being a big deal or whatever which I def wanted to avoid and now look lmao

That could be a little bit of the issue as well. You planning a birthday trip without your boyfriend. He could be hurt by it. Was he away for his birthday? Or did you celebrate it with him?

Well because he has a history of this limbo shit and I don’t have time for it. But on his birthday we discussed him coming to New York and he wanted to come. I did what I always do, sent him flights but it was pretty last minute so again he didn’t come. As for my bday trip he knew about it when I booked the flight in about end of June. So if he really wanted to come he had all that time to make up his mind and get his shit in order. I booked the trip with intentions of going no matter what. But now at the last min, he’s having all these qualms about it. If would’ve been great but it is what it is. I’ve said my peace. I have a life to live and we only get 1.

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Yup! I'd do the same thing! Good for you! You tried. Have a blast!

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I'm supposed to be going somewhere with the Virgo I'm dating and e is indecisive too about how many days he wants to go. I basically told him he better figure it out and stick to what he wants, otherwise I will choose for him and shove him in a suitcase and drag him along.

He laughed and said maybe he would like that.

Sit at a computer with him and plan it all out and have him buy the ticket, if he wants to go.

The thing is, I’m in NY & he’s FL. I mean I can do that with him on ft. I send him flights everyday but I refuse to buy his ticket lol. It feels like pulling teeth

Does he even have a passport? I read your other posts. Are you going with other friends? Just plan on having fun when you go. It's your birthday and he's the one that's going to be missing out!

Thank you Sag! Yes he does and he’s only used it once but puerto rico doesn’t even count lol. I calmed down and asked him questions to see what exactly was the issue. He seems worried about being impulsive and not being financially responsible or whatever. I told him I’d rather for him to be comfortable and happy coming so if he’s not feeling that then don’t come lol.

Like I didn’t invite him originally because I anticipated this being a big deal or whatever which I def wanted to avoid and now look lmao

That could be a little bit of the issue as well. You planning a birthday trip without your boyfriend. He could be hurt by it. Was he away for his birthday? Or did you celebrate it with him?

Well because he has a history of this limbo shit and I don’t have time for it. But on his birthday we discussed him coming to New York and he wanted to come. I did what I always do, sent him flights but it was pretty last minute so again he didn’t come. As for my bday trip he knew about it when I booked the flight in about end of June. So if he really wanted to come he had all that time to make up his mind and get his shit in order. I booked the trip with intentions of going no matter what. But now at the last min, he’s having all these qualms about it. If would’ve been great but it is what it is. I’ve said my peace. I have a life to live and we only get 1.

Yup! I'd do the same thing! Good for you! You tried. Have a blast!

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Thank you 😊