How to win/please a Virgo girl?

I should have approached my previous post about this topic to this forum with a different tone.

Ok, let me try this again.

I (Cancer guy) am dating this Virgo lady. Very soon it will be a year. We love each others company. Her family seems to like me. They were extraordinarily sweet during the Thanksgiving and Xmas holidays. Now, the only thing about my Virgo lady is that she expresses very little. I don't know what makes her happy. I don't know what are my traits that she likes. I want her to be happy at all times. How do I do this?

Thank you for any insights.

I am unlike many virgos in that I express every feeling, fear, thought, etc. that comes into my head. Usually without even meaning to or realizing what I am doing. I am an extreme extrovert and communication is one of my stronger qualities (probably due to being born on the Leo/Virgo cusp). However I totally identify with your situation. I am totally in love with my boyfriend, yet he also expresses very little. I understand you want your girlfriend to be happy at all times, I also feel this need, however I have recently realized this goal is futile. Wanting your partner to be happy is a wonderful thing. But you cannot expect for someone to be happy at all times and even more so, you cannot expect for you yourself to make this happen. It is hard for us to realize that no matter how hard we try, we cannon MAKE someone happy. We can of course contribute to their happiness, but overall happiness lies within ones self and no where else. Treat your girlfriend as you wish for her to treat you. Partners who express very little are extremely frustrating at times, but it is so worth it each time they let you in on somthing that lies within their minds. Above all . . . just be yourself . . . you have been together for a year . . . she must like you for you or you wouldn't have lasted this long. You must be doing somthing right 😉

""I am unlike many virgos in that I express every feeling, fear, thought, etc. that comes into my head. Usually without even meaning to or realizing what I am doing. I am an extreme extrovert and communication is one of my stronger qualities (probably due to being born on the Leo/Virgo cusp). '"""

yeah me too.......I am the same way and I'm also a Virgo/Leo Cusp
I always expressing what I feel and well have no trouble communicating....so I din't get what people say that Virgo girls are hard to talk to

damn typos.....sorry I meant to say

I'm always expressing what I feel and well have no trouble communicating....so I don't get why people say that Virgo girls are hard to talk to

Starblue,

I know exactly what you mean . . . I've been reading on here over and over again that Virgo women are so closed up, express very little and are difficult to communicate with. That is just sooo not me at all. Honestly, you can't shut me up. I express everything whether it be good or bad. In my relationship, I vocalize what I want or need, what I am happy with, or what I am unhappy with. I noticed your birthday is only a day after mine so it must be a cusp thing.

I'm in love with a Pisces, and he is the total opposite of me. He express little and sometimes it is so hard to figure out what is going on in his head . .or what he wants/needs/feels. It creates a bit of hostility and drama at times, however I am more than willing to deal with it and work through it if it means being with him. I must give him credit in that if we are having any type of problem, I insist he vocalize his feelings, which i know is really difficult for him, and he tries, he really does, but sometimes is just completely unable to do so. We somehow always manage to resolve any conflict quickly and never hold grudges . . . so it does work. Every time I read about these uncommunicating Virgos, I immediately think of my Pisces.

. . .and a comment to Branh0913 . . . not all virgo women are like that. I am easily amused, easily impressed, and I at most times, I give double what I get. This particularly applies to my relationship. I am willing to give everything I have, I only need affection, love, and loyalty in return. Wow, I never realized how cold-hearted Virgo women are thought to be.

Well that just sucks . . .

Well thankfully someone is . . . I've just never ever been ashamed or awkward or what-not about emotions I am feeling. I express them to strangers even. It's just me, I can't help what I feel or when I feel it . . . so I'm not going to pretend it doesn't exist or bottle it up. I'm usually in a wonderful mood and generally a very happy person . . . and I convey this too, without any effort or thought at all.

This is sooo totally the opposite of my Pisces boyfriend. I can read him better than most, and that isn't saying much. I jump up and down due to excitement about somthing at least once every other week . . . sometimes when he is excited . .he barely smiles. It makes me think he's upset about somthing when in reality he is perfectly content. It really perplexes me.

I'm just glad some others feel the way I do. I used to not understand why others seemed to refuse to express feeling or communicate. Now I realize some people are actually unable too. Like . . . they arent ashamed to express their feelings . . .and they have a million things to say in their head . .but somehow . .it just won't come out . . . I wonder what can be done about that . . . .

VirgoFun and Virgo_Innamorato, Thank you for all the advice! I will do the best I can to keep this Virgo lady happy.