SoInLOVE
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Is Virgo Sensitive?
Posted by SoInLOVE
but how offend do you really get rattled?
Yes, people who make no sense in their phrases offend me.
But yes, Virgos as a group get very offended. Not because we don't see flaws but because a lot of people are so off the mark. It comes across as an annoying mosquito. Virgos are so *bzzzzz* and so *bzzzzz*. We don't really listen to background noise. Intent is everything, I cannot emphasize this enough. And it's crystal clear with a lot of people..they don't ask stuff to understand, they ask to bash. In which case you will be indulged for a little and then dismissed.
...This doesn't excuse us from being sensitive to criticism while we dish it so eagerly. However we beat ourselves up about our faults more than anyone could...I mean if anyone would be better at listing all my flaws than I am...I take my hat off to that person.
Our communication skills are good, unless we don't care.
Posted by SoInLOVE
how *often* do you really get rattled?
Not often.
Posted by SoInLOVE
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
click to expand
Only around the complexities of verbally expressing human emotion are difficulties encountered. And maybe the want for appreciation in the things that we do.
Posted by Damnata
However we beat ourselves up about our faults more than anyone could...I mean if anyone would be better at listing all my flaws than I am...I take my hat off to that person.
+1
It's a blessing and a curse.
"Like the Libran, Virgo is quick to deny his habits and traits. He has an apparent blindness to his faults and he seems unable to see his own weaknesses in as clear a light as he sees everything else. But the truth is that he does see them-and he sees them in such infinite detail that he can't bear to hear them generalized. Try to tell a typical Virgo he's critical, a worrier, fussy, neat or unusually concerned with diet and health, and you'll face a fiat denial. Who, him? He's not like that at all. I still have the ten-page letter from a Virgo housewife, written in a tiny, precise handwriting, in which she carefully details all the reasons why the descriptions of her Sun sign don't fit her, never realizing that the very orderly form and length of her hairsplitting complaint was giving her away.
"I'm just not neat," she wrote. "My house is terribly sloppy." But then she continued, "After all, I do have two very small children, who constantly make messes which drive me crazy. I pick up after them every second of the day." (She then proceeded to itemize her endless chores, one by one, very carefully.) "I try to keep things in a particular spot, and I never waste time reading or watching TV like my neighbors do. But things are still untidy when my husband gets home for dinner. I don't think he has any right to complain, because I do work till after mid?_night while he's sleeping, getting the house in shape for morning. I couldn't get breakfast in a dirty kitchen. Dirt breeds germs, and sickness spreads fast in a family. But before he leaves for work everything's a mess again. So this neatness thing about Virgos really annoys me. I'm really not neat. I'm also not a worrier nor a hypochondriac. I never criticize my husband's mistakes with the check book, at least not very often, because it's not a wife's place to do that. . . . I'd like to be neat, but what can I do with the children and all? Really, if you could see how they . .." and so on. (Naturally, she carefully included a self-addressed, stamped envelope for a reply.) The last line in her letter wondered, "Can you tell me why the descrip?_tions of my Sun sign don't fit me at all?" Someday I plan to have those pages framed and hang them on the wall under a symbol of Virgo."
"I'm just not neat," she wrote. "My house is terribly sloppy." But then she continued, "After all, I do have two very small children, who constantly make messes which drive me crazy. I pick up after them every second of the day." (She then proceeded to itemize her endless chores, one by one, very carefully.) "I try to keep things in a particular spot, and I never waste time reading or watching TV like my neighbors do. But things are still untidy when my husband gets home for dinner. I don't think he has any right to complain, because I do work till after mid?_night while he's sleeping, getting the house in shape for morning. I couldn't get breakfast in a dirty kitchen. Dirt breeds germs, and sickness spreads fast in a family. But before he leaves for work everything's a mess again. So this neatness thing about Virgos really annoys me. I'm really not neat. I'm also not a worrier nor a hypochondriac. I never criticize my husband's mistakes with the check book, at least not very often, because it's not a wife's place to do that. . . . I'd like to be neat, but what can I do with the children and all? Really, if you could see how they . .." and so on. (Naturally, she carefully included a self-addressed, stamped envelope for a reply.) The last line in her letter wondered, "Can you tell me why the descrip?_tions of my Sun sign don't fit me at all?" Someday I plan to have those pages framed and hang them on the wall under a symbol of Virgo."
"There's one thing that will remove some of the sting of Virgo's criticism, however, and that's the knowledge that he's secretly as critical of himself as he is of you. He just can't help seeing the flaws, because he was born to notice the tiniest crack in the vase."
Also, unfortunately..
"As much as he loves to point out the flaws of others, he fiercely resents open criticism of his own mistakes. When a Virgo makes an error, which will be rare, point it out tactfully if you want to keep his friendship."
Also, unfortunately..
"As much as he loves to point out the flaws of others, he fiercely resents open criticism of his own mistakes. When a Virgo makes an error, which will be rare, point it out tactfully if you want to keep his friendship."
Chill out Auto correct assumed what I meant. I meant *OFTEN.* My Bad, Dang.
Posted by SoInLOVE
Chill out Auto correct assumed what I meant. I meant *OFTEN.* My Bad, Dang.
Auto correct is one of our evil overlords and no one seems to notice it yet.
Posted by Damnata
Our communication skills are good, unless we don't care.
Another virgo said, that the skills aren't that great and you have to read between the lines
Posted by TMVPosted by SoInLOVE
how *often* do you really get rattled?
Not often.
Posted by SoInLOVE
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
Only around the complexities of verbally expressing human emotion are difficulties encountered. And maybe the want for appreciation in the things that we do.click to expand
So is it true that a person would have to pay attention to very small things?
Posted by SoInLOVEPosted by Damnata
Our communication skills are good, unless we don't care.
Another virgo said, that the skills aren't that great and you have to read between the linesclick to expand
It depends a lot on the topic.
You need to run a clear scenario by us and then maybe we'll reach a consensus. At the end we're still individuals. I don't think people should ever bother to read between the lines with me..they should look at my actions. Keeps them from forming clouded ideas.
Posted by SoInLOVE
So is it true that a person would have to pay attention to very small things?
I suppose that depends on what you believe constitutes "very small things." I doubt anyone is really looking to be under a microscope for their every word and action. We do that to ourselves plenty enough without help.
What I meant was maybe a "thank you" for times when I've gone out of my way to do something helpful. Grand gestures aren't necessary. Just a simple acknowledgment from time to time is sufficient.
Posted by SoInLOVE
Another virgo said, that the skills aren't that great and you have to read between the lines
Paying attention to the individual's Mercury and Moon placements would be essential for a real determination of their communication skills, and I would bet that that information would be a great deal more helpful than Sun sign alone.
Posted by Damnata
"As much as he loves to point out the flaws of others, he fiercely resents open criticism of his own mistakes. When a Virgo makes an error, which will be rare, point it out tactfully if you want to keep his friendship."
From my experience, this is very accurate. ^^^^^^^
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by Damnata
"As much as he loves to point out the flaws of others, he fiercely resents open criticism of his own mistakes. When a Virgo makes an error, which will be rare, point it out tactfully if you want to keep his friendship."
From my experience, this is very accurate. ^^^^^^^click to expand
Keyword: Tact
Posted by Damnata
Keyword: Tact
It's weird. My Virgo has the inability to accept genuine compliments, he will point out his own flaws instead. He worries a lot. I usually help him to relax. He may never admit this, but other people's opinion of him really matters. He's very shy. Many people don't know this about him. He's very sexy ( and not just because I think so 😉). But he's so articulate, and can adapt to any situation, it comes across as confidence. But I know him, it's people-pleasing. He doesn't want to be there. He wants to go home. I often point it out. It's weird, I could be across the room, watch him, and know exactly what's going through his head. If he feels slighted by someone, he will go quiet. But pretend it's not an issue. But expect to hear about it in the near future.
Damnata,
I will have to admit, I didn't use tact in the past, I'm a Bull, this mouth can be a bit unfiltered. Straightforward. At times, I can have a know-it-all approach, and refuse to hear otherwise. And yes, his flaws were put on the table. He would go silent for hours, and then politely excuse himself, pretend that everything was OK, and say he would be right back.
When he returns, I learn not to finish the argument like a persistent Bull, but to 'sweeten' him up instead. I think Virgo men are sensitive and they do have fragile egos. But it's an easy hit or miss if you're not paying close attention. No false bravado with these men, so it can easily fall on blind eyes.
Posted by tiziani
Virgo Merc:"I'm not defensive. You're defensive."
Well truth is beauty and beauty is truth 😄
Posted by tiziani
Say what? : P
Virgo - the sign of perfection.
Ruled by Mercury - the planet of thought and communication.
Virgo + Mercury = the perfection of communication.
I don't say anything unless I know with absolute certainty that what I'm saying is correct as per my own individual understanding, meaning I don't say the sappy things that partners often want to hear unless I really mean them. To get to that point requires a lengthy and elaborate mental exploration of every potential outcome to every potential communicative and demonstrative decision. Since there are so many possible wormholes spiraling outward from point A to a future point B reality, people get frustrated with the process.
And it has taken me a shamefully long time to come up with a way to describe that internal clockwork... I'm still not sure I got it right.
It really, really doesn't help when you have Libra parts arguing with your Moon and Neptune. *sigh*
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I can have a know-it-all approach, and refuse to hear otherwise.
Yeah but then you run into a Virgo and we approach it the same way.
Humor works beautifully..it zaps you out of a very emotionally driven argument. Lightens the vibe.
As a friend tells me and I need to learn this "You should strive to be happy more than being right"
Posted by tiziani
The other day I tried to get closer to someone with something philosophical and their response was "You say the weirdest shit - you're great" which was incredibly disarming
Lmao!
"I think Virgo men are sensitive and they do have fragile egos. But it's an easy hit or miss if you're not paying close attention. No false bravado with these men, so it can easily fall on blind eyes." Taurus Bull 1977
^^^^^^^^
This is so accurate and has been my experience over and over with virgo men I've known.
I've been on the receiving end of their critical nature, and while I understand it's their nature, it can come across very cold.
On the contrary, when I've simply asked why they were so critical, you'd think I'd just insulted their mother.
Virgo men are overly sensitive no matter how slice it. Their ego's are as fragile as eggs. And once you unintentionally crack the outer shell, it will never be forgotten. While I agree, it's not a false bravado. But it certainly comes across as being self absorbed. Everyone has an ego and a need to be appreciated. We all see our flaws. It's called being "human."
^^^^^^^^
This is so accurate and has been my experience over and over with virgo men I've known.
I've been on the receiving end of their critical nature, and while I understand it's their nature, it can come across very cold.
On the contrary, when I've simply asked why they were so critical, you'd think I'd just insulted their mother.
Virgo men are overly sensitive no matter how slice it. Their ego's are as fragile as eggs. And once you unintentionally crack the outer shell, it will never be forgotten. While I agree, it's not a false bravado. But it certainly comes across as being self absorbed. Everyone has an ego and a need to be appreciated. We all see our flaws. It's called being "human."
Posted by SoInLOVE
I think Virgo likes to appear unrattled, but how offend do you really get rattled?
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
How often do I get rattled? Only if I care about whoever speaks their mind.
How bad virgo communication skills? Not bad at all unless we dont care. +1 to Damnata's.
When dealing with a Virgo, don't waver. This means that no matter if they're yelling, or crying - hold your place. Sometimes Virgo like to test people and see if they are easily manipulated and see if they fall into what they are saying. I see this with so many Virgo in my life. The one sign that I see Virgo respect the most is Capricorn. Capricorn seem unphased and clear minded, looking at the big picture and being able to move on from a to b, being practical and having a plan for everything that seems to make their lives run ever so smoothly. idk if it's admiration or what but it's something I've noticed for years with several Virgo-cap relationships. I think this relationship is one of the best ones for Virgo.
Posted by VirgoDragirlPosted by SoInLOVE
I think Virgo likes to appear unrattled, but how offend do you really get rattled?
And how bad is virgo's communications skills?
How often do I get rattled? Only if I care about whoever speaks their mind.
How bad virgo communication skills? Not bad at all unless we dont care. +1 to Damnata's.click to expand
So VirgoDragirl, question for you.
You are stating that you only get rattled when you care about whoever speaks their mind. here's a scenario i've dealt with recently.
I asked the virgo why he made certain comments about me. He replies with saying "he was thinking out loud." I return the comment with
"yea, I can understand that as I've often done the same."
he replies back with "all is good."
Then when we see each other in person, he barely acknowledges me and gives me the silent treatment.
He did a complete 180 on me and has yet to give an explanation for why. Would this be a good example of him being rattled?
thanks. just trying to understand his motives and logic.
Posted by Feistypisces777
When dealing with a Virgo, don't waver. This means that no matter if they're yelling, or crying - hold your place. Sometimes Virgo like to test people and see if they are easily manipulated and see if they fall into what they are saying. I see this with so many Virgo in my life. The one sign that I see Virgo respect the most is Capricorn. Capricorn seem unphased and clear minded, looking at the big picture and being able to move on from a to b, being practical and having a plan for everything that seems to make their lives run ever so smoothly. idk if it's admiration or what but it's something I've noticed for years with several Virgo-cap relationships. I think this relationship is one of the best ones for Virgo.
I second this too.
If you are confident and know who you are, what you want and not afraid to stand up for what you believe, you will earn their respect. If you are a shrinking violet, you won't.
They may never tell you they respect and admire you, but they will show it, sometimes very subtly.
Yes, they do like to test people. If you have a spine and integrity, you will see through it. my experience has been that most men like to test women.
It's their way of seeing how much you want them. I don't think with a virgo, it's just about how much you want them. I think it's more about how much you appreciate them. at least that's been my personal experience.
TMV I agree with many things you said about virgo. I too I'm a virgo... I find myself to be very loyal, caring, with drawn from things that don't grab my attend., having relationship problems with verbally expressing human emotions, ALWYAS OVER THINKING THINGS..HOW TO IMPROVE OR HOW I COULD DONE BETTER..VERY HARD ON MYSELF AND ALWAYS EXPECT MORE!!..
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