Me and my virgo and his kids mother

Understanding Virgo Men and Their Family Commitments

Virgo men often prioritize family and show love through actions rather than words. They value loyalty and stability, which explains their involvement with children and the ex. To build trust, support his relationship with his family and communicate openly about your feelings. Patience and understanding are key to developing a strong connection with a Virgo man.

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I am dating a virgo man and he has kids by another woman. This is my first time being with a man with kids. He spends lots of time with his kids and sometimes do things with the kids and the kids mother. I care about him but this is hard knowing that he is spending time with another woman. What should I do to assure him that I support him in this. Now being a taurus woman I am used to being put first in all my relationships so this makes me a little jealous. I have been very patient with him even when he's late or I don't see him everyday. I want him really bad and want to keep him. What can I do to make him head over heels for me?

oh yeah I forgot. He is always telling me he loves me more than I know and we have talked about being togther forever. Does he mean what he says. how are virgo's with family.
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Posted by ilove2bATaurus
What should I do to assure him that I support him in this.


IL2BAT, are you serious?? If I'm dating a man who says he loves me (forever) and he's . . . doing what with his ex-wife and kids? Going to ball games? Going to school plays? Having pizza? (Please specify.) At any rate, this is outrageous. It's one thing for a child to have a school event and for both parents to show up (separately) in support of their child (and he loves you forever but . . . you ain't invited??) But it's quite another for him to be off cavorting with his ex-wife and children (like a family, for Pete's sake) with you nowhere around. I'd slam a lid on that faster than he could think up a reason!

As someone mentioned on the other thread, yes, he will always be connected to his ex-wife through his children, but that doesn't mean they have to operate as a unit, especially to the exclusion of you. And, yes, Virgos may be strongly oriented toward their families but that's just it. THEY AREN'T A FAMILY ANYMORE. The "ex"-factor sort of takes care of all that quite automatically. I'd be highly suspicious and wanting some answers PDQ. In fact, I'd want a lot more than mere answers. I suspect (a) he's either sleeping with her, (b) she's very controlling and still has him wrapped around her finger and he doesn't want her to know about you because he fears consequences, (c) he's still emotionally attached to her/the whole "family" thing, or (d) any number of reasons, none of which I would accept as valid.

When you end a relationship and begin another, you don't "do things" with your ex and your kids as a unit (comparable to how you once operated as a family), let alone without your new lady in tow. That just turns my gut. It's nice they get along for their children's sake and that they've remained amicable. But he's off "doing things" with her and you haven't even met her? Here, sniff this. (I'm passing smelling salts under your nose.)



Again, if what they're "doing together" is visiting the lawyer to discuss legalities or speaking to the school teacher at a conference regarding their child's welfare/education, there are exceptions. But recreational activities?? Here, sniff this again!!
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I've read everything on both threads, and it's already established that you two are a couple, and talking about plans for the future ... so, there is no need for you to continue in trying to find ways to convey to him that you support him, and his decisions.

for you to continue in trying to express this .. will only make him suspicious ... just look at the Virgo woman who has responded to you, StringsAttached, for example ... they are suspicious people by nature and she suspects him of doing something shady without any evidence to support her suspicion. This is the nature of the Virgo.


so, if you continue to attempt to convince him of something ... then you will spark suspicion in him to make him think you are up to something.



That's not how you approach a Virgo about a situation, if this Virgo is your partner.
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Posted by ilove2bATaurus

.... this is hard knowing that he is spending time with another woman. What should I do to assure him that I support him in this.







Why should you go out of your way to show him you are in support of something that is hard on you to accept?

You don't count?

Your feelings don't matter?



Virgo101 ..... they have to show you, provide for you - care


And you don't give him this. Here you are having a difficult time and you keep this from him, and pretend it doesn't exist, only to turn around and make him believe he needs to feel better about something?

You are treating the Virgo man in terms that are outside of his radar ... he doesn't NEED support, he doesn't NEED to be consoled, to be pampered, to be made to feel better ... what he needs as a Virgo is to help you, support you, take care of you, and how you feel.
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If he is talking about a future with you, then you don't need to do anything to get him to be head over heels for you.


But, you need to let him in to ease your pain .... because that is his job, as he would assess his position.



Tell him, it bothers you .. you love him, and you know he is with his kids and you are ok with him being with his kids, you would never jeapordize this or try to put a wedge in ... but, being with his ex doing fun stuff with her and the kids hurts your feelings.

Don't bitch, don't pout, don't manipulate ... be straight = you want him to be happy in every way, but, you are struggling with the ex and him together for personal time.



He will hear you .. I promise. Look at the thread in here, I'll bump it for you where a Scorpio woman spoke to her Virgo about how she felt ... and he immediately stopped what he was doing to take notice of how she felt.
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Posted by Scorporella

Recently, my virguy was doing something that actually hurt me. So I sent him an email and told him the behavior he was doing was hurting me. He never replied to the email, but the behavior stopped, completely. It blew me away.

I was expecting my virguy to tell me I was over-reacting, or to make some explanation or give some excuse, but he didn't do any of those things, he merely stopped the behavior.







Here, I copied and pasted for you, instead of bumping the thread.
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I don't mean to cast a shadow on your lovely experience, but if he's complaining about her often but . . . picking his kids up from school with her?? This is like a red flag to me. IMO, I wouldn't personally want to be with a man who was even accepting food stamps from his ex-wife. I also question that he's expecting her to "contribute financially" unless they have 50/50 custody of their children and he's buying everything from their clothes to their shampoo. Being that she's giving him food stamps, I hardly draw this conclusion. So what's he doing? Paying child support? (B/c if he is, why's she giving him food stamps?) The whole arrangement is suspect, where I'm concerned. Btw, if she's giving him FOOD STAMPS, what does this say about her financial capability to begin with? Is she even ABLE to contribute anything else toward them?? Sounds to me like she's living at poverty level.

She gives him food stamps, contributes nothing else toward her kids, he's all up in arms about it, and then they jolly get along and pick the kids up from school together. (Scratching my head.) I never once needed my ex to accompany me anywhere post-divorce per my kids' transportation/doctor visit needs. This is just weird. (Let's see . . . . how many parents does it take to change a light bulb?) Don't take me personally, IL2B . . . just my Virgo sarcasm coming out b/c something seems awry to me about all this. 😉

From my position of not knowing Jack about the situation in the overall, it seems his complaining about her to you while never involving you with her is a cover-up on his part for some obscure activity going on. He knows you don't know more than what you're told and that--not knowing any differently—you??re inclined to believe it. Then he complains about her just to make sure you "know" that there's no affection between them. It would seem he's lying about something--either their romantic/sexual affiliation or her true financial standing/his true financial contribution. Any way you slice it, something smells rotten in Denmark.
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Posted by P-Angel
... just look at the Virgo woman who has responded to you, StringsAttached, for example ... they are suspicious people by nature and she suspects him of doing something shady without any evidence to support her suspicion. This is the nature of the Virgo.


IL2B, P-Angel speaks as the authority on Virgos, because she's married to one (in no storybook romance, I might add) and serves as a personal antagonist to probably 70% of the Board--hence the references to my being suspicious with no evidence to support my suspicion. How much evidence do I need, P? Broke lady??s giving this man food stamps who then tells his new girlfriend his ex doesn't contribute anything financial toward his kids (but he just took a handful of food stamps from her?) and then he and his no-good ex both hop in the car and spend some quality time picking the kids up from school together . . . while new girlfriend is (rightfully) wondering what the heck??s going on. And I'm suspicious?


Posted by P-Angel
That's not how you approach a Virgo about a situation, if this Virgo is your partner.
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Which is why IL2B came to the Virgo Board asking questions about Virgos and not the Pisces Board. If anyone knows how to approach a Virgo . . . it's a Virgo. I just don't believe her Virgo??s coming clean about everything. (Again, because I'm a Virgo. We've got a shady side just like everyone else and if anyone can see into a Virgo??s shady side, it's another Virgo.) Since he is her partner, what on earth are he and his ex picking up the kids together for? If IL2B is representing the situation correctly, there's certainly cause for suspicion. Take it from a Virgo, IL2B.
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Posted by Scorporella

Recently, my virguy was doing something that actually hurt me. So I sent him an email and told him the behavior he was doing was hurting me. He never replied to the email, but the behavior stopped, completely. It blew me away.

I was expecting my virguy to tell me I was over-reacting, or to make some explanation or give some excuse, but he didn't do any of those things, he merely stopped the behavior.




Here, I copied and pasted for you, instead of bumping the thread.
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Let's be realistic. Just because one person writes on a forum that she confronted her Virgo about her hurt feelings and he abruptly stopped the behavior doesn't guarantee IL2B a similar fate. I'm a Virgo and you wouldn't catch me dead in the car with my ex (much less on a regular basis!) to pick up Johny from kindergarten to start with. Just where's the reason in that? You both drive, you both own a car, only one person needs to pick up the kids . . . so you do it together?? My new beau would never HAVE to confront me about my ex because . . . . there's perfectly nothing to confront me about. And if I were dating this dude for a year and for whatever reason I were in attendance with my ex, trust me: my lover that I'm just short of living with would be "in attendance" with him too! In IL2B's case, he's together with his ex and kids and she hasn't even met his ex. In a year? For a straight-up Virgo so caring about your feelings, this would never happen in my life.

I predict her Virgo will either go off on her and ask her what the crap she's so suspicious for or coddle her and tell her there's absolutely no cause for alarm . . . and then continue on with his "tradition." Like I said, something smells rotten in Denmark.
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All ya have to do is go back and read my threads/comments concerning the Virgo I was dealing with. There are some GOOD Virgos out there and then there are some, well, but that could be with any sign....

I totally agree with Strings Attached. Any time a man is complaining to you about an ex and its all bad, chances are he's trying to cover his tracks. How much of you does his ex know about? For all you know, he could be saying youre his cousin. He's taking food stamps from her, then turns around and tells you she does nothing to support THEIR kids. Trust your instincts. Theyre telling you something aint right. And as someone pointed out to me when I came here looking for advice. You already know the answers.

Talking about being together and actually making plans to be together are 2 different things. What steps has HE made to make that happen? I think someone said to voice your issues concerning the matters you have with him and see if things changes. If not, Id be bouncing. There are so many red flags here. And before anyone says anything. I was married to someone that had a child and my husband was never off with his ex - before we were married or after.
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Posted by Layna
ilove2bATaurus, do you share your computer with another person?



Wow... Layna.. that's freaky, yes?

Taurus chick... DO you share a computer? Or ...maybe you're on here from your Virgo's laptop (possibly with mobile internet?).. or you're on HIS computer at HIS house, thinking no one but you an HE use it? If so... got news for you about the IP... you AND his Pisces "ex" have been on the same computer connection, and posting here...

The reason Layna brought it up is because checking your IP link shows that you AND someone called piscesscorned78 have posted here with the same IP address... and HER story sounds like the story would from the "other woman's" point of view, starting HERE.

She's a Pisces, six years with her Virgo man and have a child together (and a couple other kids) and a TAURUS woman suddenly has popped up at Virgo's work, saying she's been his gf for a year.. this Pisces chick is FURIOUS... says Virgo's been lying to her all along.. but that she told the Taurus they were getting married and the Taurus stormed off, with the Virgo chasing after her. Sound familiar?


.. so really.. what are the ODDS that BOTH women in THIS situation should suddenly, in the last few days .. what? Both Google something about their VIRGO man... find DXP.. JOIN DXP.. AND start posting about this situation.. BOTH in OTHER people's threads instead of starting their own?! Really? That's a LOT of coincidences.

Starting to look like a troll. :/
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The only advice I can offer is...a person - man or woman - can only do to you what you allow them to do. This has been going on for what, a year? As long as you sit there and put up with his behavior (especially if you have said something to him about it), nothing will change. You said he lied to you about the situation. What EXACTLY was the lie he told? That he didnt have any children?
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Posted by ilove2bATaurus

Most of the time he is complaining about her to me.






That sounds about normal. Most exes complain about the other ... and throw Virgo into the mix, who doesn't a need a situation to complain about something.

Actually, I'd have to really think hard to recall a person who doesn't complain about an ex ... afterall, if something wasn't wrong with the other, they wouldn't be an ex, now would they?



Posted by ilove2bATaurus

.... he tells me that she doesn't do anything to help financially but give him food stamps.

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That's a odd ... because it sounds like he has custody, while she has the burden of financially helping, in which she gives him food stamps.

Does he have custody of the kids?

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IL2BATrickster . . . shame on you! You ought to have your butt kicked!

Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:47:57 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 2:39:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:31:31 AM

And "they've" never "met?" Really? Shame on you, you phony!
Why do you people do this? Are you really THAT narcissistic?!

Chances are, this is a DXPer who's been around a while. P-Angel must've been having coffee at her neighbor's again.
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Posted by **StringsAttached**
IL2BATrickster . . . shame on you! You ought to have your butt kicked!

Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:47:57 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 2:39:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:31:31 AM

And "they've" never "met?" Really? Shame on you, you phony!
Why do you people do this? Are you really THAT narcissistic?!

Chances are, this is a DXPer who's been around a while. P-Angel must've been having coffee at her neighbor's again.



Wow!! I guess there NO other explanation huh? You know us Libra's. We like to make sure there arent any...lol.
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I don't imagine they'll be back.. it CAN'T even "magically" be the two of them accessing "Virgo's" computer and both showing up here... they're logged in MINUTES APART, in the middle of the night, ON THE SAME IP.. and posting in the SAME thread. First, the Pisces joined and posted from 4/11 to 4/16.. THEN the Taurus showed up with HER story (ON THE SAME IP) on 4/16... just over a HALF HOUR after the Pisces stopped posting HER story.. then they BOTH hit Cajun's thread.. Taurus ANSWERING the Pisces.. Pisces popping up to post just ONE MORE TIME a HALF HOUR AFTER TAURUS JOINED DXP.. then Taurus popping back on minutes later to finish her "tale." ON THE SAME IP THE WHOLE TIME.

There was a similar trolling some months ago.. involving a Taurus (iirc?) guy USING some chick over the Internet for his jollies... HE posted his story.. SHE later posted hers.. when "outed"... she claimed it was HER pretending to be HIM, to give the story for HIS side, and see if anyone supported his behavior (they didn't.. but then again, the story was INCREDIBLY slanted.. obviously because it was STILL being given from HER pov)

Trolls stink.

So.. who the fuck ARE you, chica? Are you the Pisces.. or the Taurus? Or are you just a cockroach after all?
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Ummm, are you listening when people say your IP address is identical to that of said Pisces and your IP address reveals the following posts . . . all made by YOU—


Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:30:40 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:28:45 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:23:04 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:16:55 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:09:30 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:07:21 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:02:26 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:47:57 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 2:39:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:31:31 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:28:11 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:24:49 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:21:32 AM
Taurus women signals. Taurus ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:01:04 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 1:24:03 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 1:22:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/15/2011 7:23:18 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/15/2011 7:11:23 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:49:52 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:39:38 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:33:36 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:27:21 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/11/2011 2:59:26 PM
Free Tarot Readings! Pisces piscesscorned78 4/11/2011 2:32:03 PM

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Posted by **StringsAttached**
Ummm, are you listening when people say your IP address is identical to that of said Pisces and your IP address reveals the following posts . . . all made by YOU—


Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:30:40 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:28:45 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:23:04 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:16:55 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:09:30 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:07:21 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:02:26 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:47:57 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 2:39:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:31:31 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:28:11 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:24:49 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:21:32 AM
Taurus women signals. Taurus ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:01:04 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 1:24:03 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 1:22:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/15/2011 7:23:18 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/15/2011 7:11:23 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:49:52 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:39:38 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:33:36 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:27:21 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/11/2011 2:59:26 PM
Free Tarot Readings! Pisces piscesscorned78 4/11/2011 2:32:03 PM





Yes, I am the taurus woman too. I am just trying to figure everything out. Didn't mean to offend anyone.I need help
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Posted by **StringsAttached**
Ummm, are you listening when people say your IP address is identical to that of said Pisces and your IP address reveals the following posts . . . all made by YOU—


Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:30:40 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:28:45 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:23:04 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 10:16:55 AM
Me and my virgo and his kids mother Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:09:30 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:07:21 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 3:02:26 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:47:57 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo piscesscorned78 4/16/2011 2:39:21 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:31:31 AM
Girlfriend #8 Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:28:11 AM
The steps it takes for a Virgo to love you Virgo ilove2bATaurus 4/16/2011 2:24:49 AM
Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/14/2011 8:27:21 PM
Pisces Female/ Virgo Male?? Pisces piscesscorned78 4/11/2011 2:59:26 PM
Free Tarot Readings! Pisces piscesscorned78 4/11/2011 2:32:03 PM





Yes, I am the taurus woman too. I am just trying to figure everything out. Didn't mean to offend anyone.I need help
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But why were you answering each other? Thats odd..